Suggestions for easily digested resources on polyamory

[KimGordon67]

So, at the end of the little chapter of my life that is sort of summarised here - http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1287864 - I find that although I've technically finished the 'thing' I had, that's not really what I'm actually wanting. Although my husband is the most important relationship in my life, everything I'm feeling seems to fit into my general understanding of polyamory, or at least one version thereof.

Right now isn't the right time, but I'd like in the near future to try and see if my husband can come around to seeing things differently. I've only just started looking at writing around polyamory (although I totally get the concept), and found this, which seems extremely germane to our situation, given that both my husband and I have always said that he is really wired for monogamy. https://www.morethantwo.com/polyformonogamouspeople.html
The bullet-points explaining how polyamory differs from, say, having casual extra-marital flings/cheating etc really resonated with me. I'm thinking of sending this link to my husband when it feels like the right time ... but I'm interested to know if anyone knows of a better description of this situation. Note - he's NOT going to read a book. He hates anything that's even vaguely in the 'self help' arena, and this webpage is probably the limit of what I can get him to read on the topic.

So, any thoughts gratefully received. I love my husband to bits, but I'm quite worried that trying to go back to an entirely monogamous relationship is going to end up making me unhappy and/or resentful, and result in our relationship slowly disintegrating. Maybe it won't, but at the moment it feels like that's a good possibility.

 

[Gwanji16]

This is a terrific website, and i wish Dawn and Heather and i would have had the benefit of this wisdom when we started out. It would have guided much of what we ended up doing, but would have been a bit less painful. What the author says about taking one's time is so important. That is how you, as the poly, need to set a slow pace here. I will have more to say after my shower and I get to school, but you are doing this so wisely and with much consideration. They are both very lucky men to have you in their lives!

 

[KimGordon67]

This is a terrific website, and i wish Dawn and Heather and i would have had the benefit of this wisdom when we started out. It would have guided much of what we ended up doing, but would have been a bit less painful. What the author says about taking one's time is so important. That is how you, as the poly, need to set a slow pace here. I will have more to say after my shower and I get to school, but you are doing this so wisely and with much consideration. They are both very lucky men to have you in their lives!

You know you could just email me.

 

[travler99920]

Ethical Slut

Check out a book with that title. Sorry I do not remember the name of the author

 

[KimGordon67]

Check out a book with that title. Sorry I do not remember the name of the author

He won't read a whole book ... but thanks.

 

[jonpatato]

I have recently met a lady that is divorced. I told her when we met I did not believe in monogamy. Sbe is struggling with her feelings. She thinks we are supposed to be monogamous.
I ask her today if monogamy ever worked for her. She took a long time to answer. But the answer is no.
I am actually really serious with this lady but I want a polyamorous relationship between us.

 

[KimGordon67]

I have recently met a lady that is divorced. I told her when we met I did not believe in monogamy. Sbe is struggling with her feelings. She thinks we are supposed to be monogamous.
I ask her today if monogamy ever worked for her. She took a long time to answer. But the answer is no.
I am actually really serious with this lady but I want a polyamorous relationship between us.

Thanks, but I'm entirely sure how this relates to my post. Are you also looking for things that she might read to help her make sense of things?

 

[jonpatato]

Thanks, but I'm entirely sure how this relates to my post. Are you also looking for things that she might read to help her make sense of things?

Yes, I was in a hurry when I made this post. Thank you very much.

 

[KimGordon67]

Yes, I was in a hurry when I made this post. Thank you very much.

Well, as you can see, beyond the website I found myself and the one book recommendation, my search has been a little fruitless. Was that website not of any help?

 

[jonpatato]

Well, as you can see, beyond the website I found myself and the one book recommendation, my search has been a little fruitless. Was that website not of any help?

I have been reading it. I am trying to get her to read it also.I do liks site.