Friends with benefits: how did you start?

[mommylover15]

to all those in or used to be in this relationship, how did it start? would like details on how it started, whose idea was it and how it came up about sleeping with each other and mainly you kept it away from dating.

 

[Saint Peter]

When I whispered in her ear.

 

[Aglaopheme]

Where they good times or bad times?

 

[Saint Peter]

Good times until her beefy boyfriend found out about it.

 

[GimpyIntellect]

I once sent Peter a PM.

After that, there was no looking back.

 

[mommylover15]

I once sent Peter a PM.

After that, there was no looking back.

were u allowed to sleep with others??

 

[NOIRTRASH]

My momma suggested I relax and do something useful till my woman came along to claim me, and that's how it happens. I was doing laundry and reading a book at the time. That was 43 years ago.

Her Guydar alerted her I was THE ONE. Her daddy hadda ton of bux so she was more interested in other qualities of mine. My cock is nigger size, so a nigger didn't have nuthin on me that way, and I have blue eyes, not standard equipment on any nigger model.

With women a guy needs to assume they have needs, then feed their needs.

 

[GimpyIntellect]

were u allowed to sleep with others??

Nope.

Peter is very clingy.

I think it has to do with the fact he wasn't breast-fed.

UNTIL I GOT A HOLD OF HIM, THAT IS!

 

[Bookishleigh]

He was cute but kind of dumb. He was mid-sentence talking about something I had no real interest in and emboldened by alcohol I kissed him, asking if we could go somewhere.

It was fun while it lasted, but hard to maintain once the initial excitement passed.

 

[lovetoread]

if you want a fb, you actually have to spell it out

no dating, no romance, and that its ok to see other people

dont assume anything

 

[pollynova]

He has a really good 401k. I mean, how can a girl resist?

 

[Wings]

First I came onto an adult message board and I asked a bunch of strangers how they did it.


And then I actually talked it through with said friend setting down the rules and the expectations.


One of these things was successful. I'll let you decide which.

 

[Kinkenglish]

For us .. We were friends for the longest time. Good friends, best friend: we shared secrets, we cried on each other's shoulders.
Then an occasion arose where we slept together . Non sexual, but we shared a bed. That sort of broke the ice.
It became a habit . A nice habit. And then one night she wanted more, and we discussed it, a bit like the poster above, we agreed the ground rules because we didn't want to lose the friendship. From then on it was fwb , for years, until she moved back to the USA. Now we are friends

 

[Kinkenglish]

First I came onto an adult message board and I asked a bunch of strangers how they did it.


And then I actually talked it through with said friend setting down the rules and the expectations.


One of these things was successful. I'll let you decide which.

Sniggers

 

[Hard_Rom]

She got knocked up at 15 by a ban 18 year old buddy of mine. He had a drinking problem already and was majorly verbally and emotionally abusive. If I had been her brother I would have beat him badly. Instead I banged her. She used sex to over come very low self esteem issues. Had bad acne and was small breasted, important things I guess to young girls. He drank, she screwed around. I was not only one she fucked but was the one she called a friend. We were on and off again for 25 years between or during her various boyfriends after she left him 6 years after marrying him. Aside from a couple of FB posts haven't heard from her in 10 years. She slowed down in her rampant sexuality when she moved back to hometown to help raise grandchild and look after her mother.

Been others. Frequented same bar/restaurant for 15 years. Known as nice guy with good job and heavy tipper. Slept with half the girls serving their on a friendly basis. After heart attack stopped eating there 2-3 meals a day and lost track of girls as they moved on to different jobs. And never made connection to new girls.

Not overly handsome so have to make a friends connection to get girls to like me that way unless they are really drunk. I do much better when put in the friend zone!

 

[Bookishleigh]

And then I actually talked it through with said friend setting down the rules and the expectations.

Was there a contract written out? Were hard limits defined in writing?

Wait - that is a bdsm relationship, NOT a friends with benefits. I get those so confused.

 

[mommylover15]

Where they good times or bad times?

good times

 

[Disgustipated]

to all those in or used to be in this relationship, how did it start? would like details on how it started, whose idea was it and how it came up about sleeping with each other and mainly you kept it away from dating.

I started with your mother when I was a third of 45.

 

[Wings]

Was there a contract written out? Were hard limits defined in writing?

Wait - that is a bdsm relationship, NOT a friends with benefits. I get those so confused.

Mostly it was me saying "I don't want dates, I'm too busy. I won't fall in love with you so try not to with me. I will probably still sleep with others so if that makes you jealous this won't work".

The end.

 

[Killswitch1]

Mostly it was me saying "I don't want dates, I'm too busy. I won't fall in love with you so try not to with me. I will probably still sleep with others so if that makes you jealous this won't work".

The end.

Thats exactly as I remember it hun.

Good times. Those.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Mostly it was me saying "I don't want dates, I'm too busy. I won't fall in love with you so try not to with me. I will probably still sleep with others so if that makes you jealous this won't work".

The end.

It's sad that as women we have to spell it out - for men it's just implied it's casual until they say otherwise (or we ask).

 

[Killswitch1]

It's sad that as women we have to spell it out - for men it's just implied it's casual until they say otherwise (or we ask).

I call bullshit but yeah.

 

[RoryN]

Friendship is its own benefit.

Shame on all you fuckers.

 

[mommylover15]

Nope.

Peter is very clingy.

I think it has to do with the fact he wasn't breast-fed.

UNTIL I GOT A HOLD OF HIM, THAT IS!

aren't u allowed to sleep with others in fwb?

 

[Saint Peter]

aren't u allowed to sleep with others in fwb?

Gimp is a tough dog to keep on the porch.