Writing male ejaculation frequency

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

I noticed that in a lot of stories I read on here (as well as in a lot of hentai videos) people seem to ignore the the fact that the average male can only ejaculate about once every 30 minutes or so.

I was wondering if this is the same as those guys in anime who wave around impossible large swords? This might sound like a weird comparison, but hear me out. In anime, they threw logic and real-world physics out of the window because that would make for a better or more awesome story. That's what I'm getting at. Could people be ignoring the real world limitations because that would make for a better story? And do you think that's a good thing or not?

 

[Penuche]

I noticed that in a lot of stories I read on here (as well as in a lot of hentai videos) people seem to ignore the the fact that the average male can only ejaculate about once every 30 minutes or so. <snip>

I suspect that it's on a par with ignoring any unpleasant side effects of hormone-based contraception, not to mention the probabilitly of sexually transmitted diseases...

Suspending disbelief can make the story easier to write, but that doesn't mean a story with a bit more realism to it would be less enjoyable to read.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I noticed that in a lot of stories I read on here (as well as in a lot of hentai videos) people seem to ignore the the fact that the average male can only ejaculate about once every 30 minutes or so.

I was wondering if this is the same as those guys in anime who wave around impossible large swords? This might sound like a weird comparison, but hear me out. In anime, they threw logic and real-world physics out of the window because that would make for a better or more awesome story. That's what I'm getting at. Could people be ignoring the real world limitations because that would make for a better story? And do you think that's a good thing or not?

Why would a guy come sooner than that anyhow. I like to have the couple fucking until they both come, then the guy eats her pussy until she comes and then they fuck and come again. I never mention periods of time as long as thirty minutes. I might say something like: "They lay like that for almost a minute, Jill relishing the feel of the big cock stuffing her pussy and Jack reveling in all the tiny movements she was making and how they stimulated his cock." Something like that is about the only reference I would ever make to time. After all, they're not punching a clock.

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

I suspect that it's on a par with ignoring any unpleasant side effects of hormone-based contraception, not to mention the probabilitly of sexually transmitted diseases...

I guess you have a point, especially since most stories also don't really consider the chance of pregnancy (since they are doing it unprotected most of the time).

From all these things I think that not using contraception of any kind and not getting pregnant (or not even worrying about it) seem to annoy the readers the most. I occasionally come across comments on that, but I rarely seem to see comments about the other things.

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

Why would a guy come sooner than that anyhow. I like to have the couple fucking until they both come, then the guy eats her pussy until she comes and then they fuck and come again. I never mention periods of time as long as thirty minutes. I might say something like: "They lay like that for almost a minute, Jill relishing the feel of the big cock stuffing her pussy and Jack reveling in all the tiny movements she was making and how they stimulated his cock." Something like that is about the only reference I would ever make to time. After all, they're not punching a clock.

No, they aren't punching a clock, but sometimes you can get a pretty good idea of time from other things, or a guy would get hard right again and just continue like nothing happened.

 

[Boxlicker101]

No, they aren't punching a clock, but sometimes you can get a pretty good idea of time from other things, or a guy would get hard right again and just continue like nothing happened.

My characters never get hard right away. Usually they have to sit out for a while, if it's a group sex kind of thing. Then the women get them good and hard by giving head for a few minutes. Or, they might eat her out and get hard while doing that. If a man comes, though, he never starts fucking right away.

 

[jehoram]

One every half hour? That's realistic?

I had a comment on one of my stories where the reader doubted that my protagonist could cum five times in a DAY.

At my age (mid-sixties), I can cum maybe four times a day, but I need at least a couple of hours of re-charge toward the end.

 

[EverLux]

It depends on what fantasy is being catered to. Coming from an impregnation fetish perspective, the guy can't come often enough. The more come, the better

Reality is unnecessary and kind of a wet blanket. Buckets of come, staying hard just after ejaculating, coming again right away, blah blah blah. We even love it when the tip pokes through the cervix, which is 100% not possible.

I need to stop thinking about this now, because I'm at work and starting to feel a little inappropriate

 

[JKendallDane]

I have one story where the main character is getting head and comes three times in a row without losing his erection. Granted, number three took some time but thanks to a devoted partner, it happened. He does beg for a "time-out" smoke and recovery period when the partner continues working his cock to attempt a fourth explosion.

That may not be "the norm" but it can and does happen. The trick in writing it is to know where to draw the line between reality, fantasy, and "not even in your dreams" ridiculousness.

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[J_R_Ashunwhy]

One every half hour? That's realistic?

That seems to be the average across the board, and is not specific to any one age group. Recovery time will obviously vary between people.

Reality is unnecessary and kind of a wet blanket.... staying hard just after ejaculating...

Is possible; I find it the most easily achieved through oral, but again, results will vary person to person.

That may not be "the norm" but it can and does happen. The trick in writing it is to know where to draw the line between reality, fantasy, and "not even in your dreams" ridiculousness.

Well said. I second that.

 

[OliviaM]

I'm all for writing what serves the story. Realism is fine, but fantasy is fun. There's a place for both.

And at the risk of embarrassing someone other than myself, I happen to personally know a man who has had multiple orgasms without losing his erection and is sometimes still hard after sex. It probably varies by the individual, just as it does with women. And just to reassure any guys reading, frequency does not necessarily equal potency, obviously. Just saying it happens.

 

[EverLux]

Is possible; I find it the most easily achieved through oral, but again, results will vary person to person.

Also possible: "buckets" of come and coming again right away (fond memories of both) I just meant that exaggerations are appreciated.

Meanwhile, some men can only achieve erections by injecting a medication into their penises. So you're definitely right about varying results

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

I guess it never really bothered me unless it was just completely ridiculous. I agree with what several of you guys have said: that as a writer you have to know when to keep it real and when to loosen up the rules of reality a bit if it improves the story.

 

[TxRad]

I guess I'm with the "what the story requires" crowd.

Over the years I've had people tell me such things can't happen. My reply is whose fantasy is it? Reality and erotica should not be considered the same thing. I've also ran across a lot of readers who think our stories are real. Some parts are, maybe, but the rest is fantasy and wishful thinking.

Coming hard and often has more to do with the partner and how long since you've had sex more so than personal stamina in most cases. First time with certain lovers usually promotes multi orgasms from experience. Just thinking of certain lovers can give a guy a hard-on, any time and any place.

Just my two cents.

 

[KeithD]

The progress of this thread just tells me that there are lots of people who should be writing clinical manuals rather than fantasy erotica.

 

[JKendallDane]

Another way to look at the potential for multiple male orgasms in a short period of time to is to ask any male to reflect back on their teen years and when they first discovered masturbation.

The smile on their face should give you a pretty solid answer to the question.

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[J_R_Ashunwhy]

I just meant that exaggerations are appreciated.

In some cases that is very true, and in others, not.

Not every reader is going to be satisfied with how every sexual act is described, or how the characters preformed. There are some who will assume everything is an exaggeration, whether it is or not, and will enjoy the fantasy elements, and other readers will feel insulted by the same descriptions.
I have had comments insisting that certain elements added to a story 'could never happen in real life'...the reader knows it could never happen. Only, said act was pulled from a real life experience and has happened; it just has not happened for them.

Personally, I would rather not read/write average erotica.

 

[EverLux]

I have had comments insisting that certain elements added to a story 'could never happen in real life'...the reader knows it could never happen. Only, said act was pulled from a real life experience and has happened; it just has not happened for them.

I like to call them the Anatomy Police. Some things they're correct about (yes, yes, we all know where the hymen really is), and some things, they just lack imagination. Or, like you said, experience

And to all naysayers out there -- yes, a man and a woman can have sex fourteen times in six hours and live to tell the tale
(That doesn't have much to do with anything... I just wanted to brag)

 

[Penuche]

The progress of this thread just tells me that there are lots of people who should be writing clinical manuals rather than fantasy erotica.

Says the person who clearly spends far too much time lurking here or RPing etc filth.

 

[KeithD]

Says the person who clearly spends far too much time lurking here or RPing etc filth.

Clearly nailed you as a writer, didn't I?

 

[Penuche]

Clearly nailed you as a writer, didn't I?

I'd tell you to fuck off, but it takes two to fuck and you're not invited.

 

[KeithD]

Aren't you cute? Thought of running for president for the Republicans? Or maybe being one of Trump's spokes bimbos? But, sorry, I know you already have a job with the clinical manual people.

Later: A Trump reference for Penuche: You went intemperate and nasty real fast. Erotica is foremost about arousal and an element for many (I think most) readers of that is more than the average pushing to the edge of believabillity--it isn't clinical perfection. I think your response to my post was just very belligerent and nasty, and I have as much right to post my opinion to this thread as you do. And I think I have a better handle on what is erotic than you are showing that you have. So, take your nastiness and stick it.

 

[TheAnswerMan]

Personally, I don't go soft. I stay in her, and I'm pretty sure it's not twenty minutes before I'm over the edge again. Granted, it's not the fireworks of the first one, especially if I've been "saving" it up, but it still counts. Third time takes longer, but that's a good time to lick her clean and then start over.

 

[Penuche]

Aren't you cute? Thought of running for president for the Republicans? Or maybe being one of Trump's spokes bimbos? But, sorry, I know you already have a job with the clinical manual people.

Later: A Trump reference for Penuche: You went intemperate and nasty real fast. Erotica is foremost about arousal and an element for many (I think most) readers of that is more than the average pushing to the edge of believabillity--it isn't clinical perfection. I think your response to my post was just very belligerent and nasty, and I have as much right to post my opinion to this thread as you do. And I think I have a better handle on what is erotic than you are showing that you have. So, take your nastiness and stick it.

Intemperate? Nasty? Have you given any indication of deserving better?

FYI this is pretty much the end of my day and getting on for the end of a very busy week. In addition to which, I'm in pain, have had several consecutive nights of frequently broken sleep, and yes I'm snapping at you because better to do it at a surplus bundle of pixels like you than at anyone fleshy I've had to interract with this week!

*breathes* Have a nice life, fartfeatures.

 

[KeithD]

Yes, I deserved better. None of your claimed personal problems away from this forum justify where you went with this and the name calling. This isn't the atmosphere of the Authors Forum. It's an attitude for you to take to the General Board. You "nuclear bomb" responded just as Trump does to any disagreement, and I wasn't even specifically disagreeing with you.

So, I'll stick with you were intemperate and nasty. I suggest that the next time to you have a bad day, you stay the hell off the forums, because you can't play well with others.