Writing male ejaculation frequency

[TxRad]

Yes, I deserved better. None of your claimed personal problems away from this forum justify where you went with this and the name calling. This isn't the atmosphere of the Authors Forum. It's an attitude for you to take to the General Board. You "nuclear bomb" responded just as Trump does to any disagreement, and I wasn't even specifically disagreeing with you.

So, I'll stick with you were intemperate and nasty. I suggest that the next time to you have a bad day, you stay the hell off the forums, because you can't play well with others.

Clearly you don't after your post of, "Clearly nailed you as a writer, didn't I?" Don't jump into the middle of a thread with people you don't know (Unless you are an alt, which is a good possibility) with an off the cuff remark about peoples writing and then add fuel to the fire.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

The progress of this thread just tells me that there are lots of people who should be writing clinical manuals rather than fantasy erotica.

is there money in that?

 

[geronimo_appleby]

as for the OP...

like a few others in the thread, i reckon it's down to the scene/story. if it's a fist time piece, with the fist-timer being male, well, he usually manages to lay it on like he's plastering a wall. if the male character is a repeater, i normally have the female character/s make some comment about it.

the ladies usually come and come and come...

 

[TxRad]

Fist-time?

I'm not going near that.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Fist-time?

I'm not going near that.

well, you prolly can't remember.

 

[EverLux]

Fist-time?

I'm not going near that.

well, you prolly can't remember.

Who could forget their fist-time? It's forever firmly lodged in your cavity--er, memory.

 

[KinkyInkWriter]

I noticed that in a lot of stories I read on here (as well as in a lot of hentai videos) people seem to ignore the the fact that the average male can only ejaculate about once every 30 minutes or so.

I was wondering if this is the same as those guys in anime who wave around impossible large swords? This might sound like a weird comparison, but hear me out. In anime, they threw logic and real-world physics out of the window because that would make for a better or more awesome story. That's what I'm getting at. Could people be ignoring the real world limitations because that would make for a better story? And do you think that's a good thing or not?

Here's a female perspective from someone who's been reading erotic lit for too many years to count. As long as it's not too far fetched (and even if it is if it's satire), stretching it a bit, is fine.
Truly as a female, I quit counting after about the third or fourth orgasm. My brain is just too fried to care. Some of my partners recover so quickly that they are definitely below the 30 min mark, and yes, they could stay hard after ejaculation for the first couple rounds. Some men can go all night long and other only one or two rounds, so I'm not sure there is a definite reality/norm in that.
I do however find it amusing that high libido is generally connected to penis size. Not true in my experience, and in fact is say one of my most sensual partners was definitely in the small department. Draw what conclusions you will from that.

Stories with realistic plots should probably stay more realistic to facts, but if your writing erotic fantasy, the suspension of belief is there and I don't see the problem either way. Most people can tell there are elements of exaggeration and I'm sure that's not the only one in the story.

 

[KeithD]

Clearly you don't after your post of, "Clearly nailed you as a writer, didn't I?" Don't jump into the middle of a thread with people you don't know (Unless you are .

You seem to be jumping into the middle too. My "clearly nailed" post was responding to one that was intemperate and nasty for no particular reason. I could only assumed I'd hit a bulls eye with a post that wasn't even specifically directed to the attacker. I guess there are some of you more interested in attacking other posters than discussing differences of opinion on what is erotic and what isn't.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

You seem to be jumping into the middle too. My "clearly nailed" post was responding to one that was intemperate and nasty for no particular reason. I could only assumed I'd hit a bulls eye with a post that wasn't even specifically directed to the attacker. I guess there are some of you more interested in attacking other posters than discussing differences of opinion on what is erotic and what isn't.

could i ask you to call a halt to the to-and-fro now? it's off-topic anyway. i know from experience there's absolutely nothing to gain by persisting.

 

[SamScribble]

In answer to the original question, I would suggest that it probably comes down to the ‘style’ of the story.

If the story is written in a ‘realist’ style, then you probably don’t want to go beyond a little mild exaggeration. But if the style is clearly fantasy, then once every ten minutes is probably not out of the question. The only proviso I would add is: make sure that there is plenty of lubrication.

 

[SamScribble]

A further thought: when we ask should we stick closer to the real world, are we talking about erotica or porn? The name of this site is Literotica, a mash-up (I assume) of literature and erotica. But a good few authors write – or attempt to write – what might more properly be considered to be porn.

Confession: I am not a fan of pornography. I have nothing against others writing it or people reading it. Whatever gets you through the night. But, personally, I find porn to be the equivalent of empty carbs. That said, some of the world’s most successful businesses are peddlers of junk food. So what do I know?

 

[TxRad]

A further thought: when we ask should we stick closer to the real world, are we talking about erotica or porn? The name of this site is Literotica, a mash-up (I assume) of literature and erotica. But a good few authors write – or attempt to write – what might more properly be considered to be porn.

Confession: I am not a fan of pornography. I have nothing against others writing it or people reading it. Whatever gets you through the night. But, personally, I find porn to be the equivalent of empty carbs. That said, some of the world’s most successful businesses are peddlers of junk food. So what do I know?

Ya can't just eat one applies to dicks and pussies as well as potato chips.

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

A further thought: when we ask should we stick closer to the real world, are we talking about erotica or porn? The name of this site is Literotica, a mash-up (I assume) of literature and erotica. But a good few authors write – or attempt to write – what might more properly be considered to be porn.

Actually I've never really considered the difference (I'm quite new to this, both reading and writing erotica). I would guess based on the definition that writing porn is just sex and that's it, while erotica sounds to me like it's a normal story with a plot that involves sex, but also has different elements to the story (like character development, other events like going to school/work, interactions with others that aren't necessarily sexual in nature, etc.) Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's what I assume to be the difference. Going from that definition, I guess I'm more into the erotica kind of stories. I like longer stories where the aren't just having sex the whole time, and there is some other kind of stuff going on as well.

 

[Bramblethorn]

In answer to the original question, I would suggest that it probably comes down to the ‘style’ of the story.

If the story is written in a ‘realist’ style, then you probably don’t want to go beyond a little mild exaggeration. But if the style is clearly fantasy, then once every ten minutes is probably not out of the question. The only proviso I would add is: make sure that there is plenty of lubrication.

This. Some readers want realism, some readers (or the same readers at a different time) want exaggeration. Write whichever you enjoy reading, don't focus-group it to death.

Ten minutes is perfectly possible IRL, though unusual. The clinical term is refractory period.

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

I like to call them the Anatomy Police. Some things they're correct about (yes, yes, we all know where the hymen really is), and some things, they just lack imagination. Or, like you said, experience

Well, apparently a lot of people don't know where the hymen is located. I have read multiple times that the guy was halfway in before he even touched it, which is just wrong. We all know that it's located at the entrance (at least I thought we did). Getting that wrong is something that does bother me when I read it, it's just physically wrong. I don't mind stretching the truth a little, but those basic anatomical things should be correct in my opinion.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Write what you know, but all kinds of things happen side the ring. My guiding star is: folks wanna get off more than do marathons. Last night I researched 50s alcoholic women and sex. as a rule of thumb they fall asleep about the time theyre in the mood.

 

[EverLux]

Well, apparently a lot of people don't know where the hymen is located. I have read multiple times that the guy was halfway in before he even touched it, which is just wrong. We all know that it's located at the entrance (at least I thought we did). Getting that wrong is something that does bother me when I read it, it's just physically wrong. I don't mind stretching the truth a little, but those basic anatomical things should be correct in my opinion.

This is exactly what I meant, though. Ok, sure, there are probably those that don't know where it is. But my first story involved a misplaced hymen for, um, artistic purposes and I didn't hear the end of it.

 

[Privates1stClass]

EverLux wrote:

And to all naysayers out there -- yes, a man and a woman can have sex fourteen times in six hours and live to tell the tale
(That doesn't have much to do with anything... I just wanted to brag)

I'm surprised someone hasn't jumped into this thread saying that many times borders on fantasy. If you posted a story about that, most readers wouldn't believe it (although it would be a good story).

I think most readers compare themselves to the characters in the stories they read. If they can't go four rounds in six hours, they won't believe anyone else could accomplish more.

Isn't the reality and fantasy each of us relate to a little different for each of us?

 

[Serafina1210]

Stories in which men fire off ejaculations like machine guns don't do a lot for me. Further, the male refractory period is a good time to get some plot and character development business done.

The refractory period doesn't have to be long. If the male lead is young and healthy, he can be ready to pleasure his lover again in fifteen minutes or so.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Stories in which men fire off ejaculations like machine guns don't do a lot for me. Further, the male refractory period is a good time to get some plot and character development business done.

The refractory period doesn't have to be long. If the male lead is young and healthy, he can be ready to pleasure his lover again in fifteen minutes or so.

Translation: I fuggin luv stereotypes.

 

[Sammael Bard]

I noticed that in a lot of stories I read on here (as well as in a lot of hentai videos) people seem to ignore the the fact that the average male can only ejaculate about once every 30 minutes or so.

I was wondering if this is the same as those guys in anime who wave around impossible large swords? This might sound like a weird comparison, but hear me out. In anime, they threw logic and real-world physics out of the window because that would make for a better or more awesome story. That's what I'm getting at. Could people be ignoring the real world limitations because that would make for a better story? And do you think that's a good thing or not?

Average penis size is five inches (and that too varies according to region and race). Women don't always have an orgasm. Sex is a messy business and a horror for your sheets (towels are a saviour in some instances). Cuddling after sex is a myth after six months in a relationship. And don't get me started about anal.

If people were to write a story keeping all of these ^^ in mind, I'm sure the story would either tank or be non-erotic.

Look, realism is fine and, if done well, makes a great story. But try not to fixate on that. An erotic story is a fantasy, not a reality show. Find a balance between the real and surreal and stick to it. You can't go about pleasing every reader. Get used to that idea.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Average penis size is five inches (and that too varies according to region and race). Women don't always have an orgasm. Sex is a messy business and a horror for your sheets (towels are a saviour in some instances). Cuddling is a myth after six months in a relationship.

No cuddling? Goddamnit, my partner and I have been doing it wrong for *checks watch* eighteen years

 

[Sammael Bard]

No cuddling? Goddamnit, my partner and I have been doing it wrong for *checks watch* eighteen years

Correction: Cuddling after sex is kinda rare. Not cuddling in general. These last few weeks I was usually thanked with "oh my god, it's so fucking hot".



P.S. Eighteen years! You lucky dawg.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Then there is, of course, the factor of age. Maybe two, three times a day...not that I can't get it up when called upon...just no visible orgasm for me. Hey, I am over 65!

 

[MayorReynolds]

In my erotica writing experience I've tried to strike that delicate balance between realism and outright fantasy. Males don't blast "gallons of semen" in one ejaculation and none of them have 20 inch monster cocks.* Women don't have back breaking P cupped tits. I've got incest stories sitting in development hell because I didn't want siblings to see each other nude outside of the shower and randomly go at it like non-related college students.

Really though, my realism ends at anatomy and physiology. I wrote a sapphic incest trilogy where female relatives were attracted to each other because of something in their DNA. I wrote a gangbang story where a girl is only sore and tired after having FIFTY DICKS run a train on her in all three orifices, and even after that I don't recall mentioning her stomach feeling sick after ingesting that much cum—although that story was told from a first-person male POV, so how would he know?

When writing erotica, I think a reasonable amount of realism is fine, and probably for the better, but there comes a point where realism might get in the way. If I am writing a fuck story, getting hung up on how much pounding a pussy can scientifically take isn't going to make it better; it is going to hinder my creative process and the story won't get done.

* Unless they are Minotaurs. I haven't written that story yet, but if someone proposed that question to me, my answer would be thus: if you're on the receiving end of a Minotaur you're gonna get a monster fucking and end up glazed like an alien cocoon. Trust me.