Couples with Married Deployed Military Husband

[sharon__nj]

Last night I had a particularly exciting discussion with a navy man who is deployed in Afghanistan (I didn't know there was water there?)

He was describing to me how he meets with his wife on FaceTime or Skype to watch her having sex at home with a close friend who is on the marines who services his wife while he is deployed for 9 months. He meets them online and watches them and masturbates himself while he watches them together. This seems to excite him very much and apparently it's sober hint that is not uncommon in the military for those E who are serving overseas for long periods. He mentioned there are other service men who he found do similar things though it's not publicized amongst them so much as its considered humiliating to know your wife is being taken care of by another man, but apparently he found someone who understands as he said there were a few of these sessions where another of his colleagues was present to watch her with him, and that this man had DVDs and erotic pictures she had sent him to please him which they both also looked at.

I just found the whole cultural aspect of it very sexually arousing ....the adult games and the play times ....all so much pleasure while so much stress is all around ....

He is back now but his description of the events and how his wife was addressed by such a marine bull impacted me in a very deep way and I would like to speak with him again. I sent him a message to contact me again if he could, and if he responds I will try to encourage him to speak more to be about it ...

What I was wondering is how common is this sort of thing, is it more common than one would suspect? I'd be interested,and frankly rather excited, to hear about true experiences that have been hidden from view and happening out there.....

S~

 

[Gwanji16]

It is not exactly the same, but when I was in the Peace Corps, also in Afghanistan, I would watch my girl friend at the time and her girlfriend have sex while I masturbated. It was very exciting, and I was happy that her needs were being taken care of. They also enjoyed watching me. Everybody wins!

 

[loveupskirt]

Wow, interesting. I think I'm going to be following this thread!

 

[blowit]

Wow, interesting. I think I'm going to be following this thread!

Me too.

 

[Raingirl85]

My Dominant and his wife are both in the military but stationed far apart from each other. They agreed to both take lovers (just one, not a bunch of partners) in their respective locations but are very open about the whole thing, and tell each other all about their lovers, and about the sex. They will also enjoy threesome play if they happen to be in each other's area for a few nights, playing with each other and the local lover. I'm actually dying to do this with them, but his wife has not been out here since we got together.

 

[screwher]

I can understand why the deployed husband would want his wife to enjoy herself in his abscence. Shit, my wife is going on vacation without me visiting relatives next week. She's only going to be gone a few weeks and I'd love it if another guy was fucking her in her hotel every night.

 

[armyman2010]

I'm military and bought my toys to use while I'm go on training. I love to watch her use them while she watches porn as well. In return she let's me chat with ladies and watch them.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I don't know if my wife cheated on me or not while I was deployed.

She cheated on her first husband 14 years before when he was out of town and admitted to me when we were engaged.

I worried about it while I was gone but she swears that she didn't.

I had a nightmare while I was deployed that I caught her in a threesome with two men. THe next time I was masturbating, this image popped in my head so I went with it.

I guess I look at it this way, if that was what she needed, I suppose I would forgive her.

 

[greystardust]

I don't know if my wife cheated on me or not while I was deployed.

She cheated on her first husband 14 years before when he was out of town and admitted to me when we were engaged.

I worried about it while I was gone but she swears that she didn't.

I had a nightmare while I was deployed that I caught her in a threesome with two men. THe next time I was masturbating, this image popped in my head so I went with it.

I guess I look at it this way, if that was what she needed, I suppose I would forgive her.

It's a great way to look at it.
Imagine if we gave each other more of what we actually needed, that's actually loving in quite a deep way

 

[Rachel_X]

Personally I think the idea of shagging someone else while your partner is potentially being shot to death is rancid on every level.
If a man or woman can't go without sex until their partner gets home then you have your priorities mixed up.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Personally I think the idea of shagging someone else while your partner is potentially being shot to death is rancid on every level.
If a man or woman can't go without sex until their partner gets home then you have your priorities mixed up.

i do agree with you, at least in part. but this is their thread. you don't really need to put a comment such as that in here.

 

[Rachel_X]

i do agree with you, at least in part. but this is their thread. you don't really need to put a comment such as that in here.

You ask for opinions, you get opinions.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

You ask for opinions, you get opinions.

i don't see the text asking for opinions. it asks to hear about true experiences. like i said, i agree with your opinion, but you're in the wrong in this particular thread.

...in my opinion.

 

[Rachel_X]

i don't see the text asking for opinions. it asks to hear about true experiences. like i said, i agree with your opinion, but you're in the wrong in this particular thread.

...in my opinion.

And what part of my life isn't a true experience?

 

[Karhukissa]

There are alternatives...

 

[geronimo_appleby]

And what part of my life isn't a true experience?

show me where i made that statement. and show me where you've made any previous mention of your true experiences in relation to the thread subject.

because, so far, i can't see any. so far you've made a comment about your personal view on the subject. that comment has no mention of actual experiences - just your thoughts.

after that, you've come back with two more posts which seem designed to bait me.

i'll say again, for the third time: i agree with your thoughts, but why are you persisting in a thread which will not welcome you?

 

[chargergirl]

You ask for opinions, you get opinions.

The OP didn't ask for opinions. She was excited and turned on by a discussion she had with a person in the military and is asking to hear from people who've had similar experiences. Nowhere did she ask for opinions on the rightness or wrongness of the situation.

 

[Rachel_X]

The OP didn't ask for opinions. She was excited and turned on by a discussion she had with a person in the military and is asking to hear from people who've had similar experiences. Nowhere did she ask for opinions on the rightness or wrongness of the situation.

She asked if it was a common thing. It isn't.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

She asked if it was a common thing. It isn't.

done a poll, have you?

 

[chargergirl]

She asked if it was a common thing. It isn't.

Then say that. No need to insert your personal feelings.

If you don't like the subject of a thread, then don't post.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Then say that. No need to insert your personal feelings.

If you don't like the subject of a thread, then don't post.

the mod .44 magnum, huh?

 

[chargergirl]

the mod .44 magnum, huh?

Or hammer.

Whichever.

 

[policywank]

I have a friend who is married to a military man and has an open relationship. Both are free to have sex with others but both freely admit that she does so more often, especially when he is deployed. She is very selective and discrete as she knows how much people judge.

She has told me that they know several military couples who are similarly open and adventurous but keep it under wraps. I suspect that the fact that we don't hear more about such circumstances has more to do with intolerance than the absence of such activity.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I don't understand how anyone can form an opinion on the right or wrong nature of this scenario without knowing the attitude of the people involved.

It is one thing to take a negative view of a spouse deceiving or betraying their partner. That is a reflection of the values that suggest we should not do harm to one another and we should stand up for those who are being harmed.

It is a different thing altogether to pass judgment on consenting adults engaging in behaviour of which you disapprove. In fact it is almost opposite. You switch from defender of the offended to being the offender.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I worked base housing (MP) and I would see a lot of wives bring men on the base. I knew their husbands were gone. This was daring because they had to get the passenger a visitor pass (post-9/11). It is more common than people think. I've known a couple of women personally who left their husbands after they returned from deployment (that was a sad part).

The men are no better. I knew a few friends who cheated with female members while deployed. My squad leader met a chick on the plane ride over and hooked up. I had an opportunity but couldn't want to do it (kept her in my fantasy file).

The worst one I probably saw was a husband and wife team come over together in a guard unit. He was really protective of her and if anyone so much as talked toher, he sped up to them and intervened. The worst part of this was that he got an injury and had to go home. She stayed behind overseas and hooked up with a guy from another unit.