Putting your bisexual days behind you?
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Tried on a couple of occasions for different reasons each time and it lasted for a while but eventually I would give in and embrace my true nature. I found it didn't help trying to hide who I was
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I gave up bisexual activity when I got married. When I miss it I have my memories and fantasies to rely on. My fantasies are always gay. Sometimes I'll imagine my wife is a cute young guy, and fuck her from behind.
If I ever got divorced I'd love to suck cocks again.
If I ever got divorced I'd love to suck cocks again.
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Why would I?
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Is you wife aware of your bisexual past?
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I do not think most bisexuals can put it away, I myself enjoy making love with my wife.
Can not recall ever fantasy thoughts when screwing her, I enjoy her to much to not be focused.
I still would enjoy sucking a cock again, I did have a nice FWB back in the 90s but he moved.
I do not think most bisexuals can put it away, I myself enjoy making love with my wife.
Can not recall ever fantasy thoughts when screwing her, I enjoy her to much to not be focused.
I still would enjoy sucking a cock again, I did have a nice FWB back in the 90s but he moved.
Has anyone else tried to put their bisexual past behind them? Was it a difficult decision for you to let go of it?
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only curious and into trying some stuff with cock....... so not stopping yet 
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I "quit" cold turkey back in the 80's and decided it was just a phase.
Turns out you can flip it back on again if desired.
Turns out you can flip it back on again if desired.
I used to think I should leave my bi-curious fantasies behind, but I can't. I know I can't. I have tried but they always come back... like a drug... I'm addicted to dick. I would go cold turkey and push out the gay thoughts and skip past the gay porn, but in time it would just come back even stronger than before. Now that I have had an encounter with another man I know it is here with me to stay. It all just felt so right and I can't imagine a sex life without cock. So I will have my secret life of sucking cock and being a sissy to fulfill that urge and I will just be as careful as I can. I still enjoy pussy and the female figure, but like I said... the dick is addicting.
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I'm sorry but this is the stupidest question ever. Bisexuality isn't something you can put behind you. You an stop acting on it, just like a heterosexual person or a homosexual person could, but if you are truly bisexual that is just who you are. Unless you become involved in a monogamous relationship, you don't "put" it behind you unless have religious leanings or guilt that made you do so.
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no, I haven't I am bisexual and will always be bisexual. (pansexual)
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no, I haven't I am bisexual and will always be bisexual. (pansexual)
Same here. I was actively bisexual when I was single, in fact I was having sex with men more than women when I was single. But when I got married I tried to push that all aside. I told myself I only wanted her, but after a couple of years those thoughts and yearnings came back, and I started sucking cock again. I am very much in love with my wife, and still have a very satisfying sex life with her, but I still crave sexual contact with men.
I am working myself up to telling her that I "used" to be bisexual, which is technically true since I havent been with a guy in several years. But that urge is very strong, and I think I will have to act on it soon.
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For me it's the opposite. Despite being with a couple of women I liked quite a lot who got me thinking about the erotic possibilities of cocksucking, I resisted most of the time anything beyond the fantasy. Having gotten divorced and finding myself entirely free, I am most ready to jump in and explore many possibilities if I might be lucky enough to find a female fellow traveler.
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I have to agree. I'm married to a man and have been for the last ten years. However, I still love the female form and the fantasies I have do revolve around women for the most part. I don't think its possible to put being bisexual "behind you." It's who you are if you consider yourself bisexual. I know when I first realized I was bi, I was scared out of my mind. I am from the South and so called good girls from good families, don't think about sleeping with girls. But I could not deny that part of myself anymore than I could deny that I have brown hair and a fat ass. It's just who I am. So while I don't sleep with women any longer because I'm in a monogamous relationship, I still consider myself bisexual because its a part of my DNA.
Is there a certain reason you want to put it behind yourself if you are thinking that?
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Like others before me, I am confused as to the point of this question. I also do not envision what type of answer do you expect to elicit form people. Perhaps it's your phrasing of the question, it didn't sit quite well with me. As it is, you make it sound as something shameful. Maybe I am reading too much into it.
Generally, the things one wants to put behind are often things one is ashamed of or things one believes are hindering them in some way. On a lighter end, you may want put behind your carb/sugar eating days because you want to improve your health and/or looks. On the opposite end, you put behind your drinking/cheating on your significant other/drug abuse days, if you're strong enough, because of your health, but mostly because of others, specially loved ones, because of the pain and the shame you've put them through, you'd think. Now, (and again, I might be reading much into it) I fail to see how being bisexual is a "thing" one would want to would to put behind. I don't see it as being something painful or shameful, just as something that simply is.
If someone, who views themselves as bisexual, is in a relationship with either a man or a woman, they are still bisexual. Labelling them as something else is just reductive and plain biphobia. It's not a switch you can turn on and off. I can't help but to see all the clichés looming around.
I read this analogy, somewhere around the web, by someone who certainly put it far better than I probably will here, but I think it's worth sharing.
Being bisexual is sort of being like a werewolf. Regardless of what form they might be presenting themselves at any given moment, they are a hybrid being. They are not human, when in human form, neither they are a wolf when in werewolf form. They are always werewolves, no matter the circumstances or their appearance. You can't remove the wolf out of the human nor the human out of the wolf.
Do you think the werewolf cares? I'd think not. Do you think the werewolf will put his past behind and pretend to be a thing he's clearly not? He can't. Whatever he has been subjected to in the past will not prevent him from morphing. Ever.
"Okay, but what if there was a cure...?" Then you'd be suggesting there was something wrong with the werewolf. I don't recommend asking that to a werewolf, particularly not during that time of the month.
Anyway, it looks I took a bit of a ramble here with my twenty cents.
Generally, the things one wants to put behind are often things one is ashamed of or things one believes are hindering them in some way. On a lighter end, you may want put behind your carb/sugar eating days because you want to improve your health and/or looks. On the opposite end, you put behind your drinking/cheating on your significant other/drug abuse days, if you're strong enough, because of your health, but mostly because of others, specially loved ones, because of the pain and the shame you've put them through, you'd think. Now, (and again, I might be reading much into it) I fail to see how being bisexual is a "thing" one would want to would to put behind. I don't see it as being something painful or shameful, just as something that simply is.
If someone, who views themselves as bisexual, is in a relationship with either a man or a woman, they are still bisexual. Labelling them as something else is just reductive and plain biphobia. It's not a switch you can turn on and off. I can't help but to see all the clichés looming around.
I read this analogy, somewhere around the web, by someone who certainly put it far better than I probably will here, but I think it's worth sharing.
Being bisexual is sort of being like a werewolf. Regardless of what form they might be presenting themselves at any given moment, they are a hybrid being. They are not human, when in human form, neither they are a wolf when in werewolf form. They are always werewolves, no matter the circumstances or their appearance. You can't remove the wolf out of the human nor the human out of the wolf.
Do you think the werewolf cares? I'd think not. Do you think the werewolf will put his past behind and pretend to be a thing he's clearly not? He can't. Whatever he has been subjected to in the past will not prevent him from morphing. Ever.
"Okay, but what if there was a cure...?" Then you'd be suggesting there was something wrong with the werewolf. I don't recommend asking that to a werewolf, particularly not during that time of the month.
Anyway, it looks I took a bit of a ramble here with my twenty cents.
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I could stop and have stopped in the past. But guys are so much fun to have sex with..... I always seem to eventually take the plunge again.
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Well, they say the dick is addicting in its own rite. But....it can also be a curse, too.
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I slowed it down .....I thought. Now it's part of me , us . Love it more than ever
Yes it is addicting.... I've had other tell me the same thing... Once you suck cock once you can't wait to do it again....and yes that can be a curseWell, they say the dick is addicting in its own rite. But....it can also be a curse, too.
I'm certainly no expert on the subject, but from all of the stories and comments that I've read on sites like this, just about every guy that sucks one cock wants to do it again. I know I did.
