The "Fuck you cancer!" thread

[LallyH]

A post just of concern here....

One of my staff came to me this afternoon to tell me that he has found a lump in a place where guys don't want to find lumps and that he has to go for tests. I could see the fear in his eyes - he lost his mum to cancer as a teenager, and lost his dad to it last year.

It may be something and nothing or it may be 'it'. Like anyone, I wanted to tell him something to calm his anxiety but the only thing to do that will be a good result from his test.

So it's fingers crossed here.

 

[Blue]

A post just of concern here....

One of my staff came to me this afternoon to tell me that he has found a lump in a place where guys don't want to find lumps and that he has to go for tests. I could see the fear in his eyes - he lost his mum to cancer as a teenager, and lost his dad to it last year.

It may be something and nothing or it may be 'it'. Like anyone, I wanted to tell him something to calm his anxiety but the only thing to do that will be a good result from his test.

So it's fingers crossed here.

I've never had anybody tell me they found a lump somewhere but if they ever do I plan on telling them that it's far more likely to be a nodule of fat or benign tumor that probably won't even need removing than malignant cancer.
Can't attest to the therapeutic benefits of that yet though.

Perhaps instead I'll make a joke about forging their will and hope that they have a dark sense of humour.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

on my Breast Cancer. Thank you sooo much for the support I have gotten on this site. I have not posted for a bit but I do frequently read other's posts and it just reminds me how nasty this disease is not only for the patient but for the family and friends it affects as well....FYC

This thread was a life saver when I reached that point where I really was not sure I could continue the fight. My cancer is fairly aggressive and I have a 50/50 chance of it returning within 2 years so I am busy sucking every drop of joy out of every day. For so many who posts on here I send nothing but positive vibes and well wishes to you. Please stay strong and come visit us here if you need to talk.

THANK YOU ALL!!

Thinking of you cmslt and thank you for the update. Keep holding your chin up as you fight off those nasty cell suckers FYC. We are all fighting with you.

My friend from my old area died yesterday.

Oh Elle - hugging you in your loss.

My dad is having a very bad day today, he told us he's dying and he feels there something brewing ... There is nothing I can say or do than just to hold him and tell him everything is going to be alrigth... I'm preying soo hard it's going to be.. And it never helped when my friend said he was a shadow of his former self yesterday..

people have no idea what to say. Try to forgive your friend for fumbling.

I found out last week my uncle ( My dads brother) is fighting bladder cancer and he might have to have his bladder removed

It sooo nice to have a place where I can moan about it...

G xx

I have been holding you in my heart Oldenburg. You have such a heavy load. I want to echo what DGE said about being sure to take care of yourself. you are NO USE to those you love if you are not taking care of your own mental and physical health. You need a break. To breath. To get care and hugs yourself. To be able to cry. To be comforted when you feel afraid. Seek out and get respite care. This is a slog. Treat it like a marathon. not a sprint. {{{ HUGS }}}

hai, guise.

so i read this thread often. i am a cancer survivor & i've been cancer free for some time now. reading these stories is heartbreaking. i remember the paralyzing fear & the sudden clarity that comes with the illness - you're filled with regret & thinking about all those things you might WON'T get to do.

that fear is still with me and my inability to accept my own mortality often keeps me awake on many nights... like right now, for example.

Nina - so good to see you post here. And know that we are all still here for you.
hugs on your sleepless nights.

A post just of concern here....

One of my staff came to me this afternoon to tell me that he has found a lump in a place where guys don't want to find lumps and that he has to go for tests. I could see the fear in his eyes - he lost his mum to cancer as a teenager, and lost his dad to it last year.

So it's fingers crossed here.

No doubt he is anxious. And it is unwise to offer platitudes or tell him it is nothing. He needs to be examined and have the tests. Hopefully it is completely benign. Often lumps and bumps are. But that does nothing to alleviate the fear. So - you know what to do. Be with him. Comfort him. Check in with him. Make sure he has someone who will go with him to the appointments. Find out when he will expect to have the results and be sure that someone is with him when he gets them. These are the moments that are particularly difficult.

I read every post on this thread. It is one of my go-to threads. I thank god for DGE for starting it and for being a steady voice here.
Mom has 10 more weeks of daily chemo.
She thinks her lungs are not being unduly damaged by an odd toxic reaction to the chemo. She is awfully tired.
This month is the anniv of my dad's death also by cancer.
It is everywhere.
It feels as if daily I have another patient with a new terminal diagnosis, or I mark another chart deceased.

As so many have said - these things do crystallize the importance of living each day to the fullest. And creating things that matter - doing things that are an "add" for others - that are kind, not hurtful; that buoy people up, not bring them down.

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[Oldenburg]

Attitude is everything in fighting Cancer....praying his spirits lift and he gets renewed strength for his fight. So sorry he is hurting...this is sooo tough....

Thank you it's so hard my mom broke down today, had floods of tears ( away from my Dad) im trying to be soo strong for both of my parents, I suffer with really bad depression and that's not helping, but I'm being as strong as I can for everyone..



Hey. I went through some of this this year, with my parents. I need to say this: Do. Not. Stop. Exercising. Or. Doing. Things. For. You.

(You test out at overwhelmingly submissive on your test-y thing in your sig, so maybe if I say it in just the right authoritarian D voice you'll be lulled into compliance. )

Seriously. When you neglect yourself, you're doing more harm to your ability to help your family. Please don't do that.

Yes Sir I'm off for a run tomorrow.. I just feel guilty/selfish as my mom has no time for herself as she won't let anyone else look after my dad ( McMillan Nurse etc) we spoke about it today and sh got soo upset about it.. I'm in a rock and a hard place

A post just of concern here....

One of my staff came to me this afternoon to tell me that he has found a lump in a place where guys don't want to find lumps and that he has to go for tests. I could see the fear in his eyes - he lost his mum to cancer as a teenager, and lost his dad to it last year.

It may be something and nothing or it may be 'it'. Like anyone, I wanted to tell him something to calm his anxiety but the only thing to do that will be a good result from his test.

So it's fingers crossed here.

Fingers crossed its nothing horrible, might just be a fatty lump...



I have been holding you in my heart Oldenburg. You have such a heavy load. I want to echo what DGE said about being sure to take care of yourself. you are NO USE to those you love if you are not taking care of your own mental and physical health. You need a break. To breath. To get care and hugs yourself. To be able to cry. To be comforted when you feel afraid. Seek out and get respite care. This is a slog. Treat it like a marathon. not a sprint. {{{ HUGS }}}

Thank you for being so lovely and for your kind words
It's sooo nice to have such lovely and friendly people to vent too.. Your all amazing thank you from the bottom of my heart...

We had a phone call off the doctors today, my dad had to have a blood test to check for bladder cancer, due to what my uncle ( Dads brother ) is going through and his been having problems in that area.. Well anyway they are saying the levels are high so he has to have another blood test in 2 weeks to see if there is anychange, and if there is he will be referred to a specialist for that, it's one thing after a bloody another


Life royally fucking sucks sometimes

G x

 

[Oldenburg]

I posted here almost two years ago about my husband who has ALS - or Lou Gehrig's disease. I don't think I've been back since then - I'm a Lit lurker.

ALS is always terminal, there's no cure and no treatment to slow it down. When I met my husband, he weighed 225. He's now immobile, in a wheelchair 24/7 and weighs 160. I feel lucky in that he can still talk with me, he can still eat by mouth and doesn't need any help breathing.

I was his submissive prior to the diagnoses. I now feel like a slave to his disease.

So it's not cancer. But it's still a big fat FUCK YOU....

Much love and many blessings to all of you living with illness.

Sending my preys to you along with a massive hugs..

Fuck You ALS fuck you..

Xx

 

[Oldenburg]

on my Breast Cancer. Thank you sooo much for the support I have gotten on this site. I have not posted for a bit but I do frequently read other's posts and it just reminds me how nasty this disease is not only for the patient but for the family and friends it affects as well....FYC

I am just over halfway done my 33 radiation treatments and completely finished my 20 weeks of chemo. I must admit I am exhausted and have had enough of hospitals and Drs. but otherwise I am doing ok. Some tissue breakdown has temporarily slowed my treatments but all things considered it is still much better than the chemo side effects. This thread was a life saver when I reached that point where I really was not sure I could continue the fight. My cancer is fairly aggressive and I have a 50/50 chance of it returning within 2 years so I am busy sucking every drop of joy out of every day. For so many who posts on here I send nothing but positive vibes and well wishes to you. Please stay strong and come visit us here if you need to talk.

THANK YOU ALL!!

Your so amazing, it makes me feel soo guilt for moaning, when your going through this..

Sending nothing but positive thoughts and preys your way... Your a massive inspiration

G x

 

[cmslt2326]

Your so amazing, it makes me feel soo guilt for moaning, when your going through this..

Sending nothing but positive thoughts and preys your way... Your a massive inspiration

G x

I am no one's inspiration Babe....you did not see me when I was crying and not sure I could take anymore....but I know the pain, fear and frustration that this disease brings...Please know I am praying for your whole family...

 

[GoAztecs]

Positive thoughts to those who have recently posted and shared

 

[Apple_of_Eden]

Hello All...I find myself constantly checking in on this thread even when I don't post for any period of time. My brother had his radiation treatment to his breastbone for a new bone met. So far, no change in his pain. I'm hoping that will improve soon. In general, he's in pain everyday. It's hard to believe the changes this, as DGE calls it "blood sucker," has had on him. Gone is the happy go lucky, fun loving man. In his place is a man who can barely get through his day without ...well, without a lot of things I'd rather not list.

For him and for all of you dealing with cancer, and for the friends and family members, I send all of my love and positive thoughts out to you. Stay strong. We need each other and I second, third, and fourth, the thought: Thank God for this thread and for all of you and your ability and willingness to share.

Apple Hugs to all!

FYC!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Apple, so good to see you. I'm sorry your bro is slogging such deep swamps. I can guarantee that he is relieved to have you whispering encouragement in his ear.



I'm so pleased that my friend came through her cellfucker-related surgery this week with such positive prospects. Whew. I know she will read this, and I want her to know how very proud I am. Such a difficult thing, and such heroism in the face of fear. -

FYC.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[scotluvsoral]

A post just of concern here....

One of my staff came to me this afternoon to tell me that he has found a lump in a place where guys don't want to find lumps and that he has to go for tests. I could see the fear in his eyes - he lost his mum to cancer as a teenager, and lost his dad to it last year.

It may be something and nothing or it may be 'it'. Like anyone, I wanted to tell him something to calm his anxiety but the only thing to do that will be a good result from his test.

So it's fingers crossed here.

It's usually not a big deal but you only KNOW if it is checked out! Early detection is pathway to higher success rate! It's awfully damn frightening though...takes the breath away to face it and worse to face it alone! Glad he could come to you to say aloud that he is concerned! FUCK YOU CANCER!!!

 

[scotluvsoral]

I LOVE this thread and am so happy you started it DGE! It inspires me almost always, makes me tear up perpetually and makes me thankful there is a place where we can share the fear, the joy, the loss and the successes with people who understand beyond the words! Peace, love and prayers to all! FUCK YOU CANCER!!!

 

[scotluvsoral]

I am no one's inspiration Babe....you did not see me when I was crying and not sure I could take anymore....but I know the pain, fear and frustration that this disease brings...Please know I am praying for your whole family...

Each and every time I see someone pulling themselves up to do battle against the cell sucker another day...especially after a tough day or tough news, I am so inspired! Every time I see the courage and determination to fight on, my soul is thrilled. I watched two grandparents surrender to this disease...crushed by the news that they had cancer. They lived the remainder of their lifes in terror of the the awful cell sucker and in the process, surrendered the joy that would have remained in their lives. Every day we go on, every day we don't surrender to the fear, is a day we beat this bastard of a disease, because almost as bad as destroying our cells is how it tries to destroy our souls! You bet your sweet ass that you are an inspiration!!!! All the positive thoughts, energy and prayers I can muster is coming your way!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Thanks CB and scot.

I'm glad the thread serves as a place for people to be angry and fearful and worried and despondent and joyful and relieved. Anything is welcome.

However, wouldn't it be cool if the thread went dark because it was no longer relevant? Now, that would be great.

 

[scotluvsoral]

Thanks CB and scot.

I'm glad the thread serves as a place for people to be angry and fearful and worried and despondent and joyful and relieved. Anything is welcome.

However, wouldn't it be cool if the thread went dark because it was no longer relevant? Now, that would be great.

Sure the hell would be great!

 

[GoAztecs]

I LOVE this thread and am so happy you started it DGE! It inspires me almost always, makes me tear up perpetually and makes me thankful there is a place where we can share the fear, the joy, the loss and the successes with people who understand beyond the words! Peace, love and prayers to all! FUCK YOU CANCER!!!

Well said

 

[cookiecat]

Thank you

I'm just as worried about my Mom... My Mom and I are the ones at home with dad 24/7 I've stopped jogging as I feel guilty for leaving my mom and her own with my dad...

I would not wish this on my worst enemy... My life has changed in the matter of 4 weeks

Just nice to have a vent and let it all out...

Thank you I feel slightly better..

G x

My husband has ALS and I'm his full-time and only caregiver. It's such a tough thing to do. I totally, totally understand the guilt about leaving - you want to be there for every moment.

You're a good daughter for staying with your mom and supporting your dad.

Much love and support.

 

[LallyH]

I did my run this morning - 1,000 women and girls running 5k in 30 degree heat

For the last few years when I've done this run, the race has been started by a little girl called Georgia who was fighting neuroblastoma. She lost her fight in December and so this year, it was her mum who bravely spoke to us beforehand about her fighting so hard for her life and then set us on our way.

It should raise £55k towards research and hopefully there will be more survivors and kinder treatments.

So Fuck You Cancer. We're not giving up.

 

[GoAztecs]

I did my run this morning - 1,000 women and girls running 5k in 30 degree heat

For the last few years when I've done this run, the race has been started by a little girl called Georgia who was fighting neuroblastoma. She lost her fight in December and so this year, it was her mum who bravely spoke to us beforehand about her fighting so hard for her life and then set us on our way.

It should raise £55k towards research and hopefully there will be more survivors and kinder treatments.

So Fuck You Cancer. We're not giving up.

Wonderful contribution

 

[cmslt2326]

Each and every time I see someone pulling themselves up to do battle against the cell sucker another day...especially after a tough day or tough news, I am so inspired! Every time I see the courage and determination to fight on, my soul is thrilled. I watched two grandparents surrender to this disease...crushed by the news that they had cancer. They lived the remainder of their lifes in terror of the the awful cell sucker and in the process, surrendered the joy that would have remained in their lives. Every day we go on, every day we don't surrender to the fear, is a day we beat this bastard of a disease, because almost as bad as destroying our cells is how it tries to destroy our souls! You bet your sweet ass that you are an inspiration!!!! All the positive thoughts, energy and prayers I can muster is coming your way!

Wow....such a lovely post. The one thing we most definitely DO agree on is life is short.

No one knows how much time any of us have on this Earth....

No matter how bad you feel (and I have felt plenty bad) every day you get to decide how to respond to this nasty disease....I choose to not live a life of fear but to find every bit of joy I can.

This weekend was a fabulous one.....boat rides with my children....any food that looked tasty....and several small naps to keep my energy up.

Praying for all my friends on here who can barely pick their heads up some days...from someone who is part of this infamous club.....when your head will not leave the pillow, keep your chin up...

 

[scotluvsoral]

I did my run this morning - 1,000 women and girls running 5k in 30 degree heat

For the last few years when I've done this run, the race has been started by a little girl called Georgia who was fighting neuroblastoma. She lost her fight in December and so this year, it was her mum who bravely spoke to us beforehand about her fighting so hard for her life and then set us on our way.

It should raise £55k towards research and hopefully there will be more survivors and kinder treatments.

So Fuck You Cancer. We're not giving up.

Thanks for this post. Every ACS event I participate in, (I have 2 later this month) I find myself swept up in the emotion of a survivor who speaks or a caretaker talking about how valiant their love one battled! I thank God that my battle was successful and that my loved ones still have me. So we will always battle on, always try to maintain hope and courage and the words FUCK YOU CANCER will be on my lips until the cell sucker is the dead one! Love and courage to you all!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Shankara20]

However, wouldn't it be cool if the thread went dark because it was no longer relevant? Now, that would be great.

Exactly.

I have been away traveling a bit. When I returned home I found I could not open this thread until now as I was so fucking angry about what my cancer has taken away from me. In the larger picture my loss has been small and my struggle light compared to the fight of so many others, but I was pissed all the same.

This thread helps me, so until such time as it is "no longer relevant" I will return to find comfort and offer what support I can.


PS: Fuck You Cancer!