Polyamory

[BadGirl420]

I would love to know the community following on this subject. Polyamory means to love more than one person... I'm in love with two...
I am happily married for 8 years and we've been together for almost 11 years. My best friend has become our live in girlfriend. We "jokingly" call her my wife, but seriously, it's far from a joke.. I have a three-way marriage. She lives with us and shares our bed. We have sex, all three of us.. And one on one. But we have a relationship together as well.. It's actually pretty perfect.
I'd love to chat with others who are interested or have similar experiences.

 

[loveupskirt]

Sounds like a great arrangements if it works for everyone. We have joked about it also, but my wife is pretty conservative at the core, and we have no potential "wife" for us anyway. Too bad.....

 

[jehoram]

If it works for you, it's all good.

There was a thread on this subject not long ago. you can probably find it with the "Search" function.

 

[BadGirl420]

If it works for you, it's all good.

There was a thread on this subject not long ago. you can probably find it with the "Search" function.

I thought there might be.. I tried the search option but it wasn't working as well as I wanted so I started my own

 

[BadGirl420]

Sounds like a great arrangements if it works for everyone. We have joked about it also, but my wife is pretty conservative at the core, and we have no potential "wife" for us anyway. Too bad.....

Maybe you will one day.

 

[kingkoll]

I would love to know the community following on this subject. Polyamory means to love more than one person... I'm in love with two...
I am happily married for 8 years and we've been together for almost 11 years. My best friend has become our live in girlfriend. We "jokingly" call her my wife, but seriously, it's far from a joke.. I have a three-way marriage. She lives with us and shares our bed. We have sex, all three of us.. And one on one. But we have a relationship together as well.. It's actually pretty perfect.
I'd love to chat with others who are interested or have similar experiences.

you have one lucky husband

 

[Erodicus]

I would happily enter into a polyamory arrangement but neither my wife nor my gf would agree. I really do love them both dearly.

 

[naughtoldperv]

A mfm poly relationship has been my fantasy, but wife is reluctant and I don't force. If it happens, then it happens but I can see that it could have potential for disaster if things don't go right.

 

[jehoram]

I thought there might be.. I tried the search option but it wasn't working as well as I wanted so I started my own

I think this is the one I was referring to:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1249184

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Polyamory is, I believe, our most natural state of being as humans. The book "Sex at Dawn" explains the biological and sociological reasons why this is true.

That it's working for all of you is critically important. And the way to keep it working is to be scrupulously honest and communicate effectively so that their are no lapses in the trust you are all building with each other.

Still it may not last forever. Most relationships don't. If you'd like to talk more in depth about it, feel free to PM me about my own experiences with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.

 

[curious_debutante]

I've been attracted to this arrangement, but the right people aren't exactly plentiful. The trust, intimacy, and love shared can be so limitless. With fewer boundaries to pen us in, we could learn to love better than ever.

 

[monanympho]

I don't know about polyamory, but I am in love with the whole human race. I am bi and I love to fuck any one from any sex, gender or race at any time

 

[BadGirl420]

I think this is the one I was referring to:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1249184

Thank you I'll check it out.

 

[curious_debutante]

Polyamory is, I believe, our most natural state of being as humans. The book "Sex at Dawn" explains the biological and sociological reasons why this is true.

That it's working for all of you is critically important. And the way to keep it working is to be scrupulously honest and communicate effectively so that their are no lapses in the trust you are all building with each other.

Still it may not last forever. Most relationships don't. If you'd like to talk more in depth about it, feel free to PM me about my own experiences with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.

I love this sentiment. The idea of ETHICAL non-monogamy interests me, not because I'm into lots of people, but because I'm into shameless honesty. I just want openness. And I hate shame.

 

[Justfantasies]

I would love to know the community following on this subject. Polyamory means to love more than one person... I'm in love with two...
I am happily married for 8 years and we've been together for almost 11 years. My best friend has become our live in girlfriend. We "jokingly" call her my wife, but seriously, it's far from a joke.. I have a three-way marriage. She lives with us and shares our bed. We have sex, all three of us.. And one on one. But we have a relationship together as well.. It's actually pretty perfect.
I'd love to chat with others who are interested or have similar experiences.

I had a relationship with two women with each of them knowing about the other. It was very excited xciting for me and both said they were happy with the situation. Both of them slept with other men too. After about six months, however, they got jealous and made me chose between them

 

[MayAmore]

The past few years I have been heavily fantasizing and thinking about being in a poly-triad like that. As a bisexual woman I feel like it could complete me to have a man and a woman to be with, who also have a relationship with each other.

It seems much easier to find single polys who just want to have multiple but separate partners. At least, those are the ones I've met. I feel like I could have the potential inside me to be poly, however I do like certain levels of commitment in relationships. Which is being in a triad really appeals to me. Just feels hard to find those who are open to loving more than one - but also want a nice day to day life.

Congratulations on finding such an amazing set up for yourself! That's so wonderful and encouraging to hear that it can happen.

 

[RawHumor]

The past few years I have been heavily fantasizing and thinking about being in a poly-triad like that. As a bisexual woman I feel like it could complete me to have a man and a woman to be with, who also have a relationship with each other.

It seems much easier to find single polys who just want to have multiple but separate partners. At least, those are the ones I've met. I feel like I could have the potential inside me to be poly, however I do like certain levels of commitment in relationships. Which is being in a triad really appeals to me. Just feels hard to find those who are open to loving more than one - but also want a nice day to day life.

Congratulations on finding such an amazing set up for yourself! That's so wonderful and encouraging to hear that it can happen.

In some realms, you are considered an elusive unicorn. If you put yourself out there (FetLife.com or something), I think there are quite a few couples who want to bring a bisexual woman into their family.

 

[Green_Knight]

Polyamory is, I believe, our most natural state of being as humans. The book "Sex at Dawn" explains the biological and sociological reasons why this is true.

No, it doesn't. It only offers a hypothesis since there is no proof - no records from that period of prehistory and the surviving physical evidence is limited. The book was originally to be published by the Oxford University Press but it failed the peer review process.

 

[cookiecat]

I had a relationship with two women with each of them knowing about the other. It was very excited xciting for me and both said they were happy with the situation. Both of them slept with other men too. After about six months, however, they got jealous and made me chose between them

It seems like it's always this.

The one poly relationship I was in ended up with the guy who proclaimed honest and open communication cheating on me with a friend. It was the ultimate irony. I would've been absolutely happy with them together but it was like the secret lust of cheating was a stronger thing.

Oddly, weeks prior to this, she said she was envious of our relationship; she wanted that level of honesty.

4 years later, they are still together. I'd like to say something super snarky because... just because BUTTTTTTTTTTTT I won't. Instead, I'll just say they're meant to be together.

People.

 

[roc23]

I would have no problem entering into this kind of relationship.

But the odds are pretty slim.

I have problems finding the right girl,never mind two.

 

[lydia_kitty]

In theory that would be a VERRRRY fun set up. As a bi woman especially this appeals to me. I often get off thinking about sharing another woman with my man and making that a reality would be beyond fulfilling!! But in reality it could turn very sideways with jealousy, so for now I am happy to fantasize.

 

[Jack94]

I have recently gone through a scenario like this. My wife introduced one of her closest friends into our lives. What began with some fun and interesting roleplaying opportunities got too real when they began to compete.

 

[MayAmore]

In theory that would be a VERRRRY fun set up. As a bi woman especially this appeals to me. I often get off thinking about sharing another woman with my man and making that a reality would be beyond fulfilling!! But in reality it could turn very sideways with jealousy, so for now I am happy to fantasize.

I struggle with wondering whether reality could ever match up with what is in my head too. While I'm single I've been wondering if I should try and date around in the poly community, definitely more of a risk once you're coupled and there's someone else involved. I think that's what's so hard about polyamory though, it seems like you really never know until you give it a real life try whether it'll be for you or not.

 

[cookiecat]

I struggle with wondering whether reality could ever match up with what is in my head too. While I'm single I've been wondering if I should try and date around in the poly community, definitely more of a risk once you're coupled and there's someone else involved. I think that's what's so hard about polyamory though, it seems like you really never know until you give it a real life try whether it'll be for you or not.

The OP says it works for him. I have friends who have successful poly relationships. So it can happen.

That being said... I'm always sort of the glass half empty girl. Rain on your parade. Devil on your shoulder.

It takes a lot of hard work. Open communication. That's kind of obvious, right?

The thing that I wasn't down with was the nuts and bolts of the the relationship. Like who's going grocery shopping for all 3 of us? Oh wait, I thought it was OUR night to go out. Ummm, no - I don't want my paycheck to go to the household fund which in turn goes to pay for a pair of her boots. I cleaned the bathroom the entire last month - it's your turn!!

And if they're married and you're the third? Oh. What kind of financial arrangements do we have? Future plans? Life insurance? Health insurance? Who goes to Christmas with the in-laws? Which one of us gets to go to your work party?

I say this from experience - I have a friend who was in a long-term poly relationship as the third to a married couple. He had a heart attack and she was unceremoniously shoved out of the house. I was surprised to learn they hadn't talked these things through.

It's one thing to have fun group sex. It's another to figure out how to make it work in a day to day world.

I realize this is just a fun porn board. I got a little flack for being debbie downer on a gang bang thread because I thought it was about oily guys in white sox jerking off at a Hampton Inn... soooooooooooo maybe it is just about the daydream of MFF or MFM or FFF or... LOL - whatever

 

[RawHumor]

It's one thing to have fun group sex. It's another to figure out how to make it work in a day to day world.

I'm starting to really love your posts.