I should love X but it's only okay

[tightmedicine]

I was reading the Savage Love column and one of the poster's got me thinking about things society dictates/expects that you should love and want in sex but really it does not do much for you.

I don't dislike oral, it's nice to get, but it just doesn't drive me wild and it never makes me cum. I get far more turned on sucking a dick than having my clit sucked.

Also, theoretically anal with a smaller cock should be easier and more comfortable, right? I've found in terms of post-penetration the wider, bigger penis and wider, bigger toy offers more comfort long-term than vice versa.

Sex is a funny, awesome beast!

 

[sithpac]

I was reading the Savage Love column and one of the poster's got me thinking about things society dictates/expects that you should love and want in sex but really it does not do much for you.

I don't dislike oral, it's nice to get, but it just doesn't drive me wild and it never makes me cum. I get far more turned on sucking a dick than having my clit sucked.

Also, theoretically anal with a smaller cock should be easier and more comfortable, right? I've found in terms of post-penetration the wider, bigger penis and wider, bigger toy offers more comfort long-term than vice versa.

Sex is a funny, awesome beast!

To each their own, while I love receiving oral, it's difficult to make me cum from it, while I get incredibly turned on while eating out a pussy...go figure

 

[KINKYCanada]

To each their own, while I love receiving oral, it's difficult to make me cum from it, while I get incredibly turned on while eating out a pussy...go figure

It all depends on my mood, There are times I love to eat her out, there are time I love watching her suck my cock. This wasn't so when I was younger and dating I only wanted head! I was a selfish little ass I guess!

KC

 

[HesterP]

I find oral fun for foreplay but rather fuck when it is time to climax. I used to do anal quite a bit and always found the smaller or average men more comfortable. If the guy is really hung, I have a much better place to try and fit it.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I'm the same way. I love giving oral. When I go down, I stay down until the job is finished. It doesn't matter if it takes 5 minuted or an hour.

Receiving, not so much. It's nice foreplay, but once I'm hard I'm ready to get to the business.

That being said, I have been craving a blow job for the past week. I can't remember ever wanting my dick sucked so intensely. It's a thought that just won't go away.

 

[kinkywife8]

I love sucking cock! My hubby was not really into blow jobs when we first got together. His point was he didn't feel like I got anything out of it especially if he came. He has gotten over that probably due to my love of giving oral and he is pretty good with his tongue so I still get mine

 

[Vicky11]

I was reading the Savage Love column and one of the poster's got me thinking about things society dictates/expects that you should love and want in sex but really it does not do much for you.

I don't dislike oral, it's nice to get, but it just doesn't drive me wild and it never makes me cum. I get far more turned on sucking a dick than having my clit sucked.

Also, theoretically anal with a smaller cock should be easier and more comfortable, right? I've found in terms of post-penetration the wider, bigger penis and wider, bigger toy offers more comfort long-term than vice versa.

Sex is a funny, awesome beast!

I agree totally with the exception of I love both giving and reviving oral and have no problem reaching more than one orgasm.

Vicky

 

[Peach102]

In my youth, oral was not a big deal. Part of it, as far as receiving it goes, was that I was sitting/lying there and doing nothing...it seemed kind of weird to just lie there and watch my girlfriend do all the work. And I while I did not hate heading south, I think my lack of skillz made it less rewarding.

As others have said, time changes things and I enjoy both now. I do have to say I prefer giving than receiving, I love how intimate it feels.

But another for me is the classic U.S. babe: Lady with long blonde hair, with big boobs and long legs. Not that I find it ugly, it is just seems too common as so many women seem to strive to be that person, to fit that image. I much prefer the less common. I certainly don't get the obsession with long hair. I recall a former co-worker that was training to be an Aveda stylist, she agreed to let a special teacher (Flown in for a seminar) to give her a razor cut. It ended up being a little longer than chin length and she was crushed and said she felt ugly and unladylike. I thought she looked hella sexy and told her, using very work friendly words, that I thought she looked lovely and how well it showed off her facial featured. She could not wait to grow it long again.

 

[James1324]

I love sucking cock! My hubby was not really into blow jobs when we first got together. His point was he didn't feel like I got anything out of it especially if he came. He has gotten over that probably due to my love of giving oral and he is pretty good with his tongue so I still get mine

I can empathise with your husband's feelings here. I always enjoyed getting, but felt a bit guilty about having all the fun, so I would never let it go very long. I've since become a bit more confident and, consequently, willing to give myself a break

I'd be interested in any opinions on anal. My own experience is that I've enjoyed how much my partner has enjoyed it, rather than for my own sake. As a result, I've found playing with plugs to be more exciting than actual anal sex.

 

[SquidProQuo]

I'm a woman, and receiving oral sex fits into that category for me, so far. I also don't like my clit to be overstimulated. I prefer my pussy to be touched with, say, fingers instead, nearer the perineum. As far as receiving vs. giving oral, I'd rather give it, even if I technically have a broken jaw and it can tire easily.