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[stickygirl]

It's at least a step in the right direction toward educating people. If they'll bother to listen, that is.

I'm sure Fox will lap it up
Well, time will tell. Up till now all there had been was the well-monied pressure groups spewing hate and lies and maybe some journos will welcome a more adult, measured and informed source. Loads of gay people in the media isn't there? ( because smart creative sorts ) They owe us this!

 

[TheBastardBard]

Hi, I'm going to be starting transitioning soon, and have a question: when you started transitioning, did you immediately start HRT or were you prescribed blockers first? If you see this and answer, thank you.

 

[stickygirl]

Hi, I'm going to be starting transitioning soon, and have a question: when you started transitioning, did you immediately start HRT or were you prescribed blockers first? If you see this and answer, thank you.

The only reason to prescribe blockers is to delay puberty, which is unlikely to be appropriate in your case.
Whether you are prescribed hormones immediately will depend on if you have already been through the medical registration and counselling: different 'rules' for different countries.
If you're happy to offer a bit more background then I could offer you a more informed answer, but I totally respect you're privacy on that - it's the internet = nothing is private once it's out.
Good luck

 

[stickygirl]

no shit, sherlock

Study shows that trans kids have good metal health, if they're allowed to be themselvesURL]



Really?! Well I'll go to the foot of our stairs

Other news - water is wet and Trump is a cunt ( and a crap business man )

 

[coati]

The Trump phenomenon...

Oh Sticky, need you remind us 'Murikans about where we live? It reminds me of that haunting line in an old U2 song, probably composed in a motel room somewhere, "Outside it's America, outside it's America".

 

[Messier82]

Not wanting to subvert SGs thread but I think many people are worried that a country who could elect George Dubya twice might be capable of electing a nutter like Trump. Equally, in the UK many people are worried about home-grown Eton-educated prize-knobhead BoJo being our next Prime Minister.

https://s14-eu5.ixquick.com/cgi-bin/serveimage?url=http%3A%2F%2Ftse1.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DOIP.M2a7589251b5136eb423c8f0dcbe74fa6o1%26pid%3D15.1%26f%3D1&sp=1b8a02fed77422353a9a174026f32a6e

Who bears more than a passing resemblance to Trump, I would suggest

 

[stickygirl]

This hopeful is a creepy backslider ( who leaks that he going to something awful in the budget but then leaks he's had second thoughts because he's "compassionate"
http://cdn2.spectator.co.uk/files/2015/03/1416047741.jpg

This hopeful is not going to babysit any kids of mine http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/02566/michael-Gove_2566694b.jpg

This one is fucking idiot http://static.independent.co.uk/s3fs-public/styles/readmore_card/public/thumbnails/image/2015/11/12/21/12-jeremy-hunt-get.jpg

Glasgow fishwife hopeful http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/03471/SturgeonEurope_3471006b.jpg

but none of them are cunts - not in the same league as Trump
So... enough of politics. Lets talk about the governor of S Dakota vetoing the the proposal to ban transgender kids from bathrooms

 

[coati]

So... enough of politics. Lets talk about the governor of S Dakota vetoing the the proposal to ban transgender kids from bathrooms

I saw this governor on TV a few days ago. He said that he was listening to transgender kids and their families.

I find that every once in a while there are officials with integrity amidst the insanity of the very vocal American phobic culture.

 

[stickygirl]

Regrets? I've had a few

...but never about transitioning
http://www.transstudent.org/transregretssmall.jpg

 

[haurni]

The logic of the transphobes is to say that, because maybe 1 in 40 or 1 in 50 people might change their minds, nobody should have the opportunity to transition. Or that, because one (cis) man wearing a dress entered a woman's bathroom and assaulted someone, nobody who has ever been male-bodied should be able to do so. It's the logic of the extreme, of the isolated case.

 

[Bramblethorn]

The logic of the transphobes is to say that, because maybe 1 in 40 or 1 in 50 people might change their minds, nobody should have the opportunity to transition. Or that, because one (cis) man wearing a dress entered a woman's bathroom and assaulted someone, nobody who has ever been male-bodied should be able to do so. It's the logic of the extreme, of the isolated case.

Even for people who doesn't give a damn about the safety of trans people, it's so utterly stupid. These people are so obsessed with trans women that they don't think about the implications re. requiring big beardy trans men to use the ladies. If anything, it makes things EASIER for bogeyman-sex-predator guy; now he doesn't even have to bother dressing up or shaving, just has to say "I was born female so I have to use this one".

 

[stickygirl]

The logic of the transphobes is to say that, because maybe 1 in 40 or 1 in 50 people might change their minds, nobody should have the opportunity to transition.

That's really big of them isn't it? To be SO concerned about our frigging welfare all of a sudden. Just like the Pro-Life bastardsthat are suddenly SO concerned about zygots

Or that, because one (cis) man wearing a dress entered a woman's bathroom and assaulted someone, nobody who has ever been male-bodied should be able to do so.

For which there are already laws in every country INCLUDING the USA

It's the logic of the extreme, of the isolated case.

Please don't use that word in that context - I'm a frigging scientist!!

 

[stickygirl]

Even for people who doesn't give a damn about the safety of trans people, it's so utterly stupid. These people are so obsessed with trans women that they don't think about the implications re. requiring big beardy trans men to use the ladies. If anything, it makes things EASIER for bogeyman-sex-predator guy; now he doesn't even have to bother dressing up or shaving, just has to say "I was born female so I have to use this one".

Show me the incident where a transgender person assaulted someone in the bathroom.... the single friggin incident. They have none. What they do have is cis-gender men raping and assaulting women, both cis and trans in the face of laws that already exist. Instead they're gonna offer a friggin reward for outing trans people - who have done nothing wrong.
It's like blaming cats for chasing car tyres - because they have fur and tails too.
All this from the land that thinks the best way to reduce gun crime is allow more guns
What The Fuck

 

[stickygirl]

Oh
and Happy International Women's Day

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[haurni]

Show me the incident where a transgender person assaulted someone in the bathroom.... the single friggin incident.

I've been looking into this, actually, with a view to creating an infographic (see below). Just because the trans community is small and oppressed doesn't mean that its members never commit sexual assaults, either against each other or against cis people (who, after all, make up the majority of the population). I think it's naive to suggest otherwise, just like it's naive to say that women don't commit similar offences. The question is, though, how much of a problem is this in the grand scheme of things; transphobes, of course, would have you believe that it is a serious - even life-threatening - concern.

There are actually a few cases in the US each year where someone who is not a cis woman enters a female-specific facility to do something inappropriate (videotape, peep, expose, assault). However, the reality is that the majority of these cases appear to be cis men deliberately dressing up to sneak into such places. A few are cross-dressers and even fewer are actually trans women - less than one incident per year on average across the whole US over the last 20-odd years. And, as SG pointed out, existing laws already address these few cases.

Now compare that to the number of women who are raped and/or murdered by cis men, or even the number of trans people who are killed each year in America, and you'll get a sense of what the real issues are. So-called 'bathroom bills' are solutions looking for problems that either don't exist or are insignificant overall.

Here's a preliminary and rather simplistic version of my infographic:

 

[Bramblethorn]

Since being award of how much of a story this is, I have really wanted to start using the gents, kind of routinely. Not because it's my flab to wave, but because it is so simple to solve, and almost free....just make loos in public spaces with no nudity , mixed sex.

Some places have unisex toilets, and surprisingly enough, the world hasn't ended!

 

[stickygirl]

Some places have unisex toilets, and surprisingly enough, the world hasn't ended!

yea, like every home in the western world...

 

[stickygirl]

How many dogs even chase car tyres? I don't think it's the gender issue, I think it's an issue of people who are going to assault people or not. And being trans wouldn't seem to make it a single bit more likely than any other person among us.

Putting it on its head - it's far more likely the trans person would be assaulted

If they are really saying 'men' are sex offenders why do we let young adult males, the gap between at mothers knee and adult, go to the lavatory by themselves? After all. There is, I imagine, more statistical likelihood of a child at least being witness to an act he is not the right age to see in a gents public loo, than any one being attacked by a trans person.

It's perverts who sexually assault kids - and that is what these transphobics are implying: that we are perverts.

Of course, maybe we'll all act irrational in public loos because of the wide spread coke use in them....?

Ban hairspray in women's loos!!

 

[coati]

It's perverts who sexually assault kids - and that is what these transphobics are implying: that we are perverts.

The Southern Poverty Law Center has been monitoring the public statements of the transphobics, and that is one of the main themes in the U.S.-- that trans people are coming after your kids. That pinched mindset claimed the same thing about gay people (the "gay agenda"). I live in the middle of that shit in cowboy country, but I still manage to find enclaves of sanity. And I have seen minds changed at times.

Things really are getting pretty bad over here with a growing subculture that operates mainly from the fear center in the reptilian portion of the brain. However, on the bright side, the younger people are generally rational, the Public Broadcasting System (PBS) has a very large audience, and I am seeing unisex bathrooms in more and more places.

 

[stickygirl]

Thanks for all your support - I hope it doesn't sound like I'm milking for sympathy? So many things make me angry and frightened, so it's especially good to remember I have good friends here too.
So, variously paraphrased in the press was Lilly Wachowski's statement in which she confirms her transition. Here's the full piece that, of course, is beautifully written.
http://www.windycitymediagroup.com/lgbt/Second-Wachowski-filmmaker-sibling-comes-out-as-trans-/54509.html?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

 

[haurni]

'definitely not a tabloid'... sheesh

Kudos to Lilly.

 

[coati]

Thanks for all your support - I hope it doesn't sound like I'm milking for sympathy? So many things make me angry and frightened, so it's especially good to remember I have good friends here too.
So, variously paraphrased in the press was Lilly Wachowski's statement in which she confirms her transition. Here's the full piece that, of course, is beautifully written.
http://www.windycitymediagroup.com/lgbt/Second-Wachowski-filmmaker-sibling-comes-out-as-trans-/54509.html?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

Friends and support are so important. I would have thrown in the towel on living my truth without them.

The quoted quote in Lilly's article is something that applies to so much in this world, "Queerness is essentially about the rejection of a here and now and an insistence on potentiality for another world."

I had just been thinking in the past few weeks that commitment to our best potential has become the main characteristic of beauty for me. I have had the privilege of experiencing this beauty in the form of a colleague, a middle-aged Mennonite woman who quietly observes the world, consistently says the things that beg to be said, and follows up with action. Something so seemingly simple, and yet so breathtaking.

 

[stickygirl]

Thanks Coati

I was at the sailing club today: lots of folk clearing ditches and painting stuff. There were a few youngsters around and a couple of girls, who were probably ten or twelve. Near the end of the day I saw them playing in front of some large French Windows, making pirouettes and arabesques in the refelection. It was nice to see them, though I have to say it stirred a lot of other feelings: I felt jealous, I felt angry and it made me sad.
I don't know if those feelings will ever leave me - the regret of missing a childhood. There were good things in my childhood too and I have to focus on that. Look at the good things and keep blocking the bad.