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Lit is a world of alts. How many Lit identities have you posted under?

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You all know I'm a people pleaser. And I am just here to make you happy. If someone I respected said it, I would consider it with greater weight. Certain people have better opinions than others.

Since you are so aware and you respect me immensely, I know now whatever I shall say welcomed with open arms...

I think Papa C just called Pmann a dick.

:D
 
To answer the question of the day, if I respect your opinion, then I will take under advisement your admonition or evaluation of my behavior. If I do not respect you, then no, I couldn't care less what you or the horse you rode in on think about me or the way I act.
 
Don't muck up the waters with your truth telling and whatnot. :p

The water around here is about as murky as the tap water in Flint, (apologies for American-centric comparison, just google it), I doubt a little truth serum would even be noticed.
 
To answer the question of the day, if I respect your opinion, then I will take under advisement your admonition or evaluation of my behavior. If I do not respect you, then no, I couldn't care less what you or the horse you rode in on think about me or the way I act.

Saddles up my horse...
 
We make choices in life every day, with a near singular focus on actions which make us be or feel better. We try and limit the negative impact on others in our decisions but we don't always make the same effort for ourselves. We can act for the short term good at the expense of long term detriment. Or we can suffer now knowing it will pay us back for the better in the long term.

But how do you manage that? When is the effort not worth the reward? I'll assume it's a fluid set of parameters but how much suffering are you willing to endure?
 
suffering. I tend to think of suffering as a rather hopeless thing. I try to not let that happen at all. It's sad that our decisions aren't the only ones that shape our lives. I think I've suffered more from the decisions or acts of others than I have from my own. My grandmother said once, when I was sharing heartbreak of one form or another, "all that love you wish were being poured into that situation, you need to find somewhere to place it." It was her theory that love ends suffering and that it doesn't matter if you're on the giving end or the receiving. I kind of believe her.
 
I think there are many types of suffering, self-imposed and otherwise. To answer the question specifically, I’m only willing to suffer long term if I feel like it’s going to benefit someone else. If they’re important to me, I’ll suffer as long as I can stand.

For myself, I prefer to suffer short term and get it over with. In theory, at any rate. It’s not always an easy or practical application.
 
Maybe it is because I am a mom, but this is not true at all for me.
We make choices in life every day, with a near singular focus on actions which make us be or feel better

Most of my choices on a daily bases are for my family and what makes them healthy, happy, safe, secure. loved. Very little of what I do is to make me feel or be better. Most of my day is spent doing things I don't want to do but they are things I need to do. Make healthy meals, do laundry, pay bills, etc.

But how do you manage that? When is the effort not worth the reward? I'll assume it's a fluid set of parameters but how much suffering are you willing to endure?

I don't need a reward but happy, well adjusted young people is a pretty awesome thing. What I do for them is in NO way suffering tho. It's just called being an adult. You make the assumption if things aren't good, they must be bad but certain things in life just "are". They are neither good nor bad and they are definitely not suffering.

When I think of suffering I think of those with mental illness who are truly lost and can't cope. I think of the young girls enslaved in sexual trafficking. I think of the military men who have been captured and tortured and to compare anything in my life would be a disservice to the true suffering they face.

So you maybe unhappy, or wishing you had something more but you are not suffering. Make changes, or don't. You will have to live and die with the choices you make so as my mom always said "no matter what choice you make, own it or admit you are wrong and move on". There is no life to live in the what ifs.
 
I don't need a reward but happy, well adjusted young people is a pretty awesome thing. What I do for them is in NO way suffering tho. It's just called being an adult. You make the assumption if things aren't good, they must be bad but certain things in life just "are". They are neither good nor bad and they are definitely not suffering.

Ding ding ding. Some people are far too selfish.
 
I'm on board with that whole mom thing.
and the ding ding thing.
where I tend to see suffering is at work.. and it's sad.
 
We make choices in life every day, with a near singular focus on actions which make us be or feel better. We try and limit the negative impact on others in our decisions but we don't always make the same effort for ourselves. We can act for the short term good at the expense of long term detriment. Or we can suffer now knowing it will pay us back for the better in the long term.

But how do you manage that? When is the effort not worth the reward? I'll assume it's a fluid set of parameters but how much suffering are you willing to endure?


Soooo many words...my brain hurts...
(*it's been a long day*)
I have kids...my suffering ( willingly) knows no bounds.
 
I'll be sure to simply things tomorrow for the over burdened, sleep deprived.....
 
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