How would you choose?

[EnglishOllie]

I am new here but for my first thread I thought of a bit of advice that could raise a lot of questions. Apologies to the `L' part of the community if it is not appropriate.

If you could go back to choosing your first partner, how would you choose? Same age - let's make mistakes together, 20s to 30s sexy hunk - OMG, older guy - patient and experienced?

It might be fun to see people's thoughts.

 

[mtsnowrider]

I am new here but for my first thread I thought of a bit of advice that could raise a lot of questions. Apologies to the `L' part of the community if it is not appropriate.

If you could go back to choosing your first partner, how would you choose? Same age - let's make mistakes together, 20s to 30s sexy hunk - OMG, older guy - patient and experienced?

It might be fun to see people's thoughts.

Definitely same age and discover together

 

[Iwantitnowpleas]

I had an opportunity for my first to be with an older guy. I was 16 and he was 21. Being totally focused on getting some pussy I rudely rebuffed his very overt advances. My knee jerk response came from growing up in a society and a time when that was completely taboo (or so I thought). I cannot imagine how different my life would have turned out if I had gone with him.

 

[markus75]

I'd like a younger man to explore with.

 

[sexnovella]

Eager youth versus experienced veteran.

I would always choose the more skilled, calm and experienced veteran instead of a young, wild and less experienced partner.

 

[EnglishOllie]

Interesting, a 3 way split with someone looking for younger. The last one sounds convincing.

 

[markus75]

Having not been with a man and only getting turned on to men as I got older, I can only comment as to what I find attractive and that is younger, slimmer men who are less likely to be hairy. Being a former front-row rugby player and a hairy man, I don't find my build or body attractive and so the thought of being with one does nothing for me. And at over 40, being taught new things is difficult enough.
So young, slim, with a nice cock and plenty of time and energy to experiment will to nicely.

 

[BritPup]

Interesting thread. I had a few experiences that didn't go all the way, due to shyness, shock, or taboo worries.

Turning down my best friend's brother is at the top of my I-wonder-what-if wank fantasy list. He'd have been my first.

 

[malefica]

Boring as it may be, I would not change anything. Experiences are still experiences after all.

 

[EnglishOllie]

Boring as it may be, I would not change anything. Experiences are still experiences after all.

So what are your experiences?

 

[klippert]

Boring as it may be, I would not change anything. Experiences are still experiences after all.

I have to agree...certainly wouldn't change it for being molested as a teenager

 

[EnglishOllie]

Thanks for the extra advice. Internet has been down with floods. There is a lot to think about

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Honestly there was a girl I was in school with. We dated much and I regret it still that we did not have our first experience with each other to share that forever.

A bottle of wine, a blanket, each other and a hot summer night under the full moon ad a Louisiana Beach.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I wish I'd had an older mentor to show me the ropes. Someone who was open enough to introduce me to several other sex partners, someone who wanted me to grow in, and enjoy the gay life and identity.

Ideally he would throw a coming out party for me, a gay orgy where I am the center of attention, sucking lots of cock in front of other guys, and taking as much cock up the ass as I can handle.

 

[scott6251]

Interesting thread. I had a few experiences that didn't go all the way, due to shyness, shock, or taboo worries.

Turning down my best friend's brother is at the top of my I-wonder-what-if wank fantasy list. He'd have been my first.

Had something similar as a teen with older brother friend. Wish I had gone for it

 

[EnglishOllie]

I wish I'd had an older mentor to show me the ropes. Someone who was open enough to introduce me to several other sex partners, someone who wanted me to grow in, and enjoy the gay life and identity.

Ideally he would throw a coming out party for me, a gay orgy where I am the center of attention, sucking lots of cock in front of other guys, and taking as much cock up the ass as I can handle.

I get the first part of that. Older seems to be just about winning. I somehow envisage the first time as being more intimate than your scenario.

 

[Wash12]

I'd probably choose the older guy because of experience. Im so awkward and shy sometimes I'd so prefer someone who would know what they were doing and still have patience. Just someone to lead the way.

 

[EnglishOllie]

Looks like older is getting to be a clear winner. Now for the personal ad - older man wanted ......

 

[blowit]

Not experienced but I am 'older'.

 

[SexyLitForAll]

Definitely same age and discover together

Same here...this was the case with me, as my first sex was with a same-aged young guy down the street that I had know for some time. Very fond memories of that time of exploration. Glad it was not a one-nighter with someone that I did not know well, be they older or younger.

 

[bottomshooter]

My thoughts generally fall into 3 areas:

First, my most prevalent is a relationship with another married man like myself. Our relationship is composed of a friendship and a highly sexual love affair. I find myself being more of the bottom in the relationship, mostly submissive to him.

Second, I have much more dominant desires when the man is more feminine. A relationship with a very effeminate younger male would be extremely hot. My thoughts in this area is I am all "top."

Third, I love the idea of a relationship with an older man. I can go either way on this one. I've explored on here with older men on lit who just make me want to drop my pants and bend over for them and I have played with older men on lit that make me just want to constantly fuck them.

In terms of RL, I haven't done anything but the first scenario, if the right guy was involved, would cause me to cross the line

 

[turnofthepaige]

My thoughts generally fall into 3 areas:

First, my most prevalent is a relationship with another married man like myself. Our relationship is composed of a friendship and a highly sexual love affair. I find myself being more of the bottom in the relationship, mostly submissive to him.

Second, I have much more dominant desires when the man is more feminine. A relationship with a very effeminate younger male would be extremely hot. My thoughts in this area is I am all "top."

Third, I love the idea of a relationship with an older man. I can go either way on this one. I've explored on here with older men on lit who just make me want to drop my pants and bend over for them and I have played with older men on lit that make me just want to constantly fuck them.

In terms of RL, I haven't done anything but the first scenario, if the right guy was involved, would cause me to cross the line

Those thoughts on relationships are much like mine Except in my case I'd be the (not really younger) effeminate person enjoying the male to take charge