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[coati]

I feel I can understand this.

I think also that people born in the correct body feel fear about sex. And have disappointing sex or sex that is not disappointing but is not climactic.

I think a lot of emphasis of gender is on sex and need not be. A lot of my woman hood too is not about sex but is about how I feel about other interaction with the world, and not even people only, but my spiritual or emotional connection, my intellectual and connection and physical connection. as some one born into this body I do not feel only a sexual being, so why would you?

There is another concept related to what you and Sticky have been discussing here, intimacy. Intimacy is not always related to sex, as so many people assume. I find it has as much or more to do with my relationship to the world at large, including all of my verbal and non-verbal communication with humans and with other species.

With other humans, I appreciate those who are willing to talk about their inner life. This is an act of intimacy. This is something that helps others open up about their inner lives.

This thread of Sticky's is an example. I know she does not talk about everything, but she opens a door for those who really do want to communicate in a respectful way. This is so important for bridging the gap amongst us human animals.

 

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[stickygirl]

Ah, yes. I agree. And some of my intimacies are not with G. For example, One of my focal points each week is with my yoga teacher. I find this time to be deeply intimate, though totally asexual, with a raw honesty of emotion, intellect and physicality. We move, we talk, and the emotion and physical compounds to to make the practice. Its a very 'sincere' and raw but uplifting part of my week.

Soul mates. I'd say there is no way of having a soul mate if sex is on the menu: the two are mutually exclusive.

Its also worth pointing out that I do not like to go out of home/our work at home situation with out make up on. Its partly to look good, of course, but its also a shield against intimacy I believe. I refer to the process of choosing the right clothes for the right event as ' preparing my armour'. .

so... not a million miles from one of these?
http://girlshijab.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Hijab-Fashion-and-Styles-For-Muslims-Women-9.jpg
tbh I can see where they are coming from with hijabs. What western woman hasn't wanted to be able to screen herself from public scrutiny? Just a shame that all the religious crap goes with it these days

 

[Gorza]

Soul mates. I'd say there is no way of having a soul mate if sex is on the menu: the two are mutually exclusive.


so... not a million miles from one of these?
http://girlshijab.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Hijab-Fashion-and-Styles-For-Muslims-Women-9.jpg
tbh I can see where they are coming from with hijabs. What western woman hasn't wanted to be able to screen herself from public scrutiny? Just a shame that all the religious crap goes with it these days

In traditional Muslim societies there are some men who enjoy the 'liberation' of the anonymity of conservative women's coverings. It seems men can turn anything to our advantage, while women who say they experience the same are called deluded. I'm not sure this is even cross-dressing, more like anonymity and armour.

 

[coati]

Soul mates. I'd say there is no way of having a soul mate if sex is on the menu: the two are mutually exclusive.

I thought that way, also, until I got into a LTR based on conscious criteria rather than allowing my subconscious to guide me. A therapist taught me how to develop this criteria.

Sex and physical intimacy are not everything, but they can be part of a deep friendship and soul connection. I think the key is to find the friendship before considering the physical intimacy. Too many of my early relationships reversed this process.

 

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[stickygirl]

Perhaps we're getting hung up on our understanding of soul mates? I'm meaning people like your yoga teacher: people with whom you feel you can be totally unguarded and discuss things outside of the dynamic of a relationship

Beanie, beard, glasses
https://41.media.tumblr.com/60b320b1bb4ba4b098cb6ca6a7353d43/tumblr_nzb08qwSw31qkcg6ko1_500.jpg
et voila!

 

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[stickygirl]

Slight change of topic: electrolysis. I watched a YT vid on this and I thought it was worth a mention here too.
Any cis gender women need this? Its took me a couple of years up to surgery to get on top of the problem. Now I visit every month or two to round up the stranglers on my face and chin.
Pre-surgery needed a lot of preparation and I was given a map! Everything inside the boundary had to be zapped.

 

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[BradBigBrain]

Slight change of topic: electrolysis. I watched a YT vid on this and I thought it was worth a mention here too.
Any cis gender women need this? Its took me a couple of years up to surgery to get on top of the problem. Now I visit every month or two to round up the stranglers on my face and chin.
Pre-surgery needed a lot of preparation and I was given a map! Everything inside the boundary had to be zapped.

Oh and what about us CIS gender men? Who happen to have an overabundance of hair in unwanted places? I'm so hurt by your question. Currently I have a 55 gallon drum of Nair in my backyard which I draw from on a weekly basis in order to rid myself of my unwanted back and shoulder forests of hair. Electrolysis might be nice, but how many treatments do you think I'd have to go though?

 

[BradBigBrain]

All Gender Bathroom Project

For a class social change project, with “a sustainable, measurable impact on the social fabric of a chosen community,” six students in the Law and Ethics class arranged to have the designation of two single-stall bathrooms on the school’s third floor officially changed from “Men” and “Women” to “All Gender.”

The students say their intent was to demonstrate that the business school, widely regarded as one of the more conservative schools on campus, welcomes transgender students and others who define themselves outside binary gender. The “All Gender Restroom” signs read, “Anyone can use this restroom, regardless of gender identity or expression.” The message is also in Braille.

“It’s acceptance,” says Zack Robinson ...“It’s basically saying, not only do we recognize that you exist, but we support who you are, and we are providing a safe place for you even for day-to-day tasks like using the restroom.”

Two bathrooms might not sound like much, but they are the only single-stall bathrooms on classroom floors at Questrom, and thus open to anyone in the building during regular business hours.

“I wouldn’t say any of us has a direct connection to the topic, but it’s something I’m aware of because of friends,” says Robinson. Researching the topic, the students found that a wide majority of transgender people had experienced some discrimination in using a restroom.

What do you think about this?

 

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[stickygirl]

What do you think about this?

Dammit. Next thing you know, every cis gender person will want to pee. It's outrageous

I think its how it should be.

All gender bathrooms seem easier to me, for parents, for mildly disabled people whose hetero partner helps them hold a bag or whatever, not needing a disabled lavatory but appreciating their partner's help.

Of course this makes sense too ^^.

I always found men's restrooms noxious - I don't know why they put up with them.

 

[stickygirl]

Oh and what about us CIS gender men? Who happen to have an overabundance of hair in unwanted places? I'm so hurt by your question. Currently I have a 55 gallon drum of Nair in my backyard which I draw from on a weekly basis in order to rid myself of my unwanted back and shoulder forests of hair. Electrolysis might be nice, but how many treatments do you think I'd have to go though?

Man up and get waxed

pcos
I have tried lazer and electrolysis, seems you are more successful than me .....

Didn't quote in case you do want to delete!

Well... maybe the practitioners you've been seeing aren't as good as they could be? It ought to work: lazer for dark hair, electro for blond etc. It's an unregulated trade so in the UK, check for their BIAE certificate, which at least means they get checked and have taken exams. Electro does take time, Ooow and patience ( and money )

 

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[haurni]

Even our underwear is more expensive! Even if we go basic!

Even your deodorants and disposable razors are more expensive. Not to mention your pens...

 

[Wash12]

This is such an awesome forum and it's so helpful!

 

[stickygirl]

This is such an awesome forum and it's so helpful!

Welcome to the thread Wash. I very much hope we see more of you - it'll be good to hear your insight in discussions

 

[Wash12]

I'll help any way I can ^-^

 

[BradBigBrain]

Man up and get waxed

I believe more women than men get waxed and women have a higher tolerance for pain. Shouldn't that be Woman Up and get waxed?

 

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[stickygirl]

A little known fact about trans women, is that we don't have to shave. Our follicles exude strands of fairy dust, which we brush off into an elf's hat. The elf hands it on to Blitzen and Comet to share amongst the other reindeer so that they can fly through the skies, delivering love and apples to the world each year.
You didn't know that did you?

 

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