The Joys of Cheating

[davenjenn]

One last bump

 

[funguy4u100]

Really opened my eyes to the possible and allowed me to explore. PM for details.

 

[trucky75]

My husband neglects stuff like this. I'd totally screw a guy in exchange for mowing, patching our driveway, etc.

You would the best landscaping in the neighborhood

 

[Ahi_Viking]

Thought

You are right about that... it is a shitty thing to do, and yet I still do it. I would like to blame it on hubby not paying me enough attention but I know I would be fooling myself. I am a highly sexual person and don't believe I could ever be happy with just one partner. Perhaps if I had married a different person we could have an "open" relationship but I'm not sure even that would be enough. I love the taboo nature of cheating and the secret life which is all mine.

I have come to the conclusion that just about every sexy lady has, and needs secrets in her life...

 

[ChattyAnnie]

My husband neglects stuff like this. I'd totally screw a guy in exchange for mowing, patching our driveway, etc.

I hope your husband appreciates your efforts at efficiently managing the household budget. After all plumbers can be quite expensive!

 

[Seamus44]

.......

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I have come to the conclusion that just about every sexy lady has, and needs secrets in her life...

So do gentlemen, then....

 

[SimpleGifts]

Exactly. My husband is a kind man, a loving father, quite successful and takes care of me in so many other ways but it is like he was raised in a puritan home... so proper he even gets embarrassed about the topic of sex. I knew that about him when I married him and thought that after all my wild days it was time to settle down and put that behind me... but it wasn't so easy and eventually impossible. So yes, cheating on him is a shitty thing to do but...

This is something that both intrigues and worries me. I've been a serial cheater...have been trying to "go straight" and be a good husband, but it's tough. And I don't get off on the sneaking around or the riskiness...I just enjoy sex with different women, and have been lucky enough to have had relationships with some very dynamic, intelligent, creative and sexy women who are absolutely wonderful in bed.

I want to think that after a few such relationships I've "gotten it out of my system," but then I think, I'm not dead yet...why should I give up on great sex? And I do love my wife and she is a great mother and a good partner...but I know she won't ever be the lover that I know I enjoy...

SG

 

[nowat41]

Married for almost 20 years and never cheated. But its one of my biggest fantasy and turn on.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Married for almost 20 years and never cheated. But its one of my biggest fantasy and turn on.

Bless your heart for not cheating. Please please please let it stay fantasy only. I get on threads like this and start preaching but honestly it's for a reason. I did it and to this day it is one of my biggest regrets. I cheated on my ex and it still bothers me. A lot. Not cause we got divorced cause it was over anyway but because how I made him feel. No one deserves to be made to feel like that. Hell I even feel bad for cheating on a guy I was with that was a total fucktard. He deserved it and I still felt bad. So guys (and girls) if the fantasy gets you off roll with it. Enjoy the orgasm then button up and forget any thought of ever taking it further. You'll thank me later.

 

[PegMeKatePlease]

Bless your heart for not cheating. Please please please let it stay fantasy only. I get on threads like this and start preaching but honestly it's for a reason. I did it and to this day it is one of my biggest regrets. I cheated on my ex and it still bothers me. A lot. Not cause we got divorced cause it was over anyway but because how I made him feel. No one deserves to be made to feel like that. Hell I even feel bad for cheating on a guy I was with that was a total fucktard. He deserved it and I still felt bad. So guys (and girls) if the fantasy gets you off roll with it. Enjoy the orgasm then button up and forget any thought of ever taking it further. You'll thank me later.

Give the lady an amen.

Yeah, not the typical Lit point of view. Which makes it special.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Don't get me wrong I love fantasies. Most of my O's involve them. Just good advice to keep it that way. One of my best friends in the entire world has an open marriage and it's a total disaster. They've agreed (with rules) that cheating is ok and those two dimwits still can't get it right. So let's just enjoy the fantasy. Hell in my fantasy world I'm tall, blonde with sparkling blue eyes and legs to die for. Reality I'm a short Latina with more passion than good sense at times. Oh yead did I forget to mention that I speak my mind? occasionally.

 

[Mike9173]

It sounds real appealing to cheat discreetly. I would love to make love with another woman but wouldn't want my girlfriend to know. I love her very much but this is a desire that is hard to conquer.

 

[NickCarraway12]

Don't get me wrong I love fantasies. Most of my O's involve them. Just good advice to keep it that way. One of my best friends in the entire world has an open marriage and it's a total disaster. They've agreed (with rules) that cheating is ok and those to dimwits still can't get it right. So let's just enjoy the fantasy. Hell in my fantasy world I'm tall, blonde with sparkling blue eyes and legs to die for. Reality I'm a short Latina with more passion than good sense at times. Oh yead did I forget to mention that I speak my mind? occasionally.

I liked your reference to fantasy vs reality.

I usually share mine with my wife but she doesn't share hers. She claims not to have them. Any advice on how to get her to share them?

 

[beingtrue2me]

I liked your reference to fantasy vs reality.

I usually share mine with my wife but she doesn't share hers. She claims not to have them. Any advice on how to get her to share them?

Don't push it. We are insecure. Hate admitting that but it's true. IF I admit that I have a fantasy about cheating will you have the same fantasy? Will you start to be suspicious? Do I really want to know if you fantasize about someone else? I could go on. There are a bunch of good reasons why fantasies are just that, and not reality. Fantasy land you ogle your sister in law or mother in law. Reality is you'd be divorced and broke and lose your kids if you open your big yap to either of them let alone open your zipper. So if you really wanna pursue the cheating fantasy......go slow and make sure she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's just a fantasy. Btw she's still gonna start checking your phone and emails just to be safe. That much I am NOT kidding about.

 

[beingtrue2me]

It sounds real appealing to cheat discreetly. I would love to make love with another woman but wouldn't want my girlfriend to know. I love her very much but this is a desire that is hard to conquer.

Look stud. If you want to chat discreetly sooner or later that isn't gonna be enough. Trust me. From there it's a drink to talk followed by dinner to discuss........anything. Hugs linger and sooner or later......uh oh. Now what the fuck do I do? I like this chick but I love my gf. Wait.......you're pregnant? You said....... awwww shit.

Better yet......forget everything I said. I wanna see how this turns out. Carry on.

 

[Mike9173]

Look stud. If you want to chat discreetly sooner or later that isn't gonna be enough. Trust me. From there it's a drink to talk followed by dinner to discuss........anything. Hugs linger and sooner or later......uh oh. Now what the fuck do I do? I like this chick but I love my gf. Wait.......you're pregnant? You said....... awwww shit.

Better yet......forget everything I said. I wanna see how this turns out. Carry on.

I don't see it happening in reality as it is hard to find so will keep it in fantasy.

 

[beingtrue2me]

I don't see it happening in reality as it is hard to find so will keep it in fantasy.

Awww and I was really looking forward to reading the sequel. Hey what are you doing weekend after next? I'm a little busy this weekend..........

 

[Mike9173]

Awww and I was really looking forward to reading the sequel. Hey what are you doing weekend after next? I'm a little busy this weekend..........

Will be soaking up the sun in St. Croix

 

[beingtrue2me]

Will be soaking up the sun in St. Croix

If you can't find your ticket......I promise it's NOT on my nightstand. We'll send pics tho.

 

[CJontherocks]

I'm single now, after 11 years in a relationship, part of the time monogamous, the rest of the time open/poly, but a secret part of me wants to chase partners while making them think that I'm still in relationship. A certain part of me thinks that certain people would be drawn more to a man if he isn't single. The rest of me wants to seek out partners as the single guy that I am. Maybe I should do a bit of both....give the partners the thrill of a non-existent affair while not having any of the risks associated with it.

I have that "secret part of me" too. When I think about it, though, I wonder if I might want to just use that deception to get laid because women dig the thrill of getting a married guy to fuck. On the other hand, the type of woman who wants to fuck a married guy just for the sexy thrill of it... that's the type of woman I want. I want an uninhibited, sexy, no-holds-barred woman with, like me, verry few sexual hangups. Oh, and she has to have tattoos... fuck, I'm powerless to resist a woman with lots of ink.

I'm also with you on the desire to just be free as a single guy to be with whomever I find compatible and desireable, with no worries about cheating and alll the ugliness that can come of that.

I'm about to follow in your footsteps, as I have recently asked my wife to let me go. Long story there, and it will take some time to actually execute the dissolution, but the bottom line is, it's over and I want my life back now. I'm sad because my belief that a bisexual person can have a monogamous relationship didn't really come true. I really wanted to believe that, and now my failure has me a bit shaken.

So yeah, my confession is that I cheated. Three times in the last couple years. Two were just one-time MM sex things. The other was an actual affair with a woman that lasted about six months. It was a big thrill at first, but then went downhill. I felt guilty about the woman, but not about the two guys I hoooked up with. My wife, regardless of how I feel about her personally, didn't deserve to be cheated on. Plus, it was just too complicated for me, and the lying made me feel bad about myself. What made me feel kinda bad about the MM hookups was the fact that, like I said, I failed. I still believe it's possible for bisexual people to have strong, healthy monogamous relationships, but I have to now admitt that I'm not strong enough or good enough to do it. So I've decided it's best that I be unmarried. Probably forever.

I may fuck a married chick, though. Especially if her husband wants in on it.

 

[Bigspurt]

Cheating?

One time I was in a conversation with my wife and another woman and we were talking about BJs and cum. My wife's words were "if you want that (cumming in her mouth) you are not going to get it here. She added that "it was like blowing your nose into her mouth", That said, the other woman in that conversation, 20 years ago, will take my load. and does to this day.

 

[Bigspurt]

The Moral of the Story

Treat him the way he would like to be treated and he won't drift off to others.

 

[CJontherocks]

Treat him the way he would like to be treated and he won't drift off to others.

I don't believe that's entirely true. Many have already said here that they do it just for the thrill, or just to experience someone new.

 

[CJontherocks]

So yeah, my confession is that I cheated. Three times in the last couple years. Two were just one-time MM sex things. The other was an actual affair with a woman that lasted about six months.

Sorry, I didn't mention the girl at work. I think that was the deciding one. So I guess that's four. I really am a crappy husband.

Hey, how come some guys really dig the idea of their women stepping out on them, but no women have stepped forward to say the idea of her husband or SO fucking other women is sexy?