The difference between men and women with regards to sex and regards to porn.

[apeion]

Probably because most who do don't know a jot more about writing then the one they are "critiquing." They are busy destroying the unique voice of the original author.

Not all editors are insensitive to an author’s “unique” voice. However, style is only one only part of the process. Sometimes the reader is forgotten, especially when the author becomes too focused on a tree and forgets that there is a forest.

 

[sr71plt]

Not all editors are insensitive to an author’s “unique” voice. However, style is only one only part of the process. Sometimes the reader is forgotten, especially when the author becomes too focused on a tree and forgets that there is a forest.

You've made a giant leap from a poster giving critique to an editor.

No trained editor should be insensitive to an author's "unique" point. But that's rather the point. You can probably count the trained editors across the whole Lit. spectrum on the fingers of two hands. And few of them are posting advice to the forum.

You don't become an editor just by self-declaring (although there's probably an army of folks here believing otherwise).

 

[Boxerwing]

Randomly wanders into the thread.

Huh.

Looks down. Sees boobs and labia and nary a dick.
Checks Google Search history.

Huh.

Sees searches for "gay BDSM porn"
Sees links to redtube in web history.

Huh.

Thinks back to the amount of therapy she's had for abuse and is aware of her diagnosis of C-PTSD and major depression.

Guess I'm not a woman, then.

~~~~~

As to the OP saying she/he is polite, well, I guess you could also say backhanded compliments are still considered compliments.

 

[apeion]

You've made a giant leap from a poster giving critique to an editor.

No trained editor should be insensitive to an author's "unique" point. But that's rather the point. You can probably count the trained editors across the whole Lit. spectrum on the fingers of two hands. And few of them are posting advice to the forum.

You don't become an editor just by self-declaring (although there's probably an army of folks here believing otherwise).

Your point is well taken. I was thinking out loud. However, putting all of the “made up people”, (such as original poster), one does not have to be a trained editor to offer suggestions from a reader’s viewpoint. The critique either confirms the author’s choice or gives way to reflection.
The bottom line is that writing adult material is not as easy as writing fuck, cum, cock and pussy two hundred times.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Newsflash, you're wrong.

All your points about women not wanting sex as much as men? Wrong. Maybe they end up wanting it less than a partner if the partner is a dud, but that's out of frustration not lack of desire.

As for women only watching porn to humor men? Again, wrong. Check out any porn in the last few years? There are many sites catering to the female audience by providing material that's still has the hardcore action, but a much slower more erotic build up to get there.

Sites like Viv Thomas, X-art, OrgasmsXXX, Joymii, PassionHD and many more have women watching as much as men.

For a woman, you have a very 1950's male view of women's sex drives

Maybe I'm old fashioned. Maybe I'm too moral. Maybe I'm too modest but I don't like watching porn. Further, none of my girlfriends, unless they're lying to me and watch porn in private (lol), ages late 30's to early 50's watch porn.

The women that I know watch porn to humor their men. The women that I know don't want to make an issue out of their men watching porn. The women that I know take offense when their boyfriends and husbands would rather watch porn than to have sex with them.

Unless they are in a new and exciting sexual relationship, all of the women that I know don't enjoy sex with their boyfriends and husbands. Why? Because too many men don't know how to make love to a woman. Too many men rush the sex. Too many men just want a blowjob. Too many men just want their sexual needs satisfied and them roll over and go to sleep.

I wrote this based on my experience and based on the numerous conversations that I've had with my girlfriends. Yet, instead of having an intelligent conversation, the same players are allowed to ruin my thread and harass me by continuing to call me a man.

When I wrote as a man under BostonFictionWriter, they called me a woman. Then, when someone hacked my Facebook page, they outed me as a woman. Now that I finally write under my real name, I'm hounded, harassed, and continued being called a man.

I don't bother anyone on this site. I mind my own business. I would like to appreciate in the forum board without fear of being harassed.

I PM'd the moderator. I asked her to check this thread to see who continues to break the rules.

 

[loquere]

Edited

 

[SusanJillParker]

Newsflash, you're wrong.

All your points about women not wanting sex as much as men? Wrong. Maybe they end up wanting it less than a partner if the partner is a dud, but that's out of frustration not lack of desire.

As for women only watching porn to humor men? Again, wrong. Check out any porn in the last few years? There are many sites catering to the female audience by providing material that's still has the hardcore action, but a much slower more erotic build up to get there.

Sites like Viv Thomas, X-art, OrgasmsXXX, Joymii, PassionHD and many more have women watching as much as men.

For a woman, you have a very 1950's male view of women's sex drives

Thank you for your thoughtful post. It's appreciated.

I hear you. I do. I know that there are plenty of women who enjoy watching porn, but none of the women that I know.

I know there are plenty of women who enjoy sex, but none of the women that I know.

 

[lovecraft68]

Thank you for your thoughtful post. It's appreciated.

I hear you. I do. I know that there are plenty of women who enjoy watching porn, but none of the women that I know.

I know there are plenty of women who enjoy sex, but none of the women that I know.

Maybe they enjoy it and don't tell you. Being that we're talking on a porn site we at times forget that this place is not reality and in reality, most people don't run around telling everyone what they do in the bedroom and that they watch porn.

You know that whole, gotta watch out for the quiet ones

 

[SusanJillParker]

Maybe they enjoy it and don't tell you. Being that we're talking on a porn site we at times forget that this place is not reality and in reality, most people don't run around telling everyone what they do in the bedroom and that they watch porn.

You know that whole, gotta watch out for the quiet ones

I guess the purpose of my initial post was a reality check. Women don't act like the whores that the men who frequent this site think they do.

Most of my girlfriends have been in long-term relationships. If they knew that I write erotica on a porn site, I'd be ostracized. They'd never understand why I write erotica. They couldn't possibly understand that it's just a story to me.

They'd surely think that I was a slut and a whore for writing such stories. They surely think I write the stories to masturbate over but I don't. To serious writers, like yourself, they are just stories. Once we develop our characters, they are no longer our stories.

I seriously thought that I'd have a lot of men agreeing with my post. Maybe had I written this on a mainstream site instead of on a porn board, it would have been received differently.

 

[LadyVer]

Women don't watch porn (lol) period. If women watch porn at all, they watch porn to humor their men.

Newsflash. Sorry to write this and sorry to burst your bubble but women aren't interested in sex as much as men are.

There. I wrote it. It is written. You heard it here first at roller derby.

"Women aren't interested in sex as much as men are."

Women play a good game of sex but when the chips are down, they'd rather not have sex than have sex. Sorry but it's true. They'd rather tease and entice than to get naked and do the dirty, nasty thing.

It's all about foreplay with women. It's all about the holding, the hugging, the kissing, and even feeling her through her clothes but that's as far as it goes with women.

On the list of priorities of what women want to do on a daily basis, sex is at the bottom. Whereas on the list of priorities of what men want to do on a daily basis, having sex is at the top of the list and fills most of the men's list, other than drinking and watching sports (lol).

Woman are totally different than men. Sometimes it's as if we are the alien species. Other than having two arms, two legs, and being human, women are nothing like men.

Men are so predictable but women seldom are. All women have to do is to show some tit and shake some ass and men will not only follow them anywhere but also do anything that the woman wants. All a woman has to do is to give her man a few hot nights in the sack and men will support her for the rest of her life.

They'll buy her clothes, jewels, furs, a car, give her trips, and even set her up in an apartment, as long as the man thinks that she's faithful to him while he returns home to his wife every night.

All women need do to keep men obediently faithful is to give them sex. In the beginning, women give men sex multiple times a day, then once a day, that turns into once a week, then once a month, and then never.

More women can abstain from sex much longer than men can. Where men can't go hours without wanting to fuck a pussy and/or have their cock sucked, women can go years without ever wanting to even see a cock. Women don't need and/or want sex in the way that men need and/or want sex.

Sorry to burst your bubble but women have sex for men. Wiling their ways in a man's world, women have sex to survive. Women have sex because they feel compelled to have sex. Women have sex because they must. Women have sex because they feel obligated and pressured to have sex, especially when married or in a serious relationship.

If women didn't have to have sex ever again, that would be fine with them. If men were forced not to have sex with women, aka prison, they'd fuck one another up the ass and/or suck one another. Women don't turn lesbian because they're not having sex but men will turn gay when denied having sex with a woman. Go figure. That sure is telling about men and women.

Everything else, the hair, the makeup, the red lipstick, the high heels, the Wonderbra, the sexy clothes, the wiggle when she walks, and the giggle when she talks (lol) is all smoke and mirrors. It's all bullshit.

Just like you, women would rather laze around the house wearing sweats and sneakers with no makeup while watching chick flicks and eating ice cream.

If you're a man, then you've been fooled. You’ve been had. You've been bamboozled. You've been tricked. You've been deceived. You've been played.

"Boo hoo. Oh, poor you."

With men so willing to believe them, women are the best liars.

"I love you."

Newsflash. It's not about you. It's about her. She was always the stronger one, the smarter one, and the better one. You? You're just a lowly man. Shame on you for even thinking that you're the equal of a woman. How dare you even think that? Who the Hell do you even think you are to think that you're better than a woman? Get down on your knees, lick my boots, and beg for my forgiveness for even harboring the thought that you're better than me.

"Bitch! How dare you? Pussy!"

Men are nothing but pussies willing and ready to be used and abused by women for sex.

Sad but true, when it comes to sex, women are seldom on the same page as men. When it comes to sex, women are the superior sex. When it comes to sex, women are in control. When it comes to sex, women own your ass.

Here's a good analogy. Where men would rather have sex, women would rather go shopping.

The only way to bridge the sexual gap that exists between men and women and to come together as a happy couple is for men to have sex with women at the mall (lol).

"Honey? You said after I bought you all of these clothes that you'd blow me," said Roger. "Right? You're still going to suck my cock, right? You said that if I bought you all designer clothes that you'd allow me to cum in your mouth too, right?"

"I have more things to try on and to buy first but yes, I'll blow you and you may cum in my mouth in the car and on the way home," said Susan. "Okay?"

Bullshit.

 

[TxRad]

When you wrote under Bostonfictionwriter, no on called you a woman. Especially after some of the rants you went off on or after your antics on the dead baby thread. Nope, didn't happen. Not in the AH or in the scouries threads.

Shall I pull some of them up to remind you?

 

[Lori_the_Hoosier]

I apologize for your confusion. My fault. My bad.

I should have posted a warning, "Intended for mature readers" or a disclaimer,"The views asserted here are those of the author."

Thank you so very much for pointing out my mistakes. You are too kind and very gracious to do that with such aplomb and without losing your temper, I might add.

I'm going to put you on my list for a fruitcake this Christmas? Do you like fruitcake? Everyone loves fruitcake. I bring a fruitcake every year to the insane asylum.

Be careful of the stairs. Oops, sorry. I didn't mean to push you down the stairs. my bad. I was just trying to take your arm. Are you okay? Nod your head if you don't have a concussion.

Sorry about my thread being on the fourth floor. It makes me wish that I had an elevator but all of those stairs keeps my ass firm and tight, just in case a man wants to pinch my ass and/or make a pass at me.

Bye! Have a wonderful day. Stop, look, and listen. Look both ways before crossing the street.

"Oh, gees, that truck nearly hit her. I guess she didn't take my advice to look both ways before crossing the street."

Well that was a considered, adult, and almost relevant response, except for the parts where you studiously avoided responding to any point I made. I see this kind of sly and evasive behavior every day of my working week, and I stand by what I said earlier; show me formal studies, with statistically meaningful results that bear your statements out and I'll take you seriously. I'd like to see if you can cut-out the smartass defensive ducking and diving and actually answer a straight question with facts, not the 'my girlfriend told me, I believe her, so it must be true' generalized statements all your responses are littered with so far. Why not just answer the questions put to you in an adult and ordered manner instead of resorting to shifty evasiveness?

 

[sr71plt]

But . . . but . . . there's nothing genuine about Freddie--other than he's a good writer. It's all performance art. And it looks like LC is on the cusp of doing a soft-shoe duet with him.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Bullshit.

One word with two syllables, you are a man of few words. You are an interviewer's nightmare guest.

Would you care to elaborate your comment of are you content just giving the finger to my post.

Was there anything specific that made you write, "Bullshit," or just the entire post.

Thank you so very much for your comment. You are too generous with your time.

In the spirit if your "bullshit" comment, may a camel never shit on your head. That makes for quite a mess.

 

[SusanJillParker]

When you wrote under Bostonfictionwriter, no on called you a woman. Especially after some of the rants you went off on or after your antics on the dead baby thread. Nope, didn't happen. Not in the AH or in the scouries threads.

Shall I pull some of them up to remind you?

"Ma!"

"Yes Susan. What is it?"

"You've read the forum boards for years. You know that players."

"I do. I entertained myself many late nights reading the forum boards after having sex with one or all of your four brothers. What's your question Susan?"

"This TxRad guy keeps calling me a man," said Susan.

"Susan. Consider the source. Obviously the man is from Texas. He's used to having sex with farm animals. He wouldn't know a woman from a man. Besides, he has a lot of nerve calling you a man when he's a woman, a lesbian woman named Theresa, masquerading as a man," said Susan's mother, Deb with a big laugh.

"Thank you, Mother. I feel better. Just wondering. Maybe I should write our personal, private conversation as a post," said Susan.

"Be my guest," said Deb.

 

[SusanJillParker]

But . . . but . . . there's nothing genuine about Freddie--other than he's a good writer. It's all performance art. And it looks like LC is on the cusp of doing a soft-shoe duet with him.

"Mom?"

"What now Susan? I'm in the middle of blowing your brother, Freddie."

"Sorry Mom but this Sr71plt guy. Do you know him?"

"Yeah, that's Todd, Odd Todd, I call him. He's the one who pretends that he was an SR71 pilot during the Vietnam war. Yet, we all know that the Air Force would never allow a gay man to fly one of their planes back then. They didn't have don't ask, don't tell back then.

If I'm not mistaken, he's the the same man who claims he was a secret agent, a spy, a foreign diplomat, an actor, a singer, a Broadway star, a model, and a Bible Sunday school teacher. Why do you put stock in anything that these mentally challenged people write? Obviously the man is crazy."

"Thank you, Mother. May I post this conversation too?"

"Be my guest."

 

[SusanJillParker]

Well that was a considered, adult, and almost relevant response, except for the parts where you studiously avoided responding to any point I made. I see this kind of sly and evasive behavior every day of my working week, and I stand by what I said earlier; show me formal studies, with statistically meaningful results that bear your statements out and I'll take you seriously. I'd like to see if you can cut-out the smartass defensive ducking and diving and actually answer a straight question with facts, not the 'my girlfriend told me, I believe her, so it must be true' generalized statements all your responses are littered with so far. Why not just answer the questions put to you in an adult and ordered manner instead of resorting to shifty evasiveness?

Formal studies? Do I like a scientist with a PhD to you? I'm a writer. I write erotica and what I wrote was my perception learned from hanging around my spoiled, bitch girlfriends who used men for men in exchange for sex.

I'll tell you what. Why don't you write something so that I can bash the shit out of if and out of you.

My girlfriends didn't have to tell me. I lived through it, Honey. I was there. Maybe where your from, a cornfield in Iowa isn't like a big, sophisticated city like Boston. Maybe you don't know what it's like to be a woman who plays a man but trust me, there are lots of them out there. Maybe you're too fat and ugly to play with anyone but with yourself. I don't know. I have no idea.

Put the corncobs down and take a ride to the big city. It will open your eyes.

Have a nice day and let me know when you get my fruitcake.