There has been a pattern with me for a few years now with dominant men. I didn't realize it at first, but most of these relationships have been abusive. Being taken advantage of has been a strong theme in my life. I have mistaken ownership and fascination over me for love many times. Only recently with a counselor have I been able to see this as true. Does anyone else feel the same or have experienced this in relationships? Thank you.
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ms_ann_thrope
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I think it takes a very special type of person to repeatedly find themselves in an abusive relationship.
Queersetti
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You are paying a therapist, but you want advice from us for free?
Honey, you ain't that fascinating.
I'm not paying for a therapist and not once did I ask for advice.
Can you expand on that please.
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People always kidded me that I liked my women "hot and crazy." And I was able to laugh it off for a while--until I got engaged to a seriously disturbed woman who more or less drove me to a complete breakdown during a personal health crisis.
It's good you're seeing a counselor. Eventually, you'll get to the part where you realize the reason you're drawn to these people is that you are, on some level, trying to change/relive the past.
It'll take time and pain but eventually you'll learn to forgive yourself, let go of things, and move on to healthier relationships.
It's good you're seeing a counselor. Eventually, you'll get to the part where you realize the reason you're drawn to these people is that you are, on some level, trying to change/relive the past.
It'll take time and pain but eventually you'll learn to forgive yourself, let go of things, and move on to healthier relationships.
Queersetti
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So, when you said counselor, you meant, like, a camp counselor or something?
There is a student counseling center where I attend college. Students receive help for free as long as they are enrolled.
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Gosh, I thought you were much older than that. Your posts in the other thread (as well as this one) were v. mature.
I've always felt like an adult.
I was forced to be independent at a young age. It's been good though. I'm not complaining
Queersetti
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Yeah, I definitely thought she was older.
Killswitch1
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Find a guy who's a pussy. Become dominant or domineering.
I don't want to be dominant. Being a good person is my goal, and I want this to be true of the next person I date.
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Well relax for a while. You're 22 and from "out of town". I fear everyone you meet is going to be a tool.
snugglestruggle
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Before the night is over, someone is going to accuse you of being a White knight lol
Magicscreen2
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This reminds me of the Vicky Mendoza Diagonal.
smoothg103rd
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Too young for that shit.
It's been a learning lesson, but I'm understanding now.
smoothg103rd
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Hope so.
PoppingTom
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Prefer to be submissive?
You're the best person that's possible if you are yourself and love yourself for that.
Maybe you need 20 more years to realize that.
smoothg103rd
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Stfu.
PoppingTom
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What's the eleven?
smoothg103rd
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10+1,9+2,8+3, 7+4, 6+5
