Stranger or someone you know for MMF

[naughtoldperv]

As occasional swingers, my wife and I live in a small community and are quite private and both agree that when we play naughty, we should look beyond our small circle of friends and seek out a stranger for a true NSA experience.
Ideally a guy passing thru as a tourist or business man so we can keep our private lives secret. The fact that our naughty experiences are 'our little shared secret' helps make it a bit more exciting.
Wondering if others feel the same?

 

[ukcouple4play]

Definitely. We've talked about giving it a try with another guy, would have to be a stranger, couldn't imagine approaching someone we know!

 

[russko]

As occasional swingers, my wife and I live in a small community and are quite private and both agree that when we play naughty, we should look beyond our small circle of friends and seek out a stranger for a true NSA experience.
Ideally a guy passing thru as a tourist or business man so we can keep our private lives secret. The fact that our naughty experiences are 'our little shared secret' helps make it a bit more exciting.
Wondering if others feel the same?

agree!

 

[shesaysimtiny]

Mmf

Really need a stranger for my fantasies!

 

[MyRubiLips]

I've done both

For me, sex is better when you and your partner(s) know(s) what makes each other tick!

 

[Suburbia]

I've done both

For me, sex is better when you and your partner(s) know(s) what makes each other tick!

In our experience the best is someone you know only on a sexual level. A repeat partner or someone you met in the scene and over time grew comfortable with.

We know some aging swingers who gave us the absolute best advice, "Don't fuck your friends."

That isn't an absolute, there are situations or times when it can work out well for you, but on the whole the gain is not worth the potential loss.

 

[magicalmoments]

When my ex and i started 3'sums and partner swapping we agreed we would only indulge with strangers. We agreed that the risk of ruining a perfectly good friendship, by approaching people we knew, was far too high.

Never had any trouble finding strangers willing to play.

 

[sharona55]

When my ex and i started 3'sums and partner swapping we agreed we would only indulge with strangers. We agreed that the risk of ruining a perfectly good friendship, by approaching people we knew, was far too high.

Never had any trouble finding strangers willing to play.

ditto...on both counts!

 

[Calliesdad2010]

Ive been the strange guy in a few mfm


they are usually fun

 

[naughtoldperv]

It is easier to find a willing stranger than a willing friend and harder to loose a good friendship than a casual sex partner.
We try to keep both our secret NSA sex life and our close friends separate.

 

[MumSisterTgirlLover]

I want to experience a MMF threesome with a bi-couple and I would prefer them to be strangers, but at the same time getting to know each other better for everyone to be comfortable and ideally increasing our attractions to each other, is also what I consider, I think it would be easier to meet and be open with each other if everyone is honest about what they want and enjoy.
Although I have been in FFM threesomes with a girlfriend and another woman and sometimes they were with friends.

 

[SassyLinda]

I'm my experience it gets awkward if it's someone you know

 

[marriedpervs]

As occasional swingers, my wife and I live in a small community and are quite private and both agree that when we play naughty, we should look beyond our small circle of friends and seek out a stranger for a true NSA experience.
Ideally a guy passing thru as a tourist or business man so we can keep our private lives secret. The fact that our naughty experiences are 'our little shared secret' helps make it a bit more exciting.
Wondering if others feel the same?

I've experienced both and have mixed feelings:

1) Stranger - excitement beyond belief at the mystery of a stranger and what they might bring to our bed. Safety of no friendships being affected.
2) Friend - emotional connection with a person we know, and personally I loved that, the excitement of taking an already strong relationship to a sexual level was really exciting for me. Risk of friendship being negatively affected if anything turns sour.

If I had to choose, I would choose friend because the emotional connection in the bedroom does it for me above the mystery of a stranger......but god, it's a hard decision!!!!!

 

[davenjenn]

My husband sometimes brings home guys for me to fuck. I feel safe, because my husband chose them and it's exciting because it's a new guy.

As it happens my husband is very good at choosing the right guy and the fact that he chose them means that there is never any jealousy and we continue to feel bonded.

 

[Funnbrandy]

Done it both ways, a strange definitely adds excitement!...but someone you know adds a touch of comfort....in the end as long as all three enjoy!

 

[mikendel]

Have had both too. Most have been friends or people we know. Strangers are very exciting. I have a sense of when a man wants me stranger or friend.

 

[hottielottie1]

the mmf threesome I had was with a stranger and my bf and I think that works more than two guys who know each other although I cant compare.

the ffm I had was a lot of fun with a friend of mine though

 

[dade37]

The one I was part of, I didn't know the couple. Met them through a mutal friend. The other I did know. It depends on how comfortable you are with the situation or idea, both during and after.

 

[NightL]

for the mfm, fmf and more-some occasions I have enjoyed - all were with friends. All were spontaneous with no prior expectations. Repeat occurrences were also spontaneous and there was never expectations that repeat episodes would happen.

All times were great fun and there was never a sense the friendships were impacted.

I think the spontaneity was key to the fun and laughter - there were no ideals to live up to, no performance anxieties.

I would have no idea how to go about planning an occasion or how to ask - for the most, dancing and alcohol played a part in my experiences.

Why don't you just investigate a little more closely - you may just be surprised at what groups or clubs are operating near you.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

As occasional swingers, my wife and I live in a small community and are quite private and both agree that when we play naughty, we should look beyond our small circle of friends and seek out a stranger for a true NSA experience.
Ideally a guy passing thru as a tourist or business man so we can keep our private lives secret. The fact that our naughty experiences are 'our little shared secret' helps make it a bit more exciting.
Wondering if others feel the same?

If i were to do that i'd want it to be stranger(s)

 

[danielle140]

Yes , I agree , for us like yourselves we Live in a small community and like to keep ourselves private . For that reason we have always gone for someone who lives a good few miles away . I don't do one night stands though ,much prefer someone who we can get to know for a long ongoing special friendship .

As occasional swingers, my wife and I live in a small community and are quite private and both agree that when we play naughty, we should look beyond our small circle of friends and seek out a stranger for a true NSA experience.
Ideally a guy passing thru as a tourist or business man so we can keep our private lives secret. The fact that our naughty experiences are 'our little shared secret' helps make it a bit more exciting.
Wondering if others feel the same?

 

[naughtoldperv]

It seems by the responses that most would prefer strangers, as we do. Mainly for privacy concerns as well as the risk of endangering a friendship and to be honest, I don't think that I could get a hard on with one of my buddies in the same room.

So, having said that, what are the best ways to meet a 'safe' stranger to play with? Any on line suggestions besides craigslist?

 

[mikendel]

Adult Friend Finder

 

[screwher]

If my wife was to drop her panties for another man I'd prefer a stranger. If she insisted it be someone we know then it would have to be a man from "her side". Meaning none of my friends, co workers, etc .

 

[little cletus]

I'd probably prefer one of my wife's exes. Someone she's comfortable with, but who wouldn't be part of my social circle.