Chemistry over Skype?

[FuwaFuwa]

Is it possible to gauge your level of attraction towards somebody via Skype, and does that usually translate to real life?

Serious thoughts please. I'm trying to make up my mind over this one guy and it's really driving me nuts.

In my past experiences I've find that prolonged interactions over Skype before a meet up will come into conflict at a later time. While meeting up I try and rationalise the type of chemistry we have but because of the time I've invested into the relationship; I'd really want to make it work regardless of what my body/mindset is telling me.

 

[EndlessNameless]

That's a pretty difficult and subjective subject. Why rationalize anything? If you like him, you like him. I would say try to keep it simple and not to overthink things so much. Is this person a long distance away from you? If not, I think regular meetings would help you to gauge how you feel.

It's true that communicating on the internet can be different from real life. If a person is being forthright and honest then I can imagine things being similar. However, we may hide or project somewhat different versions of ourselves on the internet compared to real life. I've only met one person I knew from the internet and it was pretty much the same as chatting.

I'm sure my response isn't helpful at all but I'm trying to analyze it anyway. If you think your feelings are real and genuine then they probably are. Just go for it and see how things go.

 

[LadyVer]

It's been my experience that Skype is not the best platform to chat or cyber on, personally or professionally. You're having a conversation and all of a sudden the conversation on the other end stops, and it's not because the other person isn't talking.

 

[tnman03]

Well historically there've been more than a few genuine and long lasting relationships developed through written correspondence alone. Of course it was a form of written correspondence rarely seen these days with all of the social medias, text and e-mail. But Skype...I believe you'll have the initial physical appeal and interest with the interplay of words in conversation generating emotional feelings. But its still to quick and to easy with only a perception of reality until you've actually met and been together. So as with all things in life there's risk with a bit of random chance tempering potential gain.

 

[RawHumor]

For me, personally, good online chemistry often turns into good phone chemistry. If that's the case, then it usually carries over to real life.

Are you doing audio or video chats on Skype?

 

[justits]

It's not difficult to be attracted to someone that you have a great chemistry with regardless if it's via chat, calls, or video chats. However, though the online chemistry is obvious, there really is no guarantee that the same chemistry will be there in "real life." Only a face-to-face meeting will tell.

Good luck on your decision.

 

[FuwaFuwa]

For me, personally, good online chemistry often turns into good phone chemistry. If that's the case, then it usually carries over to real life.

Are you doing audio or video chats on Skype?

Audio. I get really shy over video chats haha.

I've met up with him twice already, it's just that we're a state away from each other. Also with the meet up it was kind of brief, and I didn't really get to see him for as long as I would've liked. But it was nice. I fell over in my 6 inch heels like 3-4 times and he managed to catch me so I'm gonna count that as a good sign that he's not turned off by the fact that I am a walking disaster.

I think that I do have feelings for him. I'm just trying to figure out how genuine they are and whether or not it's just a state of limerence. The meet ups were nice, now I'm working on trying to re-establish if I feel anything for him over Skype.

I know emotions aren't rational, and it's somewhat redundant for me to even bother to make sense of them, but that's just the type of person I am. I don't like jumping to conclusions or into anybody's bed without making sure I really really like them.

(Also thank-you everybody for your responses so far. You may not think of it as much, but your contribution and your opinions really help to clear up my mind and take everybody's point into perspective when considering my own)

 

[Tiamo15]

I know it can be done, at least in my case! I hang out with close friends on Skype video calls sometimes for hours a day. Before this year it was mostly voice chat. And I fell in love (reciprocally) with someone in the most intense way. I never fell in love anywhere near the same way as getting to know this person after talking to him every day and night for so many hours. We've met up several times, and it just gets stronger after over three years.

 

[RawHumor]

Audio. I get really shy over video chats haha.

I've met up with him twice already, it's just that we're a state away from each other. Also with the meet up it was kind of brief, and I didn't really get to see him for as long as I would've liked. But it was nice. I fell over in my 6 inch heels like 3-4 times and he managed to catch me so I'm gonna count that as a good sign that he's not turned off by the fact that I am a walking disaster.

I think that I do have feelings for him. I'm just trying to figure out how genuine they are and whether or not it's just a state of limerence. The meet ups were nice, now I'm working on trying to re-establish if I feel anything for him over Skype.

I know emotions aren't rational, and it's somewhat redundant for me to even bother to make sense of them, but that's just the type of person I am. I don't like jumping to conclusions or into anybody's bed without making sure I really really like them.

Distance sucks... And emotions can't be controlled or reasoned away.
Good luck to you!

 

[naughtoldperv]

For a 6 month period, my wife and I had to be separated while I was getting medical treatment in the US and waiting for her immigration papers to be processed. We had a regular Saturday night Skype date and she would do sexy shows with her cell phone via Skype while I jerked off.
She could get quite imaginative in the shower and would shoot hair conditioner on her breasts and spread it with her favorite 16 inch black flesh like dildo............hot show always got me off.
Now, I have her live and in person, but still have fond memories of the saturday night skype shows.

 

[EctoJohn]

While my online experiences aren't directly related to Skype, I would have to say yes, you CAN have chemistry over Skype.

As to whether that translates to irl... that's iffy.
I have had good experiences meeting someone irl that I've been with online, but it is slightly different.

I'd say Skype (or any other way of communicating online) can give you a good idea, but nothing is exactly like the real thing.

 

[Plane_Guy]

my 2 cents:

I think you're overthinking it...

 

[Kitty]

If you want a materialized relationship out of it, but have no actual plans to meet them I'd advise against it because it gets sexually frustrating and you'll e-claw each other's hearts out. Sexual frustration, however, equals: chemistry.