leashedbottom
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it's my nature
Why are you submissive?
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sterculius
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I'm a Cocksucker. I was introduced to sucking cock by a close teenage friend whose cock was MUCH bigger than mine was! Because of this disparity I viewed him as being more virile than I was and he treated me as his sexual inferior. I wold get on my knees to suck his cock and he would force his very thick cock completely down my throat. I loved how this felt and how it made me feel to be subjugated and "used" by him. Although this occurred many years ago I continue to search for opportunities to recreate this scenario and I still enjoy being throat fucked and becoming orally submissive to other men
spellslave
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I'm innately more of a submissive-inclined switch. My submission isn't given or apparent to everyone; it's only certain individuals that I trust or feel drawn to that get to see that side of me in any sense of the word, be it sexually or not.
My journey to become a submissive cocksucker.
My journey to become a sub has been a progressive one. I was hetero in every way all my life until around the age of 30. I had been into porn for many years and my preferences gradually evolved from basic sex to lesbianism to blowjobs. I came to especially like the bjs that ended with the guy jacking off in her mouth or all over her face. Then my focus started shifting from her face to his cock. His "cock" became his "thick hard throbbing cock" and I began to identify with her rather than him. Instead of wondering what it would be like to do that to a woman, I began to wonder what it would be like to suck a big hard cock, to be the object of the jack off load.
So I began trying to find a way to suck a stranger's cock. He had to be just the right sort of guy. A little older, but not too old. Not too big, I didn't want a guy who could overpower me. Not too small, I didn't want a little guy thinking he was getting one over on a bigger man. He had to be a nice guy, I didn't want him to be an asshole that would smirk at me because I was servicing him. In short, I had a lot of qualifications I wanted this anonymous stranger to meet. As you might imagine, I couldn't easily find "mr right." Finally I went to a bookstore while on vacation and made up my mind I was going to suck somebody's cock. I met a young man that was actually pretty close to my parameters. I finally got to experience a stranger's hard cock in my mouth. No cum, he got off first while taking his turn sucking me and took off like a bat out of hell. I got my next cock, a long black one, through a gloryhole in a bookstore back home. Still didn't get any cum. I probably wasn't very good at sucking and he moved on to another booth.
I finally got to taste some cum and after that I couldn't get enough of the stuff. I mostly liked to receive facials, occasionally swallowing a guy if had a good feeling about him. Well, to me, being on my knees sucking a man's cock and smiling up at him while he jacks off all over my face is inherently submissive. My mindset is that I am only here to fulfill his need by doing what he says. I love it when he talks dirty to me and calls me names. The thing is, while I'm on my knees sucking him and making him feel good, I am hard as a rock because being used, or dominated, is actually fulfilling my needs at least as much as it does his. Probably more because I don't settle down with one guy, I prefer lots of different guys and especially groups of guys.
I get off on submitting to the needs of others, but at the same time I'm also meeting my own needs to be used by guys who think of me as nothing more than a tool to help them get their nut. So I submit to their needs, but in doing so,I am actually meeting my own.
My journey to become a sub has been a progressive one. I was hetero in every way all my life until around the age of 30. I had been into porn for many years and my preferences gradually evolved from basic sex to lesbianism to blowjobs. I came to especially like the bjs that ended with the guy jacking off in her mouth or all over her face. Then my focus started shifting from her face to his cock. His "cock" became his "thick hard throbbing cock" and I began to identify with her rather than him. Instead of wondering what it would be like to do that to a woman, I began to wonder what it would be like to suck a big hard cock, to be the object of the jack off load.
So I began trying to find a way to suck a stranger's cock. He had to be just the right sort of guy. A little older, but not too old. Not too big, I didn't want a guy who could overpower me. Not too small, I didn't want a little guy thinking he was getting one over on a bigger man. He had to be a nice guy, I didn't want him to be an asshole that would smirk at me because I was servicing him. In short, I had a lot of qualifications I wanted this anonymous stranger to meet. As you might imagine, I couldn't easily find "mr right." Finally I went to a bookstore while on vacation and made up my mind I was going to suck somebody's cock. I met a young man that was actually pretty close to my parameters. I finally got to experience a stranger's hard cock in my mouth. No cum, he got off first while taking his turn sucking me and took off like a bat out of hell. I got my next cock, a long black one, through a gloryhole in a bookstore back home. Still didn't get any cum. I probably wasn't very good at sucking and he moved on to another booth.
I finally got to taste some cum and after that I couldn't get enough of the stuff. I mostly liked to receive facials, occasionally swallowing a guy if had a good feeling about him. Well, to me, being on my knees sucking a man's cock and smiling up at him while he jacks off all over my face is inherently submissive. My mindset is that I am only here to fulfill his need by doing what he says. I love it when he talks dirty to me and calls me names. The thing is, while I'm on my knees sucking him and making him feel good, I am hard as a rock because being used, or dominated, is actually fulfilling my needs at least as much as it does his. Probably more because I don't settle down with one guy, I prefer lots of different guys and especially groups of guys.
I get off on submitting to the needs of others, but at the same time I'm also meeting my own needs to be used by guys who think of me as nothing more than a tool to help them get their nut. So I submit to their needs, but in doing so,I am actually meeting my own.
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whisperdconsent
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that's kind of a hard question to answer, isn't it, for some people, i mean. i didn't know i was for the longest time... and even when i was told i was i still didn't know what that meant, and i'm not sure i do now. Submissive always meant meek and mild, shy and quiet to me and while i may be that way as a person, since being in my present relationship it has taken on a while new meaning one i am still learning about and exploring. The amazing part of it is that as my Domme teaches me and takes me places i have never been, the more i learn about my submissiveness the more i feel a real sense of freedom...
~Elizabeth~
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Because it's where I am most free; serving and pleasing on the deepest levels possible.
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Submit To Your Master
I'm a natural-born cock-sucker, cum-slut, blow-job whore. It's not a choice I deliberately make or a role I consciously play. I'm genetically programmed that way. It's what I was born to do. My so-called relationships just tend to develop that way and fall into place with me on my knees with a big beautiful cock on my mouth, and an older more dominant guy to fuck my throat and control my sexuality. I feel warm and safe, and completely satisfied while I'm involved and doing it. When I'm crouching down to orally service my Boyfriend's impressive erection - to be honest, logic and reason are seldom uppermost in my mind at such lubricious moments, as I'm sure you can appreciate. I'm certainly enjoying sucking-off my current Boyfriend. My only pain and anxiety is when we're apart, and I get into thinking all the bad stuff about how I can keep him. I'd love to suck him off more if the opportunity was there, the spermy rewards are wonderful….
I'm a natural-born cock-sucker, cum-slut, blow-job whore. It's not a choice I deliberately make or a role I consciously play. I'm genetically programmed that way. It's what I was born to do. My so-called relationships just tend to develop that way and fall into place with me on my knees with a big beautiful cock on my mouth, and an older more dominant guy to fuck my throat and control my sexuality. I feel warm and safe, and completely satisfied while I'm involved and doing it. When I'm crouching down to orally service my Boyfriend's impressive erection - to be honest, logic and reason are seldom uppermost in my mind at such lubricious moments, as I'm sure you can appreciate. I'm certainly enjoying sucking-off my current Boyfriend. My only pain and anxiety is when we're apart, and I get into thinking all the bad stuff about how I can keep him. I'd love to suck him off more if the opportunity was there, the spermy rewards are wonderful….
leashedbottom
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i tried to be a Dom once but all i did for three days was flog myself black and blue
LoversPlayToy
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Because I crave to surrender control.
Obviously there are scenarios where I can't - like professional life - but elsewhere it's something I need to do in order to make me feel like the person I want to be.
All the things I desire are just not possible in a dominate role.
Obviously there are scenarios where I can't - like professional life - but elsewhere it's something I need to do in order to make me feel like the person I want to be.
All the things I desire are just not possible in a dominate role.
sereneone4u
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Because it is what i was destined to be for Him.
Kateateight
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I am not at all submissive in real life, though I can be shy. I value my independence above almost anything else.
However, sex-wise I identify as a submissive because I love to give up that control. I am also a bit of a ... maybe you will say prude? ... in real life. I never showcase any kind of sexuality, I don't flirt, I don't go out and try and get what I really want. So, I guess I like a dominant partner who will help me 'grow up' and learn to get the pleasure I want. I want a dominant who will help control my sexuality, because it's obvious that left to my own devices, I go for safe, nice men, and have all this desire left over.
However, sex-wise I identify as a submissive because I love to give up that control. I am also a bit of a ... maybe you will say prude? ... in real life. I never showcase any kind of sexuality, I don't flirt, I don't go out and try and get what I really want. So, I guess I like a dominant partner who will help me 'grow up' and learn to get the pleasure I want. I want a dominant who will help control my sexuality, because it's obvious that left to my own devices, I go for safe, nice men, and have all this desire left over.
TheLittleBambi
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Because of my inexperience. Because I need to be shown how.
But maybe that will change.
But maybe that will change.
Stephan1515
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why? that's like asking why do you like to eat. Its because of how I'm wired. always wanted to bottom and now that I have, I know its the real me.
kittiGoddess
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I don't want to be submissive, I just am to the right man or should I say the wrong man. I want to be strong and dominant
naturalsub_13
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Thank you
That is just beautifully put KoPilot. I truly love that quote, and understand the sentiment well.
Thank you! That made my night
That is just beautifully put KoPilot. I truly love that quote, and understand the sentiment well.
Thank you! That made my night
Cicca_Jai
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Pardon me but...
asking this question is a bit like asking a cloud why it formed.
I happened. It can't tell you all the whys and how's, though modern psychology has tried to put everyone into neat little categories. Tried and failed...
I know why I do what I do, but I spent years in therapy to figure it all out...
And it had nothing to do with subbing.... back then it was not even a term applied to straight people let alone straight teenagers. (yeah I'm that old)
But for me here is how it works.
Tie me up I like it. I don't want to think, I don't want the ability to chicken out.
However, I demand the ability to untie myself if I so chose to. I can only give up my control freak ways so much. The therapy comes into play here. I know exactly why I have to be Super Woman, and Clark Kent, with a dash of Xena Warrior Princess, all rolled into one bite-sized roll of womanhood, dipped in crazy flavored chocolate.
I cannot relax enough to enjoy myself 99% of the time, this however solves that issue 100% of the time.
Win - Win.
asking this question is a bit like asking a cloud why it formed.
I happened. It can't tell you all the whys and how's, though modern psychology has tried to put everyone into neat little categories. Tried and failed...
I know why I do what I do, but I spent years in therapy to figure it all out...
And it had nothing to do with subbing.... back then it was not even a term applied to straight people let alone straight teenagers. (yeah I'm that old)
But for me here is how it works.
Tie me up I like it. I don't want to think, I don't want the ability to chicken out.
However, I demand the ability to untie myself if I so chose to. I can only give up my control freak ways so much. The therapy comes into play here. I know exactly why I have to be Super Woman, and Clark Kent, with a dash of Xena Warrior Princess, all rolled into one bite-sized roll of womanhood, dipped in crazy flavored chocolate.
I cannot relax enough to enjoy myself 99% of the time, this however solves that issue 100% of the time.
Win - Win.
leashedbottom
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Thats not a cock, thats a handle to turn me over!!!
that's an interesting statement... because i have always felt the same way.
i am barely 6" hard and an inch soft and i feel like cock size is important in my submissiveness. While i am heavily attracted to Men who are naturally Dominant everything pivots on them having a substantially bigger cock... i am a 'size queen' but more because it makes me feel more submissive than for any other reason.
that's an interesting statement... because i have always felt the same way.
i am barely 6" hard and an inch soft and i feel like cock size is important in my submissiveness. While i am heavily attracted to Men who are naturally Dominant everything pivots on them having a substantially bigger cock... i am a 'size queen' but more because it makes me feel more submissive than for any other reason.
sterculius
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The great disparity between our respective cock sizes. was the original basis for me wanting to become a Cocksucker for my best friend Larry. His cock was MUCH BIGGER than mine was! This made me feel I was his sexual inferior and that it was only appropriate that I should defer and submit to him sexually. Having been the only erect dick I'd ever seen other than my own, I assumed that his was normal and mine was small. I later discovered that the reverse was true. My cock was actually above average at 7 inches while his cock was huge at almost 9 inches and very thick! But the damage was done and I became a Cocksucker. I never regretted that decision. I'm still a Cocksucker.
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It's like a psychologist's wet dream in here.
I'm sure I've told this story before but no matter: A few years ago, a colleague found out her daughter had a girlfriend. Her reaction? "I just don't understand why she chooses to be gay!".
As if there was a choice to be made. <shrug>
I'm sure I've told this story before but no matter: A few years ago, a colleague found out her daughter had a girlfriend. Her reaction? "I just don't understand why she chooses to be gay!".
As if there was a choice to be made. <shrug>
thelaughingcat
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I'm submissive because I am. It's like asking me why I am attracted to both males and females...it's hardwired into my DNA.
As a seven/eight year old I used to play at being tied up in a dungeon of a castle by a wicked wizard or king or some suchlike with my cuddly toys. It wasn't sexual in any way but I loved to pretend I was all helpless and trying to find a way out, sometimes making it out, sometimes having to do whatever they said. Now I'm older, I get a sexual kick out of being tied up and helpless...and I love it when I find a way out now too!
So it has always been a part of me, it's not something I've ever really worried my head over
As a seven/eight year old I used to play at being tied up in a dungeon of a castle by a wicked wizard or king or some suchlike with my cuddly toys. It wasn't sexual in any way but I loved to pretend I was all helpless and trying to find a way out, sometimes making it out, sometimes having to do whatever they said. Now I'm older, I get a sexual kick out of being tied up and helpless...and I love it when I find a way out now too!
So it has always been a part of me, it's not something I've ever really worried my head over
ToPleaseHim
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I find this answer confusing.
For myself, I love the surrender. I'm not submissive in every day life, and I certainly enjoy a bit of vanilla fun, too. Giving myself to my PYL is so right for me, every thing about this feels right.
One Woman's Response
I found your comment both familiar and foreign. I too am submissive, and have come to accept that as an integral part of who I am. At the same time, it has caused me a certain amount of embarrassment, loss of self-respect and respect from others, particularly when I was younger.
But being restrained is something I've only done once, and it was not a pleasant experience, although there was excitement in it. I did panic, although I did not resort to the "safe" phrase that I am confident could have ended it, and, if nothing else, panic prevents enjoyment. I had expected to be thoroughly "inspected" and lightly tormented by the men involved, but had not anticipated submitting to pulling (a short) train. Nevertheless, I recall that time as one of my more memorable sexual experiences.
I found your comment both familiar and foreign. I too am submissive, and have come to accept that as an integral part of who I am. At the same time, it has caused me a certain amount of embarrassment, loss of self-respect and respect from others, particularly when I was younger.
But being restrained is something I've only done once, and it was not a pleasant experience, although there was excitement in it. I did panic, although I did not resort to the "safe" phrase that I am confident could have ended it, and, if nothing else, panic prevents enjoyment. I had expected to be thoroughly "inspected" and lightly tormented by the men involved, but had not anticipated submitting to pulling (a short) train. Nevertheless, I recall that time as one of my more memorable sexual experiences.
switchersm
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because it's such a deep feeling that my beloved wife accepted to be my keyholder and is going to reduce my orgasms to zero. no cuckolding. it's only between us. I love to pamper her in every way she wants. we both get what is best for us. wonderful
