Woman's Perspective on Having Sex With Another Man

[SexualAdventurer]

Ladies, I woul love your insight into this subject. My wife just agreed to have sex with another man while I watch, but she is apprehensive about and in no hurry to accomplish the task. I think she is aroused by the idea more than she lets on and she needs to pretend to protest vigorously to satisfy her own mind that she tried to remain "faithful." I don't have to watch each and every time. I don't even have to be in the same location, but I do want to hear all of the details upon her return. Our rules are that she controls the who and the when, she will always be safe sexually, let me know when to expect her back and where she is and most of all if she doesn't feel safe or comfortable she will leave. I would love all of your tips and advice, to see exactly what is going through my wife's mind and what I can do to make her not think I'm "crazy" and to find out what I can do to make her more comfortable and agreeable with the idea.

 

[wantingit2222]

Nas she decided on who the other guy will be? Possibly one of your friends?

 

[SexualAdventurer]

No we haven't decided on a guy as of yet, and I'm sure it will be someone that we meet and don't currently know.

 

[wantingit2222]

No we haven't decided on a guy as of yet, and I'm sure it will be someone that we meet and don't currently know.

Has she told you anything about what kind of guy she would like it to be?

 

[SexualAdventurer]

No, other than she obviously wants to be attracted to him. I don't care who it is, I just want him to have a big cock.

 

[wantingit2222]

No, other than she obviously wants to be attracted to him. I don't care who it is, I just want him to have a big cock.

I understand, you are wanting to see her get a good fucking and be pleased over and over...

 

[SexualAdventurer]

Yes!!! It is my biggest sexual fantasy, I just need to know what is going through her head. I don't need a male perspective, because nothing is going to change my opinion and I know how I feel. I just need to know what her angle is.

 

[sixfeetundernea]

You don't want to hear what I have to say. All I will say is I feel for her, having been in a similar situation.

 

[suckonsimon]

Adventurer! I wish you both well. Here's a thing: there are several adventurous women on Lit who have done what you desire and talk about it on the threads, but they tend to frequent 'Darkroom Lounge' and 'Playground' more than 'Fet and Sex Central'. You'd do well to look at the thread titles in those places and exchange with some of the women who have posted on this theme over there.

 

[AKS]

Shes wondering if you love her so much, how could you want to share her. voice of experience. be careful....you cant unfuck once its done.

 

[imagreal]

My wife told me that if she did it she'd go all the way, she did
She told her lover that she belonged to him that night and she was. My stunning wife looked into her lovers eyes and said I love you as he blew his load into her fertile pussy.

 

[SexualAdventurer]

Adventurer! I wish you both well. Here's a thing: there are several adventurous women on Lit who have done what you desire and talk about it on the threads, but they tend to frequent 'Darkroom Lounge' and 'Playground' more than 'Fet and Sex Central'. You'd do well to look at the thread titles in those places and exchange with some of the women who have posted on this theme over there.

Thanks for the heads up, I'll check the both of them out.

 

[SexualAdventurer]

Shes wondering if you love her so much, how could you want to share her. voice of experience. be careful....you cant unfuck once its done.

I realize that that is a distinct possibility, but there seems to be a lot of women that are definitely into it and how do you make the determination as to if she is in the latter group?

 

[Harold_Hill]

Ladies, I woul love your insight into this subject. My wife just agreed to have sex with another man while I watch, but she is apprehensive about and in no hurry to accomplish the task. I think she is aroused by the idea more than she lets on and she needs to pretend to protest vigorously to satisfy her own mind that she tried to remain "faithful." I don't have to watch each and every time. I don't even have to be in the same location, but I do want to hear all of the details upon her return. Our rules are that she controls the who and the when, she will always be safe sexually, let me know when to expect her back and where she is and most of all if she doesn't feel safe or comfortable she will leave. I would love all of your tips and advice, to see exactly what is going through my wife's mind and what I can do to make her not think I'm "crazy" and to find out what I can do to make her more comfortable and agreeable with the idea.

If you are going to pimp her out, make sure you get paid.

 

[spellslave]

You can't *make* her more comfortable and agreeable to the idea. If she is, she is and will act on it of her own accord. If not, you'll have to hold your fantasy (that doesn't sound entirely like she enthusiastically shares it) until she is 100% ready. Goading or coercing her into doing it isn't cool.

 

[SexualAdventurer]

You can't *make* her more comfortable and agreeable to the idea. If she is, she is and will act on it of her own accord. If not, you'll have to hold your fantasy (that doesn't sound entirely like she enthusiastically shares it) until she is 100% ready. Goading or coercing her into doing it isn't cool.

I totally agree with you and will never pressure her to do something she doesn't want to do. If it never happens then it never happens, but she at least knows that she has that option available to her if she so desires.

 

[Funnbrandy]

Advice...

I can assure you of this, if she's willing to do it then she's thought about it and likes the idea, if she's being apprehensive it's because she doesn't want this to change things between the two of you, that's her biggest fear I'm sure. I would suggest honest open dialogue, tell her everything you said here, this could be the beginning of some great sexual experiences or the end of your relationship as you know it.

 

[dondd]

My wife told me that if she did it she'd go all the way, she did
She told her lover that she belonged to him that night and she was. My stunning wife looked into her lovers eyes and said I love you as he blew his load into her fertile pussy.

When she told you that, did that make you hard, knowing she wanted his rod to go deep inside her and satisfy her?

Did you love visualizing your Christian wife giving herself over and over to him, and letting him fuck her without protection of a condom?

Better yet, you get to watch them and enjoy seeing your Christian wife surrendering her good-girl pussy to him, allowing him to thrust deep into her and explode his spermy nonChristian cum deep into the depths of her Christian womanhood?

 

[Caroline1961]

First time sex with other men was like a box of Whitman's chocolates most times, I didn't know what I might expect, that was part of the excitement. I discovered in reality that most were so-so, but there were certainly a few that were very memorable and worth it. A few became more a bother than fun and were somewhat difficult to deal with leaving me to regret ever meeting them.

The thought of my husband watching would probably make me shy with the man I was having sex with and I would probably hold back which would kill the whole reason of sex with other men. I can't imagine doing some of the things I did if I knew he was watching, telling him about it...No problem! I just don't think I could say and do the things in a casual sex romp with him watching or vice-versa.

 

[phil1955]

First time sex with other men was like a box of Whitman's chocolates most times, I didn't know what I might expect, that was part of the excitement. I discovered in reality that most were so-so, but there were certainly a few that were very memorable and worth it. A few became more a bother than fun and were somewhat difficult to deal with leaving me to regret ever meeting them.

The thought of my husband watching would probably make me shy with the man I was having sex with and I would probably hold back which would kill the whole reason of sex with other men. I can't imagine doing some of the things I did if I knew he was watching, telling him about it...No problem! I just don't think I could say and do the things in a casual sex romp with him watching or vice-versa.

My wife had similar concerns when we were discussing the idea. She was afraid that I would feel hurt if it was obvious that she was really enjoying the other guy. We talked it through and I assured her that I wanted to see her have a good time. The first time she had another man, I got the chance to prove my words. He had barely gotten all the way in when she erupted with a huge orgasm. I loved seeing it and encouraged her to try for another. I know some husbands just want to hear about it and not be there but I think if you can share the experience in real time, it can enhance the experience for both of you.

 

[carln3346]

My wife had similar concerns when we were discussing the idea. She was afraid that I would feel hurt if it was obvious that she was really enjoying the other guy. We talked it through and I assured her that I wanted to see her have a good time. The first time she had another man, I got the chance to prove my words. He had barely gotten all the way in when she erupted with a huge orgasm. I loved seeing it and encouraged her to try for another. I know some husbands just want to hear about it and not be there but I think if you can share the experience in real time, it can enhance the experience for both of you.

You're lucky you got to watch. My wife didn't have a problem with it, but the guy did

 

[phil1955]

You're lucky you got to watch. My wife didn't have a problem with it, but the guy did

I don’t think it is hard for a woman to find willing guys. Maybe the wife could find a guy more accommodating. Very limited experience but I think it is very special when a couple can share the adventure.

 

[Caroline1961]

I don’t think it is hard for a woman to find willing guys. Maybe the wife could find a guy more accommodating. Very limited experience but I think it is very special when a couple can share the adventure.

No, it isn't hard for women to find willing men. It's very difficult to find men who are willing to spend a few hours of mutual sexual pleasure and aren't one-cumers or, "Just a blow-job, honey! I got things to do." My experience has been roughly 1:4 in favor of the later. Lucky the former's were very memorable and worth while, if only one time.

 

[NightL]

Our rules...

all sounds a lot like "my rules..."

so you push your wife into something she is not sure of then you want to control the situation with your rules

if your wife does this to please you then she really should be the one to set the rules. What happens if those rules change beyond your liking?

As for

but she is apprehensive about and in no hurry to accomplish the task. I think she is aroused by the idea more than she lets on and she needs to pretend to protest vigorously to satisfy her own mind that she tried to remain "faithful."

Be careful your eagerness does not cloud your judgement. Don't put your interpretation on the message she is telling you. Respect her feelings on this subject or any subject really.

There are so many reasons displayed in your post for this to go very wrong. Basically your post comes across as yet another "How do I make my wife do something I really want..." which is usually the start of a marriage breakup.

If she does view you as pushy and not paying attention to her expressed feelings then she may well find someone who is more responsive and respectful far more appealing.

The odd thing here is in your post heading "Woman's Perspective on Having Sex With Another Man" when you appear to be ignoring the very woman closest to you. You just want to hear stories to support your agenda.

Honestly, if your wife were truly onboard with this you would not be writing here, you would be both enthusiastically fantasising and planning. Show this thread to your wife and ask her to participate in it so she can ask her very own questions. If you are unwilling to show her this thread then it proves instantly a lack of shared openness and trust which is absolutely essential if you are both going to proceed.

Meanwhile there is a virus going on and you would be bloody silly to do anything along those lines, maybe for some time yet - so don't be in a hurry. You have raised the subject, if she wants to do this she will let you know.

If you are both totally onboard with this, not just you imposing your fantasy, then head along to a club first. Observe others having sex and including other partners, then discuss if you both want to take it further. I would strongly suggest a club environment again for the first time rather than imposing the situation on friends that could end up in disaster.

Word count in your post:
"I" - 9 times
"I'm" - once
"we" - zero

your marriage won't survive if you push this

 

[LongLegsGirl23]

Ladies, I woul love your insight into this subject. My wife just agreed to have sex with another man while I watch, but she is apprehensive about and in no hurry to accomplish the task. I think she is aroused by the idea more than she lets on and she needs to pretend to protest vigorously to satisfy her own mind that she tried to remain "faithful." I don't have to watch each and every time. I don't even have to be in the same location, but I do want to hear all of the details upon her return. Our rules are that she controls the who and the when, she will always be safe sexually, let me know when to expect her back and where she is and most of all if she doesn't feel safe or comfortable she will leave. I would love all of your tips and advice, to see exactly what is going through my wife's mind and what I can do to make her not think I'm "crazy" and to find out what I can do to make her more comfortable and agreeable with the idea.

Turn on your PM...I have some views to share on the topic, but I'd rather not broadcast them.