Advice for a College Student in a New City?

[spartan509]

I'm moving to a new city for school, and though I've never been the most outgoing guy, I like to think I have the capacity for it. I don't worry too much about rejection, but I do have a hard time on the approach sometimes.

I've reinvented myself a good deal this summer, between becoming more self-sufficient and improving my physical fitness, I have much more confidence in myself than I used to.

What advice can you give me, considering this? I would very much appreciate the female perspective. Thanks a lot.

 

[lovetoread]

I'm moving to a new city for school, and though I've never been the most outgoing guy, I like to think I have the capacity for it. I don't worry too much about rejection, but I do have a hard time on the approach sometimes.

I've reinvented myself a good deal this summer, between becoming more self-sufficient and improving my physical fitness, I have much more confidence in myself than I used to.

What advice can you give me, considering this? I would very much appreciate the female perspective. Thanks a lot.

Dont approach a woman acting like an asshole.

What the outside looks like means nothing if what is inside is rotton.

And dont try that stupid PUA shit.

 

[Disgustipated]

I'm moving to a new city for school, and though I've never been the most outgoing guy, I like to think I have the capacity for it. I don't worry too much about rejection, but I do have a hard time on the approach sometimes.

I've reinvented myself a good deal this summer, between becoming more self-sufficient and improving my physical fitness, I have much more confidence in myself than I used to.

What advice can you give me, considering this? I would very much appreciate the female perspective. Thanks a lot.

You need to finish grade-school logical thread making first, dumb-dumb.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1208931

 

[spartan509]

There's something to be said for constructive criticism and then just nit-picking. I believe you're focusing on the latter.

But in regards to being an asshole or a PUA, I'm neither. I'm considerate, respectful, but I'm not a doormat either.

 

[JohnnySavage]

My advice is to stay away from slow horses and fast women. They will lead to ruin.

 

[cleaver]

well, kid...
i'd simply suggest that you never shy away from a situation
that might earn you a slap...
and that once you have learned the contours of that line,
find your way to dance right up next to
and along it
as long as you can...

the line itself is not well defined,
but, nor is the dance you will have to do...

challenge and be challenged

be bigger than the obvious faults of others

know what you want

know what to give

don't be a pig of a pig
(whilst being a pig at times is... tolerable)

speak for yourself

command your personal space

know what you are doing even if you don't know what you are doing

have some..... ummmmm.... uhhhhh.... confidence

accept help

accept responsibility

hygiene

if you are going to roll over and go to sleep, make sure you have their wet spot to sleep in...

i left out a few that are part of the masters class...

 

[Disgustipated]

He sure told LTR!

 

[hashtag45]

I used to go to the University Library A Lot (I loved the books & the vibrant atmosphere).
And somehow, given that I was a bit shy too at your age , that ended up being my gateway to all the fun that I had during my studies - I met most of my friends, bf. there.

- It's easier to engage in a conversation in that setting, if you're a bit shy. Plus girls (at least I was, dunno about your generation) tend to be more trustful towards guys in that setting
- Also, a lot of students go there to avoid the noise in their appartment -- they are far from being nerds, so you can make some v. interesting even outdoorsy friends.

________________________
I enjoyed your posts I seem to relive my youth, vicariously, through reading about your experiences (ps - excuse my grammar, but english is my 2nd language). Hope you'll keep us updated re how it went

 

[spartan509]

Thank you. It's funny because I wouldn't really classify myself as shy, I just tend to be quiet. Some people can't stand to not be the center of attention whereas I prefer to speak when I have something important to add.

But that's some good advice. I've been told not to focus so much on women that I forget to make friends as that's a great way to meet women too, haha.

 

[hashtag45]

Thank you. It's funny because I wouldn't really classify myself as shy, I just tend to be quiet. Some people can't stand to not be the center of attention whereas I prefer to speak when I have something important to add.

But that's some good advice. I've been told not to focus so much on women that I forget to make friends as that's a great way to meet women too, haha.

Sorry, didn't intend to imply anything.
But I wrote that because at your age (18-early 20's, I suspect) that was on my mind (the opposite sex) - a lot.

 

[Mad_Jack_Rabbit]

Drink heavily,

Smoke shit loads of dope

Drop lots acid.

The lectures will fly by in no time.

And leave the women 'til you are older.

Unless you are into men in which case leave the men until older cuz sex will just get in the way of your studies.

 

[spartan509]

Sorry, didn't intend to imply anything.
But I wrote that because at your age (18-early 20's, I suspect) that was on my mind (the opposite sex) - a lot.

Oh, no worries. I have no doubt that's where my mind will be as well. That's good advice.

 

[Lancecastor]

A man never asks women for dating advice.

But if they give you any, do exactly the opposite and you'll be fine.

Your job is to get an education; for the next several years, women are to be used as ornaments, occasional entertainment and sperm receptacles.

Don't chase women.

Specialize in defiling only the prettiest grrls on campus.

Be a legendary poontang magnet.

 

[InWord]

And, take advice from the men and women here who spend multitudes of time on the internet. You can't go wrong.

 

[spartan509]

And, take advice from the men and women here who spend multitudes of time on the internet. You can't go wrong.

Grains of salt all around, believe me.

 

[InWord]

Grains of salt all around, believe me.

Somebody named kbate will be along shortly to correct any grammar or spelling mistakes you make.

 

[hashtag45]

A man never asks women for dating advice.

But if they give you any, do exactly the opposite and you'll be fine.

Your job is to get an education; for the next several years, women are to be used as ornaments, occasional entertainment and sperm receptacles.

Don't chase women.

Specialize in defiling only the prettiest grrls on campus.

Be a legendary poontang magnet.

Oh boy, even if he's joking, please don't turn into THAT.
Trust me, that type never got laid

 

[spartan509]

Oh boy, even if he's joking, please don't turn into THAT.
Trust me, that type never got laid

Honestly, I'm not that wet behind the ears. I have been in relationships and everything that goes with them. I'm merely sifting through various pieces of advice.

 

[hashtag45]

Honestly, I'm not that wet behind the ears. I have been in relationships and everything that goes with them. I'm merely sifting through various pieces of advice.

I was kidding. My post was aimed -not at you- but at the misogynistic jokes of the previous poster.
Have lots of fun, bye

 

[spartan509]

Haha, again, I was replying to your poking fun at him.

But thank you for the practical advice. It should come in handy.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Advice for a College Student in a New City? Stay focused on your studies. Keep your 'nose to the grindstone', earn high grades, avoid drugs and alcohol, and befriend people who can give you good recommendations in the future when you're applying to law school/buying a coop/adopting an african child.

 

[spartan509]

But isn't college entirely about being drunk all the time? I've been had!

 

[MNGuy]

Advice for a College Student in a New City? Stay focused on your studies. Keep your 'nose to the grindstone', earn high grades, avoid drugs and alcohol, and befriend people who can give you good recommendations in the future when you're applying to law school/buying a coop/adopting an african child.

This. Your studies, and activities that can set you apart from other job applicants at the end. It will pay off in the long run.

 

[yossi]

Be 1. swift as a coursing river with 2. all the force of a great typhoon with 3. all the strength of a raging fire. 4. Mysterious as the dark side of the moon.

And wear a rubber.

 

[spartan509]

So be a man?

And of course. I may be an idiot, but I'm no fool.