flashing question

[azcouple09]

I am an exhibitonist and have always wanted to go streaking or flash my cock, but never really acted on it. My wife now wants to show me off, but where is the best place to go without worrying about kids or police issues.

What would you guys suggest my wife dare me to do?

Also, a question for the ladies if a guy had his girl pull his dick out for him in public somewhere, do you freakout and call the cops or just laugh it off?

 

[fire_breeze]

I am an exhibitonist and have always wanted to go streaking or flash my cock, but never really acted on it. My wife now wants to show me off, but where is the best place to go without worrying about kids or police issues.

What would you guys suggest my wife dare me to do?

Also, a question for the ladies if a guy had his girl pull his dick out for him in public somewhere, do you freakout and call the cops or just laugh it off?

My rule is never to subject someone who has not give their explicit consent to any kink. Personally, I don't want necessarily want to witness anyone else's kink, even if it happens to be my own. If you want to be shown off, find a nice club where exhibitionism is encouraged. Otherwise, leave the unconsenting public out of it.

Also, be aware that if you flash your penis around, there may - and, in fact, will - be people who will call the cops, especially you expose yourself to women. They haven't agreed to be flashed, and honestly it's not only creepy but also harassment.

 

[Bramblethorn]

My rule is never to subject someone who has not give their explicit consent to any kink. Personally, I don't want necessarily want to witness anyone else's kink, even if it happens to be my own. If you want to be shown off, find a nice club where exhibitionism is encouraged. Otherwise, leave the unconsenting public out of it.

Also, be aware that if you flash your penis around, there may - and, in fact, will - be people who will call the cops, especially you expose yourself to women. They haven't agreed to be flashed, and honestly it's not only creepy but also harassment.

All this. These people have not volunteered to be part of your sex life. If it happened around me I'd call the cops.

If you do get caught doing something like this, you risk ending up as a registered sex offender for the rest of your days, and that's really not something you want hanging over you.

 

[SikFuk]

You might find a hot tub situation where everyone agrees to allow that. It's common in parts of Europe. Practice your German accent and just play dumb. "You mean we're supposed to wear swim suits? We don't wear them back home."

Camping - as in backpacking with no facilities - could present bathing situations where others might stumble upon you naked. The thing is, in those "innocent naked" situations, it's not kinky, it just is. Same with going to a nude beach. One consideration - if the water's cold, you might not be as interested in showing off your shrunken peanut.

Play-wrestling. You have friends over for a barbecue. You and your wife are play-wrestling in the grass, showing off the holds you've learned. She accidentally pulls your shorts down.

You might find a friend of your wife's with a kinky streak (especially if the friend is a little - shall we say - unattractive.) Invite her over to your house for whatever - a trip to the shore or the swapmeet. She arrives and you're in the shower - with a hard-on no doubt. Your wife tells her friend "he's still in the shower. The door's open if you want to peek." If she does want to peek, you're in business. If she doesn't, there's no harm done. This actually happened to me with my first wife and her (hot blonde) sister. She did peek. A couple of times. The third time, my wife jacked me off while she watched - at least until I starting spurting. The sister went "ew" and left the room. Some women just aren't into semen.

A variation of the above. You get out of the shower, cinch a towel around your waist and stroll into the living room asking your wife what she wants you to wear for the trip to the swapmeet, or restaurant, or whatever. She says "hey, that's my towel! You know you're not supposed to use it!" She whips it off you. Her friend will either squeal and cover her eyes, or squeal and ask "can I touch it?"

It's your birthday and your wife pulls your pants down to spank you on your bare ass.

Spider bite! Your wife asks her friend if she wants to look at your spider bite. "It's all red and swollen" your wife says. You can guess the rest.

There's supposed to be a hotel in NY City where people go to fuck in the picture windows while passersby watch. I don't know if it's still there.

 

[SweetErika]

I'd suggest visiting a swingers/lifestyle, bdsm or other adult group or club. You *might* be OK at certain gay bars or XXX venues as well, but I absolutely agree with Breezy that we shouldn't subject unconsenting folks to our kinks (so be sure that it's the exact right venue and audience before you whip anything out. Does 'clothing optional' interest you at all, or is it too nonsexual? I didn't catch your location before I hit Reply, but check into 'sex-positve' clubs, groups, organizations, etc.

As a teen, I was subjected to a couple of inconsiderate flashers. And I felt pretty violated. A friend was with me on one of the occasions, and she was also repulsed. My feelings about it haven't changed over the past 20 years, even when I've been very active in the sex-positive community. I have nothing against exhibitionists--and I've met a ton of incredibly nice, responsible people who share your kink--I just don't want to be subjected to it when I haven't consented.

Also, there have been instances in some jurisdictions fairly recently where public exposure even to adults has led to some serious charges. Court isn't sexy.

Anyway, I think it's great that you and your wife are sharing your interest, and I hope our perspectives give you some food for thought and lead you to very ethical exhibitionist behavior with only enjoyable results!

 

[SikFuk]

Two more possibilites -

Nude modeling at college or find a nude drawing group on MeetUp.

Performance Art sometimes includes nude situations. Check out Butoh on the u tube. It's a dance/performance art style originating in Asia, I believe. You'd have to check the local scene to see it nudity is allowed in art galleries and dance studios.

I agree with Erika's comment. Forget about public flashing. If you want to flash people you know, get their consent first. Perhaps your wife could just tell prospective visitors "my husband is a nudist. Would it bother you if you saw his junk? He's quite proud of his package - and I am too. Do you want me to show you how it works?" Okay, now we're getting ahead of ourselves, but you get the idea. I'm pretty certain you'll get some takers, and some of them will end up with a big mess in their hands, or mouth, or wherever. You also might get a bad reputation, but you'll never know until you try.

 

[twister947]

Very high risk behavior. Not worth it, imo.

Having said that, when I wear a kilt, I have to be constantly aware of where and how I sit...flashing is not my bag.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Russia seems to be a mecca, at least for beautiful women, to walk nude down the street. Or some European cities.

Then there is the annual nude run,bike,walk in some cities here in America. San Fran seems to be one of them, New York also.

 

[subwannabe]

I have a strong feeling that the only reason your wife wants to show you off is because she knows how much you want to show yourself off, not because she really wants to. Is your wife also ok with bailing you out and living at an address with a registered sex offender?

 

[_admiral]

I have a strong feeling that the only reason your wife wants to show you off is because she knows how much you want to show yourself off, not because she really wants to. Is your wife also ok with bailing you out and living at an address with a registered sex offender?

exposing an unwilling person to your kink falls under non consensual sex in my book and it is NEVER okay

I agree with sikfuk on the nude modelling idea

 

[azcouple09]

True true consents must be given..probably just best to stick to a nude beaches or a private swingers club....though i do like the art modeling idea. Good points all around,

 

[1Browneyedguy]

That Hotel in NYC is The Standard, downtown by the High Line.

Not being an exhibitionist, I've had sex with a gf in a wooded area....we went there to picnic. I was laying down on a blanket. She got closer and leaned over. We kissed. She then opened her blouse a little. ( we were. Listening for cars and other people ) That lead to her opening her blouse, exposing her breasts. reaching down opening up my pants, getting me hard and then she mounted me!

it didn't last very long thou a car pulled into the area ). And we had to quickly get dressed.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

I have had sex with my wife in the Garden of the Gods state park in Colorado. It was back in the '70s. We were just off the beaten path on the top of a bluff. It was quick, yet enjoyed by us both. It really couldn't be called flashing as no one saw us.

As we walked back to the car a Park Ranger was going to the top of the bluff. The wife giggled the rest of the way down the path to the parking lot.

 

[Yasuo_]

I cannot speak for the women, but I can assure you that I would not want to see a random woman showing me her tits when I'm in public. Would I call the cops on her? Probably not. Would I look at her like she's crazy? Absolutely.

 

[Sugartitties]

If you pulled your dick out in public to flash me, I an going to make sure to take a good identifying pic of you, your vehicle and license plate, and any other stand out features, and then I am calling 911. It's never acceptable to do that to an unsuspecting person in a place where it is not expected to happen, and yes that includes parks, beaches, the woods, parking lots, etc. If it is not a nude beach or a sex club, keep it in your damn pants.

Don't be a creeper.

 

[Yasuo_]

If you pulled your dick out in public to flash me, I an going to make sure to take a good identifying pic of you, your vehicle and license plate, and any other stand out features, and then I am calling 911. It's never acceptable to do that to an unsuspecting person in a place where it is not expected to happen, and yes that includes parks, beaches, the woods, parking lots, etc. If it is not a nude beach or a sex club, keep it in your damn pants.

Don't be a creeper.

This goes to show that just because it happens on the internet, that does not make it okay IRL.

 

[Iceprincess12]

I am an exhibitonist and have always wanted to go streaking or flash my cock, but never really acted on it. My wife now wants to show me off, but where is the best place to go without worrying about kids or police issues.

What would you guys suggest my wife dare me to do?

Also, a question for the ladies if a guy had his girl pull his dick out for him in public somewhere, do you freakout and call the cops or just laugh it off?

Have fun with that! Soft, dangling cock...more like an ewww reaction.

Find a nudist camp, you can practice showing off to people who won't care and see if that does anything for you. If not, then start a thread here and see if people want more. Still nothing? Maybe rethink what you should show off and what reaction you want from your audience.

 

[Daniel_Matthews]

I am an exhibitonist and have always wanted to go streaking or flash my cock, but never really acted on it. My wife now wants to show me off, but where is the best place to go without worrying about kids or police issues.

What would you guys suggest my wife dare me to do?

Also, a question for the ladies if a guy had his girl pull his dick out for him in public somewhere, do you freakout and call the cops or just laugh it off?

I'd say the cops are totally not worth it, dude. Wank this thing out of your system.

You can thank me later.

 

[Erosfan]

I am an exhibitonist and have always wanted to go streaking or flash my cock, but never really acted on it. My wife now wants to show me off, but where is the best place to go without worrying about kids or police issues.

What would you guys suggest my wife dare me to do?

Also, a question for the ladies if a guy had his girl pull his dick out for him in public somewhere, do you freakout and call the cops or just laugh it off?

Keep this out of the public sector, you don't want to end up in jail.
Your wife could have a CFNM party at your house and invite her friends. The ones that show up will be interested in seeing you naked and you can all have fun.

 

[subwannabe]

That would be hot.