Casual physical conact with opposite sex.

[Uptuhnogood]

I'm male 37.

I'm not talking sex here, I'm talking to the huggers. I've always been very standoffish when it comes to hugging people. I'd like to change that. I've noticed that girls will have guy friends they hug all the time and others they won't. I guess I've always had a weird hang up where I wanted to be sure to respect women but it resulted in me going overboard and not engaging in any physical contact at all with girls unless we're dating. I have no problem with intimacy in a relationship, it's just the friendly hugs is kind of a gray area that I have never ventured into.

So here's my question: Ladies, when it comes to the guy friends you hug, what about him or the relationship fosters that kind of contact? What might a guy do that could encourage that kind of interaction?

 

[LadyVer]

I'm an introvert. I save most of my hugging for private. Just do it when it feels right. Maybe you're just one of those that are more comfortable hugging with discrimination. There isn't anything wrong with that.

 

[Uptuhnogood]

Oh I don't think there's something wrong with me. I've just found myself at a point where I'm getting next to no physical contact. I'd like to change that. I have no immediate dating prospects otherwise it probably wouldn't be an issue. I just want to be more of a hugger without it seeming weird.

 

[LadyVer]

Oh I don't think there's something wrong with me. I've just found myself at a point where I'm getting next to no physical contact. I'd like to change that. I have no immediate dating prospects otherwise it probably wouldn't be an issue. I just want to be more of a hugger without it seeming weird.

I see what you mean, although I'm not sure if starting to hug people is the way to make up for lack of physical contact. You could start with relatives and friends, I suppose. Some people use a stuffed animal. Maybe a pet? Just a thought. Good luck!

 

[NightL]

Look it up on the internet
http://cuddling.meetup.com/
http://thesnugglebuddies.com/

There are cuddle groups - it is used in therapy as well - there are professional cuddlers.

https://youtu.be/vr3x_RRJdd4
https://youtu.be/D40FnLs1g-k

Talk to your female friends - chances are you will get one.

Start with a big smile

Have a nice day

 

[SunDevilGirl]

If you're friends with someone I don't think you need to do anything other than hold your arms open.
I've had friends hug me that surprised me but then the next time I saw them I was ready to hug them again.
After that initial hug I'll often even initiate the hug.

 

[greengamegirl]

I'm male 37.

I'm not talking sex here, I'm talking to the huggers. I've always been very standoffish when it comes to hugging people. I'd like to change that. I've noticed that girls will have guy friends they hug all the time and others they won't. I guess I've always had a weird hang up where I wanted to be sure to respect women but it resulted in me going overboard and not engaging in any physical contact at all with girls unless we're dating. I have no problem with intimacy in a relationship, it's just the friendly hugs is kind of a gray area that I have never ventured into.

So here's my question: Ladies, when it comes to the guy friends you hug, what about him or the relationship fosters that kind of contact? What might a guy do that could encourage that kind of interaction?

I think OP was just asking:

man+X=hug from a woman

What is X?

For me, X is:
1. holding his arms out waiting for a hug
2. routinely hugging as a greeting
3. invading personal space and holding out arms for a hug (if attracted)
4. invading personal space and giving a hug (if attracted)
5. someone close to the man has died
6. the man cries
7. the man hugged everyone else
8. it was customary for everyone in the room to hug

 

[albertaboy]

As a 6'2" man, I have always avoided the hug, but over the years mostly for work it has become more normal.

I always go in a little left and hug the shoulders to avoid the boob squish, which I have always thought some might think inappropriate.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

Sometimes in crowded suburban trains, guys in need spoon and rub between my rear cleft. I pretend not notice, and let them fulfil their need in their pants.The sheepish grin and lurch when they finish excites me too.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

At my MD appointment this week my doctor touched me briefly. It wasn't medical, nor was it inappropriate, in fact I had chewed her out over a billing snafu. Shes half my age. The touch came after we resolved the issue. I remind her of her dad, she told me so when we met.

I have no idea what the touch signified, but she wanted to touch me for whatever reason. Maybe she likes my John Wayne persona.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I think the hug is an extension of other physical touch. Maybe he touches my hair while we're talking in the same way that a girlfriend does. Perhaps he's comfortable adjusting the collar of my blouse. Our limbs might cross on a park bench. Those are the man friends that I also hug routinely without any concern that either of us expects more..
that doesn't mean that each of us might not find the other totally worthy of bedroom time.. but we're confident with our friendship and are more likely to touch without fear that it will be awkward.