Room Mate Problems- Advice?

[RogueRadon]

So i'm recently single and moved in with a few friends. A couple and a single guy. Everything has been swell until today after a few drinks, single guy asked if i wanted to fuck when the couple was away.

No.... No i do not.

Now he seems all but hurt and awkward.... Any ideas on how to deal with this. My usual method of avoiding my problems wont exactly work as we live together...


I should mention I am a female and we all are in our early - mid 20's

 

[eyer]

So i'm recently single and moved in with a few friends. A couple and a single guy. Everything has been swell until today after a few drinks, single guy asked if i wanted to fuck when the couple was away.

No.... No i do not.

Now he seems all but hurt and awkward.... Any ideas on how to deal with this. My usual method of avoiding my problems wont exactly work as we live together...


I should mention I am a female and we all are in our early - mid 20's

Dear Abby not good enough for you?

 

[LadyVer]

How To forum may be a good forum for this. And Eyore doesn't usually go there.

 

[RogueRadon]

How To forum may be a good forum for this. And Eyore doesn't usually go there.

Thanks. LadyVer.

 

[Noor]

Maybe you could tell him that you understood he was drinking when he ask and wouldn't have brought it up otherwise, so you don't think any worse of him. Give him a way out somehow.
Then get yourself the hell out of there! I have been in unrequited sex/love roommate situations and they can get ugly and strange if you continue living there.

 

[parodyluvr75]

So i'm recently single and moved in with a few friends. A couple and a single guy. Everything has been swell until today after a few drinks, single guy asked if i wanted to fuck when the couple was away.

No.... No i do not.

Now he seems all but hurt and awkward.... Any ideas on how to deal with this. My usual method of avoiding my problems wont exactly work as we live together...


I should mention I am a female and we all are in our early - mid 20's

When he acts butt hurt again, tell him he needs to get over it. Sounds like he's hoping for sympathy sex, so he's playing the pity card. Also if the couple asks why he's acting weird (if it's even noticeable to anyone but you), tell them why. There is a reason he did it when they weren't there. Just because you happen to be a roommates doesn't entitled him to have sex with you does it? You pay rent too, fuck that noise.

 

[parodyluvr75]

There is a chance too that he's embarrassed and afraid you'll tell the others how shabby he acted. Telling him to get over it will be appropriate for that too, you can say also it's just between you and him but if he brings the drama anyway all bets are off. That'll let him know not to play games.

 

[Noor]

There is a chance too that he's embarrassed and afraid you'll tell the others how shabby he acted. Telling him to get over it will be appropriate for that too, you can say also it's just between you and him but if he brings the drama anyway all bets are off. That'll let him know not to play games.

That is a good idea.

 

[LadyVer]

iDK. Wouldn't the easiest solution be to accidentally slam a car door into his nether region?

 

[parodyluvr75]

That is a good idea.

So is moving out if she can, but if she has roommates she probably needs a cheap place to live.

 

[parodyluvr75]

iDK. Wouldn't the easiest solution be to accidentally slam a car door into his nether region?

That would fix his problem and hers. Brilliant.

 

[LadyVer]

That would fix his problem and hers. Brilliant.

I knew someone who did that. The guy couldn't talk for a while.

 

[parodyluvr75]

I knew someone who did that. The guy couldn't talk for a while.

Hopefully he didn't have brain damage.

 

[JohnnySavage]

It was nice of him to ask. Usually when I'm looking for love, I take my wiener out and slap it in the palm of my hand a few times whilst giving the young lady my best CFM look.

 

[Garnate]

Tell him you don't fuck ugly guys but it was adorable of him to ask.




He won't be at all hurt by this and you'll be great friends after.

 

[Garnate]

I knew I should've read all the comments first. Anyway, yeah, what I said.

 

[MNGuy]

Also tell him to get over it, grow a pair, or surrender his man card.

 

[JohnnySavage]

Tell him you don't fuck ugly guys but it was adorable of him to ask.




He won't be at all hurt by this and you'll be great friends after.

Remember that time I asked you if you wanted to have some sex, and you looked at me like I had a tiny pecker?

Man, those were good times...

 

[Garnate]

Remember that time I asked you if you wanted to have some sex, and you looked at me like I had a tiny pecker?

Man, those were good times...

That happened, what, like 6 times? You're hilarious when you drink.

 

[AllyRose]

http://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/jenna-marbles.gif

My "I don't wanna fuck you" face.

 

[thør]

Any ideas on how to deal with this.

Have you tried cleaning your gun on the kitchen table?

 

[RogueRadon]

Maybe you could tell him that you understood he was drinking when he ask and wouldn't have brought it up otherwise, so you don't think any worse of him. Give him a way out somehow.
Then get yourself the hell out of there! I have been in unrequited sex/love roommate situations and they can get ugly and strange if you continue living there.

That is a good idea. Hopefully we can both just laugh it off as silly drunk talk. unfortunately moving out isn't really an option right now, financially.

When he acts butt hurt again, tell him he needs to get over it. Sounds like he's hoping for sympathy sex, so he's playing the pity card. Also if the couple asks why he's acting weird (if it's even noticeable to anyone but you), tell them why. There is a reason he did it when they weren't there.

I was hoping it wasn't something like this. I've turned down people with 'crushes' before and its always awkward, but sex is sex. I've never had someone take it so personally.

http://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/jenna-marbles.gif

My "I don't wanna fuck you" face.

HAHA oh my god yes. Kind of sad this didn't come to mind when it happened.



Thanks everyone for the advise and laughs. I guess time will tell if he gets over it on his own or if i have to politely inform him to suck it up.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

It was nice of him to ask. Usually when I'm looking for love, I take my wiener out and slap it in the palm of my hand a few times whilst giving the young lady my best CFM look.

That's sort of what I do, but there are hardly ever any ladies around at the time.

 

[ShelbyBubbles]

Ignore his babyish behavior completely and go about your business as though he's never asked. You've already given him your answer...let him deal with it. There's nothing more unattractive than a guy acting all hurt and rejected while trying to play the pity card so just completely ignore his behavior. There's a reason no girl wants to fuck him...

 

[Peregrinator]

Don't shower for five days and then fuck him clumsily and badly.