Fingered or Fucked?

[hoosurdaddy]

I've dated a few girls who seem to get off better from my fingers than when we fuck. Is that normal or am I just a lousy fuck?

 

[Asian_Flower]

I think you have answered your own question.

 

[captjames]

I don't find this surprising in at least some women. Fingers can be maneuvered in ways that cocks can't. Different numbers of fingers can change the size of penetration. Much of the G-spot discussion I hear involves using fingers along the top of the pussy to enhance female pleasure. I say listen, experiment, have patience, and go with whatever works for the two of you.

 

[hoosurdaddy]

I think you have answered your own question.

I was afraid of that...

 

[tanyachrs]

I don't think that's what it means at all. Sounds like you've got talented fingers. Try using them while you fuck.

 

[Silverheels]

Yesss please

Obviously both, i prefer them separately.Just be frr, and have fun.Talk to each other find out.

 

[positivetension]

I've dated a few girls who seem to get off better from my fingers than when we fuck. Is that normal or am I just a lousy fuck?

Sorry, every girl is wired differently...there's no singular magic trick. It's physical differences requiring different stimulation, unique emotional needs, deep psychological kinks, and even learned preferences ingrained when she first discovered ways to get herself off.

The only secret to making a girl orgasm is paying attention to her as an individual.

 

[innocentgirl15]

I prefer to be fucked. But of course I do also like to be fingered. And I do agree that it really depends on the girl. Each of us is different and some may prefer what the others don't.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

It can also vary from partner to partner. I have had boyfriends where fingering was the more intense orgasm and others where fucking was more intense. And talented fingers are amazing to have. Celebrate your skill

 

[BiTodd]

I love doing both, sometimes i like fingering while fucking.

 

[BareBackRider2]

Personally who cares?

I love when my wife gets off riding my cock.

But I also love our "play " sessions where it's all just hands for both of us.

"sex" isn't all about cocks in pussies. It's about arousal through to climax.

 

[suckonsimon]

I've dated a few girls who seem to get off better from my fingers than when we fuck. Is that normal or am I just a lousy fuck?

Pal, I see you are 24. At age 61 let me tell you that most of what I understand about the subtleties of a woman's orgasm, I learned when I was older than you are now. The very fact that you pose the question and start a thread about this demonstrates that you wish to become a deeply satisfying lover. And so you will.

Some of the posts on the thread I host on this theme are pretty educational about all this. Click to it from my signature mate.

And ... young male fingers taking a gal all the way - there's nothing lousy about that!

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Sorry, every girl is wired differently...there's no singular magic trick. It's physical differences requiring different stimulation, unique emotional needs, deep psychological kinks, and even learned preferences ingrained when she first discovered ways to get herself off.

The only secret to making a girl orgasm is paying attention to her as an individual.

I prefer to be fucked. But of course I do also like to be fingered. And I do agree that it really depends on the girl. Each of us is different and some may prefer what the others don't.

PT and innocent make two good points. It depends on the woman. And it depends on her mood at that particular point in time.

And is this really so surprising? Are men really that different? I would suspect there are some men who get off harder with oral than just fucking. (or fill in your favorite "non-fucking' thing). And it can depend on our mood. Sometimes, you just really want a BJ...other times, nothing but the pussy will do.

 

[coati]

Most of the time, my gf likes to get fingered to an orgasm, and then fucked. She likes both, one right after the other. Or, she likes to get licked to an orgasm and then fucked.

BTW, a talented and well-lubricated hand, using the palm and several digits, can gradually work up to stimulating everything between the clit and the anus simultaneously. For some women, this can be an effective way to help them go over the edge, but it could be a turn-off if you don't work up to it gradually or if the woman is not into anal stimulation. (Make sure you use separate digits for vaginal and anal stimulation.)

 

[greenjacobin]

Do you mind using your fingers while someone else is doing the fucking? That might work well for me.

 

[KissyTitties]

It sounds like most of the girls you have been with prefer hands. I'll say that is probably where your strength lays, then. So, good news is you should do some more cock work to get to the skill level your fingers have.

 

[PinkandGeek]

I love a nice, slow finger fuck! No rushing, no friction burns on my clit, and no mindless jabbing of fingers.

 

[curiousdreamer51]

I love a nice, slow finger fuck! No rushing, no friction burns on my clit, and no mindless jabbing of fingers.

Wasn't there a song that expressed your thoughts =

I want a man with a slow hand
I want a lover with an easy touch
I want somebody who will spend some time
Not come and go in a heated rush
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love, I want a slow hand

 

[PinkandGeek]

The Pointer Sisters. Nice. And, yes. Exactly.

 

[curiousdreamer51]

The Pointer Sisters. Nice. And, yes. Exactly.

I figured it was a description you would like and I suspect most women would enjoy this as a prolonged start to some great sex.

 

[gabriel16]

fingers and cock

Like others, I've found that this varies with the woman and what she prefers. And varies even day by day or session by session.

 

[justashygirl]

I think, like many have said, it really depends on the partner. If you're good with your fingers, use those, and don't be too concerned! Personally, I don't mind what is being used if it can get me to cum! For the record, I've never been able to cum from being fucked, and only one guy has ever been able to make me cum from his fingers alone. All the other times was from a combination of oral and being fingered. I wouldn't say what's happening to you is abnormal.

 

[BiTodd]

I think, like many have said, it really depends on the partner. If you're good with your fingers, use those, and don't be too concerned! Personally, I don't mind what is being used if it can get me to cum! For the record, I've never been able to cum from being fucked, and only one guy has ever been able to make me cum from his fingers alone. All the other times was from a combination of oral and being fingered. I wouldn't say what's happening to you is abnormal.

My most recent lover can really only cum from clitoral stimulation(mouth or fingers) and it helps if i finger her as well.

 

[Miss_Scarlett]

Most of the time, my gf likes to get fingered to an orgasm, and then fucked. She likes both, one right after the other. Or, she likes to get licked to an orgasm and then fucked.

BTW, a talented and well-lubricated hand, using the palm and several digits, can gradually work up to stimulating everything between the clit and the anus simultaneously. For some women, this can be an effective way to help them go over the edge, but it could be a turn-off if you don't work up to it gradually or if the woman is not into anal stimulation. (Make sure you use separate digits for vaginal and anal stimulation.)

Yes! This! *applauds* (and slightly envies your GF )

 

[coati]

Yes! This! *applauds* (and slightly envies your GF )

Well, it is so fine having a gf who loves sex, provides lots of vocal cues, can cum several times in a session, and always makes sure the last time she cums during a session involves my engorged cock probing as deep as possible inside her. This ideal situation provides lots of mutual incentives and rewards
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