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[Aquagal]

You chide me for Nickelback after this Taylor Swift revelation?

I'm kinda embarrased for you.

 

[dutchrain]

Let me segue off the troubles of our August King...

You're in that getting to know you phase...and the topic turns to music. You realize, tragically, that your new acquaintance/friend/potential lover has a thing for music you HATE (drooling, madness inducing hate).

How will you proceed?

How should you proceed?

If it is RL I tell them their music isn't my music. And I'll name some other singers, bands, music styles I like. It might be possible they like some of my favorites. I'll possibly like some of the other music they like. Most people like more than one style, and more than one singer, band.

I will listen to them talking about their favorite music, I might even listen to a song or two, but I'll make it clear I don't want to hear it or talk about it all the time. But if they can't do the same (listen to music I love that they hate) it might get difficult.

Online it is no problem at all. I'll tell them their music isn't my music, I'll name some other singers, bands, music styles I like. It might be possible they like some of my favorites. I'll possibly like some of the other music they like. Most people like more than one style, and more than one singer, band.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Let me segue off the troubles of our August King...

You're in that getting to know you phase...and the topic turns to music. You realize, tragically, that your new acquaintance/friend/potential lover has a thing for music you HATE (drooling, madness inducing hate).

How will you proceed?

How should you proceed?

Music is pretty important to me. And I like to have a good connection there. I love seeing a person's top five favourite songs and seeing good songs there.

However, I have friends, both Aqua and Fakie, that are diehard NB fans. They have Nickelback knickers. But I still like them and enjoy their friendship.

I guess I'm just a really good person.

 

[Leigh81]

Let me segue off the troubles of our August King...

You're in that getting to know you phase...and the topic turns to music. You realize, tragically, that your new acquaintance/friend/potential lover has a thing for music you HATE (drooling, madness inducing hate).

How will you proceed?

How should you proceed?

LOL
Thankfully when I met my husband in university we liked basically the same music.
My GF though likes some dance/pop music that I absolutely despise. Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Kanye West, Drake & all that corporate spludge literally makes me nauseous. Deal breaker, no, but if she smoked cigarettes on top of that, definitely.

L

 

[may_I_please]

I hate music snobs

They make me uncomfortable, like I'm not naming the right groups, that there's a whole secret musico language I simply don't get

I'm not even that into music tbh...I like what I like and my tastes are eclectic spanning from heavy rock to classical and having a huge segue into crappy pop

I don't care who plays it and I don't care if that makes me uncool



I couldn't even name a single nickelback track because most of the time I don't actually know who's fecking singing

 

[Lord Pmann]

^^^
Nickelback are the ones who make you want to drive your car off a bridge when they come on the radio.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Over the last few days, I have been doing presentations at a career fair. Boring as shit. Oh man. But that's not my point.

These kids don't know what the fuck they want to do with their lives, but they're in high school and most don't. When did you know what you wanted to "be"? How did your dream of being whatever you wanted to be line up with your actual life?

 

[Endless_Night]

< I'm not even that into music tbh...I like what I like and my tastes are eclectic spanning from heavy rock to classical and having a huge segue into crappy pop

I don't care who plays it and I don't care if that makes me uncool



I couldn't even name a single nickelback track because most of the time I don't actually know who's fecking singing >

I soooo could have written this! Though I'll admit to a vague embarrassment for not ever having any idea who sings what.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Over the last few days, I have been doing presentations at a career fair. Boring as shit. Oh man. But that's not my point.

These kids don't know what the fuck they want to do with their lives, but they're in high school and most don't. When did you know what you wanted to "be"? How did your dream of being whatever you wanted to be line up with your actual life?

I'm one of those people who has moved through life with a plan...I've been through three major career shifts (in thirty five years), each tangentially growing out of the career before it. I knew what I wanted to be in high school, but it was a pretty simple career to get into - fly through the ASVAB and get pretty green clothes and a chance to travel to really shitty parts of the world.

The pattern has followed me all my life - do something I want to do/learn, then take what I learned and segue into the next phase, leaving the bad parts behind and taking the good parts with me. Usually, I learn what I want to do next while I'm in the middle of what I am doing now. Then, I go and do that thing. It's been a wonderful ride, scars and all.

"Well you could hardly even see him
In all of that chrome
The man with the plan and the pocket comb
But every night it carried him home..."
-Marc Cohn "Silver Thunderbird"

 

[stickygirl]

Over the last few days, I have been doing presentations at a career fair. Boring as shit. Oh man. But that's not my point.

These kids don't know what the fuck they want to do with their lives, but they're in high school and most don't. When did you know what you wanted to "be"? How did your dream of being whatever you wanted to be line up with your actual life?

How can you possibly know about work at high school? The best you can do is apply for jobs in vaguely the right area and then hopefully breaks come along, if you keep your ear to the ground... at least that's my plan.

 

[SweetSam42]

I always knew what I wanted to be, but I just changed my mind every now and then. I always have a plan for my life - the plan can change, but there's always a plan with logical steps toward a goal all plotted out. Yeah, I know, it's ridiculous.

For my career now, I decided halfway through college to switch from a science-based major to a humanities major, and I knew exactly what career I wanted. I didn't QUITE get that career, but I'm damn close, and I love it. And, it actually uses my science training in perfect balance with my humanities background.

I think high school career fairs are a great way to get kids thinking about options.

 

[dutchrain]

I was one of those kids who had no idea when in high school.

My mom took matters in her hands:

"You'll go to the chef/waiter classes. Knowing to cook and to serve is never a bad thing for a girl!" (it were the early eighties ...)

I went (which meant adding a fifth year to the four years of normal high school) and liked it so much I added another four years hotel school.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Sometimes, in the course of our Lit lives, IRL pulls us away - what's the proper litiquette for when you're going to be offline for a while? Just vanish? PM a few close friends? Update your profile?

 

[dutchrain]

Sometimes, in the course of our Lit lives, IRL pulls us away - what's the proper litiquette for when you're going to be offline for a while? Just vanish? PM a few close friends? Update your profile?

I'll tell close friends by PM, and post a little note on one or two threads I frequently post in, I also leave a note on the OOC threads of RPs I am in.

I think it is good manners to tell people you exchange PMs with frequently to say why they won't get a reply for a while.

On the RPs it is simply the right thing to do. Otherwise one could find one's character devoured by Walkers when one returns ...

 

[Miasorrow]

Sometimes, in the course of our Lit lives, IRL pulls us away - what's the proper litiquette for when you're going to be offline for a while? Just vanish? PM a few close friends? Update your profile?

I suddenly feel very bad. I also went away without a trace..it seems wrong but it's not the plan. You sometimes do not even feel like being properly polite and announce your leave. It's part of the reason you left.

Of course, it's nice your close people here know but on Lit things are more flexible and relaxed. And they should.


I am back. For now.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Well, I can't have sweet Mia thinking she's a thread killer, so I've got a general Litiquette question. Here is the scenario.

You're on reading/playing in a thread and someone you know in passing is making an ass of themselves. Do you:

Laugh and carry on, ignoring it?
Jump on it in the thread and crush them (lovingly)?
Send a PM and give them a heads up on how it's coming off?

Some other option?

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

Well, I can't have sweet Mia thinking she's a thread killer, so I've got a general Litiquette question. Here is the scenario.

You're on reading/playing in a thread and someone you know in passing is making an ass of themselves. Do you:

Laugh and carry on, ignoring it?
Jump on it in the thread and crush them (lovingly)?
Send a PM and give them a heads up on how it's coming off?

Some other option?

Whether in real life or here, I don't like to see people embarrassing themselves. It seems mean. I would diplomatically and privately (send PM) tell them. I always appreciate it when someone does that for me -- or tells me I have broccoli in my teeth.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Well, I can't have sweet Mia thinking she's a thread killer, so I've got a general Litiquette question. Here is the scenario.

You're on reading/playing in a thread and someone you know in passing is making an ass of themselves. Do you:

Laugh and carry on, ignoring it?
Jump on it in the thread and crush them (lovingly)?
Send a PM and give them a heads up on how it's coming off?

Some other option?

Whether in real life or here, I don't like to see people embarrassing themselves. It seems mean. I would diplomatically and privately (send PM) tell them. I always appreciate it when someone does that for me -- or tells me I have broccoli in my teeth.

It would totally depend on what they were doing.

Sometimes they are kidding around and I figure if I can see that, everyone else should too.

If it's clear they are having a bad day and maybe are upset, I try to find out what's going with them.

But I think Bonafide-Blonde is right. Most people want to be well received. Better to lovingly, privately, deal with it.

(OK...I wonder how PM's I'm going to get now... )

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

I just sent you one . . .

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I just sent you one . . .

See, I need help....

 

[Miasorrow]

Well, I can't have sweet Mia thinking she's a thread killer, so I've got a general Litiquette question. Here is the scenario.

You're on reading/playing in a thread and someone you know in passing is making an ass of themselves. Do you:

Laugh and carry on, ignoring it?
Jump on it in the thread and crush them (lovingly)?
Send a PM and give them a heads up on how it's coming off?

Some other option?

Thank you Paul.

I think "lovingly" is the key here.
I would probably not sent a Pm though ; it seems very interventional to me.
Would try to manage it with humor and get my message through. If not I would mention it later in a conversation.

And with that I can now kill the thread. Again.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Thank you Paul.

I think "lovingly" is the key here.
I would probably not sent a Pm though ; it seems very interventional to me.
Would try to manage it with humor and get my message through. If not I would mention it later in a conversation.

And with that I can now kill the thread. Again.

Whatever happened to the threadkillers anonymous page?

Oh...duh...we killed it....

 

[stickygirl]

Hello Litsters
After a long absence I think I deserve to put a Litiquette-style question, which has probably been asked before...
Has meeting people on Lit and reading posts and stories changed your attitude to sex? For better or for worse?
is that any good?

 

[dutchrain]

Hello Litsters
After a long absence I think I deserve to put a Litiquette-style question, which has probably been asked before...
Has meeting people on Lit and reading posts and stories changed your attitude to sex? For better or for worse?
is that any good?

It has changed my attitude to sex for the better. It has also changed my sex life, also for the better.

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

Hello Litsters
After a long absence I think I deserve to put a Litiquette-style question, which has probably been asked before...
Has meeting people on Lit and reading posts and stories changed your attitude to sex? For better or for worse?
is that any good?

Only time will tell, since I haven't been here long. But so far, so good. I think it is sexy and sort of liberating.