Q for the ladies - can your fingers do the magic?

[MissCautious]

Just wondering how many women can make themselves orgasm by fingering themself? What's the secret? I can get there using toys, but not with just fingers alone and I'd like to be able to just use my fingers sometimes
Suggestions please??

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

I also cannot get there using just my own fingers. Hubby can make me orgasm using only his fingers but damned if I can do it to myself. It's frustrating because it's the middle of the night, he's fast asleep beside me and I'm feeling frisky. Now if I could satisfy myself by just my fingers, I'd so be doing that right about now!

 

[jodylee]

Thankfully, yes! It's harder to get there if I have used a vibe within a day or two though, or if I have masturbated to orgasm more than two times already that session.

 

[MissJW]

Happy to say I've got no problem with my fingers. They're just such a cosy and comfortable alternative, definitely feels nicer and more intimate than using a toy. It's difficult to explain, but if I want to "cuddle" myself I use my fingers, whereas if I miss my hubby I'll go for my realistic skin dildo. Vibrators - for me - are only for a quick release when that's all I crave. Maybe that's why fingers work for me?

It's lovely to be curled up in bed late at night, all warm and nice, and then suddenly decide to have a quick fingering before sleep comes. It's the perfect me-time; my fingers on my girl parts making me feel really good. No mess, no stress! Just enjoyed this last night, hopefully the mood returns tonight as well.

 

[Aphro]

Yes. It was years before I had a sex toy of any type, so I trained myself to cum with fingers alone first. It takes a little longer, but I can do it.

My technique is as follows: I get myself "warmed up" with some general touching...breasts, belly, inner thighs, outer labia...and try to completely relax and think lots of sexy, horny thoughts. When I am starting to get wetter, I begin to touch my clit. Lightly at first, and alternate with other parts.

When I feel ready, I take the first two fingers of my left hand and pull the hood of my clit back. This fully exposes the clit, and also holds it still. I happen to prefer my fingers moving over my clitoris as opposed to my clit moving. I get my clit and fingers wet by dipping my fingers into my pussy and bringing some wetness up. (If you don't get very wet...use some lube. No friction!) I then start to rub my exposed clit. Small, steady movements. I maintain the speed and pressure, increasing as needed as my body adjusts.

The key is, don't stop too soon! It's not as fast as a vibrator. It takes longer for the feeling to build. Sometimes it helps to prop your hips on a pillow. Close your eyes and just focus on the feeling. Go as fast and hard as you can but keep the lubrication going. Wet your fingers when needed. Keep going. Eventually you should start to feel "that feeling" that tells you that you are getting close. Redouble your efforts! At this point, if I get a bit "stuck" I might lightly drag my fingernail over my clit. Lightly mind you. You're not scratching an itch or anything. It's just the sharper sensation can sometimes push me over.

This is just how I happen to do it. Because it is what I am used to, I actually find having a vibe on my clit a bit distracting and annoying, like it's almost too much for me. My current favourite way to cum is with my fingers on my clit and a non vibrating dildo inside. But if I were on a deserted island with no toys, my fingers alone would still get me there.

I hope this helps.

 

[MissCautious]

Very helpful, thank you.
Maybe I need to practice more, and for longer - and to not give in too quickly and reach for my vibrator

 

[Verycurious18]

One time, I was so horny just caming with mutliple guys ( they all kept cuming to soon) until finally i gave up and just sat up and tugged on my g-spot so hard i squirted for the very next guy. It was only a little bit ( during my early squirting days ) but it was very satisfying. I refuse to use my fingers anymore, my hands are to sensitive. I get so horny that I start shaking just by licking something off them. I'm almost positive I could cum from having my fingers sucked on. To scared to try it though. I would however like to get so sexually frustrated that I can't take it and just shoved my fingers inside again. Until then i'll continue to stick to my toys.



Anyways story aside its not to hard to cum from them, if you know your body well enough and know where everything is yous hould be able to get yourself off. Are you using both hands? Maybe clit stimulation could help, i know when i rub my clit i'll focus on how my vagina contracts around my toys and pinpoint where to thrust with it that way. I'm sure it would work with fingers!


I really hope you can get yourself off with your fingers, its a wonderful thing! Though getting of period is wonderful!!

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I used to do it before I owned any toys. Actually I tend to forget that I did own a vibe when I was pretty young, 15 or so? I think back then I still preferred the vibe but to use it as a dildo. But fingers, I never had much trouble so long as I played with the clit a bit too... took me years to find my gspot, but once I did it was easy with fingers.

That was years ago though, I've been cumming with toys instead of my own hand for so long I'm not sure if I could do it anymore. So if I have to nasturbate by hand I just rub my clit now. Toys spoiled me I like the sensation of being filled up or at least being fucked deeply too much now to want to play with fingers alone heheh

 

[Elizabeth_Stark]

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[LegsOpenedWide]

I put the theory to the test this morning and nope still couldn't get there
I gave in and got some help along the way

 

[Kumo163]

You have the vulva opening and near the top, you have the hood for the clitoris. Gently rub around the top of your vulva, and you might feel a unique sensation. This means you've found the clitoris. There's a lot of different basically tutorials about how to stimulate this area, since women require clitoris stimulation to orgasm most of the time.

 

[quietlylooking]

I generally prefer finger to toys. Sometimes I use both hands; one on my clit, and the other using some fingers inside of me. But toys can be fun too!

In my youth, I found a "massager" in the bathroom closet, still in the box, gathering dust. I quietly took it to my room, where quickly learned what an orgasm was. I became very accustomed to the ease and speed of it (although I was terrified someone would realize it was missing or find it under my bed).

When I went to college, I didn't take it with me, and I remember it took a little while to learn how to use my fingers. I think if you are really used to a vibe, it may take a bit of experimenting, and patience realizing that it may take longer. I recommend lots of practice

 

[MissCautious]

Okay so it seems I need to be more patient and practice more. I think I can manage that

 

[multitalentman]

Maybe it would help to have something to think about while your fingers do the walking...

 

[MissCautious]

Indeed it would! That's always got to help.

 

[kay60]

Jut use my fingers in a circular fashion very gently over my clit and dipping in and out of my pussy and cum hard after a long slow build-up

 

[bill3901]

Jut use my fingers in a circular fashion very gently over my clit and dipping in and out of my pussy and cum hard after a long slow build-up

exactly what my wife does

 

[pickpocketlady]

The light touch

Oh yes!
For me, the secret is to lightly stroke the clit with my fingertips such that after a while I am aroused but I can't feel the actual touch. Only then do I slip my middle and index fingers in and out of me, and with skills honed over years of pleasuring myself (also years of practicing my "job" ) I can cum in under 10 minutes (5 if I am really horny).

 

[UnknownPath]

A method that works for me...

Most of the methods mentioned is what I have used, but if I am not using my dildo, I use my fingers which I consider to be the equivalent to a "quickie".

To get myself to orgasm I have to use my imagination. No amount of tweaking my nipples or rubbing at my clit will get me in the mood if my mind isn't focused on what I want.

So, I usually imagine having sex with someone. I have to imagine they are kissing me, touching me, and eventually fucking me. Then I climax, no problem. And if I am having troubles focusing on what I would feel if someone were with me, I go read erotica that has been written by me or someone else because that also does the trick.

For me sex has more to do with what I am thinking or feeling emotionally than just the physical aspect. I cannot get off if I am not there mentally.

Anyway, I hope all these others posters tips help you out, and possibly my tips too.

 

[MissCautious]

Still working on it .... think I must be a slow learner!

 

[suckonsimon]

Still working on it .... think I must be a slow learner!

Just a hello from a guy to wish you well, Miss, and all the women here. Orgasmic pleasure for women, however achieved, is a profoundly beautiful thing. Go for it darlings!

 

[just_a_girl2015]

My fingers never fail to make me cum, in fact I prefer using them to using my vibrator. I don't think it matters whether you cum with fingers or using a toy, the key is to do whatever works best for you. Masturbation is something that should be enjoyed, so just do what you like.

 

[WiserSoutherner]

I pretty much only cum with my fingers and with the right mental stimulation it can take about 3 minutes - if I'm in a rush. I like to try and drag it out though...although I'm really impatient.

I have cum with toys but I find it more clumsy. My fingers are easier and I find no significant difference in the type of orgasm I have. I would love someone else to be as good as me with my fingers though...that's the only problem. Years of practice makes me better at giving me orgasms than anyone else.

Perhaps someone else could make up for it with the use of a tongue?

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

Not sure about you MissC but I've still not managed to get there with my fingers only

 

[Sugartitties]

While I do love my various toys, there are times they are not available and I am too worked up to leave it alone. It is those times my fingers are like magic, knowing exactly how to manipulate my special spots to extraordinary orgasms.