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ChefLife24

ChefLife24

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How would I go about finding a Master or Mistress?

If anyone has any ideas, would be appreciated!
 
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If you want to genuinely discuss some how-to ideas, this could be the place to start. If you're looking for willing nibbles, however, you would be better off posting down in the BDSM Personals section. Good luck!
 
I would just like to get a feel for it by talking to a few people who are in the life, get their feedback on anything and the like.
 
I have posted in personals also, though it seems as if 99% of the people messaging me wants to start off right away with the orders and dirty pictures. Is that pretty much normal Or is it just me that wants to get comfortable with the other person first before I submit or not?
 
You might try

Looking for someone who also wants to try it out. Learn something new together.
 
ArmyGirl20 said:
I have posted in personals also, though it seems as if 99% of the people messaging me wants to start off right away with the orders and dirty pictures. Is that pretty much normal Or is it just me that wants to get comfortable with the other person first before I submit or not?
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It's normal for them and wise of you. Some think of those new as easy prey. You've got the right idea. Ask your questions here, check out the library at the top of this forum, read a few books on BDSM. You might also consider joining fetlife.com (kind of a Facebook for kinksters) where there might be information on munches near you. A munch is a meeting of like minded People interested in BDSM, often in a restaurant, to get together and talk. No playing, wear regular clothes.
 
ArmyGirl20 said:
I have posted in personals also, though it seems as if 99% of the people messaging me wants to start off right away with the orders and dirty pictures. Is that pretty much normal Or is it just me that wants to get comfortable with the other person first before I submit or not?
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You should get comfortable AG. There needs to be a level of trust, first!
I've sent you a pm earlier with more details......
 
snoopydaddy59 said:
You should get comfortable AG. There needs to be a level of trust, first!
I've sent you a pm earlier with more details......
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Perhaps there are others, lurkers, who would benefit from your timeless wisdom. And they would if you'd share it publicly.
 
midwestyankee said:
Perhaps there are others, lurkers, who would benefit from your timeless wisdom. And they would if you'd share it publicly.
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Agreed MWY, but as you know, there are a fair share of haters here. Just trying to offer whatever advice folks choose or not choose to accept..... :)
 
snoopydaddy59 said:
Agreed MWY, but as you know, there are a fair share of haters here. Just trying to offer whatever advice folks choose or not choose to accept..... :)
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I don't believe you on "a fair share of haters." Absolutely don't believe it. I need to see proof or I call bullshit.
 
Hi Amy, im somewhat in the same boat.
For me, im very intrigued by the general relationship of Mistress/slave. But I'm not sure how this is compatible with my real live.

E.g. I would love to be humiliated and made to serve you in on weekend or even at events and parties/clubs. But by day, I am an executive of a large company, and I cannot and will not go to a customer meeting with no underwear and cum strains on my pants.... Like my last mistress who I met here asked me to do.

It would be fun to explore what can be done, with the respect to real live boundaries.
Is that to much to ask for?
 
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Judging by the normal responses on the bdsm personals, probably is. Though i heard if you are a goid girl, a large fat saint will leave one hanging above your fire place :D
 
adventurelover said:
Hi Amy, im somewhat in the same boat.
For me, im very intrigued by the general relationship of Mistress/slave. But I'm not sure how this is compatible with my real live.

E.g. I would love to be humiliated and made to serve you in on weekend or even at events and parties/clubs. But by day, I am an executive of a large company, and I cannot and will not go to a customer meeting with no underwear and cum strains on my pants.... Like my last mistress who I met here asked me to do.

It would be fun to explore what can be done, with the respect to real live boundaries.
Is that to much to ask for?
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Exactly, I need someone who respects and trusts me just like I do them, I can't make myself submit to someone who only wants me to shut up, be used and then say thank you.
 
ArmyGirl20 said:
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Exactly, I need someone who respects and trusts me just like I do them, I can't make myself submit to someone who only wants me to shut up, be used and then say thank you.
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I think you'll find that continuing to post thoughtfully around the forum will give you a chance to interact with others who share your particular corner of kink. Doing so will afford you a chance to see how they treat others, how cleanly they think, and if they have a view of the world that meshes well with yours. This is the single best way to connect with someone who will appreciate your for who you are and not for how they think you might align with their personal fantasies before getting to know you.
 
To go off the other sentiments essentially look for someone who enjoys being a dom as opposed to someone who enjoys the fantasy of it, or who uses domination as an excuse for self gratification :)
 
adventurelover said:
Hi Amy, im somewhat in the same boat.
For me, im very intrigued by the general relationship of Mistress/slave. But I'm not sure how this is compatible with my real live.

E.g. I would love to be humiliated and made to serve you in on weekend or even at events and parties/clubs. But by day, I am an executive of a large company, and I cannot and will not go to a customer meeting with no underwear and cum strains on my pants.... Like my last mistress who I met here asked me to do.

It would be fun to explore what can be done, with the respect to real live boundaries.
Is that to much to ask for?
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Btw it's Brittany
 
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