does being a woman make you depressed?

[dolf]

link for the clicking of.

the crossing the deserted road to avoid cars & vans rang true with me. it's not something i'd ever given much thought to, because it seems so normal to feel slightly anxious and alter my behaviour.

 

[parodyluvr75]

No, it's common sense.

 

[dolf]

No, it's common sense.

I've never seen a man do it though. which probably means it isn't a small, low leve anxiety they don't deal with. this is about the drip effect.

 

[Lancecastor]

Women live years longer than men.

Infant mortality rates for boys are much higher than for girls.

So....what's the problem with being a woman?

 

[Pookie]

I don't think it makes me depressed. It sucks that I feel I have to be more cautious and aware of things than a man would. But it's not something I dwell on or fret over. It's just part of life that I can't change - looking for and avoiding certain situations if possible. It's like an automatic response. The older I become, the more I do it though.

I'm not as exposed to a lot of this as other women might be though, especially those in a more urban area.

 

[Sean]

Most violent attacks happen to blokes.

 

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[dolf]

I don't think it makes me depressed. It sucks that I feel I have to be more cautious and aware of things than a man would. But it's not something I dwell on or fret over. It's just part of life that I can't change - looking for and avoiding certain situations if possible. It's like an automatic response. The older I become, the more the more I do it though.

I'm not as exposed to a lot of this as other women might be though, especially those in a more urban area.

perhaps the anxiety is more common with women who have been victim of violence & sexual violence. that would make sense. but still, that's estimated to be 1/3 women at some point.

Most violent attacks happen to blokes.

true. though a lot of attacks on women aren't reported. the 'what were you wearing?' effect. I know of several personally. they feel guilty because they were alone and somewhere they shouldn't be. and it depends upon your definition of violence, because a bruised arm or arse from being grabbed is violent too. but, yes, random punches in the face are more common for men... though the media paints the opposite as true, and a man being attacked isn't made to feel unclean (just wimpy).

i'm rambling. and not entirely convinced, or unconvinced.

 

[Que]

Problem solved:
http://www.gun-tests.com/media/newspics/150467_large.jpg
You're welcome.

 

[1HF]

I tend to be a bit anxious and high strung in general, but I don't feel like being a woman has made me depressed. Like Pookie, avoiding certain situations is just a habit that I wouldn't even think twice about.

Interesting link, and not something I'd ever given much thought to.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

link for the clicking of.

the crossing the deserted road to avoid cars & vans rang true with me. it's not something i'd ever given much thought to, because it seems so normal to feel slightly anxious and alter my behaviour.

I know at least one feminist who tried actually living as a man. THAT caused her some serious depression.

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/22/books/review/22kamp.html?_r=0

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Entertainment/story?id=1526982

Maybe there's also a huge amount of stress on being a man? Perhaps that's why women live longer than men despite there being rapists and murderers hunting women from their lurking position around every corner?

Nobody has anything to say? Of course not.

Think you have it so bad, dolf? Try living as a man. Like Norah Vincent you'll be running back to your life as a woman with your tail between your legs.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

but, yes, random punches in the face are more common for men... though the media paints the opposite as true, and a man being attacked isn't made to feel unclean (just wimpy).

i'm rambling. and not entirely convinced, or unconvinced.

People - including women and not just patriarchal men - make fun of male victims of, well, anything. Nobody makes fun of women victims.

 

[Pookie]

perhaps the anxiety is more common with women who have been victim of violence & sexual violence. that would make sense. but still, that's estimated to be 1/3 women at some point.

You're very likely correct about that.

 

[parodyluvr75]

When I was 21, I lived in a very bad area. I would go out late constantly. There was a guy who lived in the same building, same age. One night he was robbed and shot to death with in a block of the apartment building.

They don't think about it as much, sometimes they should.

I can't speak for other women but I don't have anxiety from it. I just believe when living in an urban environment, you should be aware.

The chances are higher for a woman because we are smaller and perceived as an easier target for a violent crime. I was raised in an urban environment, so I grew up knowing I should be aware. So for me, I don't give it much thought, I just do it. But I wouldn't discount fears about it, they're valid. It's a shame anyone has to live with this possibility.

As I get old and frail, I'll probably think about it more, because of my income, it's doubtful I'll be not be in an urban area.

 

[eyer]

does being a woman make you depressed?

Your hypochondriactic depression is genderless...

...and pathetic.

Can't you just hire someone to beat the fvck out of you...

...and move on?

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Complete nonsense, and not surprising given the author and her history of female victimization and male bashing.


https://icecreaminpakistan.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/valenti-mocking-men.jpg

 

[dolf]

ah, ok, she's a complete cunt.

 

[parodyluvr75]

You are? That has nothing to do with the topic, it has merit.

 

[Pookie]

Complete nonsense, and not surprising given the author and her history of female victimization and male bashing.

That explains a lot. She's off the deep end with her stuff.

 

[Pookie]

You are? That has nothing to do with the topic, it has merit.

I think her idea that it could be seriously impacting our health is a bit over the top. I'm certain that women who have been victim of violence (directly or indirectly) are significantly impacted, but not women as a whole.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

When I go out I'm always confident whomever I encounter is more at risk than me.

Years ago I hadda 70 year old professor who was a frail little woman with a look that said, FUCK WITH ME AND YOULL GO HOME WITHOUT A FEW OF YOUR FAVORITE PARTS. All the guys agreed she must pack God's straight razor or ice pick.

 

[Joeybagadonuts]

Like everything else its depends on who you are, where you are and all that other shit.

 

[dolf]

You are? That has nothing to do with the topic, it has merit.

i'm not depressed. but I am pondering the number of times a day I subconsciously assume I might be under threat. it's a higher number than I first thought. sad realities of life.

 

[Littlefinger]

I think being a victim of sexual violence seriously injures and irrevocably changes a person and we really need to do more for those who have been affected in such a way. It is not normal to feel threatened by men or to feel targeted and vulnerable by everyday situations. Rape is not a natural or normal part of our hardware as a species or a civilization.

 

[Muscadine_Eyes]

Ok, I had the feeling that it was one more thing for us to be depressed about. She is trying to pull the mental illness crowd into her agenda. Awareness is a good thing. You can be mugged if you're a man or a woman.

I am pro medication when it comes to mental illness. Depression isn't something to mess with. I lost my great grandfather to suicide.

ETA: I wouldn't dwell on the vigilance feeling. I relate it to hunting and hiking. You just have to be aware of your surroundings. Life is nature. Man is every animal.