I have cancer too

[Noor]

It's just a stroke of luck that it was even discovered. If not I would have been dead in three years unless I started pissing blood or something. Even then.

Mine too actually...

 

[bluebell]

Ann.
You're a spunky one and I do very much enjoy your posts. I must have missed this thread when you first posted it, so allow me to offer support now. It must be very difficult to go through something like this and not feel like your body is betraying you. You will be in my thoughts.
You also still have a standing dinner invite with NN and I anytime you like...as long as you give me enough advanced notice to swiffer the floor first.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I don't think I know you.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

In a matter of unknown weeks, I get to do it all over again. That crushing weight hanging over my head just won't seem to go away.

 

[Noor]

In a matter of unknown weeks, I get to do it all over again. That crushing weight hanging over my head just won't seem to go away.

I had a gap of a decade. The weight doesn't go away under you are in the OR, or at least mine didn't. You just have to take deep breaths and play it out.

I am reasonably happy, I was fairly mellow before but afterwards a lot of things just ceased to bother me. I got to have a year with someone wonderful who thought I was amazing and while the future never was, we had a lot of fun. I wouldn't have had that if I hadn't had the surgery.

Just prepare as best you can. Find a place you can stay just in case you can't be home alone for a while. I thought I could go to my parents but it turned out that I couldn't travel for many months. I stayed with some friends unexpectedly for about a month. I was only planning on maybe staying there overnight.
Do not let them release you from the hospital if you feel at all questionable and/or you don't have a place to go where you can function or be taken care of. I was released too early which caused some issues. Oh bring an advocate with you to the hospital, pick the brightest most obnoxious if wronged person you can

I am sure you will have a smoother time than I did, mine was unusual.

Stay positive, and clean the house. I didn't and came home to a mess!

 

[Noor]

Oh I have two friends who have had kidney cancer about 3 yrs ago and each had one kidney removed and they are both doing great!

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

They don't want to do surgery. Ablation again.

 

[Noor]

They don't want to do surgery. Ablation again.

why? if it works, that would be great but have you gotten a second opinion? researched it like mad on the internet? stuff like that? are you somewhere with a major medical center?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

why? if it works, that would be great but have you gotten a second opinion? researched it like mad on the internet? stuff like that? are you somewhere with a major medical center?

Ablation is the least intrusive, least overall risk.

 

[Noor]

Ablation is the least intrusive, least overall risk.

how will it be different this time? what makes them think it will work?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

how will it be different this time? what makes them think it will work?

They don't know for certain. I could die from the general anesthesia. I could hit a deer on the way to work tomorrow. I was all prepared to have them cut me open and be done with it. If it does work, it will take another 7 months to know. If it doesn't work, in another 7 months I'll be doing something again.

It makes sense medically. It kills me emotionally.

 

[Noor]

They don't know for certain. I could die from the general anesthesia. I could hit a deer on the way to work tomorrow. I was all prepared to have them cut me open and be done with it. If it does work, it will take another 7 months to know. If it doesn't work, in another 7 months I'll be doing something again.

It makes sense medically. It kills me emotionally.

For me I just imagined the worse and accepted that it that could happen, and then I could be pleasantly surprised with a better outcome. The first time I actually read the Tibetan Book of the dead which was good sleep reading.

You need to stay calm somehow, while this is all going on your body is also trying to fight the cancer on it's own, so whatever you can do to help it is good.
Eat as healthy as you can, get rest.
If you can afford it, maybe get a healing massage, use a licensed masseuse and tell them what is happening. Maybe they will only be able to do your feet and shoulders but it could help. Get out in nature, or a conservatory like a fern room and breath the air there for a bit.

If you aren't sleeping talk to your dr about pills. Before my surgery the only thing that worked was lunesta, though I tried like 5 kinds first. Ambein makes me stop circular thinking.

 

[neci]

i don't have cancer

that i know of

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Had a pap smear lately?

 

[GoAztecs]

Found out two weeks ago that I have cancer after a physical. Thinking positive thoughts for you ms Ann thorpe

 

[Noor]

Found out two weeks ago that I have cancer after a physical. Thinking positive thoughts for you ms Ann thorpe

I am sorry to hear that. I hope it is quickly treated and resolved. They did blood for that at a physical?

 

[GoAztecs]

I am sorry to hear that. I hope it is quickly treated and resolved. They did blood for that at a physical?

Yes it was

 

[neci]

Had a pap smear lately?

yes..

all is good.

health is a fragile state.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm not a candidate for DaVinci surgery due to "factors". The surgeon says wait 5 months and rescan, maybe do another biopsy then. The scans are inconclusive to this point. Back into limbo.

If the tumor indeed regrows, I will lose the kidney. Big whup. It's not like it's a tit or a brain. It's just a kidney. The Brits eat them for breakfast.

So, just don't think about it.

 

[coastal-boy]

Ablation on known cancerous tissue is a 40 yr old treatment and we now know there are better options under 99% of the circumstances. It can actually spread the cancer if it isn't done right, and most times it isn't. Just input from the cheap seats.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Ablation on known cancerous tissue is a 40 yr old treatment and we now know there are better options under 99% of the circumstances. It can actually spread the cancer if it isn't done right, and most times it isn't. Just input from the cheap seats.

Are you a doctor?

 

[warrior queen]

I'm not a candidate for DaVinci surgery due to "factors". The surgeon says wait 5 months and rescan, maybe do another biopsy then. The scans are inconclusive to this point. Back into limbo.

If the tumor indeed regrows, I will lose the kidney. Big whup. It's not like it's a tit or a brain. It's just a kidney. The Brits eat them for breakfast.

So, just don't think about it.

I would have elective surgery and remove the kidney.
I would not wait another 5 months..... in that time, shit can spread.

 

[coastal-boy]

Are you a doctor?

Close contact to a nurse anesthesiologist...and before that, she was a surgery rn. Just words I remember her saying to a friend when they were going through similar issues

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I would have elective surgery and remove the kidney.
I would not wait another 5 months..... in that time, shit can spread.

Kidney cancers grow at pretty much an established rate. There is a possibility that the ablation did the job.

 

[warrior queen]

Kidney cancers grow at pretty much an established rate. There is a possibility that the ablation did the job.

For me personally, I would not take the chance.
I would excise the offending organ asap.
But that's just me.
I hope your outcome is good.