G spot question

[wishingyou]

My wife and I have recently started trying for a gspot orgasm. I think we've located the spot and she seems to really love when I hit it with my fingers. A couple of times she's gotten super close and she tries to relax. She feels like she has to pee which seems to indicate that we're on the right track.

Does it require a lot of for play or thinking about ahead of time to get it stimulates? Or maybe a clitoral orgasm first then try?

We try at if for at least 15 minutes and get close but eventually she starts loosing sensation.

 

[SweetErika]

Then take a break from the g-spot stimulation, and focus on something else, like clitoral stimulation or you. Edging is often one of the best ways to get to a g-spot orgasm and female ejaculation, in my experience.

For instance, my husband and I had a terrible cold for the past 3-4 weeks, and while sex wasn't appealing to either of us during that time, I was still horny on occasion. On Saturday night we felt better and didn't have our kidlet at home, so we had plenty of time to relax and be intimate. Clit stimulation for awhile with semi-intentional edging on my part, then when he started stimulating my g-spot, it was unusually sensitive. We edged with g-spot + clit stimulation unintentionally for a bit longer (I still wasn't feeling great, so every type of external stimulation was bugging me and I had to take short sensory breaks), and I had a great orgasm and ejaculated. I guess I should have put down a towel when I had that initial sense that it could/would happen!

Anyway, every woman and even occasion is different. Total relaxation and edging/some sort of slower build up works well for many, but my suggestion is to just have fun trying a bunch of different things and consider any sort of g-spot-related result a bonus. Don't think about it, don't try for a g-spot orgasm specifically and definitely don't worry about it. Honestly, for me, orgasms that result from g-spot stimulation alone have never been as fantastic as those from really good clit stimulation or clit+g-spot stimulation. A lot of couples build things like orgasms from g-spot stimulation and female ejaculation up to be some sort of sexual holy grail, even though they're really not for most women. Have fun experimenting together, and see what happens.

 

[Mr.G]

G G G G G G

You might want to read through my TRY THIS thread. Pretty much everything MOST couples need to know and you can always ask Erica too.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[BertrandRussell]

... clitoral orgasm first ...

Not first. Concurrently.

If I tap/rub my wife's g-spot while she masturbates clitorally, she has screaming orgasms.
Hope it works got you too.

 

[Carnevil9]

The women I've been with who managed to achieve G-spot orgasms always needed lots of stimulation first, before the spot itself even appeared. Also, most of them were not expecting a G-spot O at all, it just took them by surprise. So IMHO, you might be experiencing a case of "trying too hard."

 

[wishingyou]

Excellent advice all. I really appreciate it.

 

[djyak]

My own experience, I can orgasm multiple times. After I've cum from fucking, that's when I love to have my g-spot orgasm. Him licking my pussy slowly while two fingers inserted and used in a "come here" motion. That along with him flicking my clit with his tongue; sucking it to engorge it, I can cum very, very hard. Never actually squirted, but I can leave his face and bed extremely wet. For me, placement and actions of his fingers inside are key.

Tifani

 

[robertreams]

I find it works best wen the clitoris is very excited first. try using oral for a time, then inserting your finger(s) as you eat her clit. Watch out, she'll cum in your face (I love it). Also, speak softly in her ear, "Give it up baby, cummon baby let go I love you baby, I want your cum sweetheart, I love you." Soft, slow, build, rub, tap, tap, tap., "cum for me", etc. She will be very embarrassed and claim she is peeing, you must reassure her that you would love it even if she peed on you because she cummed so hard, wouldn't that be great honey, if you cummed so hard you peed yourself. I actually had a woman once I was eating her and massaging her g-spot and she cummed so hard she shit herself. I wasn't overjoyed, but I didn't make a huge issue of it. Hell I wanted her to lose control, didn't I ?
control may be the issue, many women hate to give up or lose control. But keep trying, gentle at first, build trust then harder and harder, I hit her spot with my cock,by doing my best to fuck "up"

Good luck, try not to be too goal oriented. The key is to let her (make her) encourage her to LET GO.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

She will be very embarrassed and claim she is peeing, you must reassure her that you would love it even if she peed on you because she cummed so hard, wouldn't that be great honey, if you cummed so hard you peed yourself. I actually had a woman once I was eating her and massaging her g-spot and she cummed so hard she shit herself. I wasn't overjoyed, but I didn't make a huge issue of it. .

As a woman, I would like to counter a small part of this post. I would suggest that announcing to your beloved that she might pee on you, if that isn't the goal, could backfire. Having crossed that bridge myself, if I ever do accidentally pee, I don't want to know. I don't want to know that he knows. I want him to kiss me and tell me that he's absolutely certain that it was just wetter than usual. I congratulate some people on their freedom with bodily functions, but it may not be the best choice to overcome this hurdle.

 

[Mr.G]

I keep reading "my G-Spot orgasm..."

The aim of my thread is not just how to make it happen but that UNlike the clit, the stimulation can continue which results in (for most women) a continuous series of massive orgasms or an extended peak - all of which is controlled by their partner.

Many couples have at one time achieved what many describe as a different, DEEPER, all-body mega-orgasm but never manage to get there again. The TRY THIS thread allows couples to return to that "once in a lifetime" orgasms EVERY TIME and then keep going for as long as she can enjoy them.

There has been much discussion over the last decade and many couples now KNOW where the G-SPOT is but one piece of info that many seem to be missing is that there is no need to stop at A G-GASM. That puppy will bark until the cows come home!!

***********************************************

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

*********
It has definitely helped our relationship. It was originally intended to just spice things up a bit, but for me it has changed my whole outlook on sex. It used to be that it was all about his pleasure and now it is about mine too.
*********
This thread is the best thing ever, cause in my 25 years of having sex I have never felt like this.
*********
My relationship with my DH has changed for the better, we were always close, but now it's like we've hit a new level.
*********
Thank you soooooo much! Not really sure how I found this site but I am so thankful. My husband tried this last night and these were the best orgasms I have ever had.
***********
My husband tried this last night and this was the best orgasms I have ever had. ...
***********
My sexual confidence grew, he loved doing it to me and seeing my reactions. Now we're having sex almost every night and I have an average of 8-10 orgasms a night.
*********
We are in our 40s and thought we had one of the best sex lives out there but OH BOY were we wrong! We are REALLY enjoying it now, thanks to finding this thread.
******
I will have to say that is was way more intense than I ever imagined!! THANKS again!!!
*********

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

No clinical study I know of has ever confirmed the existence of a g-spot, nor has any twin study confirmed a valid correlation of g-spot orgasms for twins.

As most people describe it they require a roto rooter penis to find the g-spot, and that makes the g-spot construct implausible, if it exists mother nature wants you to find it NOT go looking for it with a treasure map.

So this thread is a basket of unicorn shit.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

we have to call it g spot.. corpus spongiosum is too difficult to spell.

 

[Mr.G]

No clinical study I know of has ever confirmed the existence of a g-spot, nor has any twin study confirmed a valid correlation of g-spot orgasms for twins.

As most people describe it they require a roto rooter penis to find the g-spot, and that makes the g-spot construct implausible, if it exists mother nature wants you to find it NOT go looking for it with a treasure map.

So this thread is a basket of unicorn shit.

You're right. There has been little to no actual research into the existence of G-Spot. One notable study involved 13 CADAVERS and as a few might guess the response on the part of the test subjects was less than remarkable. Don't forget however than less than 100 years ago the very best research and minds involved in these earth-shattering discoveries was sure that WOMEN could not nor had they any need to orgasm.

We have NOT progressed much since then.

I have THREE files of around 400kb each where women and couples seem decades and possibly centuries ahead of ALL the "clinical studies", sexperts and other know-it-alls. Whether it is "unicorn shit" or some other mystical substance what it cums down to is those who claim it isn't, will always win their argument ... unltil they bump into that unpleasant lump called ... REALITY.

Here's my take.

The G-Spot is NOT a sex/pleasure "button" like the clit. It, along with the A-SPOT is designed to assist in childbirth. It, when stimulated by the passage of a bambino, produces massive PUSH-OUT muscle contractions. It floods the areas with tissue elastcizers when episiotomies hadn't been thought of and neither had doctors. It helps flood and then discharge the SKEENE glands in order to help lubricate the passage of the baby. It helps normalize the massive hormone and enzyme levels associated with childbirth.

The FACT that it is wired into the orgasm center of the brain is .... just a coincidence. Just LUCK!

Perhaps THAT fact is why many sexperts and know-it-alls haven't found glaring evidence that it exists. Even today 95% of all advice into how to properly stimulate the G-SPOT focuses COMPLETELY on penis lengths, angles and pelvic positioning.

My advice is forget the dick until she knows exactly how to position herself and even then that can and should be as a follow-up to digital or THUMB movement on the G-SPOT. A finger or thumb can work far better in the roto-rooter department than ANY dick I know of. Too much sex advice is dick-centric and these threads are about HER pleasure. Let's face facts here. Statistically only 17% of all women claim they can SOMETIMES cum during intercourse so no matter what scale of performance one is referring to ... dicks are really NOT that effective in ringing her bell, now is it?


http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[GiggLeGasm]

don't go turning this into a discussion about childbirth. Many of the hormones associated with the relaxation of the perineum begin production prior to the actual childbirth. Also, the massive thrusting that expels the baby is largely a result of hormones that are released from the placenta. (and if you've never had to attempt to hold a baby in from the outside, it's probably the most powerful thrust I've ever encountered)

The reality is that these sexual phenomena are just that. You can label nerve bundles all you want. You can collect stories from as many people as you want. If people were willing to take the time to explore themselves and their partners, be playful and curious about it, and allow themselves to be surprised with the delight of discovery...

they wouldn't be so interested in a scientific how-to sexual guide.

"the dick" is a huge part of sexual pleasure for women. Don't discount the hormones that are associated with the stretching in the vagina, the stimulation of pleasure receptors in and around the vagina, the pressure that contributes to the swelling, or the referred pressure on sexual areas. I think my problem with the direction this is heading is that the focus is on the orgasm instead of the coupling.. and for women.. the coupling contributes hormonally and emotionally to sexual satisfaction.

 

[Mr.G]

You don't seem to be paying attention.

"" If people were willing to take the time to explore themselves and their partners, be playful and curious about it, and allow themselves to be surprised with the delight of discovery...""


""...."couples seem decades and possibly centuries ahead of ALL the "clinical studies", sexperts and other know-it-alls.""

Or do you like to argue to see yourself in print?

Also I'm a GUY. You don't need to explain to me how important "dick" is to BOTH sexes.

The whole (hole ...?) point of proper G-SPOT stimulation is that it stimulates all those trigger points that encompass BOTH sex and childbirth and UNlike the experts and know-it-alls I'm basing my comments on not just testimonials but a fair amount of personal research. It is those experts and know-it-alls who seem to dismiss glaringly obvious results of couples learning about themselves, exploring, being open and loving and willing to see PAST the negativity of people dismissing what they have felt and experienced as a result of some failed lab experiment.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

You don't seem to be paying attention.

"" If people were willing to take the time to explore themselves and their partners, be playful and curious about it, and allow themselves to be surprised with the delight of discovery...""


""...."couples seem decades and possibly centuries ahead of ALL the "clinical studies", sexperts and other know-it-alls.""

Or do you like to argue to see yourself in print?

Also I'm a GUY. You don't need to explain to me how important "dick" is to BOTH sexes.

The whole (hole ...?) point of proper G-SPOT stimulation is that it stimulates all those trigger points that encompass BOTH sex and childbirth and UNlike the experts and know-it-alls I'm basing my comments on not just testimonials but a fair amount of personal research. It is those experts and know-it-alls who seem to dismiss glaringly obvious results of couples learning about themselves, exploring, being open and loving and willing to see PAST the negativity of people dismissing what they have felt and experienced as a result of some failed lab experiment.

I think you've over-personalized my comments. I didn't quote any previous comments because they weren't directed to any one person. When I mentioned the concept of phenomena, it was to point out that there may not be scientific evidence but that the reality still exists. I'm not sure why you think I've disagreed with you so completely.

Other people are allowed to add personal stories, comments, or opinions. It does not devalue anything you have shared.

 

[Mr.G]

The two quotes I put up showed we were both going in the same direction but then you started off with the "Don't go turning this into ..."

I see it's more a figure of speech - like ALL married men and most women begin MOST sentences with "No" when they are talking to each other even when they are agreeing with each other. Sort of a universal disclaimer before anything is actually said, I guess.

I sometimes get a tad "short" with the naysayers who kybosh the whole G-SPOT concept. I shared a technique and all through my thread there have been tons of people who claim all my statements and suggestions are groundless and scientifically unproven ... even when one of my statements is backed by half a dozen women stating that what I suggested WORKS. There is some kind of STOOOPID at work when, in the face of NO knowledge or data, they can post definitive statements discrediting not just a technique but me AND the women who also post and confirm the efficacy of the suggestion of technique. The know-it-alls and experts may not know - yet - but a LOT of women DO!

 

[gxnn]

Your hot discussion just reminds me of the old Chinese saying: To check whether it is a horse or a mule, you just get it out for a ride, and the same had a modernized version in 1978 when it was after the Cultural Revolution period, which reads, practice is the only criteria of verifying truth.