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[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I don't bail, but I also make sure I don't overcommit.

 

[Suz_anne]

Happy Monday everyone! Are you holiday partied out yet? Have you had enough?

When you've had enough how do you respond? Do you shut down, do you push through as you've made a commitment? Do you start having less fun, losing the enjoyment of it? Do you feel the same regarding the seemingly endless Holiday activities...

I may be a glutton for punishment, but I love the holiday season - social commitments and all.

That being said, I do find myself feeling overwhelmed sometimes. When that happens, I usually sit down and make a list of must-do's vs. nice-to-do's and it helps settle my brain. That and a big glass of Conundrum white.

 

[All_4_Love]

I don't bail, but I also make sure I don't overcommit.

Same here.

I have often been in situations where I was over committed because I was made to, it wasn't my choice. In those times, I just escape to the nearest bathroom, have a mini "I hate all these people and I just want to go home" meltdown, and then resurface, slightly more composed, and deal. Ya know whud-I-mean?

My idea of a good holiday festivity is sitting around the Christmas tree after it has been thrown into the middle of the bonfire (haha), listening to good music with a few good friends, and enjoying a Malibu and Coke.

 

[multitalentman]

Happy Monday everyone! Are you holiday partied out yet? Have you had enough?

When you've had enough how do you respond? Do you shut down, do you push through as you've made a commitment? Do you start having less fun, losing the enjoyment of it? Do you feel the same regarding the seemingly endless Holiday activities...

I have experienced all of what you described. Although I will push through If I have made a commitment, I tend to not be so much fun to be around if it wears on me too much. If someone has made a commitment for me, depending on who that person is, I will usually come through for them, but again, if its not fun for me, I won't be the life of the party. On the other hand, I can really enjoy being super busy at times as well. Those times feel like I'm on top of my game, and can really be a lot of fun.

 

[SweetSam42]

I usually just end up sick. This year is no exception. I love the holidays. Usually. My inlaws typically manage to ruin it for me. C'est la vie.

 

[multitalentman]

I usually just end up sick. This year is no exception. I love the holidays. Usually. My inlaws typically manage to ruin it for me. C'est la vie.

I recommend large doses of alcohol and lots of drunk pic lit posting.

 

[ChainedUp]

While we all want the deeper connection, we have to admit to being attracted to the superficial. Great eyes, nice butts, perfect breasts.......whichever is your "thing", it doesn't matter. Today's question came from a bar debate I heard over the weekend. Two guys were debating the the following: would you prefer your partner to have the perfect pretty face with a less than perfect body or would you want that perfect body and an less than perfect face?

Sure, we all want that intelligent, witty, thoughtful partner but we do like those physical features, don't we?

 

[BradBigBrain]

While we all want the deeper connection, we have to admit to being attracted to the superficial. Great eyes, nice butts, perfect breasts.......whichever is your "thing", it doesn't matter. Today's question came from a bar debate I heard over the weekend. Two guys were debating the the following: would you prefer your partner to have the perfect pretty face with a less than perfect body or would you want that perfect body and an less than perfect face?

Sure, we all want that intelligent, witty, thoughtful partner but we do like those physical features, don't we?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder (or beerholder). I was in Norway for three weeks working. I was discussing the women in this small town with some of my Norwegian colleagues. I said something to the effect of ... "oh my goodness...Norwegian women are gorgeous. Each woman I've seen is simply beautiful... perfect skin, blonde hair, blue eyes, physically fit..."

They looked at me as if I had 3 heads...

"no," each said. "Italian women are beautiful. Dark hair, dark eyes, olive skin, voluptuous bodies with big breasts. Those are the most beautiful women in the world."

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

it's all relative. My idea of handsome/sexy is not the same as the next woman. So, I definitely agree with BBB. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

And I don't care what anyone says.. You could be Adonis, but if you're a dick, you're not even getting to sit on the bench in my game.

 

[All_4_Love]

While we all want the deeper connection, we have to admit to being attracted to the superficial. Great eyes, nice butts, perfect breasts.......whichever is your "thing", it doesn't matter. Today's question came from a bar debate I heard over the weekend. Two guys were debating the the following: would you prefer your partner to have the perfect pretty face with a less than perfect body or would you want that perfect body and an less than perfect face?

Sure, we all want that intelligent, witty, thoughtful partner but we do like those physical features, don't we?

I have often found myself becoming more and more attracted to a man as I have come to know him better, who at first, may not have been that attractive to me. I truly believe that who someone is on the inside is what makes them beautiful on the outside. Also, those attractions didn't wane over time.

I have also been the girl that almost sat through an entire green light because upon glancing over, I saw a man pumping gas that was so ridiculously attractive I could not take my eyes off of him. (just yesterday, as a matter of fact) *sigh*

My argument, had I been involved in the bar debate, would have been that I would choose someone with all of the inner qualities that I find attractive over the superficial because it's an absolute given that upon knowing them, they would become the most beautiful person in the world to me.

ETA: I totally missed the question again, didn't I? If I had to choose between either a nice handsome face, or a perfect body, which one would I choose? Hmm, probably the handsome face and less than perfect body. I have never been a lady that was crazy about the perfect body anyway. What most ladies consider perfect, I don't consider perfect, so yes, a handsome face all the way for me. *smile*

 

[ChainedUp]

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[ChainedUp]

Inventor of the dishwasher. I'd pass on 'ol Josephine, no matter her contributions or beauty within. Yeah, I'm that shallow

http://learningabe.info/Josephine_Garis_Cochran.JPG

 

[BradBigBrain]

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https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSkEF6sLdqWLQ7oSTMdmJ-odnPNj6utvrYvMkkQF6dQ8X1DsscS

Inventor of the frequency hopper.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I don't think a great body (or a great body part) can sustain a long term relationship - but, honestly, for a short term relationship or alone night stand - then I'll go with one or two sexually attractive body parts.

I abandoned the quest for perfection in partners a long time ago when I realized that amazing lovers come in all shapes and sizes and types - and body type or facial features often have no correlation with passion and skill as a lover. Beauty is great to look at, in a man or a woman, but its no indicator of the fire inside that makes a great lover or a great partner.

 

[All_4_Love]

Beauty is great to look at, in a man or a woman, but its no indicator of the fire inside that makes a great lover or a great partner.

*reaches for fan*

True words, Mr. Chance.

 

[mouthybrunette]

While we all want the deeper connection, we have to admit to being attracted to the superficial. Great eyes, nice butts, perfect breasts.......whichever is your "thing", it doesn't matter. Today's question came from a bar debate I heard over the weekend. Two guys were debating the the following: would you prefer your partner to have the perfect pretty face with a less than perfect body or would you want that perfect body and an less than perfect face?

Sure, we all want that intelligent, witty, thoughtful partner but we do like those physical features, don't we?

In the spirit of the original debate, I'd choose face over body. You have to see the face all of the time. The body is, or should be, covered most of the time.

However, I think both options are silly. There is no such thing as a perfect face or body. I don't even buy the "perfect for me" crap. I find many men attractive who have no discernible similarities. Yes, there is a certain type that always appeals to me, but it is not all inclusive and it is not what anyone would describe as perfect.

 

[SmileyGirl]

While we all want the deeper connection, we have to admit to being attracted to the superficial. Great eyes, nice butts, perfect breasts.......whichever is your "thing", it doesn't matter. Today's question came from a bar debate I heard over the weekend. Two guys were debating the the following: would you prefer your partner to have the perfect pretty face with a less than perfect body or would you want that perfect body and an less than perfect face?

Sure, we all want that intelligent, witty, thoughtful partner but we do like those physical features, don't we?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Yes yes it's an old clichè but it's true.
No denying there has to be a physical attraction but beauty fades, who you are as a person is what's important. You can have the prettiest face or have a fit body but if you're ugly on the inside....then you become ugly on the outside too when people see through you. It's a very superficial and shallow way to think.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

they made a movie about this. I think it was called "Shallow Hal"

Funny in its own right, but hit some major points on the superficial..

 

[rubydlite]

So I'm probably going to get some flack for this....but lately...out and about...the outward sexy really gets to me and I dream of having a hard body throw me around a bit. Saying that though...i have many different types of outward sexy in my head...and after 30 seconds I want more than what's on the outside.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

So I'm probably going to get some flack for this....but lately...out and about...the outward sexy really gets to me and I dream of having a hard body throw me around a bit. Saying that though...i have many different types of outward sexy in my head...and after 30 seconds I want more than what's on the outside.

No, Ruby.. You shouldn't get any flack for this. Derrick Pierce is a prime example. Incredibly sexy, well built man, perfectly capable of both physically and psychologically stretching ones sexual repertoire.

I posted a link recently on the why and how's of women and the ravish fantasy. I thought it was a pretty good article.

It's hardwired into many women the need to let "the man" take the lead, act as protector, be the one who "chose" you, etc. I think that physical prowess, muscle definition, etc plays a big part on a primal level whether the female accepts the male as capable of being provide/protector/mate, etc.. However, just because Tarzan satisfies some criteria, physically, it doesn't mean we stop looking for the more evolved of our species.

 

[37_ttej]

For my buck and a quarter (escalation: used to be two cents), I agree with the general opinion ^^^ that inner character is a more enduring determinant of 'attractiveness'. There's no doubt that physicality plays an important part in initial attraction - you don't find out their character qualities until you get to know them. I'm reassured by Lit that there is no universal 'standard' of physical attractiveness. From the diversity of threads, fetishes and ampics on this site it's obvious that there is a very wide range in what people find sexy and beautiful. Women in particular don't need to be concerned if they're not Size 6, blonde, 5'6" and 34DD. On Lit there is plenty of evidence that someone will fjnd you physically attractive whatever your size, shape, height, hair colour, weight etc.
One absolutely crucial dimension for me which I don't think has been mentionedyet is smell.
Overpowering perfume is a massive turnoff. On the other hand some scents have the ability to make my head whip round even if I haven't seen the woman. A woman who uses perfume subtly in a way which compliments the natural smell of her skin and hair and which is consistent with her character - well, I'm probably drooling at your feet about now.

 

[rubydlite]

No, Ruby.. You shouldn't get any flack for this. Derrick Pierce is a prime example. Incredibly sexy, well built man, perfectly capable of both physically and psychologically stretching ones sexual repertoire.

I posted a link recently on the why and how's of women and the ravish fantasy. I thought it was a pretty good article.

It's hardwired into many women the need to let "the man" take the lead, act as protector, be the one who "chose" you, etc. I think that physical prowess, muscle definition, etc plays a big part on a primal level whether the female accepts the male as capable of being provide/protector/mate, etc.. However, just because Tarzan satisfies some criteria, physically, it doesn't mean we stop looking for the more evolved of our species.

And this why I love it when you post♡♡♡♡

For my buck and a quarter (escalation: used to be two cents), I agree with the general opinion ^^^ that inner character is a more enduring determinant of 'attractiveness'. There's no doubt that physicality plays an important part in initial attraction - you don't find out their character qualities until you get to know them. I'm reassured by Lit that there is no universal 'standard' of physical attractiveness. From the diversity of threads, fetishes and ampics on this site it's obvious that there is a very wide range in what people find sexy and beautiful. Women in particular don't need to be concerned if they're not Size 6, blonde, 5'6" and 34DD. On Lit there is plenty of evidence that someone will fjnd you physically attractive whatever your size, shape, height, hair colour, weight etc.
One absolutely crucial dimension for me which I don't think has been mentionedyet is smell.
Overpowering perfume is a massive turnoff. On the other hand some scents have the ability to make my head whip round even if I haven't seen the woman. A woman who uses perfume subtly in a way which compliments the natural smell of her skin and hair and which is consistent with her character - well, I'm probably drooling at your feet about now.

Smell, yes!!!...oh there are some colognes which make me weak at the knees. ...and some which make me retch. ..on my knees...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

And this why I love it when you post♡♡♡♡




Smell, yes!!!...oh there are some colognes which make me weak at the knees. ...and some which make me retch. ..on my knees...

oh, yeah...a man who smells good?.. Ommagosh... *swoon* it's intoxicating, addicting, and almost deadly when you click on other levels and you're in a hormonal overdrive...

I check myself during certain times of the month because. Daayyumm...I can't be held responsible for my behavior.

nolo contendere

Ya dig?

 

[ChainedUp]

A star shines bright in the East.

It's the part of the Christmas story I find most intriguing.

Embrace what you believe and, if only for a day or two, leave cynicism behind.

Merry Christmas.

 

[BradBigBrain]

A star shines bright in the East.

It's the part of the Christmas story I find most intriguing.

Embrace what you believe and, if only for a day or two, leave cynicism behind.

Merry Christmas.

Thanks!

Merry Christmas to you, too.