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Im 21 and I love older women, meeting them is becoming a little tough. I recently joined a zumba and my oh my it has been fun but I want to meet more older ladies.....help?
What do YOU bring to the table, Mike?
Other than being born before 1975, what else are you looking for in an older woman?
And don't say big tits....
You want someone fit and active, perhaps a professional, career gal? Someone well-read, or a shallow nympho? An independent, strong woman? Maybe someone more nurturing, perhaps a mother figure?
Funny with an infectious laugh and wicked sense of humour, or a quiet church mouse?
Are you thinking relationship, or just some dating with a little fucky-sucky?
This kind of stuff will help determine not only where you could possibly meet an older woman, but what you should do once you you've met.
It is stuff you should think about, so you have more to talk about once you've verified her age and pointed out her laugh-lines.
What do YOU bring to the table, Mike?
I have heard that sending unsolicited dick-fies via PM will have the middle-aged ladies of Lit shucking their dampy-panties and wanting some spoogy Skype time.
Anonymous peni pics, of the turgid, pre-pistoning variety, are like menopausal meth.
I have heard that sending unsolicited dick-fies via PM will have the middle-aged ladies of Lit shucking their dampy-panties and wanting some spoogy Skype time.
Anonymous peni pics, of the turgid, pre-pistoning variety, are like menopausal meth.
Dear THEONLYJIBBLYISWHENABEEISONTHEJOHNSON,
This indeed is one of your most lame retorts ever. Down a couple of raw eggs and come back when you are packing.
Seriously difficult to throw a pity insult your way.
I don't know if this will help at all, but one of my husband's coworkers seemed to do quite well finding women in their thirties and forties when he was in his mid-twenties on Match.com, similar sites, and at places where older/professional women would often hang out (more upscale bars, gyms, etc.).
IIRC, he had a lot of casual sex, flings, and a few 3-18 month relationships that fizzled out when the ladies got bored due to the gaps in interests, goals and maturity levels. Eventually, he got tired of being dumped for those types of reasons, married a lovely woman close to his age several years ago, and they just had a second child together.
Hopefully you'll do better, but it might serve as a good cautionary tale if you're seeking longer-term relationships with older women.![]()
you want an older woman who likes to get her nails done.. and you want to be allowed to sleep over..
I'm going to disagree with the advice that tells you to pick up women where the children are playing. It might be argued that you are, yourself, a child (even though you read and cook) and an older woman might be concerned of the public opinion if your relationship isn't already established.
I'd say.. if you feel that you fit in better with people who are older, do what you already enjoy. Join book clubs, frequent cooking stores. These aren't age specific activities and you'll know that you have something in common. Even if you don't find a partner, you might find a friend who knows a friend..
and you'll already be in your element so you can shine a little brighter.
don't waste your time looking for an older woman. Part of what we learn by the time we're older is that we need men who have more to say to us than, "here honey, go get your nails done." Just be yourself.. grow yourself.. keep becoming. That's a pretty sexy thing in a man.
But what i want in a woman is someone real who is down to earth and wants companionship. I want to spoil her and see that smile. I want her to wake up feeling lucky to be with me.
Of course i would like to do many other different things. Like wine tastings, hitting up the city, and finding new restaurants
IIRC, he had a lot of casual sex, flings, and a few 3-18 month relationships that fizzled out when the ladies got bored due to the gaps in interests, goals and maturity levels. Eventually, he got tired of being dumped for those types of reasons, married a lovely woman close to his age several years ago, and they just had a second child together.
don't waste your time looking for an older woman. <snip>.... grow yourself.. keep becoming. That's a pretty sexy thing in a man.
LOL, at 21, I wanna know what he considers "older women"...are we talking 30 year olds here? Maybe 35?
And you can't do these things with women closer to your own age, why? That's a genuine question, no snark intended.
You don't indicate whether or not you're looking for something longer than a quick hook-up, but if a longer term relationship is something you're after, then the things Erika mentions above are things you should probably give serious thought to.
At 21, you're just getting started in life, in your career, etc. Your goals and desires for what you want will quite likely change quite a bit as you gain experience. There's a pretty good chance the goals you set won't be compatible with someone who is more established in life, and those are things that have the potential to put a huge strain on a relationship.
For example: do you want kids some day? If the answer is yes, then large age gaps are definitely a concern. Generally speaking, women in their 40's have already reared, or are already rearing their children and may not want more. At 44, I know I sure as hell don't. Don't get me wrong, I love kids but the three I have are more than enough.
This is the best advice you've received. Don't be a typical young'un and let it go in one ear and out the other.![]()