What pissed you off today? Mark II

[coy_one]

I have a daily "I'm pissed with my brother" conversation.

My brother handled my Mother's estate and basically fucked it all up. I have the IRS after me because I wasn't given appropriate tax documents... he screwed me over on her house... the list just goes on and on and on....

I wish we were kids again so I could punch him in the nose.

 

[midwestyankee]

I have a daily "I'm pissed with my brother" conversation.

My brother handled my Mother's estate and basically fucked it all up. I have the IRS after me because I wasn't given appropriate tax documents... he screwed me over on her house... the list just goes on and on and on....

I wish we were kids again so I could punch him in the nose.

I have the same complaint about my sister-in-law, who is the executor for my wife's mother's estate as well as their aunt, who passed away a few years earlier. As far as we can tell, there is still unfinished business on both estates but if we ask about it we get the "I can't do everything perfectly" speech and then she tries to lay the blame on the accountant.

Welcome back to Lit.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Trying to explain something to somebody who is very obviously Using A Conversational Technique to the point where it gets horribly distracting. Stop fucking interrupting just to say "I hear you!" every five seconds, let me finish without having my train of thought constantly interrupted.

If you really want to make me feel like you're listening, say things that actually demonstrate understanding of what I've said. Or if it doesn't make sense, ask me to clarify! But not this constant meant-to-seem-empathetic stuff that just leaves me thinking "are you listening or just working off a script?"

/rant

 

[Que]

Trying to explain something to somebody who is very obviously Using A Conversational Technique to the point where it gets horribly distracting. Stop fucking interrupting just to say "I hear you!" every five seconds, let me finish without having my train of thought constantly interrupted.

If you really want to make me feel like you're listening, say things that actually demonstrate understanding of what I've said. Or if it doesn't make sense, ask me to clarify! But not this constant meant-to-seem-empathetic stuff that just leaves me thinking "are you listening or just working off a script?"

/rant

I about punched a guy once because he kept saying "that's all well and good, but I want to know about YOU!" while I was sharing pretty damned personal things in a small dinner group.

Another guy one time had this weird echo verbal tic. He would repeat the last word or two of every single sentence you said.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Asking a question regarding a construction technique on a flogger and being threatened as a result!

 

[Bramblethorn]

People mistreating their pets. Neighbors have had two bunnies out in a tiny unshaded cage sitting in hot sun for at least two hours now, and I don't think they've got any water left.

Reported it to animal welfare and landlord, and if there was any way to get access I'd be going in and rescuing them. Worried they could die if they're out there much longer, and nothing more I can think to do about it :-\

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

People mistreating their pets. Neighbors have had two bunnies out in a tiny unshaded cage sitting in hot sun for at least two hours now, and I don't think they've got any water left.

Reported it to animal welfare and landlord, and if there was any way to get access I'd be going in and rescuing them. Worried they could die if they're out there much longer, and nothing more I can think to do about it :-\

Any way of getting a hose on to them? Poor little things

 

[Bramblethorn]

Any way of getting a hose on to them? Poor little things

Unfortunately not, it's on a high-rise balcony. They were out there all day, but at least the sun moved enough that they were in shade after around 1pm. Still means they were out in the direct sun for three or four hours.

But they were moving around afterwards, so I hope they'll be OK. And it's a no-pets building so I expect the agent will have words with them. Mixed feelings about that, they may decide to dump them if they're not allowed to keep them, but I'm not sure what else I could do about the situation :-/

 

[MeekMe]

Finding out through Facebook that my sisters and mother all just went on a nice little trip together. Using a highway that travels practically right in front of my home and they didn't bother to tell me. They didn't ask if I wanted to go. They didn't even think to stop by for lunch. They NEVER drive out here to see me but they have no problem driving past to go have some fun. Fuckin assholes.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Finding out through Facebook that my sisters and mother all just went on a nice little trip together. Using a highway that travels practically right in front of my home and they didn't bother to tell me. They didn't ask if I wanted to go. They didn't even think to stop by for lunch. They NEVER drive out here to see me but they have no problem driving past to go have some fun. Fuckin assholes.

Oh, ouch Meeks... I'm sorry
I would definitely have stopped by your house for lunch, if that helps any.
Ok, and taken you along wherever I was going, too

 

[Endless_Night]

Finding out through Facebook that my sisters and mother all just went on a nice little trip together. Using a highway that travels practically right in front of my home and they didn't bother to tell me. They didn't ask if I wanted to go. They didn't even think to stop by for lunch. They NEVER drive out here to see me but they have no problem driving past to go have some fun. Fuckin assholes.

Oh, ouch Meeks... I'm sorry
I would definitely have stopped by your house for lunch, if that helps any.
Ok, and taken you along wherever I was going, too

What she^ said. And I'd bring you gluten free chocolate cookies too.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Finding out through Facebook that my sisters and mother all just went on a nice little trip together. Using a highway that travels practically right in front of my home and they didn't bother to tell me. They didn't ask if I wanted to go. They didn't even think to stop by for lunch. They NEVER drive out here to see me but they have no problem driving past to go have some fun. Fuckin assholes.

FWIW, I wouldn't want to have lunch with them if this is them being "themselves". I know it's hard in some ways, but also try to embrace the idea that maybe their absence is the kindest or most generous thing they can give you and maybe you can find some peace and be grateful for that.

Also, just in case you need it, I'm offering a gentle reminder that your value can never be measured by the actions of others. You are a lovely human from what I do know of you, and I too trust that lunch with you would be quite an enjoyable treat.

 

[MeekMe]

Oh, ouch Meeks... I'm sorry
I would definitely have stopped by your house for lunch, if that helps any.
Ok, and taken you along wherever I was going, too

Thanks

What she^ said. And I'd bring you gluten free chocolate cookies too.

Cookies sound really good about now. Thank you.

FWIW, I wouldn't want to have lunch with them if this is them being "themselves". I know it's hard in some ways, but also try to embrace the idea that maybe their absence is the kindest or most generous thing they can give you and maybe you can find some peace and be grateful for that.

Also, just in case you need it, I'm offering a gentle reminder that your value can never be measured by the actions of others. You are a lovely human from what I do know of you, and I too trust that lunch with you would be quite an enjoyable treat.

Thank you, I've just had a similar conversation with my husband. i think its time I stop holding myself to an inhuman standard. I also think their absence is a good thing. I just make the same mistake every time.

I'd happily go to lunch with all of you. Or make lunch. Or have tea. Coffee?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Any of the deliciousness you post on the What's Cooking thread will do me! Please

 

[IrisAlthea]

Thank you, I've just had a similar conversation with my husband. i think its time I stop holding myself to an inhuman standard. I also think their absence is a good thing. I just make the same mistake every time.

I totally agree with C_in_C and your husband, it's their loss.
Sometimes it's like a sharp edge on a tooth though, isn't it? It's really hard to stop feeling it.

Any of the deliciousness you post on the What's Cooking thread will do me! Please

What she said! and I'd like to see more of the art work too.
Perhaps you are lucky most of us are too far away. I think you would have to throw really big lunchparties.

 

[LallyH]

Thank you, I've just had a similar conversation with my husband. i think its time I stop holding myself to an inhuman standard. I also think their absence is a good thing. I just make the same mistake every time.

I'd happily go to lunch with all of you. Or make lunch. Or have tea. Coffee?

I have a similar 'lack of relationship' with my sister and used to get very hurt by it. One day, a wise friend of mine asked me why I continued to try to pursue a relationship that I gained nothing but unhappiness from. I know that we all see 'family' as different from other relationships but maybe there are times we should view them more objectively and perhaps decide we are better off without them?

 

[MeekMe]

Any of the deliciousness you post on the What's Cooking thread will do me! Please

I totally agree with C_in_C and your husband, it's their loss.
Sometimes it's like a sharp edge on a tooth though, isn't it? It's really hard to stop feeling it.


What she said! and I'd like to see more of the art work too.
Perhaps you are lucky most of us are too far away. I think you would have to throw really big lunchparties.

It's a really sharp edge.

I'd break out the good plates for you all.

I have a similar 'lack of relationship' with my sister and used to get very hurt by it. One day, a wise friend of mine asked me why I continued to try to pursue a relationship that I gained nothing but unhappiness from. I know that we all see 'family' as different from other relationships but maybe there are times we should view them more objectively and perhaps decide we are better off without them?

I agree.

Thank you all, I really wasn't expecting so many nice replies. I thought I'd just rant for a moment and forget about it. I appreciate all the kind words and encouragement. (@_@)

 

[brianna24]

My manager tonight decided to blame something she did on me instead of taking the blame. I really am not fond of my job at the moment lol.

 

[Endless_Night]

My SO's dog peed all over my rather expensive yoga mat. Beyond annoying.

 

[brianna24]

Lame movie endings. Seriously do all movies now have to end with a guy and girl kissing or riding a motorcycle off into the sun. Really we could not find something more creative than that?

 

[saysalice]

This enrages me. Seriously enrages me.

This is all over my Facebook feed right now, and I've been biting my fingers to keep from responding angrily, whenever I see it. Because I have been struggling with an extraordinarily bad year, and no, I don't believe in angels - but if I did, and this is how you think they work? That's some kind of asshole god you've got there. Testing us...for Facebook "shares"? Nice.

I am just as angry at myself, though, because I won't say anything. Because I don't want to hurt or offend the people I love - though they obviously don't see or care that they are hurting and offending me with this bullshit.

You are welcome to your religion. Just stop and think, once in a while, about the kind of god you're praying to.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I am not being "childish" because I no longer want to continue a conversation I was trying to have when the individual I was conversing with interrupted to spray me with the garden hose.

It is, however, childish to do so in the first place, as well as get all ass-hurt when I refuse to giggle like a school girl.

 

[Malich]

Friday last week I got my plan for the week ahead where they told me I'd only be needed in London for 1 day the following week. Duly noted I planned my week ahead happy.

Monday afternoon I get a call saying "Can you do an extra day in London this week as we need some information gathering. Then can you do all the documents that come from them?" I say yes, i can shift my days about but I'll not get the documents written before next week. client says the data gathering will not take long and can I do one of them in the afternoon of the day I do the gathering. I say, ok, I'll try.

Data gathering takes most of the day and I've got too many gaps to do a complete document. Tell them as much and do what I can while waiting for extra information.

Today get a couple of messages asking why all the documents are not complete yet?

I do wonder sometimes if people actually listen when I tell them how long a job will take or if they just sit their nodding without taking anything in.

 

[MeltformySir]

A couple of things pissed me off today. The worst thing is having my almost ex here almost all day packing and getting ready to move things, except he mostly sits on his ass downstairs and plays on his laptop. So frustrating. Go do it at your own place. He says he's here for the kids, but he isn't interacting with them.

I am being disrespected by a couple of women in the lifestyle, but I am not able to say or do anything about it. It's not a huge deal, not the end of the world, but I get so tired sometimes of not being allowed to stand up for myself and say hey, it's not okay to act this way. Life ain't fair, unfortunately, but somewhere, sometime, all of this frustration is going to explode out of me like a pressure cooker exploding spaghetti sauce all over a white kitchen. It won't be pretty, and I won't be sorry, lol.

 

[IrisAlthea]

A couple of things pissed me off today. The worst thing is having my almost ex here almost all day packing and getting ready to move things, except he mostly sits on his ass downstairs and plays on his laptop. So frustrating. Go do it at your own place. He says he's here for the kids, but he isn't interacting with them.

I am being disrespected by a couple of women in the lifestyle, but I am not able to say or do anything about it. It's not a huge deal, not the end of the world, but I get so tired sometimes of not being allowed to stand up for myself and say hey, it's not okay to act this way. Life ain't fair, unfortunately, but somewhere, sometime, all of this frustration is going to explode out of me like a pressure cooker exploding spaghetti sauce all over a white kitchen. It won't be pretty, and I won't be sorry, lol.

Why are you not allowed to stand up for yourself if you feel you are being disrespected?