Social media?

[Bidin~Time]

Recently, a very dear friend had to go through some extensive medical testing. Blessedly, the testing showed no malignancies. The odd thing was, the worry over the potential findings were, in some ways, outweighed by the aggravation of how to tell friends and family and have them understand there was to be no mention of this person's situation on social media. This was not something I had thought of until this conversation happened, and then I had to admit the concern was probably valid.

I would hope posts or tweets would be left up to the person actually living through the situation, but there's always one or two who just can't seem to help themselves.

Thoughts? Discussion?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I sent emails to who I thought need to know.

 

[Bidin~Time]

Did you feel as though you had to actually ask them to keep references to you and your condition off social media, Ann?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Did you feel as though you had to actually ask them to keep references to you and your condition off social media, Ann?

They know I would kill them, so, no.

 

[Bidin~Time]

They know I would kill them, so, no.

I hope things are going as well as can be expected.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I hope things are going as well as can be expected.

I'll find out in December.

 

[snugglestruggle]

Recently, a very dear friend had to go through some extensive medical testing. Blessedly, the testing showed no malignancies. The odd thing was, the worry over the potential findings were, in some ways, outweighed by the aggravation of how to tell friends and family and have them understand there was to be no mention of this person's situation on social media. This was not something I had thought of until this conversation happened, and then I had to admit the concern was probably valid.

I would hope posts or tweets would be left up to the person actually living through the situation, but there's always one or two who just can't seem to help themselves.

Thoughts? Discussion?

I think You're hope is misplaced. The reporters were bad enough about being the first to report a breaking story. Now Social Media has turned gossip into breaking news and there's always going to be 1 or 2 looking to get the scoop out first. We're a TMZ Nation.

 

[Bidin~Time]

I think You're hope is misplaced. The reporters were bad enough about being the first to report a breaking story. Now Social Media has turned gossip into breaking news and there's always going to be 1 or 2 looking to get the scoop out first. We're a TMZ Nation.

I think I'd be in Ann's camp. They might get the scoop, but they'd nurse a broken limb when i got a hold of them.

 

[Noor]

Maybe it's an age thing or that people around me have been incidents, medical issues and dropping like flies over the past year, but no one posts stuff like that, no one has to tell anyone not to.

I have been ill since February and have had an extensive bunch of tests starting in March with more to come, most of my friends knew but no one mentioned it on FB.
I got a few pms.

The same week in February, 3 other friends got death sentences, one of them's sister posted it, one posted enough to draw conclusions-she later came out and posted about it and one hasn't said anything publicly. First one died in March, second one is miraculously hanging on but needing support for her family and the third is fading away slowly. The same week one of my siblings posted about getting burned when their SO, while in an altered state of mind, torched the bed while they slept. People answered that post, but it didn't go beyond that.

When Byron died, I did one post that he died and I was very upset and not much else on my page, on his I waited to see about others posting.
I didn't even do his @name because I wasn't sure the rest of his friends and family had been told, one later came on and said thanks, they hadn't told his brother and other friends yet.

MAT- you posted enough here for me to suspect what it was happening, but I didn't see anyone write anything.

 

[unregistered]

 

[Noor]

I did find out in August that a good friend had unexpectantly died from receiving a phone call from another friend who read it on Facebook.

In that case it was easier for their spouse to let everyone know that way.

 

[eyer]

I did find out in August that a good friend had unexpectantly died from receiving a phone call from another friend who read it on Facebook.

I did not know...

...a phone call was that contagious.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

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[Riles]

I guess I'm a definite minority here, but I don't generate or contribute to any social networking. Lit is as far as my online connection goes, and with that stems IM and email, but I would rather talk to my friends via phone, so that's typically what we do. I guess I just feel like putting updates to my life and expecting that people would be interested enough to follow along yet not pick up a phone and call is really a strange notion of friendship to me.

So, because I don't expose my life like that, I would be very troubled if someone chose to make the ongoings of my life a blurb for their friends and family.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I guess I'm a definite minority here, but I don't generate or contribute to any social networking. Lit is as far as my online connection goes, and with that stems IM and email, but I would rather talk to my friends via phone, so that's typically what we do. I guess I just feel like putting updates to my life and expecting that peo

WTF???

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Meh, Zuckerberg is scum, but he's inventive scum, hence the transformation of Facebook from a creepy little hook-up device to vast online community, much to his profit as he now pretends to be PC (which is a dumb-ass thing to feign) and "family-friendly" (even more asshattery on his part).

So, yeah, he's a jerk, albeit a creative one, so expect some creepiness to continue and various forms of stupidity.

 

[Riles]

WTF???

I know. I am on my phone and hit the submit button by accident.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I know. I am on my phone and hit the submit button by accident.

I guess they get used to you hanging up on them.

 

[Riles]

I guess they get used to you hanging up on them.

Hush. I fixed it.

 

[snugglestruggle]

I guess I'm a definite minority here, but I don't generate or contribute to any social networking. Lit is as far as my online connection goes, and with that stems IM and email, but I would rather talk to my friends via phone, so that's typically what we do. I guess I just feel like putting updates to my life and expecting that people would be interested enough to follow along yet not pick up a phone and call is really a strange notion of friendship to me.

So, because I don't expose my life like that, I would be very troubled if someone chose to make the ongoings of my life a blurb for their friends and family.

I'm +1 with this but I wouldn't be troubled by it, annoyed maybe. It's a given Paybacks a bitch I recognize some people are enamored with Social Media because they grew up with it, for others it's the "In Thing" and for others still it's another tool like the telephone . It helps when you choose Friends wisely.

 

[Sean Renaud]

Honestly I would imagine that if didn't get shared on social media that you don't actually have friends. you have people who view you as some kind of curiosity but not actual friends.

 

[Aquagal]

Last fall I was informed of two close family members dying via FB.

For one I was told he couldn't call me because his cell phone doesn't have a calling plan to call here. I laughed at how ridiculous that is.

The other death was posted publicly as the doctors and nurses were still in the room.

I still have a hard time getting past the shock of finding out this way. It wasn't a young person thing running to post either. The one who couldn't call is in his 50's, the other death announcer, she's in her 40's.

Fuck, people are stupid. And cruel.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I get a fb birthday notification from a dead person once a year. Then I feel guilty because I haven't thought about them for 11 1/2 months.

 

[Riles]

Honestly I would imagine that if didn't get shared on social media that you don't actually have friends. you have people who view you as some kind of curiosity but not actual friends.

We live in very different worlds.

My intimate circle of friends are all within a short drive. Why would I log on to read about their lives?

 

[Sean Renaud]

We live in very different worlds.

My intimate circle of friends are all within a short drive. Why would I log on to read about their lives?

So do most of mine, the better question is why would I bother with a drive to hear about something fairly minor? Granted half the time I only gloss announcements but unless you're taking me to Comic-Con with you you best not call me to tell me that shit.

But nobody on any of my social networks isn't an intimate friend who should have assumed that everybody else already knew unless I somehow specified that I called you first. It's kinda pointless to not say anything.