Not getting oral

[MarkMphsTN]

I'm 58 and I've been dating a lady for two years. She has never been married, no children. We are pretty much soulmates except in bed. She told me from the beginning she wasn't that experienced and to give her time, I think two years is time.
I consider myself to be an oral expert (don't we all?), I get into it and love nothing more than giving my partner pleasure. I've tried to learn how to make a woman have multiple orgasms and am usually very successful, I use techniques that often induce squirting, and the bad part she responds so well to it, she has multiples and could easily squirt but she stops me short and the asshole is a "no go".
When it comes to going down on me she used to a little (moreso than now) and lately its been reduced to a kiss on each side and maybe the tip in her mouth for a second and then she is done. When I ask her about she says she has no problem going down on me.
Lets get one thing straight "I serve fresh", I always make sure I'm fresh and clean.
Sure at 58 my dick has been sucked a few thousand times but damn do I really just want to give up on that part of my life (I'm in tears ladies, you can see how much that means to us guys).
Oh I may have failed to mention she has dynamite body and a great job and we are made for each other.
How do I solve this puzzle? Thanks in advance for your replies.

 

[Aphro]

I'm 58 and I've been dating a lady for two years. She has never been married, no children. We are pretty much soulmates except in bed. She told me from the beginning she wasn't that experienced and to give her time, I think two years is time.
I consider myself to be an oral expert (don't we all?), I get into it and love nothing more than giving my partner pleasure. I've tried to learn how to make a woman have multiple orgasms and am usually very successful, I use techniques that often induce squirting, and the bad part she responds so well to it, she has multiples and could easily squirt but she stops me short and the asshole is a "no go".
When it comes to going down on me she used to a little (moreso than now) and lately its been reduced to a kiss on each side and maybe the tip in her mouth for a second and then she is done. When I ask her about she says she has no problem going down on me.
Lets get one thing straight "I serve fresh", I always make sure I'm fresh and clean.
Sure at 58 my dick has been sucked a few thousand times but damn do I really just want to give up on that part of my life (I'm in tears ladies, you can see how much that means to us guys).
Oh I may have failed to mention she has dynamite body and a great job and we are made for each other.
How do I solve this puzzle? Thanks in advance for your replies.

Talk to her??? I think the only was is to tell her, straight up, how much you love it when she sucks your cock. The next time she does the thing where she puts the tip in her mouth, hold her head there (don't throat fuck her though, she'll never go down there again) and swoon and say "Oh, baby, that feels sooo gooooood! Keep going, I love your lips and tongue on me!" If she doesn't get the message and put a bit more effort in, then you will have to pick a non-sex time and point blank ask her why and try to come to some sort of happy medium. Mostly, I like to think people want to please their partners, so maybe if you tell her how much you like it, she'll be more receptive.

 

[Amberchgo]

Does she have a fav liquid? I love to suck honey off my Man's cock.

 

[KUJACK]

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I'm 58 and I've been dating a lady for two years. She has never been married, no children. We are pretty much soulmates except in bed. She told me from the beginning she wasn't that experienced and to give her time, I think two years is time.
I consider myself to be an oral expert (don't we all?), I get into it and love nothing more than giving my partner pleasure. I've tried to learn how to make a woman have multiple orgasms and am usually very successful, I use techniques that often induce squirting, and the bad part she responds so well to it, she has multiples and could easily squirt but she stops me short and the asshole is a "no go".
When it comes to going down on me she used to a little (moreso than now) and lately its been reduced to a kiss on each side and maybe the tip in her mouth for a second and then she is done. When I ask her about she says she has no problem going down on me.
Lets get one thing straight "I serve fresh", I always make sure I'm fresh and clean.
Sure at 58 my dick has been sucked a few thousand times but damn do I really just want to give up on that part of my life (I'm in tears ladies, you can see how much that means to us guys).
Oh I may have failed to mention she has dynamite body and a great job and we are made for each other.
How do I solve this puzzle? Thanks in advance for your replies.

You can't change her, but if you are loving and patient she may come around. Try to look at porn with her and suggest that she could do that to you.Good luck

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

You got to tell her you want it. Simple as that.

 

[chargergirl]

You might also try posting this in the How To forum, located here: http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6

They are great advice-givers over there!

Good luck!

 

[chargergirl]

Can you say THREAD JACKING?

You are right, my apologies to the OP.

Removing the posts now.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I have more than a little experience in the situation you describe, and I'm afraid the outlook isn't good.

I feel the key to a good relationship is communication. If the two of you haven't gotten there in two years, it may never happen. Some couples just don't have the sexual chemistry it takes.

I'm not telling you to give up, but I've been where you are, and 36 years later, I'm still there.

 

[LauraWilling]

As someone who truly enjoys orally pleasuring my man and has a lot of experience with different men over the years, I would like to suggest something no one has addressed here and it is something most men do not realize, and that is what you eat and drink can and does effect the taste of your semen. Precum, rarely has much taste, if any, but the actual semen can range from almost no taste, to a mellow almost sweet (rare), to salty (most common) to really bad almost like a mouth full of bleach! YUCK! There are quite a few different tastes depending on the man's diet or drinks and amount he has consumed. Then there is the aspect of women's taste buds. A more experienced woman will be more accepting up to the point whee it is really to salty or just plain nasty tasting. There are ways to avoid most of the taste when a man cums and it is the more experienced women who have learned this.

Now you said your lady is not experienced. There is the possibility this is the problem. I can't really know as I never gave you a BJ. LOL. If this is the case, try and stay away from alcohol and spicy foods the day when a BJ might be in the works. Also eat some pineapple, a cucumber salad with a mild dressing (no spices, remember) Eat low salt foods. All of these things can help change the taste of a man's semen.

Some women who are not experienced and maybe had an anti sex upbringing, religious or just a "sex is nasty" attitude from mothers often are turned off from giving or even receiving oral sex quite often and any excuse is all they need.

Someone mentioned "throat fucking," don't do that. That was good advice. Throat fucking is only for a more experienced fellatrix. Like me. I do hope this helps and don't take it personal as if I am saying you are not scrupulously clean, I am sure you are, but this "taste thing" is something all men have to deal with at times. I've given my husband a BJ one day and a couple of days later another and his cum tasted totally different and usually because of what he had been eating or drinking. One more thing. Stay well hydrated. Men who do not drink enough water and good liquids can at times have a very thick, sticky semen, almost lumpy at times. This crates a "texture" problem and a lot of after taste. I remember one guy that I almost felt like I had cottage cheese in my mouth and it took hours to get the taste and smell out of my mouth. It wasn't a really bad taste, but it was recognizable as semen. That is from poor hydration.