trade offs - anal sex and smoking

[quintusj58]

On our third date I was giving my gf (now my wife) a massage and started playing with her butt, just light touching and licking. After a few minutes she asked if I was just fooling about or if I had serious intent. I have a standard sized cock, six and a half inches, and said to her I didn't want to hurt her. She butted out her cigarette, reached into her bedside drawer and handed me back a tube of KY. She said her two previous lovers were both bigger than me and that it wouldn't be a problem. She was right.

Anyway, the point of the story is that we soon got serious and talked about marriage. I was at her to stop smoking and she said, OK, she'd stop smoking but the trade off was no more anal sex. This was a bit of a surprise as we'd been doing it a fair bit and I thought she was into it. Apparently not.

So the trade off was made and for more than 25 years I haven't had anal sex (with her, anyway).

Now I'm curious what other people might have traded off in order to have a long term partner.

 

[JudasIscariot]

I'd of traded her for a Pepsi pal

No offence being your wife an all but she sounds like a bitter person, you asking her to do something like stop smoking should not come at a premium for the rest of your life .

 

[quintusj58]

I'd of traded her for a Pepsi pal

No offence being your wife an all but she sounds like a bitter person, you asking her to do something like stop smoking should not come at a premium for the rest of your life .

Well, things are complex in a marriage and you've got to compromise on some things. But yeah, would have preferred that she'd traded off something else, especially since she was no stranger to a cock in the bum

 

[notnice66]

hmmmm, don't think I'd be prepared to trade off either of those things!

 

[RawHumor]

That's tough. Personally, I'd have tried to see if I could get HER to enjoy the anal (different prep methods or doing other things while I'm fucking her ass, or even have her riding a vib on her clit while I'm fucking her ass, etc.) to see if I could get her to enjoy it.

It's also possible that she had a truly bad anal experience, so now she's cold to it. Communication could help with that... maybe.

While I'd have a tough time being married to a woman who smokes, I'd also have a tough time doing something to her that I knew she was just barely tolerating. Therefore, if I had exhausted all angles to get her to enjoy it and nothing worked, then I'd call it a good trade off. If she really just hated having her ass fucked, then yeah, you each get a win.

 

[klippert]

On our third date I was giving my gf (now my wife) a massage and started playing with her butt, just light touching and licking. After a few minutes she asked if I was just fooling about or if I had serious intent. I have a standard sized cock, six and a half inches, and said to her I didn't want to hurt her. She butted out her cigarette, reached into her bedside drawer and handed me back a tube of KY. She said her two previous lovers were both bigger than me and that it wouldn't be a problem. She was right.

Anyway, the point of the story is that we soon got serious and talked about marriage. I was at her to stop smoking and she said, OK, she'd stop smoking but the trade off was no more anal sex. This was a bit of a surprise as we'd been doing it a fair bit and I thought she was into it. Apparently not.

So the trade off was made and for more than 25 years I haven't had anal sex (with her, anyway).

Now I'm curious what other people might have traded off in order to have a long term partner.

If she hasn't smoked in 25yr.. think about how much extra money you've saved, and the medical bills.