LanaTownsend
Virgin
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- Jul 14, 2014
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Hello all, I Just joined today and figured this would be an appropriate place to post this, as I don't have many IRL conversations about BDSM, lol.
I recently met a local man off a BDSM/kink site for the interest of cultivating a D/s relationship. I've had this interest for 12 years (since age 15) & have had kinky sex with sexually dominant men but I've never actually had a defined Master. I thought I was ready to finally crossover. This is where things get strange:
- He told me he wasn't able to host
- We've met twice at restaurants and I noticed he pays for our meals in cash
- He said that he would have to get a room to play and it would have to be a hotel that accepts cash
RED FLAGS, huh?
After some mild questioning, he basically told me that he was married (no ring, no tanline or indentation either). I'm still quite new to this but this doesn't feel right. Aside from fucking with a married man, the whole not being able to host and doing stuff in a hotel. Maybe the more experienced Doms can provide insight....isn't it best to have your own space? Being relegated to hotel rooms for D/s endeavors is a good way to get the cops called on you.
First and foremost, I don't feel comfortable fucking with someone's husband. I'm not sure where I'm going with this but please remember, I am still very new to the reality of actually being someone's sub. If it's supposed to be for fun and exploration, I shouldn't be having these conflicts & icky feelings. Maybe I am not ready like I thought?
Checking into hotels with cash aren't the safest anyway. If something were to happen to me, there'd be no proof of him ever checking in. He told me that he could give me cash and I could put in on my card but that's not the point anyway. It's the infidelity thing that bothers me the most. I'd have less of a problem if he appeared to be in an open marriage, but it doesn't sound like he is.
Does this sound odd to you? Am I just tripping? For the more experienced folk, does this sound like a legit Master?
Thank you for reading.
I recently met a local man off a BDSM/kink site for the interest of cultivating a D/s relationship. I've had this interest for 12 years (since age 15) & have had kinky sex with sexually dominant men but I've never actually had a defined Master. I thought I was ready to finally crossover. This is where things get strange:
- He told me he wasn't able to host
- We've met twice at restaurants and I noticed he pays for our meals in cash
- He said that he would have to get a room to play and it would have to be a hotel that accepts cash
RED FLAGS, huh?
After some mild questioning, he basically told me that he was married (no ring, no tanline or indentation either). I'm still quite new to this but this doesn't feel right. Aside from fucking with a married man, the whole not being able to host and doing stuff in a hotel. Maybe the more experienced Doms can provide insight....isn't it best to have your own space? Being relegated to hotel rooms for D/s endeavors is a good way to get the cops called on you.
First and foremost, I don't feel comfortable fucking with someone's husband. I'm not sure where I'm going with this but please remember, I am still very new to the reality of actually being someone's sub. If it's supposed to be for fun and exploration, I shouldn't be having these conflicts & icky feelings. Maybe I am not ready like I thought?
Checking into hotels with cash aren't the safest anyway. If something were to happen to me, there'd be no proof of him ever checking in. He told me that he could give me cash and I could put in on my card but that's not the point anyway. It's the infidelity thing that bothers me the most. I'd have less of a problem if he appeared to be in an open marriage, but it doesn't sound like he is.
Does this sound odd to you? Am I just tripping? For the more experienced folk, does this sound like a legit Master?
Thank you for reading.
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