Cunnilingus issue

[MayorReynolds]

I love going down on my girlfriend. It gets her off harder than anything and I like learning new ways to make her respond.

But sometimes when I'm down there and she's taking a while, my jaw and tongue start hurting. It's hard to concentrate when my whole mouth aches. I feel like I need to pull away and let the muscles rest but I know if I do that it'll kill her whole orgasm. What's the best to avoid the pain, and if that's not possible, deal with it?

 

[EbonyBelle]

Use your fingers for a wile to give yourself a rest. Also talk to her about it, word it wisely and she'll understand.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Yep! Finger her while you concentrate your oral efforts on her clit. Work with her to find her Gspot, you'll really send her over the edge.

 

[_Apocalypse_]

Practice too - you'll get used to it in time. It's kinda stressful on the jaw muscles so they need to be worked.

 

[Hypoxia]

Might be an angle / elevation problem. We lie mostly flat, sometimes with an under-butt pillow, and mouth parts never hurt. Face-sitting in either direction doesn't hurt either, except the sitter's knees and thighs eventually.

Suggestion: More foreplay first. Such usually promotes faster & louder screaming.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

Someone recommended a technique to me that sounds rather stupid, but actually works quite well. When your mouth gets tired, stick your tongue out and clamp it between your teeth. The rest of your mouth can then relax while you use your tongue like a paintbrush to carry on with what you were doing before. Once you've had a rest, unclamp your teeth and get back to it.

 

[Athalia]

During my dental checkups and cleanings, my jaw muscles would cramp horribly. The hygienist told me to take some ibuprofin about two hours before the appointment. I've done so, and it's helped a lot to keep the cramping down.

It might work for you...

 

[Emerson40]

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Using your fingers has been mentioned a few times, and is great advice. If this is new, uncharted territory for you, get some input from her. Ask her what (or have her show you) works for her, and get her feedback - both by her words, AND by her reaction to your actions - and adjust accordingly.

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Another thing is to mix things up a bit down there.
1) Lick, suck, and digitally explore the entire area. There are a zillion nerve endings all over the place down there, and you don't want to just focus on a steady fingerbang and tongue flick on the clit.
2) Don't just do one, repetitive thing with your tongue. This could be what is giving you the jaw aches. Change it up. Use your lips, try different things with your tongue, try different positions, play with her B-hole, angle / curve your fingerbangin' fingers differently, etc. I saw someone mention once on these boards that they recite the alphabet while dining at the Y. I doubt you will get kicked out of the sheets for trying some new things.


Check out this site for some other tips and ideas.

 

[SunDevilGirl]

Yes, use your fingers...but don't wait until your jaw is aching to start. Mix things up from the beginning.

 

[a75]

Practice, practice, practice... The tongue contains muscles; the more you firm them up, the stronger they become.

Tip: Use the tip and the central part of your tongue successively, not simultaneously. When you use the former, you' ll be resting the latter and vice versa.

 

[MayorReynolds]

Thanks, everybody. I'll take all these into consideration. The CG sex ed pic is also an interesting piece of art as well as strangely hot, so I'm going to be downloading that.

 

[Cumference]

You could get "The low down on going down".

It has lots of exercises that will be of great use for you.


Be aware of ergonomics.
If you are going to lick for a long time, make sure that you are comfortable.

Put her lengthwise on the dining table on her back (lay the table with something soft), you sit in a chair at the end of the table, place her feet on the armrests and munch away.

 

[Sugartitties]

Consider adding a vibrator to the mix while you are "down there". It will help keep the intensity at a higher level and it will enable you to rest your mouth some. When she is about to climax, add your mouth back into the mix and push her over the edge.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

Incidentally, I've just remembered where I read the tip I gave above. It was in Vice's guide to giving oral. Have a quick Google for it - there's one for both men and women, and each is full of useful advice.

 

[naomirubybaby]

Use your fingers and rest a bit. Aslo ask for directions that way your not wasting your time doing something thats nice but not getting to the point.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

cunilingus is incomplete without anilingus simultaneously.

 

[Cumference]

cunilingus is incomplete without anilingus simultaneously.

Ah! Pale face is speaking with two tongues!

(Or has a buddy helping him?)

 

[_Anonymous_]

Suggestion: More foreplay first. Such usually promotes faster & louder screaming.

This 100%

Boom! Hit the nail right on the head.

 

[JeffVal1989]

I used to lay on my stomach which caused my neck to strain up somewhat and also had the same problems with my mouth. I know lay on my side, and place one of her legs over my body. Having my head to the side takes pressure off my neck and mouth, which allows me stay there much longer. She is pleased with the results and prolonged attention. Have to agree with many here, adding fingers to the mix works well. Light anal stimulation really gets her her going. On special occasions I will stimulate the G spot and prostate at the same time, be careful though as it is quite intense. (I think she started speaking in Latin, not sure)

 

[StrayKat]

On special occasions I will stimulate the G spot and prostate at the same time

Women dont have prostate.

 

[Emerson40]

Women dont have prostate.

I don't think he said it was hers.

 

[JeffVal1989]

Women dont have prostate.

Thanks for straightening me out Kat! I just know my finger was pretty far up her ass,and she liked it.

 

[Mr.G]

ADVICE from an ol'fart

Thanks for straightening me out Kat! I just know my finger was pretty far up her ass,and she liked it.

NO. Women do NOT have a prostate but they do have G and A spots in their vaginas and those spots CAN be stimulated through the rectal wall too.

Many women can and DO orgasm from anal sex. The reason for this is if the angle is right the erection is hitting their
A-Spot from the "other" angle. Many of the women who do cum this way think it is really weird and feel guilty because they are orgasming from this so-called perversion.

Don't forget that the lower intestine is NOT engineered for vigorous probing so be CAREFUL and make sure you have no jagged fingernails.

WRAP your HEADS (pun intended) around THIS.

GREAT ORAL ADVICE

I think it an exercise in futility for me to think I can tell you or teach you (well, with words only) how to eat pussy. I can share with you my experience and what I have found works for me, and you are free to adopt any of my techniques or experiment and see what works.

The only general guideline I offer is that there is no right or wrong way to eat her out. It is my experience that each woman is very different in her preferences and anatomy, and the effort you put into oral sex for your lady is really the time and diligence you put into it to find out what works—and what does not. Pay attention to her feedback. That can be VERY hard if you hardly know each other or you are incredibly aroused but try. It will pay off in the end.

Being able to openly talk to your woman before, during and after the grand event is very helpful, but sometimes they are not your best guide either from shyness or inexperience.

I think the right attitude is the best skill you can possess in eating her. First, see this as a selfless act designed to bring pleasure to your woman. Do your job right, and the payback can be pleasure of untold proportions. Remember, this is not just a warm up for you to fuck her (except when it is) or something that you do because it is expected. You need to have the mind set that you are going to do whatever it takes to provide her a high quality orgasm using only your mouth, tongue and maybe fingers. And you do this because...well... it is just incredibly fucking hot for you, too.

In short, I believe the right mind set is something along the lines of "Eating PUSSY is its own reward."

Second, you have to really love her cunt in its entirety. The way it looks, smells and tastes as well as feels when you are fucking. Each woman has a different smell and taste. Some have a heavy scent and taste, others are light. It doesn't matter as they have as much control over this as you do the size of your dick The point is you need to "take it as it comes" (to pardon the pun) and remember that ALL of her is amazing. Amazing not only for the pleasure it can afford you as a means of intercourse, but in its very existence. The CLIT is the center of a woman's sexuality, but not the single place where it resides. However, each woman's vagina is a marvel to behold and something to treasure and that attitude makes it easy to become acknowledged as a master of your skill.

We all have a preference in the smell and taste. But again, other than simple hygiene, your woman has zero control over any of that. Let her know you adore how she smells, how she tastes and how beautiful you think her cunt looks. Hopefully a genuine sense of awe is your mind set. I let her know I want her to "mark" me with her juices, that I want her smell on my face, fingers, neck and cock I will tell her I really need her to abandon herself to my mouth and dance on the tip of my tongue in her erotic dance of pleasure. To use the common vernacular, I urge you to let her know you "get it."

As for the mechanics, there really is no right or wrong way—there is just what works for her. There is no one secret, special technique that, once understood and mastered, will make you THE PUSSY eating champ for all women. However, there are techniques that work for her and that can make you HER world champion TWAT eater. And the joy is in the journey and discovery. Truly, a labor love.

Ok, here is how I do it, and take from it what ever you wish. I begin by whispering in her ear that I simply must taste her—that my need to go down on her is strong. Then I take a bit of time to see what I have to work with. Is she dripping wet in urgent need of release? Is she not wet at all and needing the proper time and attention to coax an orgasm out of her?

I begin by just lightly licking the entire vagina. I explore lightly with my tongue, and savior her taste. I take a few very deep breaths to let her know I like what I have found—that simple act alone, letting her hear you breathing her in deeply and robustly, is a great way to set the stage. Then I pay attention to her clit. Does she have a huge clit that is readily exposed? Does she have small clit that is hidden deeply behind the folds of her hood? I find the location and condition of her clit, but leave it alone for the time being. I lick her slit from stem to stern repeatedly, gently suck her clit into my mouth, and trace the lines of her pussy lips with the tip of my tongue. I pay attention to how she reacts, and if find something that is really working, I keep doing that until it is time to move on to something else. React to what she loves verbally or hand movements. DO THAT. Stop. DO something else. Go back and DO THAT some more. TEASE!!

That something else is usually the beginning stages of eating her. I never directly stimulate her clit, unless I know this is what works for her. Some women need direct and continual clit stimulation at the outset, but my experience is that most do not. Using the first third of my tongue, I lap the top third of her vagina and alternate in sort of lightly tracing her clit or the hood and her vaginal lips.

I also make a point to gently use the tip of my finger to trace and rub the lips, usually taking the time to tell her something hot and nasty, or sweet and loving. But I will for sure tell her that I love the way she smells and tastes—and I tell her that every time.

A note; some women are super sensitive at first and cannot tolerate any firm stimulation of the clit—these are women who, in my mind, I need to "work up" to the point of tolerating/needing firm clit stimulation. Other women want a firm tongue lashing of their clit, and from the beginning are in desperate need of rapid and hard attention from my tongue. Pay attention because you want to get this right. You may find women who use a vibrator a LOT need much more direct and strong clit contact. You'll be able to tell quickly which one she is if you are just starting a relationship.

Once she is good and wet from her own juices and my saliva, I will pick up the pace of my lapping and licking and increase the pressure on her clit—one way to look at this is taking the intensity of my actions up a notch while paying close attention that I am not over or under stimulating.

Then I stick one of my own fingers in my mouth and wet it in preparation of inserting it into her vagina. It is my experience that nothing can be more of a momentary "buzz kill" for a woman than the sudden introduction of a dry finger. Another good way to do this is to let her suck and wet a finger or two for you. There is a psychological factor when you let/make her lube your finger because she knows where its going in a minute! Then I go back to actively eating her and gently slip a finger inside her.

This NOT something to do the first time you eat her (this is for newbies) but for experienced lovers who want to spice up a good session of eating her from GREAT to UTTERLY MIND BLOwWING. Finger fucking is not the best use of my digit. As she is on her back that finger needs to crook to the TOP of her vagina like you're trying to point to the ceiling. RUB, POKE, TAP as you eat her. You may want to slip one or two more fingers in and continue. The G-SPOT needs a lot of pressure to be stimulated properly. If she has never experience a G-GASM before she will probably start to feel a little freaked out with the onset of a new sensation. She may say she needs to pee. If she's gone to the can prior to this session she is feeling the swelling which she is mistaking for a full bladder feel. Ignore this. Keep going.

At this point I know I need to be focused but flexible. SOme women FREEZE others will buck and thrash with increasing intensity as she builds. She might push my face into her pussy, or hold my head and grind her hips into my face, or wrap her feet around my upper torso. But then she might also simply wail and scream...or whisper and make small noises of pleasure. She MAY begin to speak in tongues or grunt like a wild animal. Roll with what SHE is feeling.
Find a rhythm. Try to build BOTH the ORAL stimulation and G-SPOT stimulation at the same time although I have found when she is THAT close to cuming from your tongue lashing OR the G-SPot stimulation whichever way she begins to orgasm first will trigger the other orgams at the same time!

A woman once told me that when she came with me licking her clit AND rubbing her G spot it felt like an "internal and external orgasm, while it just feels external and more intense when you use only your tongue." MOST women love to be eaten. It is VERY intimate and the orgasm is almost guaranteed. Combine this with a G-GASM and it is often described as almost "out of body" experience. Like touching the face of GOD. If you LOVE your woman just imagine how good it'll feel to make her feel like that.

Anyway, discuss it with your woman. Give her both types and see what thinks of each climax and if she feels a difference. Variety is the spice of life so don't do BOTH every night. Vary everything. If you've been together for a while you can tell just by her taste what her mood will likely be. Does she want it slow and loving or "POUND ME AND MAKE ME SCREAM!!!" I believe based on their hormone fluctuations their orgasms can be hugely different. PAY ATTENTION to what feedback you're getting and act accordingly. With the G-SPOT stimulation you can easily give her more orgasms than she can handle EVERY NIGHT. Do not abuse or scare her doing this. She will have NO control once you get that going. If you scare her she may never allow you to do it again.

As this was a thread about eating I'll elaborate a bit on the differences. If you EAT her she will (99% of the time) orgasm and that will be anywhere from "Ah that was nice." to a mind blowing thrashing orgasm that leaves her breathless. Here's where the difference comes in. After she has come from a tongue lashing on her clit, her clit will become SUPER SENSITIVE so LEAVE that alone. Some women will smack you in the head if you so much as LOOK at their clit after a big O. NOT SO the G-SPOT. Wait 30 SECONDS after she has stopped orgasming and then WITHOUT TOUCHING HER CLIT keep poking or rubbing her G-SPOT. She will orgasm AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN. The G-SPOT is NOT built like the clit. Keep poking that area and she will continue to cum - hard.

When you feel it is time to stop the after-glow time is VERY important. Even if you have a plane to catch take a few minutes to maybe give her another slow gentle orgasm using your tongue again. Thighs, tummy and titties all need attention now. Make her feel LOVED and ADORED not just a quick fuck or a G-SPOT experiment. Don't forget these acts will flood her brain with OXYTOCIN and that will happen every time you do this. The more oxytocin is produced the more sex she will want.

Enjoy. Please share this RESEARCH.

 

[RicoLouis]

Women dont have prostate.

No but they have a Perineal Sponge. : )