For Love of Sex

[AMoveableBeast]

“I wasn't in love with her. And she didn't love me. For me the question of love was irrelevant. What I sought was the sense of being tossed about by some raging, savage force, in the midst of which lay something absolutely crucial. I had no idea what that was. But I wanted to thrust my hand right inside her body and touch it, whatever it was.”― Haruki Murakami


“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.” ― Hunter S. Thompson

I find that on particular days, I am drawn to erotica featuring great, pulling loves, grand copulation with meaning and romance. Like an old black-and-white movie, except the camera doesn't stop rolling at the final kiss.

At other times, I want stories that want nothing of love. I want cupid strapped to a chair in the corner, wide-eyed and horrified by the scene on the bed. I want writhing for the sake of it, moisture and need, release as a religion, greed as a goal.

How about you? Do you like love in your sex? Sex in your love? Punctuated fucking?

 

[patientlee]

Yes.

 

[AMoveableBeast]

Yes.

I know all about you, lunch-hour.

I wonder if you are the most avid reader on Lit? You should be our mascot. You're a cyber-treasure.

 

[patientlee]

I know all about you, lunch-hour.

I wonder if you are the most avid reader on Lit? You should be our mascot. You're a cyber-treasure.

Who? Me? I have no idea what you're talking about!

(Smart phone=Best Invention EVER)

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Showing once again, that HST was one of the most overrated and silly dingbats in modern history.

And I didn't say 'writer.'

Jerzy Kosinsky was a writer - well, partly a writer and sometimes a plagiarist (unlike Thompson) and fuck did they hate JK for it. I mean for actually being a legitimate writer sometimes, that is.

I respect people who are clever enough, perhaps even wise enough, to be able to objectify and to be personally and individually ego-distant enough from the/their body/ies sufficiently to be able to engage in sex in a totally sex-focussed way.

Such people rare, and not at all like the popularly-imagined promiscuous 'slut' whether male or female.

I do not place love higher than sex, and I regard them as separate and different things almost entirely. I think people make a common mistake of defining love as the force (or the only force) that creates a strong commitment - and therefore they deprecate sex. And that mentality is outwardly reflected by society too. Consequently I don't think we can say the human race as it stands today, is an advanced civilisation.

 

[sr71plt]

Pretty clear with me. With women I wanted an element of love with the sex. With men, just the sex.

 

[Aynmair]

I want passion with my sex. Sometimes that means it's tinged with a wee bit of "hate," as in make-up sex… It's been a long time since I've had sex just for the sake and/or glory of sex. Can't remember what it feels like, to tell the truth… What a female thing to say, eh? And how sexist of me, too.

 

[AMoveableBeast]

Pretty clear with me. With women I wanted an element of love with the sex. With men, just the sex.

I find this response very interesting. Does this affect your reading habits, also?

 

[AMoveableBeast]

I want passion with my sex. Sometimes that means it's tinged with a wee bit of "hate," as in make-up sex… It's been a long time since I've had sex just for the sake and/or glory of sex. Can't remember what it feels like, to tell the truth… What a female thing to say, eh? And how sexist of me, too.

I've found sex-arguments to be even better than make-up sex. My girlfriend and I try to have every disagreement while having intercourse. You'd be amazed at how quickly you find resolution that way. And if the fight happens to drag on, even better.

 

[Amberchgo]

It's "sex". What's not to love?

 

[allamagione]

If I wanted love, I'd read Harlequin Romance.

When I read erotica, I tend to favor dysfunctional relationships and moral ambiguity and a teeming mess of internal conflict.

And casual sex, and hate sex, and rough sex, and dirty sex, and revenge sex, and sex sex sex sex sex...

 

[Aynmair]

I've found sex-arguments to be even better than make-up sex. My girlfriend and I try to have every disagreement while having intercourse. You'd be amazed at how quickly you find resolution that way. And if the fight happens to drag on, even better.

Great tip, I'll have to try it. Just one thing… how do you argue with your mouth full?

 

[Swilly]

Yes.

Damn you. That was exactly what popped into my head!

 

[SikFuk]

I prefer sex as a sickness. It can exist with or without love. Imagine a drug addict craving his/her next fix. They'll do anything to get it.

 

[TxRad]

Great tip, I'll have to try it. Just one thing… how do you argue with your mouth full?

Just nod your head vigorously. You'll win the argument every time.

 

[Aynmair]

Just nod your head vigorously. You'll win the argument every time.

I'll have to practice; I hear practice makes perfect!
(reading your Out of the Night story "as we speak")

 

[sr71plt]

I find this response very interesting. Does this affect your reading habits, also?

It definite affects my writing habits. I do little reading (of erotica), and I really started writing GM because most of what I was reading was on a different planet from the GM world I lived in.

 

[TxRad]

I'll have to practice; I hear practice makes perfect!
(reading your Out of the Night story "as we speak")

I hope you enjoy it. It is a little different.

 

[Hypoxia]

Sex without love -- may be adequate, if enthusiastic enough
Sex without passion -- probably boring
Love without sex -- likely tortuous
Love without passion -- curious
Life without sex -- why bother?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

My mom usta say YOU CAN ALWAYS GET PUSSY WHEN YOU GOT NOTHING ELSE BETTER TO DO. Its true.

 

[StrangeLife]

"A birthday without cake is as hollow and ridiculous as eating cake without having a birthday." - Strange S. Life

 

[VenusButterflies]

“I wasn't in love with her. And she didn't love me. For me the question of love was irrelevant. What I sought was the sense of being tossed about by some raging, savage force, in the midst of which lay something absolutely crucial. I had no idea what that was. But I wanted to thrust my hand right inside her body and touch it, whatever it was.”― Haruki Murakami


“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.” ― Hunter S. Thompson

I find that on particular days, I am drawn to erotica featuring great, pulling loves, grand copulation with meaning and romance. Like an old black-and-white movie, except the camera doesn't stop rolling at the final kiss.

At other times, I want stories that want nothing of love. I want cupid strapped to a chair in the corner, wide-eyed and horrified by the scene on the bed. I want writhing for the sake of it, moisture and need, release as a religion, greed as a goal.

How about you? Do you like love in your sex? Sex in your love? Punctuated fucking?

All of it, as long as there's passion. If there's no passion, no form of suffering or yearning, and consequently no need for release from that suffering then...yawn.

 

[Gunnlaug]

"A birthday without cake is as hollow and ridiculous as eating cake without having a birthday." - Strange S. Life

But it's always someone's birthday...

 

[AMoveableBeast]

"A birthday without cake is as hollow and ridiculous as eating cake without having a birthday." - Strange S. Life

Cake is like sex. Even when it's bad, it's moist.

Wait...

 

[patientlee]

Cake is like sex. Even when it's bad, it's moist.

Wait...

You've obviously never had a cake I've baked.