Boring job... studying for exams… help me break the mental monotony, PLEASE…

[erotica_n_s]

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Yeah, I’m preparing for exams… well actually it’s a bit more complicated than that – I’ve got to go through a programme of training, and a long series of professional assessments…

It’s a mind-numbingly boring process.

I’m socially isolated. No friends.
No events to go to.
Occasionally I do go to coffee shops. Not much else.
Can’t “relate” to my work colleagues…
I’m not on any social networks these days.
I do spend some time playing chess online.

The monotony is unbearable (I mean - the chess is okay, but the overall situation is painfully monotonous.

I just feel, if there was some way to break the monotony, my work rate would improve hugely...

I’d be grateful if you’ve got any suggestions on how to break the monotony.

• If you’ve got any jokes?
• If you’ve read any interesting news articles?
• If you care to share your own professional experiences?
• Anything interesting you read anywhere on the internet?

I’d like this to be an “ongoing” thread – carry on for weeks/months, where people share something that made them smile/broke the monotony of their day…

It would be nice to have this thread as a place to “visit” now and again, e.g. I might do an hour or two of studying, then “drop in” here to see what folks are talking about, etc…


Maybe in a few months’ time, when this is over, I can go out there and find something to develop a proper “work/life balance”… yeah, I understand that…

But I’ve got to get through this for now…


Your thoughts/contributions would be most welcome, folks…





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[Bert_Fegg]

Kings pawn to king 4

 

[silverwhisper]

i'm confused how one has no friends, i'll confess. i'm also curious re: why you don't seem to relate to your professional colleagues. you sound like a classic introvert based upon the foregoing, although most introverts generally have a few very close friends.

after spending most of my career in very different positions & industries, i'm quite enjoying my job as a corporate in-house recruiter. i'm somewhat of an extrovert so i actually like getting to know new people, finding what commonalities or shared interests may exist.

i think you might benefit from a spotlight thread, if you're looking to get to know people.

ed

 

[Eilan]

i'm confused how one has no friends, i'll confess.

My oldest child has no friends. She has autism, though, so there's that, but she does socialize reasonably well with people if someone, usually me or her next-youngest sister, is there as a social buffer.

 

[erotica_n_s]

This one made me smile...

 

[GiggLeGasm]

http://www.trekp.com/chess/throw.gif

 

[Hypoxia]

How to relieve boredom:

1) Do something.
2) Do something else.
3) Do somebody. Or a dog.
4) Practice a musical instrument.
5) Get on the fucking computer and write.

How to stimulate boredom:

1-5) Same as above.

 

[StrayKat]

i'm confused how one has no friends

I am confused how extrovert thinks he can understand anything about introverts.
People keep telling me my whole life how I need people. Well, I dont, and I mean it. I have internet and that is all I need people wise in my life. I would be totally happy living on a lonely island or on top of some mountain with cats, dogs and horses. If I had internet of course

But then I am never really bored unless I am anxious and then its not really boredom more restlessness preventing me to do my "fun stuff". I get excited over smallest things like pretty rock or a weird looking cloud. I do tons of DIY projects most of which I can buy for very little cash but I enjoy making things with my own hands. I daydream. I decorate my imagined home. I play video games. I try new recipes and I never stick to the letter so I always make something different out of them. I make web pages I never publish. I started a course on 3D rendering and animation because I want to make my own video game (even tho I will probably never do it but its a nice dream). I play with my cat. I sew and knit and crotchet. I rearrange furniture and order in my closets. I have a full fantasy book in my head, only I havent started writing it yet, but I love adding new chapters. I make pretty graphics in Poser and Photoshop none but my husband ever saw (and I was horrified when he wanted me to publish them).

As you see, there is hardly any room for "friends" in my life. And I know that pushing your own ideas doesnt work on somebody else. I cant advise OP to do all the things I do because we are all different and have our own different interests.
So I have no answer for OP but "its up to you to find out what would make you less bored".

 

[silverwhisper]

straykat quoth:
i am confused how extrovert thinks he can understand anything about introverts.

that's cuz i used to be one. i used to be the one looking not to be a focal point. and then i realized that was a choice i was making, and i didn't have to keep making it. and the simple truth is that introversion in every person i've ever met has been about fear, and nothing more.

that may not be your truth, straykat, and i'm not saying that it ever would be.

but some folks can change, if that's a priority for them. and given the OP, it sounds to me like she isn't satisfied with remaining one.

ed

 

[StrayKat]

that's cuz i used to be one. i used to be the one looking not to be a focal point. and then i realized that was a choice i was making, and i didn't have to keep making it. and the simple truth is that introversion in every person i've ever met has been about fear, and nothing more.

that may not be your truth, straykat, and i'm not saying that it ever would be.

but some folks can change, if that's a priority for them. and given the OP, it sounds to me like she isn't satisfied with remaining one.

ed

I cannot say from any other point of view but my own and for me you are wrong. I dont feel fear, I feel boredom and I get annoyed with people.
I have no problem with being social and attending meetings. I had public performances since I was young, I used to play piano and dance. I worked as a boss on pretty demanding jobs and I have no problem ordering people around. I had a public exhibitions of my paintings and a several newspaper interviews. I even worked as PR for a while.

The point is - I can do it, but I honestly dont care about it. Its not my thing. I much rather sit home alone, do stuff on PC and take care of my garden.

 

[silverwhisper]

straykat quoth:
and for me you are wrong. i dont feel fear, i feel boredom and i get annoyed with people.

yes, i understand that not everyone feels the same way, kat. that's why i said as much.

i'm not sure i'd characterize your views as introversion as something else--but that's not what the OP was talking about so no point going into it.

ed

 

[erotica_n_s]

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This made me smile: "21 really annoying Facebook friends we all have"

 

[All_4_Love]

that's cuz i used to be one. i used to be the one looking not to be a focal point. and then i realized that was a choice i was making, and i didn't have to keep making it. and the simple truth is that introversion in every person i've ever met has been about fear, and nothing more.

that may not be your truth, straykat, and i'm not saying that it ever would be.

but some folks can change, if that's a priority for them. and given the OP, it sounds to me like she isn't satisfied with remaining one.

ed

Introversion is not something that we can change. Studies have shown that it is hardwired into the brain. I've dealt with this exact attitude/belief from extroverts my entire life.

Introversion is not fear based. Social anxiety is fear based. That is something totally different.

Introversion quite simply just means that we "lose" energy when we socialize and are around people; thus, we spend more time alone to recharge. It doesn't mean we can't socialize or that we can't extrovert; we just prefer to do it less often.

Please pardon the thread jack.

Jogging/walking is a wonderful way to cure boredom, aside from the other benefits, especially if you're an introvert. Being one with nature is an excellent way to recharge and break the monotony.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Introversion isn't about fear. Introversion is about stupid, boring, agenda driven companions and colleagues. We prefer solitude to your lameness. Example: When I worked Thursday night was our communion night, and every occasion we sampled new cuisine or new menus. Then Kim was hired, and she only ate corn and meat patties. No Chinese, no Mexican, just niblets and meat and green beans. And our supervisor let Kim dominate the fare selection. Hell! I like Bob Evans as much as the next guy but not all the time.

 

[erotica_n_s]

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Okay, a newspaper article I looked at:

"The Manchester Look Comes to London"

Yeah, if you've got any other interesting articles... share links...



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[OTCurve]

I would suggest possibly looking at an online game, where you can interact with others depending on your schedule.

There are thousands of good books to read, far less good movies to watch, and as someone suggested, nothing beats a good walk for some fresh air and time to reflect. As long as you don't focus on what it was that drove you to take a break, these should work at least a little.

I wish I were more outgoing, but I do not do well with crowds, nor one on one to be honest. I have a different viewpoint than most I suppose, and as a result I find a lot of people...disappointing.

Best of luck in your search for distraction.

 

[Hypoxia]

Well, if nothing else, there's always sex, right? Right?

 

[erotica_n_s]

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......Good film, I hear.

......Perhaps film buffs would like to watch the film, and offer their own opinions...?





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[erotica_n_s]

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......I'd definitely suggest folks should read this article: "My big fail: losers come clean on their all-time low".




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[Iceprincess12]

One of my favorite blonde jokes (just because I can't find the joke thread)

A blonde goes into a nearby store and asks a clerk if she can buy the TV in the corner. The clerk looks at her and says that he doesn't serve blondes, so she goes back home and dyes her hair black. The next day she returns to the store and asks the same thing, and again, the clerk said he doesn't serve blondes. Frustrated, the blonde goes home and dyes her hair yet again, to a shade of red. Sure that a clerk would sell her the TV this time, she returns and asks a different clerk this time. To her astonishment, this clerk also says that she doesn't serve blondes. The blonde asks the clerk, "How in the world do you know I am a blonde?" The clerk looks at her disgustedly and says,"That's not a TV, it's a microwave!"

 

[Hypoxia]

The clerk looks at her disgustedly and says,"That's not a TV, it's a microwave!"

That reminds me very little of the guy who complained that the TV reception sucked. His wife told him, "That's because you're watching the clothes washer."

 

[Iceprincess12]

I haven't heard that joke before. I miss the joke thread

Hopefully this student is getting some entertainment though.