Old male friend, bad. Young male friend, good.

[Aquagal]

Why do I get the feeling that your #2 guy is setting you up for some MFM threesomes? He seems too nice.

 

[Christopher2012]

Why do I get the feeling that your #2 guy is setting you up for some MFM threesomes? He seems too nice.

Uhhh... I promise you that that is not what's happening. I'm telling ya man, this guy's girlfriend of six years has one of the best bodies I have ever seen. His female friends are out-of-this-world, actress-quality hot. They are the girls who you just have to pretend don't exist hot. And I think this guy is just trying to help me out and knows that I'm not as fortunate genetically.

 

[Christopher2012]

You're just going to have to start being rude. Like, really rude. As in, please leave me alone or I will have to call the police and have you removed from my store kind of rude.

He has not taken the hint, and he is harassing you.

If you were a woman being harassed by a man, then you would have gone Defcon 5 on him already. Because your a guy, and he's a guy, you don't want to seem like a wuss...but this is sexual harassment. I know you can't risk your job by punching him in the face, but, he is not your friend. Get rid, now. If your supervisors will not help you, then involve the law and get a restraining order against him. Show them the letter.

Well I can't go Defcon 5 but I can be stern and I think I will. I think I'm going to take him aside and tell him "Look, this is your one and final warning. You have gone far beyond inappropriate and you make me feel incredibly uncomfortable. This is your last chance before I pursue other methods of preventing this from escalating further."

By the way, nice avatar. And you're not a chick I would dare fuck with because I don't want to die. But yeah, still... Nice av.

Back to the Battlefield (BF4)

 

[fire_breeze]

You're right. As much as I want to pull this guy aside and tell him to get lost, I definitely don't need to have documented proof for my boss to fire me. After reading the note again, I just get infuriated. He actually says in the letter that he would "bet money" that I was gay because of how nice I am, how considerate I am, etc. i just want to tell him, "Motherfucker, that's called my fucking job!" It's my job to be those things. And I have social anxiety, so I act weird with hand gestures and looking around when talking to people. Man, I just get so mad thinking about it.

As far as the question about my sexuality, let me make this very clear, I do not find men attractive. I only desire women. I have never looked at a man and felt any kind of romantic and/or sexual desire. I am straight.

I seriously need to get a girlfriend... I need a woman. I need the vag.

Your sexuality was never questioned. You cannot even begin to understand what goes on in that individual's head. He got it in his brain that you are interested (and yes, we know that you are not) by misinterpreting a sign - a smile, a kind word, in other words, by doing your job. He then created a fantasy around you.

It's sick, it's twisted, and my heart truly goes out to you, because it can make your life very very uncomfortable.

Do not give him any fodder whatsoever. Be polite, be firm, be completely neutral. Do not give him any fodder whatsoever. Do not explain that you are straight. Even if you are gay, you have every right to work in a harassment free environment.

And also, remember to document every signal instance. If your district manager is on-board, then this can help you. A lot.

Good luck.

I think LadyVer has hit it right on the head. You should also tell this guy that he is sexually harassing you and he needs to stop and leave you alone. He is not to come into the store to talk to you. IF he does come in to the Pharmacy and needs to talk to someone, to speak to someone else. You may want to call the police and let them know in case this man has done this to others in the past. He may have an established pattern already!

Actually, by confronting him it might provoke him further. While I do agree with perhaps contacting the police, as Christopher did tell him to stop, we don't know what sort of mental state the guy is in. Christopher needs to protect himself, and that means not aggravating the guy (even though everyone wants to take a swing at him).

Plus, working in an industry that serves the public, Christopher is in a vulnerable position insofar that the guy can turn around and claim that Christopher was harassing him, etc. Right now, in my experience and what I was told by both HR and by the police was to document everything and to be absolutely beyond reproach.

 

[DualShock_4]

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[Christopher2012]

Yeah... You're right. And my supervisor is a super bitch. She freakin throws a fit when I do the smallest shit that causes a customer complaint even if I'm right and the patient is trying something illegal.

My techs are worried about Valentine's Day. They told me that I might get a "gift" on Feb 14. It might not seem like a big deal, but I honestly see myself blowing the fuck up, regardless of potentially losing my job. It's somewhat of a funny joke but I cannot see myself accepting something like flowers on a day dedicated to romantic love. I've never really been mad at somebody like this. I feel somewhat cornered. Eh... Fucking sucks.

But again, thanks for the advice and best wishes.

 

[Que]

If you dont take up guy II on his offer, go guy I...because if you dont you ARE gay and just don't know it.

So you feel you have to be polite to a gay guy making unwelcome sexual advances, but you have no problem blowing off a sorely needed wingman since we already know you are clueless with women...

And you want serious advice?

You never take advice, but FWIW...the gay guy has issues..and it isn't that he's gay that is the problem..its that he wants unavailable men...

same deal as girls that pine for married guys.

 

[Christopher2012]

If you dont take up guy II on his offer, go guy I...because if you dont you ARE gay and just don't know it.

So you feel you have to be polite to a gay guy making unwelcome sexual advances, but you have no problem blowing off a sorely needed wingman since we already know you are clueless with women...

And you want serious advice?

You never take advice, but FWIW...the gay guy has issues..and it isn't that he's gay that is the problem..its that he wants unavailable men...

same deal as girls that pine for married guys.

WOW dude, fuck you! Here. So you don't have to see me ignore advice.

Ignored. First person I've ignored since I joined. Take it as a badge of fucking honor.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Being a notorious flaming asshole, I never had your problem as no one would ever believe I'd sexually harass anyone. I got so many complaints of rudeness it was like having GPS. I WANT JOHNSONS SUPERVISOR NOW! Like: SON! STICK THAT FUCKING SNAKE IN HER FACE ONE MORE TIME (my trainee) AND TWO THINGS ARE GONNA HAPPEN, YOURE GONNA NEED A NEW SNAKE, AND SHE'S GONNA CALL THE ABUSE HOTLINE ON ME.

 

[NightL]

Me me me me me - well no surprise there

 

[boutrosboutros]

You should write for a living. I don't mean that at all facetiously. I love how you express yourself. It's hilarious.

I don't particularly have any advice (and this may sound like a gay thing to say, but I assure you I'm entirely straight) but is it possible that you are totally unjustifiably insecure about yourself? You have a guy throwing himself at you and a stereotypically 'cool' guy who wants to be your friend and hang out...if nothing else, this should all make you feel good about yourself.

 

[Loverskitten]

Yeah... You're right. And my supervisor is a super bitch. She freakin throws a fit when I do the smallest shit that causes a customer complaint even if I'm right and the patient is trying something illegal.

My techs are worried about Valentine's Day. They told me that I might get a "gift" on Feb 14. It might not seem like a big deal, but I honestly see myself blowing the fuck up, regardless of potentially losing my job. It's somewhat of a funny joke but I cannot see myself accepting something like flowers on a day dedicated to romantic love. I've never really been mad at somebody like this. I feel somewhat cornered. Eh... Fucking sucks.

But again, thanks for the advice and best wishes.

Have you sat down with your supervisor and told her how uncomfortable his advances are making you? That you are trying to be polite but are feeling sexually harassed?
I'd start there.

 

[Christopher2012]

You should write for a living. I don't mean that at all facetiously. I love how you express yourself. It's hilarious.

I don't particularly have any advice (and this may sound like a gay thing to say, but I assure you I'm entirely straight) but is it possible that you are totally unjustifiably insecure about yourself? You have a guy throwing himself at you and a stereotypically 'cool' guy who wants to be your friend and hang out...if nothing else, this should all make you feel good about yourself.

I guess I'll take that as a compliment. It would take years of reading and practice. My vocabulary is limited and I cannot form paragraphs to save my life. Not to mention, my attention span is limited. I've tried to write before. Didn't work.

And the old dude definitely does NOT make me feel better about myself. The guy who want to hang out, yeah. Hopefully, this will be a step toward having a life.

I'd be interested to see myself in 5 years, 10 years, and so on... What will I be like? Maybe I'll turn out to be a crazy cat lady.

 

[Christopher2012]

Have you sat down with your supervisor and told her how uncomfortable his advances are making you? That you are trying to be polite but are feeling sexually harassed?
I'd start there.

Woah holy shit, my comment about being a cat lady obviously came at a coincidentally bad time.

But regarding my supervisor, nah... I'll let the DM handle it. They both work out of the building where I work.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Me me me me me - well no surprise there

If you had anything to flaunt you would, so STFU.

 

[Christopher2012]

If you had anything to flaunt you would, so STFU.

I think it's time to admit that JBJ is my alt.

 

[Christopher2012]

I thought he was night's alt.

Actually, we are all the same person. I have a lot of alts that make up the How-To forum.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I thought he was night's alt.

She's not man enuf to be me. She sits on the fence and whines at the bull rider.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I think it's time to admit that JBJ is my alt.

Youre not insane enuf to be me. I'm the tsunami of nutz.

 

[Christopher2012]

Youre not insane enuf to be me. I'm the tsunami of nutz.

You see, we're polar opposites yet the same person. Chris is insanely unconfident while JBJ is my insanely confident side. Together, we are perfect.

 

[BertrandRussell]

WOW dude, fuck you! ...

Great start! Keep it up.

( Although, as I suggested earlier, find a way to do it without the obscenities when at work. )

 

[Christopher2012]

Great start! Keep it up.

( Although, as I suggested earlier, find a way to do it without the obscenities when at work. )

I've made a decision. We have a really cute and funny receptionist upstairs and we talk a lot. I call her Rogue because she's a brunette with a single colored stripe in her hair. And we're both nerdy introverts. Anytime old dude comes in, I'm going upstairs to talk to her. She's married, though. But eh, she's fun to talk to.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Pmann is my alt. We're the arsehole and the angel. Which is which... hmmm?

More like the arsehole and the dickhead.

 

[Loverskitten]

Woah holy shit, my comment about being a cat lady obviously came at a coincidentally bad time.

Yeah, rude.

 

[DualShock_4]

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