tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

[tiny_tits]

It must have been good for two nights...

It was.
And the second night had a couple of 'firsts'

 

[Porkwarrior]

It was.
And the second night had a couple of 'firsts'

And you said you needed help to be a bad girl in the bedroom.

 

[tiny_tits]

And you said you needed help to be a bad girl in the bedroom.

Maybe ya'll helped me after all

 

[Domesticity]

When I was your age, my sole concern when it came to sex was whether or not the guy "liked" me. In other words, was I doing what he wanted, making him hot, getting him off the way he wanted it, etc. I worried about how I looked during sex. I worried if my hair or makeup still looked good, did my cellulite show, and was I making the appropriate noises. It was all about trying to live up to whatever his expectation was. My own enjoyment and pleasure in the act was secondary, and wasn't a priority.

If I were 21 today, and looked at porn as a way to base what I needed to be like for real life sex, I'd probably never have taken my clothes off!

I have to say this to you because I really do hope that you are not trying to make some guy happy by being some sort of slutty little porn star for him, when it's not who you are and you are not comfortable with it.

So...what I really want to say to you is this: Please, do what you do with your partner because it will make you happy, and not because you are trying to impress or be something or someone you really aren't.

Relish your body, your sexuality, your physical response to your own touch and your to partner's. Learn the rhythm of your body, and show your partner what you need from him. You don't have to be Meryl Streep in the bedroom. Just let things flow naturally between the two of you, and you will find your inner "bad girl" soon enough. Being comfortable with a man will be the thing that will bring that aspect out in you. Being sexually open and responsive does not necessarily mean dressing up, toys, anal sex, bondage, or kink. For me, it just means the ability to freely give and to accept the pleasure that is offered. Having a partner whom you trust, who you know wants not just to take their cookies, but will give back to you in equal measure.

I just want to be sure your motivation for this is for the right reasons. I've been 22, and I know how badly that I wanted to be the "perfect woman" for some guy, and the anxiety it brought me when I measured myself by my own yardstick and came up wanting. I'd love to think that you will get the opportunity to explore and express your sensuality and sexuality on your own timetable, naturally.

Hugs!

Aphro

Where is the bravo, hand clapping emote?! I cut out a few bits and left the parts that really spoke to me and that I think really hit this post out of the ball park.

You said everything I was thinking in a much more eloquent, thoughtful and well put together way than I could have.

You couldn't pay me to be 22 again--especially in the age of Internet porn. Every young woman should read this.

 

[tiny_tits]

Where is the bravo, hand clapping emote?! I cut out a few bits and left the parts that really spoke to me and that I think really hit this post out of the ball park.

You said everything I was thinking in a much more eloquent, thoughtful and well put together way than I could have.

You couldn't pay me to be 22 again--especially in the age of Internet porn. Every young woman should read this.

I do agree, and kudos for the quote to repost. It is quite eloquent.

As far as 'do what you do with your partner because it will make you happy, and not because you are trying to impress or be something or someone you really aren't', some of the problem is the need to be liked, accepted and in a relationship (rather than go a month alone) makes me happy.

Double hugs back!

 

[DallasDonna]

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[Tyrus]

A couple of firsts?

 

[Leigh81]

Funny thing is, being good led to being naughty

Being brought up in a strict religious home, never dating till university and losing my virginity at 20 did it for me. But it took till I was 30 (2 years ago) until it was released.

L

 

[Cumference]

A couple of firsts?

I agree!

There is nothing like the hinting of a great (naughty) story.



Please tell us!


(It doesn't have to be in graphical details, just the main points..... Of course graphical details really are the butter on the bread)

 

[tiny_tits]

I agree!

There is nothing like the hinting of a great (naughty) story.



Please tell us!


(It doesn't have to be in graphical details, just the main points..... Of course graphical details really are the butter on the bread)

Well, it turns out i'm not the only one that has embrased the thrill of exhibitionism. We had a lengthy discussion of what really excites each other after our first night together. He admitted to one or two things, so I felt inclined to share as well...

 

[Acktion]

Well, it turns out i'm not the only one that has embrased the thrill of exhibitionism. We had a lengthy discussion of what really excites each other after our first night together. He admitted to one or two things, so I felt inclined to share as well...

Hate to be a party poop, but that right there is the magic.

If there is any "great secret" to be had, that's the one. Maybe someday when I'm old and grey I'll understand why women can't seem to STOP talking about any other subject but find it all but impossible to talk about "it" with the one they'd be most likely doing it with.

<pauses to look in the mirror>

Well, shit. When did THAT happen? Guess I'll never figure it out then.


Seriously though, I personally don't like country music, but there's a line from one that says "it's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you're not".

If you know what you want, don't be afraid to tell him you want it. If you aren't sure you want it, but think you might like to try it, talk it out with him and see if he's willing to try it with the understanding it may not be a regular thing. If he wants something that you feel strongly that you DON'T want, then tell him no and why. If he doesn't accept "no", don't kick him in the balls, grab 'em and twist like it's a screw top cap with a prize underneath. It hurts more.

Guys are simple. If we can't be having sex, daydreaming about it is the next best thing and talking about is third. There was some research study a while back that said that the average male thinks about sex something like ten times as much as the average female (until 36 or so when it reverses). So, odds are that if you are at a point that you are ready to talk about it, he is more than ready and has just been being a gentleman.

But, above all, remember that it's you he took a shine to. Don't twist yourself up into something that you're not to make a guy happy. He should be happy with you or get the hell outta the way and let some of the rest of us have a chance to make you smile.

No, not me honey. I mixed up the K.Y. and the polygrip the other night so it'll be awhile. Although from the pics, if I were 10 years younger I'd lie my ass off about the rest.

 

[tiny_tits]

Okay, so don't read anything into this, 'k?
Just simply a topic of conversation.
Prolly a better question for the more, um, experienced folks.

How flexible has your sexuality been through the years?

Always 100% solid? A few grey edges? Totally flexible?
Do you find that men are less flexible sexually that women?

 

[Acktion]

Ouch. Well, I guess "experienced" is better than "crusty old fart".

From my experiences, I would say that your answer can be found on the grade school playgrounds. And get your mind out of the gutter, I didn't mean it that way.

But, if you watch, little girls don't think a thing in the world of skipping around, holding hands, kissing each other on the cheek, whatever. Nothing sexual mind, but just little gestures of physical affection that are no big deal because they're girls.

Little boys on the other hand are only comfortable touching each other in a roughhousing way. And most typically learn to fear the taunts and, sometimes, outright torture of being identified as "gay" or "fag" even before they know what the terms really mean.

As they grow older, things change. But, a pretty smart guy by the name of Piaget says they don't change all that much. And I think he may be onto something.

Not always, but as a general rule, I think the female of the species is more likely to be accepting of "an experimental phase" involving another female than most males would be with another male. And I think that probably has it's roots in the playground.

 

[tiny_tits]

Ouch. Well, I guess "experienced" is better than "crusty old fart".

From my experiences, I would say that your answer can be found on the grade school playgrounds. And get your mind out of the gutter, I didn't mean it that way.

But, if you watch, little girls don't think a thing in the world of skipping around, holding hands, kissing each other on the cheek, whatever. Nothing sexual mind, but just little gestures of physical affection that are no big deal because they're girls.

Little boys on the other hand are only comfortable touching each other in a roughhousing way. And most typically learn to fear the taunts and, sometimes, outright torture of being identified as "gay" or "fag" even before they know what the terms really mean.

As they grow older, things change. But, a pretty smart guy by the name of Piaget says they don't change all that much. And I think he may be onto something.

Not always, but as a general rule, I think the female of the species is more likely to be accepting of "an experimental phase" involving another female than most males would be with another male. And I think that probably has it's roots in the playground.

So in your experience, most don't change through the years?

 

[Porkwarrior]

So in your experience, most don't change through the years?

If I can jump in...depends on a whole metric boatload of variables.
Two women in Georgia can make out on the dancefloor...but I don't think you'll find too many of their boyfriends talking about their bi-curiosity.
Experiences, location, and the perception of their ability to actually do something about it all might have an impact on how open they would be of even discussing it.

I'm assuming it might be "first" guy we're talking about.
If we're talking about a soon to be photo series featuring you & a friend...well that's different.

 

[Acktion]

Well, there are going to be some changes. Not every little girl who didn't think twice about kissing another little girl on the cheek is going to be as willing to feel up another girls breasts much less more. And some guys who were the roughest, toughest little boys on the block actually do become more open to experimentation.

For the most part, though, I think that there has to be a somewhat... I almost said "traumatic", but "dramatic" is probably closer since it might not be a bad thing. I think there has to be a dramatic catalyst to shift someone from the early mindsets. And the older they become the more dramatic the outside influence would have to be.

(i.e., an 18 year old would be more likely to experiment than 28 who would be more likely than 38 and so on)

But, on the whole, I think yes, that most people tend to retain those early socially acceptable patterns (aka "peer pressure").

Society as a whole has become a lot more accepting in my lifetime. Individuals though... <shrug> It hasn't been all that long ago since I read a report of a gay male being badly beaten not many blocks away from my childhood home for the "crime" of being gay. Now, if it'd been a woman, I'd be almost willing to bet that the same jerk would have said "Can I watch?"

That's just one example off the top of my head. Much depends on the precise type of sexual exploration we are talking about, of course.

 

[Acktion]

BTW~ The classics are still the best.

http://www.sacred-texts.com/sex/kama/

Most others start from this one.

And no, I wasn't around to help chisel it.

 

[nicknatural]

something like this...

As far as 'do what you do with your partner because it will make you happy, and not because you are trying to impress or be something or someone you really aren't', some of the problem is the need to be liked, accepted and in a relationship (rather than go a month alone) makes me happy.

For the little it's worth - those are all valid needs and it's easy to compromise other needs (self-worth, identity, etc.) because you feel liked, accepted and that incredible bond with someone ... BUT (with me, there's always a 'but' ) But, a month alone, lonely, with only your own thoughts to keep you company in the darkest parts of the night - they are healthy! It drives you to find something to fill those needs and gives you those quiet moments you need to hear your own voice unadulterated.

I've been in both situations; and far, faaaaaaar worse is being in a relationship with someone, tried to force it to work, caught up in their love for you, how you both 'want' so many similar things - and finally admitting you don't truly love them and having to cause too much hurt ....

If this doesn't apply to this guy, then the principle remains ...


-----and yet all of the above feels like a terrible buzz-kill. Like all slow learners, I may be too eager to impart my lesson ... Scratch the above. Go make all the mistakes you can. Some of them are even a little fun -------

 

[lizzyqte]

You first

I think you should make a list of what and where you are and willing to go first. Being naughty in the bedroom is by degrees and find a man who likes missionary and doggie and that's all he wants. Personally I think where you should start is with the most important. The blow job will get your guy th.happiest. You just have to be willing to try then you will get your technique down. Also guys prefer different things. With some you can just put the entire tip into your mouth and go up and down till he comes. Here you can time it, you can put his cum into a tissue, stock him until he comes on your face your beasts or inside your mouth. You can make a show of it by moving it around your mouth or you just spit it into a tissue. They won't mind, trust me they just came. The kinky is when you deep thought him and allow him to cum into the back of your throat, then swallow. You have to be prepared as to where you want to go but the blow job is the single most powerful thing you can do for a guy. On your knees or on a bed you can change it up but take him all the way even if you have to wait to revive him. He'll while he revives have him return the favor.

The second most ertoic bad girl thing you can do is anal. His orgasom here will be so intense because he is in your tightest spot and he will love it if he is that kinda guy. You can prepare yourself by getting different size anal plugs and making your self ready for his size and feeling corfortable.

So like I started. You can be a bad girl by degrees but you will have to decide what your open for. If your not sure yet start with the blow job. If you want to to the deep end you can go into bondage and swinging.

If you want to make him pass out have him show up with you and your girl friend naked and ready.

 

[Acktion]

I think you should make a list of what and where you are and willing to go first. Being naughty in the bedroom is by degrees and find a man who likes missionary and doggie and that's all he wants. Personally I think where you should start is with the most important. The blow job will get your guy th.happiest. You just have to be willing to try then you will get your technique down. Also guys prefer different things. With some you can just put the entire tip into your mouth and go up and down till he comes. Here you can time it, you can put his cum into a tissue, stock him until he comes on your face your beasts or inside your mouth. You can make a show of it by moving it around your mouth or you just spit it into a tissue. They won't mind, trust me they just came. The kinky is when you deep thought him and allow him to cum into the back of your throat, then swallow. You have to be prepared as to where you want to go but the blow job is the single most powerful thing you can do for a guy. On your knees or on a bed you can change it up but take him all the way even if you have to wait to revive him. He'll while he revives have him return the favor.

Part 2 On Sexual Union, Ch. IX On Holding the Lingam in the Mouth

 

[elite2013]

I think you should make a list of what and where you are and willing to go first. Being naughty in the bedroom is by degrees and find a man who likes missionary and doggie and that's all he wants. Personally I think where you should start is with the most important. The blow job will get your guy th.happiest. You just have to be willing to try then you will get your technique down. Also guys prefer different things. With some you can just put the entire tip into your mouth and go up and down till he comes. Here you can time it, you can put his cum into a tissue, stock him until he comes on your face your beasts or inside your mouth. You can make a show of it by moving it around your mouth or you just spit it into a tissue. They won't mind, trust me they just came. The kinky is when you deep thought him and allow him to cum into the back of your throat, then swallow. You have to be prepared as to where you want to go but the blow job is the single most powerful thing you can do for a guy. On your knees or on a bed you can change it up but take him all the way even if you have to wait to revive him. He'll while he revives have him return the favor.

The second most ertoic bad girl thing you can do is anal. His orgasom here will be so intense because he is in your tightest spot and he will love it if he is that kinda guy. You can prepare yourself by getting different size anal plugs and making your self ready for his size and feeling corfortable.

So like I started. You can be a bad girl by degrees but you will have to decide what your open for. If your not sure yet start with the blow job. If you want to to the deep end you can go into bondage and swinging.

If you want to make him pass out have him show up with you and your girl friend naked and ready.

Gotta disagree with this.

The best thing about a getting a bj is seeing your dick in your girls mouth - it's a visual thing rather than feeling; pussy is the best feeling out there.

Anal: You're going to have to spend a lot of time cleaning your self out and timing your eating so you don't start getting new 'goods in the store'. Nobody wants to get a shitty dick! All this preparation destroys spontaneity (which is one of the nicest things in a relationship), all in all I'm not sure it's worth the trouble.

That's my 2c anyway.

 

[tiny_tits]

I think you should make a list of what and where you are and willing to go first. Being naughty in the bedroom is by degrees and find a man who likes missionary and doggie and that's all he wants. Personally I think where you should start is with the most important. The blow job will get your guy th.happiest. You just have to be willing to try then you will get your technique down. Also guys prefer different things. With some you can just put the entire tip into your mouth and go up and down till he comes. Here you can time it, you can put his cum into a tissue, stock him until he comes on your face your beasts or inside your mouth. You can make a show of it by moving it around your mouth or you just spit it into a tissue. They won't mind, trust me they just came. The kinky is when you deep thought him and allow him to cum into the back of your throat, then swallow. You have to be prepared as to where you want to go but the blow job is the single most powerful thing you can do for a guy. On your knees or on a bed you can change it up but take him all the way even if you have to wait to revive him. He'll while he revives have him return the favor.

The second most ertoic bad girl thing you can do is anal. His orgasom here will be so intense because he is in your tightest spot and he will love it if he is that kinda guy. You can prepare yourself by getting different size anal plugs and making your self ready for his size and feeling corfortable.

So like I started. You can be a bad girl by degrees but you will have to decide what your open for. If your not sure yet start with the blow job. If you want to to the deep end you can go into bondage and swinging.

If you want to make him pass out have him show up with you and your girl friend naked and ready.

I've come a long ways on sucking cock. I now can do a bit of deepthroat at the very end (or for just a few seconds).

I do make him wear a condom for both vag and anal. He doesn't care much for it, but in return I let him cum in my mouth without the condom. I know even that isn't 100% safe, but I figure the odds are better, and we both enjoy it.

 

[Jessie_Pinkman]

I've come a long ways on sucking cock. I now can do a bit of deepthroat at the very end (or for just a few seconds).

I do make him wear a condom for both vag and anal. He doesn't care much for it, but in return I let him cum in my mouth without the condom. I know even that isn't 100% safe, but I figure the odds are better, and we both enjoy it.

So you do anal with a condom, but then let him cum in your mouth... wow

 

[tiny_tits]

So you do anal with a condom, but then let him cum in your mouth... wow

it's a compromise...

 

[Sir_Andrew]

You're just an angel!

A small thing that will spice things up a bit is take away one of his senses such as blindfold him. Tell him if he takes it off you will stop whatever you are doing. By simply taking away one sense, it will heighten the sensitivity of the others. So tell him you want to feel like you are in charge (you really are after all) and that it makes you wet to think of him unable to see what you do to him.

You can simply give him a great blow job but do small things like a small ice cube in your mouth while working his head, or take material or objects (feather) of different textures and touch his balls while slowly sucking him. temp and textures along with being blindfolded can increase or slightly change things.

If he is a normal guy, just the fact that 1) you are doing something sexual, 2) showing him you are into it with him, 3) have been thinking about doing this with him....etc. will make him feel like a king and if he isn't selfish then this will kick-start him into becoming creative.

One technique (depending of course what it is) is do to him what you would like done. So if oral on you while you are blindfolded sounds arousing then do it to him. Ask afterwards if he enjoyed it. He will, he's a guy then say wow would you like to try something like that on me.

I find the technique of massage to be one that if done with the right spirit make the rest of the night amazing.