tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

[tiny_tits]

Being attractive is not purely a physical matter. Being "sexy" is not purely physical either. An individual's appeal is essentially rooted in their personal confidence which expresses itself through all modes of their communication: visual (their body language including expression, gesture, action), aural (tone of voice), verbal (what they say as well as how it is said), and in this attenuated computer medium, what they say in print. It is not so much a matter of physique (breast size, curves, symmetry, etc., although these play a part in terms of individuals' tastes). Most of this list is culturally influenced as well.

In short, being attractive is rooted in your own self-confidence or image you have of yourself. Most of this is taught by environment--how parents relate to you, friends, others. If you have early childhood experiences that teach you that you are unattractive or, worse, unlovable, you are going to have a low sense of self esteem or poor self confidence. However, this conditioning can be surmounted. Confidence can be gained. Not by faking it till you make it, positive suggestion, all that. That only creates an inner conflict between your negative self image and the attempt to create a positive one. You don't need more conflict. Confidence comes from freeing yourself from the negative conditioning, not opposing it with positive conditioning. Freeing means becoming aware of it with a meditative, quiet mind. Not judging it. Alternatively, seeking psychological counseling may help but will likely take longer.

Good luck.

Thank you, and I agree completely.
While I may have some confidence issues, I am an exhibitionist and love getting naked.
In fact maybe too much so- I probably should tease a bit more first.
And I love being touched, and having sex
I just think I need more tools in my tool chest, if you know what I mean.

 

[DaddyABCD]

"Tools in [your] tool chest." I don't believe that attraction requires "tools", and if it does than it is a form of manipulation. Frankly, I am repelled by women who deliberately try to be attractive and always have been. My gut actually gets tight when I see their body language or physical attempts to be seductive. Their attempts are the exact opposite for me. What attracts me is spontaneity, joy, energy in the woman's body and showing in her eyes. This cannot be faked without appearing forced and, to a discerning eye, phony. Confidence is not a learned thing, at least not what I am talking about. It is simply being very present. Simply being very much in one's body and feeling unafraid. If a man or woman has been taught that he or she is somehow "inadequate," "flawed," "not enough" basically, or worse, "unworthy of love," there will be fear. There will be a kind of shrinking from contact. A compensatory behavior is to reach out defensively, to prove oneself worthy, lovable, in a stilted attempt to be "enough". An exhibitionist requires notice (obviously). The need being filled is to feel significant and to entice physical contact to satisfy the need for connection. However, neither of these needs, if filled, actually remove the sense of being somehow inadequate, not enough. And certainly none of this has anything to do with genuine love. Love is not something that can be manipulated into being, and it is not the same thing as sex or attraction. Again, the habits of thinking and feeling that lie beneath the surface, that underlie exhibitionism, feeling the need for self-esteem support, being touched to feel significant--all of that--need to stop before spontaneity and real love can occur. And this requires therapy.

 

[maestro1957]

Tiiny, Love both your threads and the talk....seriously PM to me if you want more Hilton Head information. M

 

[tiny_tits]

Okay so this is going to be very boring, no sex talk, move along if a boring recap of my day doesnt interest you, and why would it?

So Stacy took me clothes shopping for my new job starting Monday (don't ask) then we met Shaun (her boyfriend) for dinner. He brought a friend (yes, it was a setup, the bitch) and then we went driving through some of the most beautiful houses I have ever seen. We went to the beach too, but it was too cold and windy to stay out long.

Kevin is kind of a nerd (like me) but in good shape- about 6' tall, slender but not skinny, glasses, brown wavy hair, cute dimples. My age I think. From somewhere in Florida (he said where but it didn't sound familiar).

We came back to our place after, and Stacy had Shaun take her to work, leaving me with Kevin alone! Granted, he is a doll, and we were/are hitting it off, but still. He was cool tho. We played Forza Horizon and drank beer. We didn't make out, but sat real close, REAL CLOSE like rubbing against each other close. I think we would have taken it further, but Shaun came back to take Kevin home. You would think that now being alone with two guys would be awkward but somehow it was just the opposite- it was like he (Shaun) was a chaperone. They started playing and then it got guy roughhouse- trying to make each other mess up, like wrestling while playing and stuff. So I scolded them and sat in between them to make them behave and we switched to Minecraft, and they still acted like boys again, and I got even more body contact until they settled down. It was the most contact I've had this year. They left about an hour ago, and Kevin has already texted me to take me to dinner tomorrow night (yay!)

 

[tiny_tits]

Now we eating at his place... he asked if that was okay, and I said yes. I trust him.

 

[Somehowyou]

My two cents: Black stay up thigh highs with the lacy tops (fishnets are OK too) and stiletto heels. If you have a nice tan White works too. No other color...Black or white. No nude or freaky chartreuse green and no ugly fucking pattern. Stay basic black or white. And 5" heels.

Now here is the trick. The stockings and heels stay on!

Also, I saw your avatar and you could rock a school girl outfit IMHO.

If you want to get really naughty then talk about your fantasies while you are both fucking or you have his cock in your hand. This is the time to talk about 3sums, cuckolding, voyeurism, swinging, exhibitionism etc. He cannot lie about what he likes when you have his cock in your hand.

One of man's biggest fantasies are MFM or Cuckolding, or hot wife fantasies. There is a fine line between jealousy and eroticism. When someone finds my woman attractive or she wants something else it always gives me a hard on. explore these feelings when you both are horny and in the act.

 

[help_me_Rhonda]

Now we eating at his place... he asked if that was okay, and I said yes. I trust him.

So how did your date go?
Any 'action'?

 

[Que]

So how did your date go?
Any 'action'?

My money is on yes.

Our girl has a history of being...hmmmm... lets say friendly and open (love that about her)....she looks like that^^^^^^...and she didnt say he was gay...so.....

My two cents: Black stay up thigh highs with the lacy tops (fishnets are OK too) and stiletto heels. If you have a nice tan White works too. No other color...Black or white. No nude or freaky chartreuse green and no ugly fucking pattern. Stay basic black or white. And 5" heels.

Now here is the trick. The stockings and heels stay on!

Also, I saw your avatar and you could rock a school girl outfit IMHO.

If you want to get really naughty then talk about your fantasies while you are both fucking or you have his cock in your hand. This is the time to talk about 3sums, cuckolding, voyeurism, swinging, exhibitionism etc. He cannot lie about what he likes when you have his cock in your hand.

One of man's biggest fantasies are MFM or Cuckolding, or hot wife fantasies. There is a fine line between jealousy and eroticism. When someone finds my woman attractive or she wants something else it always gives me a hard on. explore these feelings when you both are horny and in the act.

I liked the verve of your post...have to take exception with a couple of points...

"man's biggest fantasies?" Like the entire gender of a whole specie? Now, I for one happen to think that IS hot, but I am coming from the bull's perspective. Don't really care how jealousy works into it for you.

Color is pretty subjective...I think red is pretty traditional. Capes for the bull amongst other things.

I do for the most part agree with the comment on patterns...the only reason I sometimes like those is there is something naughty about catching a girl in undies that appear to be bought to please herself rather than a man.

I am big fan of a sapphire blue. Any jewel tone, really, to me since you wouldn't normally want those colors peeking out of ones clothes in the workplace, that makes naughty by context.

Send me your girl...I'll send you some pics of her in emerald. Trust me you'll change your mind about green with envy.

 

[tiny_tits]

So how did your date go?
Any 'action'?

My money is on yes.

Our girl has a history of being...hmmmm... lets say friendly and open (love that about her)....she looks like that^^^^^^...and she didnt say he was gay...so.....

No, not gay

And no, I didn't sleep with him. Or fuck him. Whatever.

Anyway, it was a wonderful evening. He grilled some salmon, rice and salad. White wine.

Then we played video games, then we went online and he showed me his families Facebook (his sister and her husband are world travellers, birdwatchers).

And we talked and talked and talked.

When he took me home, we made out in his car a bit, then I gave him a blowjob.


Kidding. About the blowjob. All in all, a very good first date.

 

[Que]

No, not gay

And no, I didn't sleep with him. Or fuck him. Whatever.

Anyway, it was a wonderful evening. He grilled some salmon, rice and salad. White wine.

Then we played video games, then we went online and he showed me his families Facebook (his sister and her husband are world travellers, birdwatchers).

And we talked and talked and talked.

When he took me home, we made out in his car a bit, then I gave him a blowjob.


Kidding. About the blowjob. All in all, a very good first date.

DAMMIT! You are working this like a girl in love. There goes my hopes for a may-december kink-fest!

 

[tiny_tits]

DAMMIT! You are working this like a girl in love. There goes my hopes for a may-december kink-fest!

I won't say 'in love', but I do plan on establishing a more respectful reputation here, anyway.

That is, until everyone discovers my pic thread.

 

[Que]

I won't say 'in love', but I do plan on establishing a more respectful reputation here, anyway.

That is, until everyone discovers my pic thread.

Why would pictures of your lovely form impugn your reputation? You are, as God in his infinite wisdom made you.

 

[tiny_tits]

Why would pictures of your lovely form impugn your reputation? You are, as God in his infinite wisdom made you.

You want a girlfriend that posts pics of her hooha and ittibittytitties on the internet

 

[Cumference]

You want a girlfriend that posts pics of her hooha and ittibittytitties on the internet

If it is done anonymously and with style?

Yes, please.

 

[Que]

You want a girlfriend that posts pics of her hooha and ittibittytitties on the internet

I accept your proposal.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Catching up on your thread late, and I don't have too much to add except two things that helped boost my confidence & kink level in the bedroom exponentially in my Twenties.

A) Having a "fuck buddy". Okay, you want to form a "respectable" reputation in your new area, and no woman wants to be known as the "town pump". Having a FWB oncall can be one of the best & most memorable relationships of your life. Someone you trust enough to sleep with, but isn't "The One". You get to know each other's buttons in the bedroom, with the freedom to play & experiment without all those pesky relationship emotions getting in the way of you spreading your legs and having him watch you play with yourself

B) Tie him up. Tying or cuffing his wrists to the headboard, or even in a kitchen chair, forces you to take the lead. You have to control things, initiate, have him unable to do anything except talk & watch. If you are a little shy & hesitant, just keep asking him what he wants you to do next.
"Touch my cock"
"Mmm it's so fucking hard now, what do you want next?"
"Put it in your mouth"
"Slurp...I love your cock...next"

He can still tell you what to do, but you are in control of how & where. As a bonus he'll learn what your fav spots are, what angle feels good for you, what pace starts the fires burning.


If nothing else you've started a path to a fun summer.

 

[SwirlyTongueNSA]

TT, for some hints, the lists and such are okay but sound bland when just in text form. Try using the same as keywords, and search in the Lit stories, where erotic sensual scenario creates more vivid connection in your imagination and emotion. Maybe let me know what stories you found compelling and intriguing. See yourself in those scenes, as those people, immersed in their experience. Make it yours. Helpful?

 

[tiny_tits]

Good news!

Finally got laid

First since before Christmas

Two nights in a row, in fact!

 

[Cumference]

Good news!

Finally got laid

Congrats!

It is good to be bad!

 

[tiny_tits]

Congrats!

It is good to be bad!

Funny thing is, being good led to being naughty

 

[Porkwarrior]

Funny thing is, being good led to being naughty

Funny how that happens

*Fist Bump*

 

[tiny_tits]

Funny how that happens

*Fist Bump*

 

[RunningJib]

Same Guy?

Good news!

Finally got laid

First since before Christmas

Two nights in a row, in fact!

Same guy that you meet last week?

Same guy both nights?

 

[RunningJib]

Explain

Funny thing is, being good led to being naughty

Please explain

 

[coronado2012]

Good news!

Finally got laid

First since before Christmas

Two nights in a row, in fact!

It must have been good for two nights...