Sandia's Question

Queersetti

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Out of respect to Sandia's perfectly reasonable question, I've started a new thread to address this.

Sandia asked "why do gay men get more discrimination than lesbains?"

That's avery good question. I am pleased to see that he has received some thoughtful answers,and I hope that he finds them edifying.

But it illustrates exactly why I am less than pleased about the creation of this forum.

If Sandia had posed his question on the General Board, the responses would be read by a great many more straight people than will ever read them here. And I think the diverse character of Lit gives us a wonderful opportunity to discuss these issues with the broader community represented here, and maybe enlighten a few people here and there.To me, that seems preferable to separating ourselves off and just talking to each other.
 
I spend my entire day as a queer ambassador to the world at large.
 
Netzach said:
I spend my entire day as a queer ambassador to the world at large.


If your point is that you want a place where you can just let your hair down and relax, I can understand that.
 
I'm straight, and I'm proud.

I'm also visiting.

In one of my classes we discussed this very issue and the consues was this:

It is easier to accept women assumeing the stronger gender model (mimicing men during Les sex) than it is to accept men assumeing weaker gender model (mimicing women in any way).

Also women being with other women turn men on much more so than men watching men with other men.

Oddly, the concept of homosexuality is relatively new. In anceint times a man had a wife or two to bear his children and run his household that he usually married for politcal reasons and then his actual lover, another man, because women couldn't really understand the depths of passion men were capable of. It was common practice.

I haven't done any actual research to see what caused this shift, but I think I might look into it.

:kiss: to "Setti
 
Queersetti:

There was demand for it. That's why it's here.

If you don't like the forum, don't read it. I'm not upset that there are people who think it wasn't a great idea. You raise some valid points, but I think the assumption that we're talking to ourselves (preaching to the choir, if you will) is incorrect.
 
Etoile said:
Queersetti:

There was demand for it. That's why it's here.

If you don't like the forum, don't read it. I'm not upset that there are people who think it wasn't a great idea. You raise some valid points, but I think the assumption that we're talking to ourselves (preaching to the choir, if you will) is incorrect.


Whether I personally read and contribute to the forum is not a relevant issue. My concern is the impact the creation of this forum may have on the presence of queer voices on the rest of Lit.

I'm looking forward to being a contributing member here, but that does not mean I will be silent about any trepidation I may feel.
 
I just like to have a place to discuss things, away from the bashing and trolls. I would hope some that only lurk on the GB will feel less intimidated here as well.

I agree with you, Q. Sandia's question would have a bigger audience on the GB than it will here. Personally, I don't intend to spend much less time on the GB just because of this forum. I'll continue to say the same things on the GB as I normally would. Hopefully some of the discussions here will spill over into the GB, as appropriate. It's just nice that I don't have trolls to deal with here if I want to discuss an issue.
 
I didn't realize trolling was that bad over here. I don't mind fluff, but trolls will be dealt with appropriately.
 
Etoile said:
I didn't realize trolling was that bad over here. I don't mind fluff, but trolls will be dealt with appropriately.

I didn't mean to insinuate that there were trolls here. From what I can tell, they seem to be staying away. I'm glad the policy is that they will be dealt with appropriately. :)
 
Doh! By leaving out the "t" I twisted my meaning. I meant there, as in the GB.
 
Queersetti said:
Whether I personally read and contribute to the forum is not a relevant issue. My concern is the impact the creation of this forum may have on the presence of queer voices on the rest of Lit.

I'm looking forward to being a contributing member here, but that does not mean I will be silent about any trepidation I may feel.

How many queer lurkers you think there are who aint gonna post on the GB and have d8rape or Hanns call them a child molester?
So they have no voice at all out there but might have one here.
 
Out of respect to Sandia's perfectly reasonable question, I've started a new thread to address this.

Sandia asked "why do gay men get more discrimination than lesbains?"

That's avery good question. I am pleased to see that he has received some thoughtful answers,and I hope that he finds them edifying.

But it illustrates exactly why I am less than pleased about the creation of this forum.

If Sandia had posed his question on the General Board, the responses would be read by a great many more straight people than will ever read them here. And I think the diverse character of Lit gives us a wonderful opportunity to discuss these issues with the broader community represented here, and maybe enlighten a few people here and there.To me, that seems preferable to separating ourselves off and just talking to each other.
I am sorry to have caused MZChrista such horrible trepidation. Fear and trembling on Literotica, OH NO!

Male homosexuality is looked on as worse than lesbianism because many, many men are secretly attracted to other men and have often had same sex experiences in youth. (Kinsey's report found over 75%) But their society says they have to be "manly". With women, on the other hand, our society considers it "normal for them to hold hands and do those intimate things they did together as children.

Also, the anal nature of some male on male acts is so "dirty" that it creates a plethora of negative feelings.
 
Why is robertreams addressing MZChrista via a post that she did not make, in a thread that is ten years old?

That said, it's an interesting question;
My concern is the impact the creation of this forum may have on the presence of queer voices on the rest of Lit.
Some other people have been saying much the same-- that any queers who want to be at lit should simply suck it up and fight the good fight all the time.
 
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