Intro to BDSM

[Michaelscott122]

So I'm interested in hearing how everyone got into BDSM. My intro was a law school girlfriend who introduced me to some light spanking and word play. Since then I've explored more here and with some others in real life who I trusted.

Anyone else care to share their "first time" BDSM story?

 

[ineeda_daddydom]

mine is similar, ex was into light spanking, rougher sex, after we broke up i researched more & found out it was who i was but just didnt knw yet

 

[KoPilot]

There's another one of these on the first dang page.

 

[KoPilot]

...aand another one you started yourself

 

[Michaelscott122]

Sorry. Newish here

 

[Michaelscott122]

It was kind of an exciting moment for me, "when I realized who I was". Like being reborn. Sex was never the same.

mine is similar, ex was into light spanking, rougher sex, after we broke up i researched more & found out it was who i was but just didnt knw yet

 

[midwestyankee]

Sorry. Newish here

I'm guessing you wouldn't go shopping for clothes wearing only a thong because, you know, there are expectations on your behavior in that venue. Same here.

 

[Michaelscott122]

Relax yourself.

 

[MeekMe]

Most people are tired of seeing the same thing pop up.

This is the thread on the first page: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=966615

And here's one I did a while back: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=929445

I'm pretty sure there were threads just like these posted long before we were around.

 

[Michaelscott122]

Awesome. I like your thread.

Most people are tired of seeing the same thing pop up.

This is the thread on the first page: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=966615

And here's one I did a while back: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=929445

I'm pretty sure there were threads just like these posted long before we were around.

 

[KoPilot]

Yeah there's a new one if these every week. We get tired of repeating ourselves.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Yeah there's a new one if these every week. We get tired of repeating ourselves.

That's why we have the Library as a permanent sticky at the top of the forum thread list.

 

[Michaelscott122]

You could just not respond. But then you wouldn't get to assert your superiority.

Yeah there's a new one if these every week. We get tired of repeating ourselves.

 

[Michaelscott122]

And if I were to go to this library and look under "Fa - Gl" for "first time", I would come up with nothing.

That's why we have the Library as a permanent sticky at the top of the forum thread list.

 

[redslady]

And if I were to go to this library and look under "Fa - Gl" for "first time", I would come up with nothing.

Okay then, try using the search tab. I just searched for the word "first" and there are 38 thread titles containing that word in BDSM Talk alone. I'm sure at least one of them will touch on what you are interested in.

 

[SweetDommeSam]

My first time, I was tied up. Try hand cuffs for starters and work yourself upwards. If you're not comfortable with hand cuffs, than try rope. They have several decent ropes that you can buy on a sex online shop. Look up articles too about BDSM.

Here's one that I found for you. Hope this helps!
http://www.blueboutique.com/b-d-s-m-2/

 

[Michaelscott122]

Okay, I get it. What I don't get is the condescending attitude towards newcomers. I realize some people have been on here longer than others, but everyone was a newbie at some point. This is supposed to be a place where people can feel free to talk about their sexuality. Reprimanding them for not knowing the "rules" isn't exactly welcoming.

Okay then, try using the search tab. I just searched for the word "first" and there are 38 thread titles containing that word in BDSM Talk alone. I'm sure at least one of them will touch on what you are interested in.

 

[SweetDommeSam]

Okay, I get it. What I don't get is the condescending attitude towards newcomers. I realize some people have been on here longer than others, but everyone was a newbie at some point. This is supposed to be a place where people can feel free to talk about their sexuality. Reprimanding them for now knowing the "rules" isn't exactly welcoming.

I've been getting the same treatment believe it or not, I'm trying not to take it so personally though. It does however scare off newcomers though who won't tolerate that kind of thing. I believe everyone should be willing on helping others out on here. Don't understand the attitude some people do on forums in general; life is way too short. Guess it's something that I'll never understand.

 

[midwestyankee]

Okay, I get it. What I don't get is the condescending attitude towards newcomers. I realize some people have been on here longer than others, but everyone was a newbie at some point. This is supposed to be a place where people can feel free to talk about their sexuality. Reprimanding them for not knowing the "rules" isn't exactly welcoming.

Asking your question twice like some kind of petulant ten-year-old doesn't seem particularly polite, either. Yes, we were all new to this forum at one time, but most of us spent some time lurking and posting to other people's threads and got the hang of the place before we started creating new threads.

If you're wondering why you attracted the kind of posts that you got here, you will have to look at how you reacted when people began to point out what you'd done that was irritating in this social place that was new to you. Instead of stopping to ask something like, "OK, I'm newish here, what should I do differently," you just soldiered on to talk about yourself and then got pissy when you got more feedback on why your behavior was irritating. You knew you were "newish here" and yet you refused to accept any feedback or ask for any guidance on how to better fit in so that you'd get more of the kind of replies you desired.

We're fine with new people asking questions. What we don't stand for very well is arrogance - and we're not exactly unique in disliking arrogance.

 

[KoPilot]

You could just not respond. But then you wouldn't get to assert your superiority.

I'm not acting superior, I'm telling you the reason why your thread is going to fail. Aside from being annoying, you're just not going to get that many responses because we've all answered this question a dozen times already. If you actually want to know what people's first times were like, how they figured out they were into BDSM, you'd go about finding out in the way that would yield the best results, right? And that way means digging back through the threads, not starting a new one and expecting everyone to just copy and paste what they've said a bunch of times already.

 

[Michaelscott122]

So do you guys get paid by the word?

I posted twice because I realized I posted in the wrong place the first time. I tried to correct that. My bad.

Re read the thread. Your synopsis of how it transpired is just plain wrong. In any event, I didn't come here to fight, so this is the last you'll hear from me on this thread.

See you around the boards.

Asking your question twice like some kind of petulant ten-year-old doesn't seem particularly polite, either. Yes, we were all new to this forum at one time, but most of us spent some time lurking and posting to other people's threads and got the hang of the place before we started creating new threads.

If you're wondering why you attracted the kind of posts that you got here, you will have to look at how you reacted when people began to point out what you'd done that was irritating in this social place that was new to you. Instead of stopping to ask something like, "OK, I'm newish here, what should I do differently," you just soldiered on to talk about yourself and then got pissy when you got more feedback on why your behavior was irritating. You knew you were "newish here" and yet you refused to accept any feedback or ask for any guidance on how to better fit in so that you'd get more of the kind of replies you desired.

We're fine with new people asking questions. What we don't stand for very well is arrogance - and we're not exactly unique in disliking arrogance.

 

[IrisAlthea]

You could just not respond. But then you wouldn't get to assert your superiority.

Actually, I think it's nicer to tell people that this is a topic that might not get that much traffic because it was up just last week or so and most who have been here a while are really tired of it.

As for the attitude towards new people, every forum I ever visited has a few topics that seem to be the first thing that pops into a newcomers head. It's a bit like with the very tall guy who always gets asked how the weather is up there. That's why posting any of the first 5 things that come to mind on a new forum rarely gets you any friends. We're grouchy here so it might be closer to ten here.

Of course you have every right to post whatever you want as long as it stays within the literotica forum rules. Just like everyone else has a right to post how they feel about what you posted.

 

[IrisAlthea]

So do you guys get paid by the word?

I posted twice because I realized I posted in the wrong place the first time. I tried to correct that. My bad.

Re read the thread. Your synopsis of how it transpired is just plain wrong. In any event, I didn't come here to fight, so this is the last you'll hear from me on this thread.

See you around the boards.

Yes, most people here are not the tl;dr kind.

 

[Primalex]

You could just not respond. But then you wouldn't get to assert your superiority.

Don't mind KoPilot. She is our grumpy transgender, who picks on newbies to deal with her unresolved aggressions.

 

[MeekMe]

f^_^: )

I feel kind of silly having asked a similar question when I arrived. I'm actually pretty happy everyone was somewhat kind about it. Eh heh heh... (>_>)