The beginnings of a slave.

[Littleone227]

Hello, I am beginning the journey to becoming a slave to my master, I would like to speak with some others about this. I have many questions.

 

[Littleone227]

Anything would be great.

 

[CutieMouse]

Post your questions here, in this thread, and you'll get advice, wisdom and knowledge from multiple sources. There isn't really any one particular way to do things...

What would you like to ask about?

 

[IrisAlthea]

You'll find a lot of discussion here:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=623345&highlight=Signs+slave

 

[Deacon13]

If you have decided to be truly submissive to Him, them let Him teach you. Every Master or Dom has different (but same) rules. Listen to Him, He will tell you what He wants and expects.

I have talked to and trained different girls - some like you and others that have been with a different Dom or Master - no two girls are the same as there are no two Masters.

So, yes, do your studies here and other places. Listen to your Master - He will "learn" you what He wants you to know and do.

Deacon

 

[Stella_Omega]

Annddd... If his training starts to seem skeevy to you, come in and ask. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.

 

[thepoeticmaster2121]

While

Its always best to let your master teach you and guide you in your journey I also can understand why you might be scared to ask him some thing or bring up some thing. You need to trust him though and come to him whenever he does or says some thing that you might need to bring up and talk about.

Of course if you ever have any questions for us I am sure we would all be willing to help but HE should be able to answer things just fine

 

[Littleone227]

Problem

I think he is afraid to punish me. He is very hesitant with me

 

[CutieMouse]

I think he is afraid to punish me. He is very hesitant with me

Okay. Do you want punishment in your dynamic? And are you wanting "play" punishment (you bad, bad girl! I have to spank you now!), or are you talking about actual *punishment* (something designed to reinforce a rule that's been broken)?

If your partner isn't very experienced, he also has a lifetime of conditioning to overcome. Boys aren't supposed to be rough or physically aggressive towards girls. It's not really fair to expect him to go from zero to DOM; give the guy some space to find his way.

How's your communication? Do you share ideas with him? What are each of your limits? How do each of you define your idea of Master & slave?

 

[Que]

Okay. Do you want punishment in your dynamic? And are you wanting "play" punishment (you bad, bad girl! I have to spank you now!), or are you talking about actual *punishment* (something designed to reinforce a rule that's been broken)?

If your partner isn't very experienced, he also has a lifetime of conditioning to overcome. Boys aren't supposed to be rough or physically aggressive towards girls. It's not really fair to expect him to go from zero to DOM; give the guy some space to find his way.

How's your communication? Do you share ideas with him? What are each of your limits? How do each of you define your idea of Master & slave?

That is SO true...my first hardcore session could have ended in disaster...my then fiance wanted me to tie her up after hearing of a tie-and-tease session with a previous girlfriend.

Once secure, she said "Spank me!" I love-swatted..."Harder!", then "HARDER!" I have NO IDEA where it came from but I slapped her across the face. I have NEVER had the balls to do anything like that before or since. She seemed to love it at the time, but I was seriously discomfited at getting a hard-on doing that.

I'm bunking with a friend while I rebuild his other place. He's young, tall, strong, and meek. He cannot understand at ALL why a woman might WANT it "rough". He is very much afraid he would do serious damage if he even tried. Silly really he is sensitive, isn't a klutz...he COULD figure it out, but his conditioning will not allow it.

 

[YourCaptor]

I think he is afraid to punish me. He is very hesitant with me

He may have a different idea about what you are doing than you do. Maybe he has no interest in punishment at all. If you have expectations, you should be sure to share them with him.

 

[Littleone227]

Sorry I haven't been on in awhile. I understand that my master needs to train me as he sees, but what do I do when he is inexperienced as myself?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

There are a ton of books out there to introduce newbies to BDSM. I'm on my phone so I'm not going to try to list them. Look through our Library and other threads that imply they have "beginner" questions, and look into them.


ETA: "50 Shades" has NO relationship to the *good* books referenced above!