Dom Titles

[Bratesque]

My Dom and I are finding it difficult to come up with what I can call him. With all due respect to others who use titles like Master, Sir, Daddy etc, these don't work for us. We are in an online relationship, and while I can type sir, we both agree saying it on the phone isn't going to be our thing.

We are new to this lifestyle, but I have known for a long time that I am def a sub. I am happy with him calling me babygirl, slut, bitch etc. Does anyone have any suggestions for how I can refer to him?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Darkwagoner1969]

Good question..
My sub always calls me Sir around her condo but in bedroom Master. She does call me Dom in public, people just think its my name.. lol

 

[Bratesque]

Lol I like that. I don't mind Dom. I just have a feeling there is something out there we haven't stumbled across yet that will be right for us in and out of the bedroom (when we do get to be together). But I don't mind referring to him as my Dom

 

[Stella_Omega]

What would you feel comfortable saying out loud? Since this is your relationship, you and your master get to make the rules.

Many subs use their Master's first name, actually.

 

[MooFloss]

It depends on the type of D/s relationship you have. I call my boyfriend Daddy because that's the relationship we have. Occasionally I will call him Sir.

I enjoy using his first name too. You will find what suits you both

 

[Bratesque]

Thanks for the input everyone. We are happy with how things are progressing in our lifestyle choice, but what to call him leaves us both drawing mental blanks. The conventional titles we are aware of just dont fit, I guess it will come to us as things continue to progress and our relationship develops more. It might just take a bit of time.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

it's really up to you and your partner, and what feels right to you.

Honestly, you could call him Almighty Cheese King and other people can just stuff it. Whatever floats your boat, yo

 

[Bratesque]

Yes agreed, we dont care what others think but lol at Almighty Cheese King

 

[knot_sweet]

it's really up to you and your partner, and what feels right to you.

Honestly, you could call him Almighty Cheese King and other people can just stuff it. Whatever floats your boat, yo

I was thinking more along the lines of "High Lord Stinky Pants'

 

[ecstaticsub]

I call my dominant/owner "Daddy" even though we don't have a D/lg relationship, it's just what he told me to call him. I also call him EvilOgre and a few other appropriate nicknames. I have been calling him his first name lately, too but not during play.

 

[MeekMe]

I think a favored nickname is good. I call people sir and ma'am all day long at work. I can't call him sir, it's like talking to a stranger, for me.

 

[MooFloss]

I think a favored nickname is good. I call people sir and ma'am all day long at work. I can't call him sir, it's like talking to a stranger, for me.

I do agree with you. I have been known to occasionally call Daddy, Sir but I use it only as a mark of respect if I've done something I shouldn't have.

To call him Sir all the time wouldn't feel right to me

 

[knot_sweet]

On a more helpful note (after the stinkypants comment)

Like MeekMe said, I can't do Sir... it's a work thing.

'Boss' has worked fine in the past. So does using his first name (it's funny really, how rarely I use a person's name, or even more rarely I hear mine).

'Master' just doesn't work at all for me. Not without a heavy does of sarcasm, or a cheeky 'Jeanie' nod thing. Which is fine if I'm being cheeky, but not during serious play time.


Hey...here's an idea...you could use a foreign language equivalent of 'Sir'? Then it could be nickname / title rolled into one and public user friendly (if you pick something a bit more obscure).

 

[Bratesque]

Knot thats a good suggestion. I had looked at foreign ways of saying master but not sir. Time to do some more research.

Yes, I think of Jeanie as well lol.

 

[Beck31]

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Hmm. Like most have already said it boils down to what YOU feel comfortable with and to hell with what others outside of the loop/lifestyle might think!

I generally refered to my Mistress as either "Mistress" or used her first name.
As in "Mistress _____".

(On a side note: Not judging but it really does make me feel disheartened and sad when I hear males refer to women as bitches and sluts even if it is in the d/s relationship. One of my close friends and former crush endured verbal abuse at the hands of her dom so I am against that).

 

[Oubliette123]

I can only echo what everyone else has said, it really is what you feel comfortable with. On the flip side, because I am in a full time relationship with my PYL (in the vanilla sense) we address each other with the usual pet names-darling, babe etc. But when we have playtime, I call him Sir or Master. It does feel slightly uncomfortable at first getting into role if you like, but that kind of adds to the scene. Having me feel a little uncomfortable adds to the excitement.

 

[Kim_Burly]

I call Sir, Sir when it is just the two of us or when we are around other kinksters. Around family and friends or when we are out with others, I can call him by his first name, but more often than not I slip and call him Sir. Many people's ears perk up when they hear that. I used to be sheepish about it and I found that some people would later berate me for letting a man humiliate me. Now, I just act as though it is perfectly normal, which it is for me. I now tell people who want to discuss it to mind their own business. My kids can use his first name but my son calls him Sir and my daughter calls him Papa.

My point is, don't let what other people may or may not think about how you address your Master influence your decision.

 

[desertslave]

I started off calling my first dom "Sir" and it's what he preferred in public. One night, though, I sassed off at him and called him "Master Sweetheart Darling Sir." He laughed hard and told me that nobody had ever called him "darling" before. So it stuck, in private.

 

[DesEsseintes]

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[KinkyPan]

So many options! You could go the pet-name route and use Darling, Lover (with you as beloved, or vice versa), etc. You could use Mr -- (his surname). If you've got a flair for the dramatic you could call him noble titles. Lord, King, Your Majesty, Highness, even Eminence, etc. Any of these might be paired with his given name or his surname. And yeah, if you like the idea of a word but not the sound, to Google Translate with thee!

 

[NaughtyKitty21]

I'm in much the same boat. I might say "Yes, Sir" but "Sir" all the time does put a feel of distance into the relationship, at least for me.

"Daddy" is my normal name for him... with the occasional "My King"

I think a favored nickname is good. I call people sir and ma'am all day long at work. I can't call him sir, it's like talking to a stranger, for me.

I do agree with you. I have been known to occasionally call Daddy, Sir but I use it only as a mark of respect if I've done something I shouldn't have.

To call him Sir all the time wouldn't feel right to me

 

[thepoeticmaster2121]

I prefer not to be called master or sir my self because like most people say it feels to formal or at least not loving enough, I am more of a loving dom though so thats just a personal opinion. I usually love to be called daddy or if I am feeling more on the BDSM side of things king (why thats better than master or sir I couldnt tell you) but my pet never calls me master some times she will say yes sir if I give her an order but I prefer yes daddy always

 

[Catharyn]

Perhaps something near and dear to his heart - a well loved hobby or past time?

My SO is a lifelong fisherman, and loves his boat almost as much as his children.

I call him the Captain. And needless to say, he enjoys the sound of it, more than a little.

 

[misskatuk]

Perhaps something near and dear to his heart - a well loved hobby or past time?

My SO is a lifelong fisherman, and loves his boat almost as much as his children.

I call him the Captain. And needless to say, he enjoys the sound of it, more than a little.

love 'Captain' - thank you I'm going to steal that! (although he'll think its a startrek reference).

 

[Beck31]

I always just called my dominant one "Mistress". Sometimes I would use her first name as well ie "Mistress _______".
She was a switch so she answered to her "Sir" that she called "Wolf".