Looking for a few more men in my life, and a bit more life in my men.

Starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and hoping its not a train.

Got my inbox down to 493...
 
You know, I don't mind kissing the frogs so much, its the princes who turn into toads :( that I really don't like ;)
 
Never wanted to be a prince, too many shoes to keep up with. Now a frog, you can't beat green, loud and jumpy.
 
I figured I should post this here too.

I wrote this about 4 yrs ago as a way of defining what I wanted and expected with someone, over the years it hasn't changed.

My expectations are:

To be friends first, and not have a solely sexual relationship.
In sex we both get what we want and we take turns at it.
Treat each other as people not objects or play things

To have a mutual understanding that we want the best for each other.
To view each other with kindness, caring, respect, dignity, understanding, acceptance, appreciation and consideration.
To treat each other as we would like to be treated.
To accept each other as we are, and find ways to work around our differences.
To interact with decency, honesty, generosity and fairness
To seek to understand first and then be understood.
Focus on being a compliment to each other, interact with encouragement and motivation and as much unconditional support as possible.

To honor any agreements we make with each other and let the other know if there are going to be any problems fulfilling the agreement.
Not to punish or be punished for trying to communicate or work something out.
To be able to ask questions and talk without fear of the other person withdrawing.
If we let the other down or cause an injury for whatever reason, we apologize and make amends, while being careful not to injure them further.
We respect that each person's time is valuable regardless of how structured it is.
To remember that if we come from different cultures, being careful and clear in our communication being while not assuming that our cultural norms are the same.
If there is a problem for one of us, accept it as a problem and look for a solution.
To treat each other as our own person separate from any emotional baggage from our past.

That we have the right to be angry, but not cruel.
Each one of us be responsible for what we do or say, with no excuses, convenient forgetfulness or otherwise.
Realize that what works for me may not work for you and vice versa.
Have patience and faith in each other
To be open and honest and not let problems build up.
To not assume each others intent without asking.

Try to use precise language in agreements that means the same thing to each other, not forcing the other person to parse out what was really meant.
Try to provide each other with a safe place to be as the world outside is hard enough.
Some times there will be bad times that will effect us, it doesn't mean either one of us is bad.
 
Born 1960

Hi i am applying for the vacancy missing in your life. I've Still got all my own teeth and hair, can be silly at times and have a wicked sense of humour. I do not have a internet phone but will be looking into one, lol. I am an avid writer of sexy lit and can do a nice turn of phone sex that will have you melting. I can hold a conversation and stand my own about most things in life and am not to boring to chat too.
Get back if you think i am a possible, you wont regret it.

Ps.
I am not married, I tried it once and am not looking to date to try again at this present moment in time..

Michael x
 
not even sure how i came upon this thread but like your posts.
have collaborated on story writing before (very sexy experience) and would love to do it again.
Please let me know if you are interested in writing trashy pulp porn story from respective gender pov.

Regards,
Bob

Ps. born 1949
 
Thanks for posting.

I am still behind on a bunch of stuff but catching up more quickly now.
 
I like green, frogs are growing on me...

Toads, not so much.
 
hi Noor

James here liked your posts and stories.
I am looking for online friend to share some casual sexy chat

39m sydney aus..
 
I love the open mature honesty of this thread..and I even meet the qualifications! Find me sometime..let's chat..:)
 
so to add to my list:
ability to cook and swim preferred
 
You've put a considerable amount of thought into your list of expectations and admirable quality. I find it amusing when people write their list of expectations because in my mind it can all be summed up as just be a honest and decent person and treat each other with the respect we each deserve. At the same time i also find it disenfranchising that we have to stipulate that we would like people to be good honest decent people.
 
You've put a considerable amount of thought into your list of expectations and admirable quality. I find it amusing when people write their list of expectations because in my mind it can all be summed up as just be a honest and decent person and treat each other with the respect we each deserve. At the same time i also find it disenfranchising that we have to stipulate that we would like people to be good honest decent people.

Well yes, I think it can be distilled into much less, unfortunately I have found the need to have to spell it out. People can have very different meanings of honesty, decency and respect, some of which may stem from different cultural expectations.

Strangely, I did not really have to spell it out until fairly recently.
 
Its sad that it needs to be spelled out. Allthough sometimes I feel like sometimes lit leans more toward objectification depending on who is utilizing the site. At times i find it to be a great place to converse other times its totally useless in that reguard.
 
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