The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[the captians wench]

Awww thanks Wench, do you want to wear one of those sparkly assistants outfits?

Oooohhhhh! Sparklies!

 

[the captians wench]

Okay, yet another mistake.

Geese, each of these books have had several simple typos (that I could find) and now she says "corset" when she obviously means bustier.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Fuck gill nets. Fuck Sea World. Fuck anyone who doesn't get it.

Kudos to people with heart.

http://www.youtube.com/embed/EBYPlcSD490?rel=0

Awww! What a tender story. Thank you for sharing!

 

[ecstaticsub]

We just got the announcement that we will be losing 2.6 FTE's from our department. There are only 15 of us in the department now. I have no idea how we are going to do what we need to do with less people. We already have lost 4 FTE's over the last few years due to previous cuts. I have to leave for work in 30 minutes and I am simply exhausted. My position is changing so much and there is more stress then I think I can handle.

Add that to the fact that my husband may lose his job and my very bright daughter just got accepted to the college of her choice ( a rather expensive one)

This is going to be one of those days where I just put one foot in front of the other and do the best I can.

 

[CutieMouse]

Okay, yet another mistake.

Geese, each of these books have had several simple typos (that I could find) and now she says "corset" when she obviously means bustier.

Welcome to my world.

"Do you carry corsets?"
"Do you need a corset, or a bustier?"
"You know, a corset- the thing to wear under a wedding dress."

(I've at least gotten smart and patient enough to stop explaining the differences between a corset, a bustier, a waist cincher, and a basque. )

 

[the captians wench]

Welcome to my world.

"Do you carry corsets?"
"Do you need a corset, or a bustier?"
"You know, a corset- the thing to wear under a wedding dress."

(I've at least gotten smart and patient enough to stop explaining the differences between a corset, a bustier, a waist cincher, and a basque. )

I never have bothered to try to explain the differences. That would just do my head in.

You are a stronger woman than I.

 

[midwestyankee]

Welcome to my world.

"Do you carry corsets?"
"Do you need a corset, or a bustier?"
"You know, a corset- the thing to wear under a wedding dress."

(I've at least gotten smart and patient enough to stop explaining the differences between a corset, a bustier, a waist cincher, and a basque. )

Now I'm really confused. I thought that "bustier" was an adjective, used to describe one of the more salient differences between, say, Dolly Parton and Twiggy.

 

[Red Sonja]

We just got the announcement that we will be losing 2.6 FTE's from our department. There are only 15 of us in the department now. I have no idea how we are going to do what we need to do with less people. We already have lost 4 FTE's over the last few years due to previous cuts. I have to leave for work in 30 minutes and I am simply exhausted. My position is changing so much and there is more stress then I think I can handle.

Add that to the fact that my husband may lose his job and my very bright daughter just got accepted to the college of her choice ( a rather expensive one)

This is going to be one of those days where I just put one foot in front of the other and do the best I can.

I am sorry. Sending good relaxing vibes your way, and good thoughts to many scholarship applications for your daughter. I now have two kiddos in college, and I understand. It's not cheap.

 

[Keroin]

I shouted at someone today. I can't remember the last time I shouted at someone. I can't remember the last time I lost my temper at all.

I hate anger.

Yes, I see the irony in that statement.

 

[gypsy*seer]

I shouted at someone today. I can't remember the last time I shouted at someone. I can't remember the last time I lost my temper at all.

I hate anger.

Yes, I see the irony in that statement.

I know what you mean. Hate it when I get that way. Luckily, the only real shouting that I've done lately, is from inside the car!
(and I get morbidly embarrassed if I flip someone off....again, not something I do on a regular basis!)

Forgive yourself!
((hugs))

 

[Stella_Omega]

You know one thing I love about the internet?

That the argumentative tactic most often used by men--shouting louder and faster with a deeper voice so that a woman's voice is drowned out--

It doesn't work on the internet.

And the kind of men that have never needed any other argument then that--

Wow, they hate it.

And wow, I love it. because we are not all of us as good as Rachel Maddow

 

[midwestyankee]

You know one thing I love about the internet?

That the argumentative tactic most often used by men--shouting louder and faster with a deeper voice so that a woman's voice is drowned out--

It doesn't work on the internet.

And the kind of men that have never needed any other argument then that--

Wow, they hate it.

And wow, I love it. because we are not all of us as good as Rachel Maddow

Thanks for the link. I do not ever watch Meet the Press because I can't stand David Gregory and because I don't want to watch John McCain every other week.

What fascinated me about this clip - apart from the way that it so clearly illustrated your point - was the way that the mustachioed fellow who was arguing with Rachel wanted to redefine terms in order to make his arguments seem reasonable and true. What will it take for people to discuss issues on agreed-upon grounds on television, or is that a nostalgic dream for a past discourse that never really happened.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thanks for the link. I do not ever watch Meet the Press because I can't stand David Gregory and because I don't want to watch John McCain every other week.

What fascinated me about this clip - apart from the way that it so clearly illustrated your point - was the way that the mustachioed fellow who was arguing with Rachel wanted to redefine terms in order to make his arguments seem reasonable and true. What will it take for people to discuss issues on agreed-upon grounds on television, or is that a nostalgic dream for a past discourse that never really happened.

I got the video from this blog article;
http://thegloss.com/career/bullish-life-men-are-too-emotional-to-have-a-rational-argument-994/

And the writer compares it to another one in which two people deeply disagree with each other in entire sentences, and wait for each other to finish.

They are both women.

IMO, the writer is reasonably fair about the inference that men have a hard time arguing with women without losing their shit. She offers a few caveats to the generalisation.

but what was funny to me, was that I got into this discssion on facebook, and one guy stepped in and complained about how HE wasn't that kind of guy, so the premise was false. And he would not shut up about how insulting it was to him, even if the premise is pretty much true, but we women were in danger of alienating an ally if we didn't (this was left unsaid, but was what he wanted) apologise to him for saying such a thing about men. Because he is not one of those men.

I told him that he was in danger of alienating the people he wanted to ally with.

His wife PM'd me and said that yes, he totally yells real loud as an argument tactic. Was I surprised to hear that!

 

[Dianthus]

You know one thing I love about the internet?

That the argumentative tactic most often used by men--shouting louder and faster with a deeper voice so that a woman's voice is drowned out--

It doesn't work on the internet.

And the kind of men that have never needed any other argument then that--

Wow, they hate it.

And wow, I love it. because we are not all of us as good as Rachel Maddow

Thank you for sharing that. Well, I thank you. My blood pressure doesn't.

I'm glad that it is 2012 in Canada. You all seem to be nostalgic for 1955.

Thanks for the link. I do not ever watch Meet the Press because I can't stand David Gregory and because I don't want to watch John McCain every other week.

What fascinated me about this clip - apart from the way that it so clearly illustrated your point - was the way that the mustachioed fellow who was arguing with Rachel wanted to redefine terms in order to make his arguments seem reasonable and true. What will it take for people to discuss issues on agreed-upon grounds on television, or is that a nostalgic dream for a past discourse that never really happened.

^^This.

How does he have any credibility left (whoever he is)?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thank you for sharing that. Well, I thank you. My blood pressure doesn't.

I'm glad that it is 2012 in Canada. You all seem to be nostalgic for 1955.

not all-- about one million less than one half of us, let's be fair here.

^^This.

How does he have any credibility left (whoever he is)?

Only with us all that are pining for 1955.

 

[knot_sweet]

mmmmmmm fresh picked carrot...crunchy...omnomnomnom

 

[graceanne]

His wife PM'd me and said that yes, he totally yells real loud as an argument tactic. Was I surprised to hear that!

That ^^^ mad me literally laugh out loud.

 

[Keroin]

You know one thing I love about the internet?

That the argumentative tactic most often used by men--shouting louder and faster with a deeper voice so that a woman's voice is drowned out--

It doesn't work on the internet.

And the kind of men that have never needed any other argument then that--

Wow, they hate it.

And wow, I love it. because we are not all of us as good as Rachel Maddow

Thanks Stella - I read the article and LOVED it. So true, and so timely. I ended up in a shouting match this morning with a man who fits this description to a T. He's not a mean person, he's intelligent and actually does have something to offer the world but, holy cow, when he gets emotional about something all rational discourse goes out the window. He has burned more bridges in this small town than I can count, including mine now.

The most frustrating thing is that this behaviour forces me to to communicate on that level. And it's exhausting. You can still present a passionate argument without ruining your vocal cords or bullying other people. I ended this morning's "discussion" by shouting something incredibly mean (but true) that I would normally never, ever say to anyone. And I feel like shit about it.

What does this accomplish except leaving everyone tired and angry?

 

[BiBunny]

<snip>

What does this accomplish except leaving everyone tired and angry?

Not a damn thing.

People who try to yell and bully you into shutting up are a massive pain in the ass. It's manipulative, and I hate being played like that.

On the other hand, people who refuse to talk to you once they're all pissed off are just as bad. I don't know which is more annoying to deal with.

 

[Keroin]

Not a damn thing.

People who try to yell and bully you into shutting up are a massive pain in the ass. It's manipulative, and I hate being played like that.

On the other hand, people who refuse to talk to you once they're all pissed off are just as bad. I don't know which is more annoying to deal with.

Oh agreed. The silent treatment is as obnoxious and juvenile as the yelling.

Communication skills - learn them!

 

[Dianthus]

not all-- about one million less than one half of us, let's be fair here.
Only with us all that are pining for 1955.

You are quite right and I apologize for the generalization.

The media reports and election rhetoric over the last few months may not have been representative of the population either.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You are quite right and I apologize for the generalization.

The media reports and election rhetoric over the last few months may not have been representative of the population either.

it's been a rough year and an ugly last three months. Unbelievable!

And anything else I say should really go into the politics thread.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thanks Stella - I read the article and LOVED it. So true, and so timely. I ended up in a shouting match this morning with a man who fits this description to a T. He's not a mean person, he's intelligent and actually does have something to offer the world but, holy cow, when he gets emotional about something all rational discourse goes out the window. He has burned more bridges in this small town than I can count, including mine now.

The most frustrating thing is that this behaviour forces me to to communicate on that level. And it's exhausting. You can still present a passionate argument without ruining your vocal cords or bullying other people. I ended this morning's "discussion" by shouting something incredibly mean (but true) that I would normally never, ever say to anyone. And I feel like shit about it.

What does this accomplish except leaving everyone tired and angry?

it's how my ex burned his bridges with me. And yeah, i spent four months resting up after all that exhaustion.

I had to stop feeling like shit about saying those mean things that I would normally never say. We can shut the fuck up and let each other have our say, or we can drive our friends to extremis until those mean things get said.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am sorry. Sending good relaxing vibes your way, and good thoughts to many scholarship applications for your daughter. I now have two kiddos in college, and I understand. It's not cheap.

Thank you! My work day was as stressful as I thought it would be.

However....I cam home to my daughter waving a letter in front of my face. She was notified that she was granted a $10,000 merit scholarship!! WooHoo! i am so proud of her. She has worked so hard to maintain her grades.

 

[Keroin]

it's how my ex burned his bridges with me. And yeah, i spent four months resting up after all that exhaustion.

Oh, I can believe it. I felt hungover today after it was over. I got no work done and for me to go through a day and get no work done???

I had to stop feeling like shit about saying those mean things that I would normally never say. We can shut the fuck up and let each other have our say, or we can drive our friends to extremis until those mean things get said.

Yeah, you're right.

And I love your point about the internet as an equalizer. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that internet debates have helped me sharpen my skills and confidence in RL debates. I can hold my own much more confidently now against the loud-talking emotional males. Not at Rachel Maddow level yet, (she's amazing), but definitely leaps above where I used to be.